Purchase Button Anxiety (support group)

Would you still buy the doll if it weren't free? Because if the answer is no, then maybe the possible hassle of getting a doll you don't absolutely love then trying to sell it isn't worth the trouble. I know, it's super tempting to get a free doll especially knowing how expensive they are! But it kinda sounds like it's just not meant to be. You love Sexta and can still get her without the other doll, and there's no use jeopardizing the possibility of her arriving smoothly for a doll you're not also in love with.

As for me, I definitely felt this feel when I was ordering my first! He hasn't arrived yet but so far, I don't feel any of the regret I was scared I might feel. In fact, I've been saving to buy him stuff! LOL

 

Stepping away & requizzing yourself before buying is a very good idea. Unless you are madly in love & have plenty of spare money for buying some resin...even then, it is a good idea to quiz yourself before making a major purchase like a bjd.
Me? Almost every purchase has involved some anxiety before & after hitting the buy button. Most of the time, once the order has begun I've gone back over those questions, love it madly? is the money there? & then relaxed & waited for the doll to arrive. Somehow, even tho I am sure I have more than enough dolls, a new one tempts me more often than my family thinks it is wise. ;D The past two years I watched Maskcat doll grow & release sculpt after sculpt, each one almost tempting me as I loved the size of body she had made. I was sure I would get a Nerine at some point. Then, this spring, I saw an Or-doll Sui head & pushed the buy now button after only a week of revisiting the site daily. She was sooo lovely! Soon after Maskcat doll announced a spring event & a new sculpt, Lisette. Wham, love at first sight. AND, enough overtime money from work to excuse the mad purchase. After a year of expecting to buy a Nerine when I had some doll funds, the plan was changed by the new sculpt & I'm so glad I had waited as Lisette fits in much better in an unexpected way. X0

 

I just made my biggest doll purchase yet with the last FL event, and even though I thought it through and worked it out and knew I could afford the layaway, I still had that period of "OMG, what have I just DONE?!?!" after I hit the "Buy" button. By the end of the day, though, I was in the "OMG, they're gorgeous and I'M GETTING THEM!!!!" mode.

 

Yeah, this is my first!! Thank you!

 

I buy dolls only if I have enough money but I always feel anxious. When I am buying doll I have to check cart at least 5 times. I have to re-read it out loud numerous times to see that put right things in cart (doll, sculpt, resin color, parts...) and then I have to few times check, re-read if I wrote right address. Whole time I feel terrible anxiety. And the thing is, somebody in my family has to always reasure me that it is okey to buy that doll. Even though I have money for that doll and want that doll for over few months.
I am diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder, so I am always thinking What if. I am always afraid I do something wrong when I am ordering doll.
In my opinion you should be sure you have enough money and be sure you want that free doll. It is always hard to make decision when it comes to expensive purchases. (Sorry for my English)

 

I've had a little of both extremes. I've had times when I've wanted a doll for ages, have the money and everything seems right, and I still feel anxious clicking that button, like I shouldn't do it. I've had other times when I just went on impulse spending sprees and bought several doll parts and accessories without a single though.

The best thing for me, I've found, is to put any doll I really like on my list. Then wait. If I still want it in several months, have the money to spare without sacrificing anything important, and it's available to purchase, then I know it's not impulse I'll likely regret, so it's okay to buy.

 

I used to hesitate over the "buy" button, but I've come to a point where I know my taste in BJDs so well that I feel completely confident in my resin purchases. I make sure everything in my cart is correct, then review it again after my purchase to make sure that it is exactly what I wanted. Then I just relax and try not to obsess over the purchase until it arrives. I've never regretted buying a doll, and in the end I've sold very few.

 

Hey, let me put on a soundtrack for us while we bond and support each other over our anxiety. The song is a timeless oldie from decades ago and is so relevant to the topic!

...Wait, I'm told that the song is "Bye Bye Bye," not "Buy Buy Buy." Oops.

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I think some people resell or trade away dolls that don't feel right. I like having them around since I don't feel so bad about using them for modding/painting practice.

 

I hesitate on everything I buy, especially doll stuff. I always measure and remeasure my girl and check the item 100 times and half the time decide against it because it might be too risky. I've gotten a few items that should have fit perfectly but when I try them on her, magically they're the wrong size.

I'm trying currently to get back into the hobby and get 3 other dolls to finish my characters but I get so nervous that I won't like them in person, or they'll be the wrong size when put next to my other doll, or that they just won't fit the character as well as I thought it would.
I spend hours an days looking at dozens of dolls from all different companies and in the end I never buy

 

I feel the anxiety every single time. It's so hard to click the button, and right after I do (or send the PM to a seller here on DoA) I freak out like omg what did I just do?! But then I go over my budget AGAIN and reassure myself that I really can afford the layaway and chill out. Every month that I'm making a payment, I freak out again. I usually don't have anxiety about things, doll buying seems to be the only thing to trigger it! I didn't freak out this much when I bought a new car! I usually ask my sister before I buy and discuss the payments and how it's going to impact the budget for the month, and she usually urges me to buy. Unless I'm considering 2 layaways at once and then she tries to kill me. I deliberately didn't tell her about my second layaway I have right now until I'd committed to it so she couldn't talk me out of it! In my defense, I'm bipolar and I was pretty manic and NEEDED TO SPEND MONEY lol. But yes, anxiety. Every time.

 

Do you ever get anxiety about getting a doll?

Yuppers

When was the last time that happened?

Most recently it was with some Dollheart stuff because of their big fukubukuro sale

Why do you think you felt that way?

