Other people handling your dolls

I would like a proper apology, but all the times my girls got their faces grabbed by sweaty thumbs, hair tugged on by clueless person at a meet, pencil marks on face and body, dropped onto a bicycle... nope, I get nada. I wonder why I bother bringing my girls out to anywhere anymore. Yeah, must be stupid or something.

Do unto other dolls as you would do onto your own.

 

Oh man, this thread makes me really nervous about touching my doll.

*don't have one yet, she's on her way*

I don't think I'll ever let people touch her. I'd be too worried that they'd break her.

 

Though I only have two (so far) - the reaction has been very good with the touching - no one has made a move to touch either.

I think I'm more afraid of messing their little faces up and leaving any marks on them by constant hand-washing and being SUPER careful when I get anywhere near their faces.

I think I'm starting to develop OCD with the constant hand washing... ops:

 

Hehe, my sticky paws go all over my doll's face and skin, i'm not very careful at all... because I know I can just repaint. No-one has gone to touch Sorrow really (except for to shake his hand!! XD) but a friend of mine picked him up without my permission at one point (and when I was out of the room) which I was pretty annoyed about. I wouldn't of cared if she had asked first but, you know... I think it's very impolite.

I think the sculpt, like a lot of others have said, is more important and should be treated carefully.

 

I really don't like anyone touching my dolls at all - except for someone like Aimee (who was very considerate when she met them. ^_^ )

I think I would warn about the face - less so with a doll I had painted myself, of course.

 

I have let others hold my doll and I quickly point out how much they cost, the $500+ usually scares them enough that no one wants to hold them at all.....$500..some say WTF is wrong with me?

 

I've had to break out the cost to get someone to understand before too. Otherwise they grab her like she's just a rag doll. (Which is inconsiderate regardless of cost, but some people just don't get it.)

I am uber freaky possessive of my stuff too, and don't like anyone touching anything. If I break something, that's my own fault. I can't control others though, and I know I treat my things a certain way, and just don't know how others are. I have let other people hold her, but I'm usually hovering within arms length like the paranoid thing I am.

I'm like that with ANYTHING I own though. Even $20 DVD's and such. Comes from having siblings with mental disorders who broke anything they touched and just got a blank look when you asked why.

 

The face is my favorite part. I love to caress their little faces, especially azrael's lips.

e_e

But out of courtesy I don't doi that to other people's dolls. I guess I just never saw it as too much of a big deal. I'm fairly careful with faceups, since other than the LE, all my other dolls I've done my own faceups for.

 

Doll-meetup at Helsinki:

Noretus: *carrying all three of her boys and looks at the people she only knows barely through the forum* Okay, who doesn't have a doll?

Two girls raise hands timidly and noretus thrusts Itou and Kyril to them.

Noretus: Carry them, ok thanks.


Sooo... no. I'm not very carefull. I'm sooooo not carefull. I love them to bits and I worry about them but as long as the resin isn't harmed, as long as the dolls don't BREAK, I don't mind ( and the dolls don't break *that* easilly... ). To me the dolls are something to be enjoyed, not be stressed over about. This doesn't mean I wouldn't respect other people's dolls or posession. Each to their own.

And what comes to face-ups: I strongly believe that they are BOUND to come off at some point. Well, Itou's face is only one I haven't done and I do like it very much and I'd hate to see it come off but... it will. I'm sure it will. So better get used to the idea. If a face-up comes off... send the doll off or do it yourself *shrugs* I don't think it's the make-up that makes a human a person, nor do I think so with a doll either.

And incase you're wondering: of course I kept an eye on those girls, mostly to make sure they didn't run off with the dolls or handle them so that they would be in danger of dropping or anything ( or do anything to deliberately harm them ), but when I saw that they were just incredibly happy about getting to carry them, I didn't feel very nervous for the dolls.

 

the thing is, is that I'm the same way as you, basically. I'll leave my dolls with other people and walk away, I'll encourage them to play with my dolls, etc...

I feel like though that if I'm being nice enough to let people play with them, the least they can do is not touch the face. ops:

 

I don't have my doll yet, so I woulnd't know, but..they don't break this easily, right? Face up, sure(I don't really worry about that, I'll do my own and knowing me, he'll get lots of different face ups..so, if it comes off, I'll just do it again, or do something different..)but the resin itself?

I mean, I do want to play with my boy, want to dress him and pose him and hug him without being afraid he's falling apart..excuse me if I'm wrong, but is that too much to ask from a $500 doll? And when you're restringing them, you're also holding on pretty tight, right? (judging from tutorial pictures) so..what can I do and what is 'not done'?

 

They aren't all that fragile. I'm carefull about 3 things: 1) I don't touch Hikaru's face where his make up is 2) I don't stand him up and leave him unattended--I don't want to take the risk of him falling and chipping 3) I keep him away from cigarette smoke and don't leave him sitting in direct sunlight so he doesn't yellow (as fast)

He gets dirty from fabric dye and my touching him, but it all comes off easily and I don't have issues taking him out into the sun, I just don't sit him in it all day when I'm at home. But I change his clothes daily, carry him around the house with me, take him places, and I haven't had any problems with damage.

