Seller's remorse?

Personally... being a customizer, I wouldn't feel too bad about selling a doll, unless it is customized in a way that would be hard to duplicate. Sometimes dolls are sold purely because an upgrade is in order. The character will stay the same most times, the only thing that changes is the sculpt.

However, I would totally hate myself for selling a limited doll, unless I was in desperate need of money

But to answer you questions, it's probably more sensible to hold onto a doll if you truly love the sculpt, love what it is as it embodies the very soul of the character you have created, instead of holding onto a doll whose purpose is purely sentimental. And, of course, it also depends on how rare the doll is, and how desperate you are in need of money. But all in all, your love for the doll's physical characteristics and what it represents should be the reason why you're keeping it.

I have sold my first doll. It wasn't easy. But once it had happened, I was able to get over it quite quickly, knowing that he had gone to a better home, where he will receive lots more attention than I could ever give him. Some times I see selling dolls as a way to help the dolls reach their full potential of being marveled and loved.

And I would sell one of the two I have, since I don't see any point in owning 2 of the same thing, unless I'm going for a Twin concept.

But that's just me. I'm emotionally detached from things most of the time.... so it could be very difficult if you really love your first doll, even though you don't have any use for it.

 

circe-nausicca I understand you perfectly and I could say, if you have a favorite mold (and you have), keep it and sell something you love but not so much as the favorite ones.
I have a favorite mold indeed and I have 5 of it... I was thinking to sell one of them the time I need money, but there is no way I can let one of them go, I prefer to sell something else I like but not love so much.

I personally have no regret on the dolls I have sold, except one, that I am keeping on looking everywhere now that I don't own it anymore, and I have a great remorse about it. But I keep it and go ahead as I can't buy it (too expensive and the money I earned with its sale has been gone time ago).

 

Wow - this discussion really has hit home for me today... just found out this morning that we'll be made to take 2 days a month without pay for who knows how long. Needless to say, I'm saddened by the news, but more so that the realization of having to choose which of my girls will need to be adopted out is fast approaching.

I know that they are inanimate objects, but there is a sentimental value and I do have alot of remorse to let them go. The majority of them I adopted myself and kinda feel that I'm letting them down somehow, like their forever home is being taken away. How does one choose which 'friend' to let go? It's like asking me to decide which pet do I keep? I would be homeless first before I sent any of my pets away...

After reading all these posts, I guess I'll put them all on the bed tonigh and decide which ones deserve to be loved by someone else.

 

Miep, perhaps one way to go about it is to pick a few possible candidates, and put those ones away in their boxes for a while. That should help you work out which ones you feel strongest about, and which ones you think you can let go?

 

Thank you, Arkady - I may actually try that, hopefully I can make the right decisions and not chicken out at the last minute. I look at their faces and they all seem to have that look of 'No, not me. Why? don't you love me anymore??'

 

I've sold a number of dolls before. Some i've regretted, some I haven't. I regret deeply selling my Dollshe Saint. I sold him because I needed the money to pay bills and pay a deposit on my new apartment. At the time, Tensiya was still selling dollshe and I thought I would easily be able to get him back. I was very very wrong and regret selling him more than anything in the world. But sometimes, no matter how much you love a doll, there may come a time when money becomes very short and you don't have long to come up with that money, and sometimes selling a doll is the easiest way to do it. In the end you have to weigh your options and determine what's more important, being able to pay the rent or having that pretty doll.

 

Did you ever sell a doll, only to really regret it later?

Yes, numerous times. I have owned and sold close to 20 dolls (owned closer to 30). While most dolls I sold to get something I like more, there are a few I really missed and regretted selling.

If so, is it a matter of missing the doll you bonded with, or just become re-attracted to the sculpt in general?

It depends on the circumstance. There are a few I had to sell due to financial stressors in my life (getting married, moving, entering grad school, computer for school). Once life became more stable, I bought 2 of my most missed sculpts back. For one, I did fall back in love with the sculpt again and was lucky enough to have my mother re-buy her for me as a Christmas gift.

Did you find you missed the versatile sculpts more than dolls that had some sort of sentimental value?

