Others Handling Your Dolls

This tells: I'm already repurposing an old china cabinet (wooden cupboard with glass door) into a doll cabinet. Remove shelves, glue light colour wallpaper to line the inside, install lights, AND fit not one but two locks on the door - top and bottom. Only a selection of people will get that door unlocked for them. And nothing to do with age or how closely related we are. Some of my friends' kids I totally trust to be respectful and follow instructions to a T while my own beloved dad is so careless it borders on criminal negligence. I normally don't trust strangers with stuff that is important to me, my kids, my dogs, my car. Because I know I will be the one spending my time and energy to repair even if money wise I have insurance on top of insurance in case anybody makes a mess.

Regarding that incident in the park with the monster child and monster mom: they would be the ones having a heart attack. Proved I flop the switch from cosy to Mama Dragon in nanosecond. A seasoned paratrooper said it's scary and he is happy I'm on his side. And I didn't even do anything. Just told somebody that he WILL NOT touch my car. The man threatened to slash the tires. And then he retreated fast. I wish I could see it on a video or something.

On dog forums you can often read stories how people had demanded dog owners to sell their dog for a fiver because their kid looked at it once. And my mom's friend was asked to sell her baby daughter, don't remember how much they offered but their reasoning was "you are young, you will have another". Some people.

 

Life has taught me that people, even "after" Covid, don't wash their hands or use a napkin when eating.
So no, I don't let anyone touch my dolls. I treasure them so much for someone with dirty, ragged hands comes over and stains them or breaks them.

 

I'm barely okay with handling them myself! I have let my family hold them before, but only if they're ok with me hovering around and asking them to wash their hands first.

 

I let my grandma and her sister hold one of my dolls and it was so cute! They really thought she was very lovely~ The only other person I trust to even touch my dolls is my husband. I have let my sister help me with doll photos and she let one fall face first on the concrete so never again am I trusting literally anyone unless I know they are familiar with dolls and have a decent amount of their own

 

In general I don't like people handling my stuff period, but that goes double with my dolls.. it's so easy to mess them up, and people hands are so greasy... No thank you !

I think I'd be okay if my dolls were wearing dark clothing. But I'm so worried about them getting damaged because they're so expensive

 

I usually don't like it when other people touch my stuff. But if they ask for permission and understand that they have they have to be handled carefully, then I don't mind.

 

I only let people handle my dolls if they've cleaned their hands and if I'm close by, to "supervise", lol. I'm super protective of them. I def don't let children handle them except if they're very calm. And I explicitly tell them the rules of doing so: no touching the face, being very careful, etc etc.
But I'm usually very happy when people want to handle them, I just make sure they know the DOs and DONTs.

 

I'm generally ok with it. Most people who handle my dolls are friends and family so they know to be relatively gentle with them; If I have them out in public and someone asks to touch or hold them I kind of... Demonstrate how to handle them through body language if that makes any sense?? I.e. handing them very gently and only touching the back of the head instead of the face. I go nonverbal in public sometimes and I've found this is the easiest way when my voice doesn't wanna cooperate. Most people catch on pretty quickly. Usually the only people I have to tell to be gentle with them are kids. I do have a friend who kind of gave me a mini heart attack the first time they handled my dolls; they grabbed one of them by the ankles and yanked their legs open. I know they were just playing around but my heart still stopped for a split second and I still side eye them a little when they pick up my dolls lol.

 

My wife can touch my dolls... but nobody else!!

Well, I guess if I was right there watching and they were extremely careful with my children, perhaps it would be street legal... but most of my irl friends are scared of my children.

 

I'm okay with it. My resin girl, I am like a nervous parent holding my arms out to catch her if she is dropped. I try in the nicest way to ask whomever is holding her not to touch her face, but I want to enjoy my girls and allow others to too. She's going to get a little wear and tear on her, but that just means she is well loved and enjoyed.

 

My partner can touch and handle my doll, but that's honestly it. I even get nervous when my family handles them, and they're BJD collectors themselves and great with their dolls! I can't help it, I'm so nervous about something happening to them. You would think I would relax after over ten years in the hobby, but nope! Now that I have fewer dolls, it's even worse haha.

 

I'm actually pretty rough with my dolls, or at least less gentle than I should be considering the money I've spent. But I bought them to handle and play with, so I embrace the risks associated. I'm usually excited to show off my dolls so I don't have a problem with others handling them. However, I don't have any children in my life and I have yet to have a complete stranger ask to hold one of my dolls. So those who have held them are within a trusted circle. I haven't really had a real reason to hesitate yet.

 

I'm not even comfortable with handling them myself, let alone letting other people handle them. I'm way too paranoid :'D

 

I do! I ask people to wash their hands prior and to be gentle beforehand but its always fun to share the love!

 

It depends, sometimes my family just tries to grab at them to get a closer look especially if I made a new outfit to show off.

I get aggravated if one of them tries to pull them out of my hands by the arms or legs, I have mentioned countless time that you don't hold these dolls by the limbs. Also, if someones hands are a bit grubby, like they were cooking, or snacking, or doing some messy crafts and they reach for my dolls I will step back out of there reach and tell them to clean those hands before touching my dolls.

Otherwise I will let them hold the doll to look at the outfit or the doll, but I do stay nearby waiting for the doll to be properly passed back to me. I do get a bit nervous when they are in someone else's hands. I stay close in case some mishap comes along. This way I can grab my doll should the doll look as if it is slipping.

 

I personally don't let others handle my dolls besides my mother and best friend.

 

I personally don't let people handle my dolls very often and if they do it is under my careful supervision while I am there. People are not allowed to touch my dolls if I am not there because they might break them, scratch them, or mess them up.

 

Honestly I worry enough with me touching my dolls, so the idea of someone else doing it brings me a bit of anxiety. That said though I have had my dad help me dress some of my dolls in the past when I've struggled with certain clothing pieces. Ive also had a friend hold my doll while ive rearranged things in my room. If someone I don't really know that well were to ask to hold one it would be a straight up no though.

 

Generally okay with my family members touching them as long as they are careful. A few of my smaller dolls are now kept in the living room in my house so my mom is often picking them up. I don’t handle my own dolls that much unless to dress them. I don’t mind if people pick them up at a meet etc as I know most of the time they will be careful.

 

I think the key is consent. Ever since I was a kid with Barbies I couldn't stand people touching my stuff, especially when I wasn't around. I'd always notice if something was amiss. It was pretty much a break of trust.
If they ask politely, then sure, go ahead. I'll most likely let them handle the doll. Only exception would be children. I'm sorry, I just can't, don't trust them, don't like them.
Usually there are a select few I trust to handle my belongings. My partner's one of them. Currently my only bjd is at their place, so they get to move him around. Also helped me with dressing the doll up and spraying the msc for faceup.