Other people handling your dolls

I think I never went there @.@
*gonna search and read it all!*
thank u so much Noretus! ^0^

 

@_@ Okay, this is scary. I hope I can be careful enough with my boy when he gets here.

... yeesh. Now I'm paranoid. (And it's not helping that I dyed a wig today without using gloves and how I'm red to the wrists and it won't come off and there's nothing to do but entertain myself by chasing my roommates around crying "All the perfumes of Araby!")

I'm not going to allow myself near my own doll...

FWD

 

Ha, Shin's headcap comes off if I do that. ^^; The magnets aren't quite strong enough since I don't use an S-hook with the headcap. And then people are HORRIFIED OMG I BROKE YOUR DOLL!! ;___;
^^;

*agrees with everything you said* I've met a -lot- of people with a passing aquaintance with what BJD are, who have been almost floored at being able to hold one of my boys, and that kind of reaction really makes me remember what it was like when they first came home to me. The wonder and admiration of beauty is awesome.
I also love letting other owners, and future and prospective owners play with them. ^^ Long as they don't have horribly dirty hands or anything.

But I'm thinking I should start taking a container of wet-wipes to doll meets so people aren't nervous about accidently getting them dirty... *LOL*

 

*giggle* I was just reading this thread and thinking that Pele prolly has thumb prints under her chin

I will say, however, that I'm terrified of hurting someone else's doll, and I can hardly bring myself to even hold them :O

 

If it's another BJD-owner, I generally don't bat an eye. They know the drill, and my boys are completely comfortable in that environment. For little kids, I make a fun little game that they have to clean their hands really well first, I inspect the hands, and then they can touch gently. Usually they're just happy to pet the hair a little and see what a cheek feels like, or a hand. I was brought up in a very small private school, so all the younguns there know how to be good and gentle.

Now for the horror story.

I have a cousin. He's a great guy. He asked if he could see one of my dolls, I let him, and he touched Riku's jawline before he was done. Once he left and I was setting Riku back with Sora, I found out his paws were grimy and grimed on Riku in several places! x.x;;;; It was very easily cleanable, but I was left with a feeling of 'Guh...' I had even asked if his hands were clean... not like he's young or anything, if he says yes I generally trust him. Oy, anyway.
(my guys don't get to bring much to college save what's on them and maybe one other change of clothing each... but The Sponge always comes along. Worth it's weight in gold, man. How does it even work??? Ubergentle sandpaper?)

So yeah. I generally work with the chin, jaw and wig-covered-places, but I don't think about the faceups too much. as long as the lips and eyes are okay, I'm a generally happy camper. I do give them eskimo kisses, does that count as face-handling?

 

Like Windswept said, if it's another BJD owner, I don't mind. I assume they have the common sense to be careful around the face, to avoid wiping it off (unlike me, but that's another story.)

When I'm with other people, and holding their dolls, it depends on how well I know them/their dolls. I touch July's face a lot, even though she's not my doll. She's not coated, but Mo & I are constantly looking for excuses to repaint her, seeing as we never really finished her face-up in the first place.
When I'm with Lyra, I'm really much more careful with her dolls than I am with Ichii/July. One, they're LE/hard to find/discontinued/whatever, so if I broke one of them, it'd suck even worse. I have a habit of toching dolls' noses. I don't know why, but their noses are my favorite features. Of course, I'm gentle and careful and I've made sure my hands are clean.

When I turn a doll's head (like you mentioned) I put two fingers on the side/top of their head (over their wig, like) to avoid harming the face-up.

... as for non-BJD owners, I won't let them hold Ichii unless I know them really well/if they're, say, saving/waiting for their own. Mom's the only person allowed to touch Ichii without case-by-case permission.

 

I'm generally a barbarian with all of my dolls except Spade. (Yes, oddly it's the Boggart who gets the baby treatment).

I know some of you might faint upon hearing this... but:

I've shoved Kaye into backpacks and bags, ones specifically for her, or just the ones I'm using to carry all of my stuff around in. I grab Grimm under the chin to position his head... and the Phouka has been just as tortured as Kaye. (granted, I do make sure they aren't going to rub up against anything that could scratch, gouge or stain them)

Honestly, the thing I worry about the most isn't their faceups... those can be easily enough replaced.

The thing I worry about the most are their fingers... I'm petrified one will snap off.

 

*grin* I woulda yelled something a hell of a lot ruder :P

 

I don't have my boy yet, but I baby sit for mynephews, and I have mastered the art of the tuck and smack.

And that is when complete strangers reach out to grab them by their head. Which they seem to like to do a lot at our local McAllister's and Starbucks. They always go for the head.

