Other people handling your dolls

I don't usually like to hold people's dolls..... I'm aways afraid I'll do something the owner won't like........... And sometimes I feel like I'm playing with somone's else imaginary friend... - somone I doesn't know, and so, I feel uncomfy.
I like people to hold mine. I'm not very careful myself. My kids play on the clean and the durty, walk with and without shoes, with and without wigs, go on hight and low places, try different poses....
Still, I feel uncomfy when other people do that. I feel like what is other people's is like a piece of the person, and you must respect it A LOT.
If I decide to touch the face-up or put it on the water, it is my decision, 'cause the doll is mine... but I can't decide for something that is not mine...

So, dun worry about it. I'd never do that ^^

 

Oh, gosh... when I went to the doll meetup at A-Kon, everyone was nice and asked to touch Iris-- I also allowed a few people hold her and get a feel for the larger ones if they didn't have any larger BJD or didn't have any at all. Her faceup had gotten a few scares through the trials of A-Kon (and not from the meet-- it was mostly from being in a hurry to get out of our room by the check-out time), but mostly it just needed cleaning up. I suppose I'm really fortunate that nothing serious happened to her. I had met a young man at A-Kon that collected anime dolls. He allowed me to hold one of his Sakura Wars dolls and her hand fell off!! I felt SO bad, seeing as I handled her like a Holy Grail. It was easily fixable, but I still felt horrible-- it was his favorite doll of his collection. So, even if you're careful, odd things like that may still happen.

Do people not have good consciences anymore?

 

OMG, that's so funny, because I'm doing the same thing! Since I got my dolls I wash my hands constantly, and NOT with moisturized soap, so my poor hands are SO dry, but SO clean! LOL... I am so aware of my hands being clean, that's it's sick! I always wash them before touching my dolls - and I try to move their heads by grabbing them at the ears, over their wigs (yup, curls and all). Sometimes I forget, and grab them by the chin and the top of the head and then I go, OH hell!, and move my fingers to their ears. The chin grab is SO much better for posing, unfortunately...

 

From a non-owner standpoint, I've got a "look, don't touch" policy. That is, I have never held or touched anyone else's doll, because I'm so afraid that I'll forget and touch the face. I'm one of those people who is drawn to touch faces- on animals, babies, etc., and I've always got this urge to stroke a doll's face. So I'd rather not risk doing it, even on accident. Chalk it up to being a very well behaved child who actually understood the concept of "don't touch, it's fragile."

For my own dolls, I'm not going to be so picky about touching the face myself. Careful, yeah, because I don't want to have to get the face-up replaced sooner than I have to, but if I forget and stroke Azure's cheek- hey, as long as I don't have pen ink or eyeliner on my fingers, I'm not going to freak out. Hopefully. Other people, however, I wouldn't want to touch his face. Not quite sure how I'm going to handle that one, because I think a lot of people are drawn to the face, and don't realize how delicate they really are.

 

I have yet to own my own BJD, but when it comes to others', I'll usually ask before I touch.
Even then, I'll be so gentle, if I try to pose them they won't do a thing for me. XD

I try not to touch the face, and even if I would, it'd be very gentle.
I'm another one of those people who are afraid that everything I touch will break. XD

 

Oh. My. GOD. What was that lady thinking?! That is the most inconsiderate thing I have ever heard of happening to anyone! I am just...flabbergasted...woah.
I really think I would have given her a very upset "Excuse me!" and ask her what she thought she was doing. I would haev also explained to her that had she merely asked I would have no problem letting her see my doll.

 

Ack, if someone did that to Hikaru, they'd end up with a bloody stump. I have no problems showing interested people my doll--heck, I enjoy it. But you don't just grab things out of people's arms. I wonder if something was a bit off there in her head. That should obviously be very rude behavior and people above the age of 4 should know better.

 

Just a question for Aimee:

How do you pose your doll's heads? Do you hold near the ears, or use your whole hand on the head, or what?

I'll have two dolls coming back soon with faceups that I won't want to touch, especially the white-skinned one, I imagine her face would get very dirty very fast, and besides not wanting to have to have a faceup redone, I would be angry to pay to have it redone if it could have been prevented in the first place.

Thanks!