 

You would think doing that would convey the message you mention, but it doesn't always.

I was holding my MSD that way, cuddled in my arms almost like some people (not me!!) would carry a baby, right against my boob!, at a busy doll shop where an event was happening. Some woman I have never seen before in my entire life walked up to me and without a single word of Hello or My Name Is, she reached out and laid both hands on my doll and started pulling her out of my arms. I hung on tight and didn't let go (while wondering what the hell to say to this total stranger). SHE PULLED HARDER. I had my doll in a death grip at that point! She finally gave up and made a face at me and said something snotty. It was clear that she was VERY pissed at me for having the nerve to keep my property clutched close to my bosom. I couldn't believe it.

 

If anyone gave me the honor of holding one of their dolls, I would make a point of keeping my hands away from the doll's face. It's just being courtious. :grin:

I love delicate/intricate faceups, and if it was ruined it may be impossible to replace it exactly the way it was. That would be horrible.

So yes, please be careful with other people's property.

 

*reads Salena's post, DIES* OMG! My bf would have smacked her for me, while I was trying to figure out what to say. I had a lady at a doll shop grab Sonya out of my hands, and I immediately snagged her back. Would you grab someone's purse, or child, just cause you wanted to see it?

*makes a box motion* Personal space, people!

I'm ok with letting others hold her, as long as they ask, and I know they are aware to be careful. (She doesn't bounce like a barbie!) Other bjd owners I'm much more relaxed with. I agree, keep the hands off the face, because even if it will eventually need to be retouched/redone, why hasten the process?

 

hmmm my dolls aren't that "make-d up" but then still to me they'r like my kids.... so yeah please be gentle.... although i am very sure soye will hit them if they mishandled her friends [she's possive of mei lan now]

yeah and i feel touching the face is a big NO NO cos usually ppl really do up their dolls so unless u really know what pose u want it in and the owner is near by to assist u...

NEVER TOUCH THE FACE

lol

yeah i am possesive of my dolls... :P

 

Well yeah, but honestly it wouldn't occur to people ( specially those that don't know *that* much about the dolls ) that the face-up is one of the most "fragile" things on the dolls ^^;; If I didn't know so much about these dolls, I wouldn't think of things like how well Barbie's make up stays on and so on. Now I wonder about many dolls, particulary those meant to kids, that how on earth the face stays on so well considering that kids in definetely don't watch out for anything. And thinking about that makes me think of people who don't know anything about the faces on BJDs, who certainly wouldn't expect them to rub off so easilly. Afterall, those barbies and what not seem to endure kids plays so well, surely a face of a big doll worth several hundreds of dollars has a face that doesn't rub off.

But yeah, if you're worried you have to just try say them - fleetingly, just so that they aren't tempted to test it - that they should watch out for the face a bit so that the face-up doesn't smear or anything.

Uh... well.. that's just... Hello? You don't just walk up to someone and start tearing whatever they are holding from them. It might have been a purse or a ring or whatever, you don't just walk up to someone and try to forcefully take it O_o;;

 

Uuuuuuuuugh! I just cringe at the thought! I must say that I have "issues" with people touching my dolls heads. Fingers on eyebrows - - fingers crushing yelashes! :cry: Honestly, I can't handle it! I just know how much oils and dirt wear away at faceups, and I really LOVE the faceups on my darlings...I don't want to have to have them redone, if I can avoid it. I don't mind if people gently touch her - move her arm, hold her hand, etc....just please don't touch their faces!

On another note, someone was once playing so gleefully with one of my dollfies that they broke it into pieces, which of course go back together, but this was my first one and I had not experimented with taking them apart yet, and to SEE this person with my little doll, in PIECES in their hands - well, I literally felt like I was going to jump out of my skin. I just kind of quietly collected the pieces from them and sat down (stunned, thinking she was destroyed) and just stared at the pieces. Some nice person sat down and said, "look - doesn't that piece connect with that other piece?" and we were on our way to putting her back together. The guy who broke her in pieces didn't mean to - he was just playing a little too forcefully with her - which also had me mentally jumping up and down with anxiety, watching him. Since then, I carefully guard my darlings at group events. I don't think I've ever gotten over that feeling, seeing her break apart in his hands.

 

I have no clue on how to do face-ups and I love the ones my girls have, so for someone to come up and possibly damage their faces would really upset me because that's really rude for them to touch that part of the doll.

Salena - Good lord that is just wrong! I never heard of such a thing. Thank goodness you didn't let go @_@

 

I guess most of you guys might hate peeps like me, I do touches the faces of the dolls, at least my friend's...

I did ask if I can take a look before hand of course, and mainly is lifting the frindge(spelling?) of the wig to see the face better. I adore face ups, and certainly want to see how good they are thats why i keep doing that... At least I know I had tried to be as gentle as i can >_<

Face positioning I hold mainly the chin area and the wig, I guess I'll try to make it a habit to hold by the ears now
Sorry I never really knew how much so many feels about their doll's face... I really didn't mean it if I had upset any of you because of my actions