The tuck and smack is simple. Cradle your boy in your left arm when you carry him into a public place. When crappy stranger opens palm and starts reaching for said doll, turn your body to the right to block with your left shoulder, while reaching out with your right hand to smack away offending stranger's hand.

It's like a well exicuted defensive football play! XD

~Cha[/color[/url]

 

Ha, that's AWESOME~!!
I'm also madly loving your icon/username. Cha.

Awww, so cute~!!
Shin: #&C(, woman - don't you be getting any #&C(ing ideas about that.

 

One day when I was out with Berlin, this guy mentioned "wow nice doll there, is that david bowie?" I nearly fainted at the comment but figured it must be his sly expression and the blond hair...

And then he said "can I see him?" and then I sort of held Berl over to him but not letting go and then I suddenly blurted, "please don't touch him." And whoa....that guy just gave me the meanest stare! I had to add "...uhm, his make up is still wet ^_^;;;" and make fanning motion with my hand.

So I wonder, if you see someone with their doll and when you ask to see them they say "you can't touch them though" would that piss you off? just slightly even??

 

..Thing is, what right does anyone have to touch anything belonging to another person, much less something that costs so much (they don't have to know that, but still). I think many people feel they have a 'right' to put their hands on other people's things, and when that other person exercises their own 'right' (I really don't like that word) to NOT have their things pawed by a stranger, they feel affronted.

Really, you don't owe a stranger anything, especially one who comes into your personal space uninvited and expects you to accommodate them, IMO.

Short answer: you're perfectly in the right. Remember, it's YOUR doll and you have the final word on what happens to him.

 

it wouldn't piss me off, your dolls are your property after all and you have the right to tell people they can't touch them. but, bieng a doll owner myself, that might not be a normal person's standpoint. *shrug* but if i were you, i wouldn't care what other people think, he's your doll and they have no right to touch him if you don't want them to.

 

If I was looking at someone else's doll, I would treat it like a kid or a dog, and *ask* before grabbing... maybe he thought you thought he would steal him or something..? :S

 

LOL you made me laugh, I can imagine pulling a white lye in the same situation.

People are not going to understand they can't touch. Its the reason I don't take my dolls out in public. People touch everything!! just go into an interesting store and watch the Hands!!

I doubt anyone here would not understand and be pissed off. We all understand however if I was at a doll meet and someone wanted to hold my doll I would expect to be able to hold their doll, that would be the exception I think. I would always ask if I can touch even a childs toy held by a child you know!

 

I don't think it should be a problem, but then again I know what these dolls are. A lot of people out there would just figure them for some action figure, or like this guy said a band doll... something you'd buy in a Spencers or a Hot Topic, and that simply isn't the case... but it might be how they percieve it.

To me personally, I would respect anyone's wishes if they asked me not to touch something, no matter what. But that could just be me. ;_;

 

Actually, I don't want to touch other people's dolls! I'd be deathly afraid of some unfortunate accident happening. These things are just so unpredictable, you know, and I'd feel horrible if I was responsible. (Same thing with real babies. I *never* ask to carry someone else's baby, no matter how super-cute and uber-friendly the little bundle of joy is.) If I go to a doll meet, all I want to do is Look & Love. I'm fully capable of fangirling over the opposite sex (resin and non-resin types included) without having to touch them at all. XDDD

 

People do that to my Dotty dog. She doesn't like people and though she acts shy, I would never, EVER let a child pet her even though they've leaned close or asked me to roll the window down when she's in the car. I just smile and shake my head, and I don't care if they think I'm rude, because I don't want a lawsuit because some idiot kid couldn't not touch.

I'm thinking of taking Kazutaka to work with me tomorrow with explict instructions for noone to touch him unless they have $500 to waste. In fact, he'll be holding a cute sign saying as such, while sitting at my desk. There's not many people in the office (4 at maximum) so I'm sure he'll be okay, but just in case...

So yeah. If anyone asks, just say no. Like drugs. XD

 

I wouldn't dare touch a doll's face! I don't see why people need to touch a doll's face...to see if the paint will come off? o_O It must be a natural reflex to want to touch a face.

If someone told me not to touch their doll, I would understand and respect that.

Maybe next time someone when someone wants to hold your doll, give them a big smile and say, 'Sure, you can look at him, but his face is to delicate to be touched.'

 

Hmmm interesting! I for one don't really feel the need to touch other people's dolls. So I don't really have an expectation to be able to touch theirs if they touch mine ... lol

And yeah maybe he did get offended thinking i don't give him enough credit to know this stuff is expensive.