 

I'm not Aimee (obviously ), but I usually hold by the sides of the head, over the wig, or by cupping the entire back of the head. I try to avoid touching the face, as I don't want to mess with the faceups or take a chance on leaving a mark if I inadvertently got something on my hand.

Michelle

 

I don't think anyone would be upset by the gesture to a huge degree. ops: Awww... :: The difference between what some people are talking about is them doing it rudely and not very gently, which isn't your case.

Sometimes I brush my fingers over Abacus' cheeks. (^_^) You're not the only one, if someone was really offended I'm sure they would have told you.

 

:O i usually do the chin + wig thing for moving the head up and down. the ear thing for moving the head from left to right.. ops:

 

Wow, I didn't realize how careful some people are with their dolls!
Personally, my sons are carried around, posed, dressed, undressed, and played with every day, and I've never really considered the fact that coating can rub off if the face is touched. Of course, I'm always careful with other people's dolls, but with my own... well, I bought them to play with them, and that's what I'll do. :grin:

 

I don't have my doll yet, but when I get her people can look at her, and look means observing something with your EYES
and as no human being has eyes in his/her hands that means they can't touch her, unless I know they know what they are dealing with

I would have yelled "thief!" because to me seems like she was doing just that
trying to take away your rightfull belongings by force, which is thievery, trying to take someones doll is like taking someones bag
and then everyone would have noticed her extreemly rude behavore(sp?)

 

I only had an inkling that faceups could be removed so easily!

I have this thing when it comes to lips, I always like running my fingers over my own lips, so when my darling Lusis finally comes, you bet I'll be touching her mouth! But I plan on *gulp* doing her face up myself, so I'm not too fussed.

I also have been thinking of buying some cotten glove, mainly because I touch my face a lot, which is really bad for my skin. So I'll probably just start wearing those around my (future) dolls too.

But for other people's dolls? No way, Jose! It's a mix of politeness and sheer terror

 

It was the 'chin grab' motion that made me slip and scratch Odette's beautiful default lip. >_> So ever since, I've been REAL sure to use the area just below the ears(with Adelais's sensitive, pointy ears- I dun wanna break them off!), and ONLY resort to chin grabbing if I have a specific pose, and even then, my thumb is more against their neck then their chin.

I've only been to 2 meets, But I trust 'doll' people- they get it. At Domuya, I let everybody play with his wig and mess with the bangs. xD Also, cause they have kids too, I let them carry him, pose him, whatever. And at a 30+ doll meet, everyone ends up carrying/manhandling everyone's dolls. xD Lilly picks up SD for the first time. "OH CRAP THEY'RE HEAVY!" Tamara laughs at meh xD

But around people who've never met them before, they don't hold him. >_> OR touch him. ESPECIALLY his face. When I saw a guy friend of mine about to touch his cheek, I wigged out and blurted he was porcelain. The guy's hand launched back. Yeah, kinda bad I know- but I didn't want him hurting my baby! And who know where their hands have been!

 

I never realized that grabbing a doll by its chin would make the faceup/coating wear off there... untill it happened awhile ago - thankfully it was with one of my own faceups.. @_@

 

Now I am scared, because I do touch my dolls face on ocaasion. How often do most of you recoat your dolls? And do I have to take the lashes off first ? And will the paint come off if I do? And how many coats of msc should I do?
THanks. I may have to start a new thread, hunh?
Fitz

 

I have an FCS doll and I frequently re-position his face by touching his chin. The MSC is definitely worn off in that spot. =___=;; It's all shiny!

Fortunately this doesn't affect his gorgeous face-up and I'll touch up his MSC coating...as soon as I figure out how to protect his glossy lips.

 

i'm a little lost about the doll's face-up ...
does the face-up really get ruined by just a light touch? O.O
and what is Mr. Super Clear?
im starting to get nervous about the face-up thing and im nervous that when I finally get my boys I would ruin their face-up by the next 5 minutes of having them home :cry:

 

No no no no no no no -_-

Read up stuff on Painting and Customizing forum ( also read this whole thread )

The slightest touching won't ruin the face-up. Usually company made face-ups are so well coated that you'd have to work hard to get them off even on purpouse.

But of course scratches and such can take make-up off. And if you keep rubbing the face forcefully, of course it'll wear off.

But it's not like the face-up transfers to your finger the minute you touch it.

Please do read up on what the dolls can and can't take. You won't be so stressed about breaking it or anything.