No, sentimental value dolls (the 2 I have received as gifts) will never be sold. My mother would be very hurt and that goes beyond any like for a sculpt. While I am an adult and buy 99% of all my own dolls/doll stuff, those few gems that are gifts mean more than my favorite sculpts.

How did you get over the remorse? Did you just wait it out? Or did you use the proceeds to invest in something you liked better?

I got over it by buying the sculpt back lol.


-Should I sell my first doll, which I am attached to mainly out of sentimental reasons, not out of a love for the sculpt itself?

If you are already considering it this much, it probably doesn't hold as significant of a sentimental value as you thought. You could do what I do, if you are considering selling a doll, put up a feeler thread in the market place and see if you get any hits. That will help you decide if you can go through with it or not.

-Or should I sell my favorite sculpt of all time, which I have two of?


Depends...if it is a standard you can buy back at a decent price later, it may not be a bad idea to sell one. if you really regret it, you can buy one back at a later date when you are more financially able.

 

WOW. now I need to update because I totally had Seller's remorse. I didn't even take my own advice. n.n;;;

Over a year ago I made the mistake of selling a doll that wasn't ready to go. Last year when the Kobe Cruise Williams came out I went crazy trying to figure out how to buy him since SD17 Williams was my holy grail doll. At that time I had be disconnecting with a few dolls in my collection, and so many of them went on the chopping block. One in particular, my Jinwoo was also neglected, but I really wasn't sure if that meant he should go or stay. Like a fool I sold him off to a friend so I'd have money to pounce on a Williams in the MP.

Well I got my holy grail and I never for one second regretted buying him, though I regretted the method I chose to acquire him. I sold a doll that I never made a real attempt to bond with in order to gain another, and I regretted it deeply. Last time I posted I said: "When you are unsure you should tuck them away for a trial period and see if you miss them", and I never did it with my Jinwoo and assumed I'd be ok when he was gone. =_=; After he was sold I'd see them go up for sale on occasion and die inside a little bit because I never had the money to buy him before they would be sold. He was a limited doll and a pretty rare find on the MP. I never wanted to have that feeling again so I've made it a rule to NEVER sell a doll to gain another, and to NEVER EVER give up on a doll unless I've tried to go down all avenues to bond with them.

I was SUPER fortunate that the friend I sold him to also had issues bonding with him [I never spoke of my regret though since I didn't want to make her feel guilty] and the same doll managed to make his way home to me. It was a lesson I learned a difficult way but that had a happy ending. I know that most people aren't as fortunate when they are sold to random members on the MP, so after his return home I really began to appreciate and love him.

Long story short, Yes I had Seller's Remorse because I made a decision on a whim. You have to think about the future and what's best for you. Unfortunately people do need money for real life things, but if anything I've learned you should sell a doll you can always replace. @_@;

 

I decided against selling a doll head for this very reason... so far I have not sold any of my dolls, or any of their parts.
I got the doll head free from a friend when I bought a tiny from her, it fits that tiny, so it's like having two dolls in one!
I favour the head that came with the doll more than the free one, and I almost sold it!
..but then I saw how pretty it was and thought; NO! XDDD
Dolls are too pretty to sell! ):

 

Ohgosh, yes. Even the ones that I sold because they frustrated me more than gave me joy. Hate selling. HateitHateitHateit.
I originally bought x doll because I loved it. It's difficult to come to terms that maybe the love isn't there, or just that SOMEbody's got to go for financial reasons. The reasons really don't matter, it's still a difficult choice - you've spent time, money, and love on them. It's not easy to give that all up.

In a couple of cases, I have managed to buy the same scuplt again. While not the same doll, it does help just having that particular face back in the group again.

So, I'd recommend selling one of the one you have two of. Unless they're both limiteds that you cannot buy any more. But still having one of the two around, plus the one you're bonded tightly with, is better than having the two similar faces and none of the one that you adore.
Just my $0.02.

 

I really hate selling dolls but bec. I also keep loving new dolls so I have to sale dolls that I display and no longer played with. Another factor is sometimes I need to sale to pay bills and another big one is no room in the house. If I can continue keeping dolls without selling, every corner of my house will be displayed with dolls. I also like big big dolls and those take up rooms in the house so I try to focus on tinies but it does not help.