I am trying to save money and pay off my bills and don't want to add to it

Did you end up buying that doll? or not? In either case, what helped you decide?

I ended up purchasing the stuff I wanted, yes. I decided that I wouldn't open it until I lost at least 5 pounds so that gave me all the shipping time to do it... I've just been sick so I'm thinking I won't be able to open it for a while now D:

Were you happy in the end?

I don't have the stuff yet

In the past, when I was less monetarily secure (see: "student") I would lock my dolls up in the closet, feeling ashamed that I spent so much money on a luxury item. Right now, I'm in the process of digging my way out of debt in time for me to go on vacation next year, so I'm trying very hard to save up and most of my dolls are back in their boxes in the closet *sigh*

 

Do you ever get anxiety about getting a doll?
I did have anxiety twice over ordering a doll.

When was the last time that happened?
The first time was for my Volks Kun, because nearly ten years ago when I bought her, she was insanely expensive to me. I'd never spent that much on a hobby. The second time was when I ordered my Dollmore Lusion Dahlia, because she was pretty much double the price of my Kun and I didn't do many orders directly from foreign companies and I was worried Paypal or my bank would have a crap attack (which happened when I tried to order from Lati once and for some reason it went through three times and my bank froze all the transactions and it was a headache and I never was able to order the doll).

Why do you think you felt that way?
I think I felt guilty for spending money on a hobby for myself instead of saving it.

Did you end up buying that doll? or not? In either case, what helped you decide?
In both cases, I did. I had saved money for both purchases, which I supplemented with my tax returns. I made the decision to buy them because I wanted them, and I love spending money far too much. It was kind of a thrill in both cases when I finally pressed the button, though still with a tinge of guilt.

Were you happy in the end?
Indeed. I still have the Kun, and she will always be one of my favorite dolls. She's the core of my collection. And while I briefly thought to re-home my Dahlia, it wasn't because I stopped adoring having her around.

 

Do you ever get anxiety about getting a doll?
Not so much anymore, no. I've gotten enough of them that I know what to expect, what I like, and what I'm willing to spend (even if FL Sia blew that out of the water).

When was the last time that happened?
Honestly, probably the only time it truly happened was with my first one! He's not a very expensive doll, but I still had almost a personal crisis of "what am I doing spending all this money on a DOLL of all things? This was such a bad idea..." I've clearly overcome that now, though...

Why do you think you felt that way?
First doll, large ticket item when I wasn't super well off (I used a tax refund to get him, and thanks to an error by a previous employer, my tax refund was actually just barely more than enough to afford a 1/4 Bobobie, a wig, and a set of eyes, shipped domestically--pretty weak, in other words), I had barely handled any in person at the time... all kinds of reasons.

Did you end up buying that doll? or not? In either case, what helped you decide?
Yep! Still have him, almost eight years later, too. My roommate at the time had helped me find him and encouraged me to go for it, since I did really like him from the moment she showed me the picture, and I'd toyed with exploring the hobby in the past anyway, so I took the plunge and don't regret it.

Were you happy in the end?
Oh yes, still love that boy, and he opened the door for all the other ones that have followed him into my house.

 

Do you ever get anxiety about getting a doll?
Yes. So much so that I haven't committed to my first purchase yet! (There are just too many option out there that are gorgeous, and unfortunately a lot of the ones I've fallen in love with were sold out long before I knew they existed.)

When was the last time that happened?
Actually, just last week. Souldoll had a new centaur/human girl and she was beautiful. I really wanted to get her, but couldn't bring myself to commit. Maybe I have commitment issues.

Why do you think you felt that way?
For me I think my big issue is that I don't have any experience with BJDs. I really haven't even seen a resin BJD in person. I've seen some unboxing videos on YouTube and was startled by how large these dolls can be. After seeing their size I started to understand the price tags associated with this hobby. I waffle back and forth about 'do I love it' or 'do I just LIKE it' and often ask myself - if there can only be ONE in my collection, is this THE one? To date, I guess I haven't yet found my resin soulmate.

Did you end up buying that doll? or not? In either case, what helped you decide?
Nope, I did not wind up buy the Souldoll centaur/human. She was quite stunning, but when I found her advertised there was only 24hrs left to purchase and I just couldn't come to a decision about money within that time frame. So I had to let her go.

Were you happy in the end?
Still on the fence about that. But, in the end the bottom line was I didn't have the funds ready, so I guess it wasn't meant to be. My consolation is that there is a cutie going up for sale at Dearmine shortly that I've got my eye one. Maybe he'll be my first.

 

Do you ever get anxiety about getting a doll?
I would if I were going to buy one.

When was the last time that happened?
Well the last time that was related to the doll hobby and not a doll specifically was when I was buying the full kendo set from Sadol. I mean it came up to more than the average large doll.

Why do you think you felt that way?
It's a lot of money! Also because their websites are so old fashioned and not very efficiently set up so I'm worried that I'll make a mistake or misunderstand somewhere. And also that I know that it's rare that an employee understands English very well so if there's a problem, I'd be worried that I couldn't get my point across.

Did you end up buying that doll? or not? In either case, what helped you decide?
Wasn't a doll but yes, I ended up buying the set. I mean I jumped for it because I saw the preview for it from a con and had a lot of time to decide. Also because I knew I would never find something like it again.
One thing that does help me feel better about ordering is having someone double check all my information with me in case anything is unclear or typed wrong.

Were you happy in the end?
Well...yes? TBH I haven't even had the time to try it on my doll yet. It's made extremely realistically and it's hard to get on and has a million and one ties. Life has been hectic since I got it but I'm feeling that soon I'll be able to try it on him finally.