Rude Reactions to Your Dolls?

One friend of mine thinks my dolls are very creepy but regardless she ask sometimes „how are your doll?“ which i think is really funny to be honest. But one time a random dude at a party said that i have to be „mentally ill“ for collecting dolls. That left me speechless, like, how dare you saying something like that?? But everyone else is really supportive and i‘m thankful for that

 

I have my packages sent to my work (because I am usually there and it's harder to miss packages that way.) One of my co-workers think my dolls (and doll parts!) absolutely creepy. Sure, she says it in jest, but she keeps telling me to "keep them boxed up", "just hide them", "don't take them out", etc, etc, etc. Even if there's a lot of good-willed poking here and there, the moment I mentioned doll/doll parts, you can kinda see her freak out a little bit.

I keep my dolls in boxes, in hiding. But once in a while I will threaten her to bring in a really large doll (like a Dollmore Trinity or a Luts RDSF) and just sit them there in my office with me. Just to mess with her.

 

Some of my friends asked me why I don't get creep out by them (bjd) and even my mom told me " aren't you afraid one day a evil spirit will possess them" this just made me laugh. One the most rudest joke someone says to me about my bjd was from a co-worker. She laughed out loud "omg, you're still playing with doll." Later she googled BJD and say " oh, i see they're adult doll. My bad. But if you like em so much why don't you just take them everywhere you go." She sucha bit*****. My dolls are precious so I keep them in a nice place. I don't freaking go carrying them around like her lv and gucci bag.

 

People are just uncertain on how to feel about things they don't understand. Say for instance, if you are someone who doesn't like camping, sports, cars, etc. You might have the opinion that it's dumb or a waste of time and money. That's not to say it's right, but also not wrong either. Everyone finds value in different things in life, and that is completely OK. Something that is a waste of time or money for them is something we all find enjoyment with here. I don't think anyone is right or wrong, except for belittling others for their likes. We can't change other people and how they think or feel about things, but I think a good first start is changing how we perceive others and their likes or desires; trying to be more accepting and understanding ourselves.

Rudeness is very prevalent in our society as it stands today. I think the best approach is not to reciprocate rudeness with more rudeness, but to try and understand them better. If they are willing to be civil, of course.

 

Several years ago some friends and I were at a BJD convention. We got on the hotel elevator where a couple already was, and she shrieked dramatically and buried her head in his manly chest. Now, if I'd been thinking, I would have turned my doll's head to look at her and ventriloquized, "My name is Talky Tina and I don't like you." But sadly, I didn't think of it until later.

 

@Alewife ain't that always the way? I always come up with the best zingers - four hours later.

 

I got an F60 head on the second hand market, and the girl I got her from had done her faceup (which was extremely messy but I liked the overall expression, so I left it for a long time). Eventually I mentioned on my account that I might redo it soon, and she messaged me saying how upset she would be if I redid it and literally asked me to send her the head so she could redo it for me. I was stunned, honestly. And it gave me such bad feelings that I immediately redid it myself because I couldn't even stand to look at the old one anymore. That might be the weirdest experience I've ever had in the second-hand market.

 

I feel like it's just an 'internet' thing. I only just got my first doll, a honey delf, and posted her publically when I got her because I was excited. Only a few hours after I got her, someone commended that she looked dead-eyed and creepy. But I've gotten stuff like that for other things, too. I got 2 Blythe dolls before I bought my first BJD. Anyone who's seen a picture of them tells me they're creepy (I mean, they definitely can be, so I get it). I do art commissions and over the years have gotten messages telling me how I should have changed the design of a character, asking for free art, telling me my prices are too high, etc. I really do think that any time you share something on the internet, there'll just be those people, crummy as it is, especially if it's hobby-related.

 

Ugggghhhh. I think folks sometimes forget that there is a person on the other side of the screen, reading those comments. It feels like you're just shouting into the void, I guess?
Those sorts of "helpful" suggestions to tend to set my teeth on edge, but I also try to give folks the benefit of the doubt and either respond gently ("soooo - your response could be taken as kinda rude, and this is why") or ignore them.

 

Yeah, that's exactly what it feels like. People are welcome to have their own opinions, but a lot of times they speak without thinking or caring about the other person's POV. I think that just goes doubly with dolls because a lot of people find them creepy or uncanny, and then with BJDs, which are designed to be very articulated... I can see why it happens, but it really sucks. Just let people do their thing and enjoy their hobbies!

 

I automatically assume I'm dealing with a child when this happens on the internet. I don't know why, it just often feels like something a little kid would say so I ignore it. Maybe it's because I've seen so many young kids with phones using instagram and the like. It's a kindergarden out there.

 

Had multiple people say they're creepy and ugly. I know dolls aren't for everyone so I try to be really mindful and don't share them with anyone unless they're already in the hobby. Had a dude try for hours to get some sort of confession that my SD was some sort of sex doll. At the time it was really uncomfortable but now I just look back on it as a hilarious wtf moment.

 

Once on instagram I got a comment telling me that I'm a "grown-*** adult" and to grow up but that's about it. Of course it was some alpha gym bro...like I care about his opinions.

 

@Kaito-len - ew. "Dude, if you're looking for shopping recommendations, I can't help you." It sounds like he wanted a referral. Yuck yuck yuck.

@littlecatdolls - "I am indeed! For example, I know to mind my own business!" Makes you wonder how they managed to forget all the manners they were raised with, as soon as they sat down in front on their computer.

Honestly, I feel like these reactions say a lot more about the rude people than they do our dolls...

 

Someone cried about the price and I blocked them.

 

Like almost everyone, I've gotten more than my fair share of the "they're so creepy!" comments, but it rarely goes beyond that. I have had a few people tell me they're a waste of money, but I always respond with something snarky about whatever hobby they have that I think is a waste of money, then they get all offended and leave me alone, lol. My mom doesn't "get it" and she'll say that, but she always backs it up with "but it's not my hobby and not everybody gets my collections, so it's not my business."

 

The classic “too much money” is always a fun one to hear. I usually follow it up with “Yeah, they’re a Lot of money, but not Too much money.” If you’ve ever tried (and failed!!) to make your own bjd you really start to understand most of the prices.

My favorite to hear is when one of their wigs falls off, and the person just exclaims “they’re bald!” In shock. :p

 

If you take 100 random people globally, you're gonna get like 10 people that love the dolls, 10 people that don't and 80 people that don't care.

 

When I showed my friend a picture of the Ringdoll I ordered recently and mentioned how tall he would be, he insinuated that I would be doing “inappropriate” things with it.

I have thick skin and have known this person for years, so I took it as it was intended which was as a joke, but this would probably be the closest thing to offensive if I was going to take offense.

 

My mother was very puzzled by the fact that my SD boy has anatomically accurate genitals and commented as much! It's not surprising, though, since she'd never seen this kind of "art doll" before.

My younger brother has been the one who's very vocal about how much he believes my sweet BJDs will definitely kill him someday!! It's hilarious to me, though, and done without any real rude meaning. Anytime he spots me chilling with or working on them, he gives my doll the side-eye and mutters that I will surely find him dead one morning with my dolls looming over him, LOOOL. It's the typical sibling bullying, and since this is the same guy who'll come into my room just so he could start boxing my Squishmallows' bellies or fling my anime catboy pillow into the air (all done with affection lol) I count it as him being honestly very mellow about my dolls indeed!