 

Did you ever sell a doll, only to really regret it later?
Yes. I sold a Puki in order to raise money for another doll I wanted. Now I really regret letting my little Puki go. I've let other dolls go before, but none really affected me as much as he has.

If so, is it a matter of missing the doll you bonded with, or just become re-attracted to the sculpt in general?
I think I really bonded with him and his sculpt. Whenever I see Pukis around here, I think of him.

Did you find you missed the versatile sculpts more than dolls that had some sort of sentimental value?
I sold my first doll, so I don't think sentimentality has much to do with my remorse. I think it was the sculpt and the fact that I had bonded with him more than I thought I did.

How did you get over the remorse? Did you just wait it out? Or did you use the proceeds to invest in something you liked better?
I haven't gotten over the Puki, but the others I ended up using to buy a sculpt I wanted more. I hope to get a Puki again in the future so I can bring back my little boy.

 

Think about it this way:

What's worth more, keeping a doll you love and scrimping and getting by with the money you currently have, or selling a doll and getting by only slightly better than you would otherwise?

If you think you can tough it out and get by, I think you should do that because you seem really apprehensive about selling it, and since it doesn't seem at this point to be a dire circumstance that needs money.

 

Oh man, I have a couple I regret selling...deeply.

My 3 pukis. One I was ok with selling, because she was the least played with one. And I know she has a wonderful home now. But the other 2..they were my absolute favorites. I thought I would be ok with selling them, since I didn't play with them in the same way I did with my other boys, but I'm really not. I needed the money for my car payment, and they were the only non-customized dolls in my group, so they would be easiest to replace. So off they went. I can't even look at pictures of pukis to this day, because it makes me miss mine terribly. I told myself I'd rebuy them asap, but I've bought a lot of other dolls first. But I'm determined to get them back within the next few months. They were my BIGGEST regret.

The other regret..was my breakaway 08 open eyed head. ...He was so gorgeous. So perfect. And I just didn't do anything with him. He wasn't going to get a body anytime soon, and I felt so bad keeping such a gorgeous boy locked in a drawer for months without play. I sold him...and it was the most difficult thing..ever. I keep wanting to go and get another one and get it repainted to look the same..but I doubt I ever will. It wouldn't be the same and it would hurt too much to think about it. It's totally turned me against owning any other of the sculpt though.

This regret is why I'm likely to not sell another doll unless I REALLY have no attachment to it. I have another floating head who I kept saying I'd get a body for and haven't yet. I won't let myself sell him for fear of the regret. It's really made me smarter about my doll purchases. The dolls I bring in here, I want to be dolls that stay. I went through my impulse purchase stage, and sold them all off without regret. But the ones I waited for, angsted over..anytime I sold them, it's been a horrible feeling afterwards. So it's all smart purchases now. If I forget about the doll and wanting it, then I probably won't buy it, even if I eventually remember. And I have a strict list in my head that I'm focusing on getting in order- because they're all dolls I've wanted for a long period of time...so they likely won't leave once they're here.

 

I traded my first doll and have never regretted it.

I think that life comes first and you should sell what you need to. You won't have any dolls if you run out of money and they all need to go. dolls can e replaced you can't...

We all love our dolls and they form special places in us. It would kill me to sell my faves but I would if I needed to. The dolls I have sold or traded are with people who want them and they will have a relationship just as special so your resin friends will have happy homes. People in this hobby value the dolls they buy for their cost and for their beauty and treat them with respect because of that.

 

Definitely, I've regretted selling dolls I owned before. But it was only because I had to financially. I recently re-bought my Yeon, so I'm happy about that!

 

I sold some heads. I bought them with the intention of selling because they were cases where you had to buy the head + body to get a body, that sort of thing. I don't miss the heads I sold because I really didn't have any need for them or want for them, and someone else did want them so I made another person happy.
I can't imagine selling off a doll I loved to get another doll though. I just don't like to sell the dolls. I would probably do it if finances forced me to do so and I have a pretty good idea of who would stay and who would go but...still it's not a fun thing to do in my mind.