Selling twice loved(second hand) BJD?

But some people like having their dolls mint in box, or displayed behind glass in a pretty outfit. Some like taking them everywhere and doing things with them all the time, but that doesn't mean one collector cares more about the dolls than the other-they all care for their dolls, otherwise they wouldn't have spent that much money.

I personally don't believe dolls are more than inanimate objects, I love them, I care very much for them, but they're not alive and don't have a soul, not to me anyway. A doll exists to make it's owner happy, and if keeping it in it's box makes the owner happy then..even if I believed dolls had souls, I'd think the doll would be content with that too, because it serves it's purpose. So..I don't think you really have to worry about selling to people who 'don't care' about their dolls. People do care, even if it is in a different way that you care.

I hope that made sense and you didn't feel attacked! Just wanted to show the 'other side'(I don't keep my dolls in boxes, but if I had a display, I would keep them there..I like looking at them being pretty and making them pretty by making/buying nice stuff for them, that is my way of playing/caring)

 

I have a third-hand dolly, he was my first! Chris, my Wu. I believe his second owner got him in a trade with someone else, so I know I'm at least his third person. I can't imagine parting with Chris, or anyone at this point, but if I had to, I think I could do it. I don't think it really matters how many times a doll changes hands, just as long as at some point they find a home where they are appreciated.

That being said, I wouldn't cry or anything over selling a doll that has had more than one owner. I would feel bad, yes, but sometimes finances outweight guilt.

 

I don't know..I've never really sold a doll before, I used to own two Gomidoll Iru heads, I sold one to a friend and have the other on DoA now..the friend absolutely adores him, much more than I ever did, and I'm sure whoeever will buy his twin will too..I'll kind of miss it, but since it was just a head..I can't imagine ever selling one of my boys, I'd miss them so much ;_; But it's more a case of missing them than worrying about where they are, once they're gone, they're gone and then they won't be my doll anymore. The Iru I sold is no longer the character I had, it's now the character the friend made, so while I might miss the precense of the doll..the character/the feeling that doll gave me can still come back in another doll form.

So..I guess I won't worry about how they're doing, because, in a way, only the shell leaves and what you made of them, the style, the uniqueness that made that particular doll yours..well, you thought of that, it's not something attached to the doll since paint, wigs, eyes, etc can be taken off and the empty shell can become someone elses doll. So, even if the shell is gone, the doll is with you and can be recreated(...I hope that didn't sound awfully newagy and dollshavesoulsish..because that's not what i meant XD you thought of the style and persoality, so you can recreate it whenever you want, so it's just an empty shell of a doll that you sell)

I don't get why people keep dolls in boxes either, makes it kinda hard to look at them when they're in bubblewrap..

 

Many dolls sold by their first owner in the Marketplace were not loved. I think I bought 4 of my dolls in the Marketplace, and none of the sellers had anything in their sales post about feeling bad that they were forced to sell the doll, or that they were looking for someone who would love the doll and give it a good home. They also did not relate anything like that to me. So I would not feel guilty if I also did not bond with the doll, or if the doll did not fit in with my existing doll family.

If I did purchase a doll from someone who cared about the doll being loved, I think I would feel guilty if I did not bond with the doll. But I think I would feel worse sbout keeping the doll at that point than selling it to someone who would really love it.

Carolyn

 

I have bought and sold many dozen dolls. For various reasons, didn't bond, needed money, they creeped me out..etc. Some I paint and sell hoping others will enjoy the tiny person I created in their doll. I sew for them, I talk to them (I'm alone a lot) and I paint on them. I am always improving and changing my collection. I want them all.
I had to sell some to pay for a surgery I had and Christmas presents, I cried to let some of them go. The ones I had to sell, that I didn't want to sell, I have bought again, I missed them. I don't keep them in a box -they all have names and a area (their house) to themselves, although its getting crowded.
A doll is a extension of our personallities and our overflowing love. I think it is in human nature to make a life for something that would love us unconditionally...no questions asked. I treat my dogs the same way.
Every now and again I line all my dolls in a row and the first one that says "Mama" gets to stay...j/k
Good topic and don't worry so much- its all fun

 

While I will be the first one to tout the "It's YOUR money, do what you want!" flag, I'm in that position now. I adopted a Volks Nana from a very good friend, and have since decided this doll just is not for me. She's cute and sweet, but just not my type at all.

While I have my friends blessing to sell her ("If you're not bonding, then yeah, I understand," she says.) But she's THAT Nana. :cry There are a few other dolls out there I would enjoy so much more, and I'd love to see this girl be given the attention and love she's long been due, but I just don't want to let her go.

 

Don't sweat it, the search function is so wonky! It's often hard to find what you are looking for. This is not a place to be scared of; most of DoA is sweet like a granny. Just one tiny thing though...maybe edit your posts to add new thoughts instead of posting three or four times?


As far as second hand dolls: My first doll was secondhand, and I'd never sell her. Even though the original owner and I have lost contact, I still would not sell. If I *really* didn't like her, I'd sell her. But as far as I am concerned, if I spend that much money on a doll, that means I like it and I want to keep it. This is pretty much a no-sell house unless one of them starts giving my boyfriend/kids nightmares.

 

I adopted my first girl from a non-bjd person on ebay. Apparently, the women had bought her on a whim from another auction (I'm not sure how many owners she has had ^-^) and just set her in a display case. When I saw her, I knew I had to have her. She seemed so sad, and I knew I could make her happy. At first, we didn't really bond (I like to think she was shy ^_^) But I refused to sell her. I guess I felt like I had made a promise to her and selling her would be like the ultimate rejection. So we waited it out. She finally came of out her shell and now we're inseperable.

My second doll, I bought new from DoD... She's beautiful and loving, but I don't really have the attachment that I have with Suke with her. Even though Maisuke is yellowed, scratched, and has many chips, I still prize her over Pita. I guess, like you, I also have that emotional bond with someone with a story.

Lupita and I are bonding now, but I think I will be able to sell her sooner and easier than I would with Suke. (Which I pray never has to happen). Although, i would probably bawl over her box as I handed it to the postman ^^;

 

No matter where I buy dolls from, if I outgrow them or simply do not bond, they go up for sale. While I've always tended to name them & give them personalities in the end they are really just inanimate objects & if I'm not attending to them I'd rather sell them to someone who will.

Of course, there are dolls here that will never leave. Some were gifts from my Mom & others continue to thrill me or tug at my heartstrings. As for whoever buys them, I'm assuming they're planning of playing with & loving the doll more than I'm currently capable of.

 

Well I'll say this--(it's not a twice-loved story, just a doll-selling story)--since I got into this hobby (about a year ago) I was always dead-against selling any doll that I would own. Never could understand it, felt exactly the way you described in your first post. I have the same problem--I humanize things very very quickly.

And then I got into a situation I bought a doll I hadn't planned for--(well, I do that quite a bit)--problem was, I bought her instead of the doll I was planning to get, thinking since my first choice (a limhwa) was going to be limited, I wouldn't be able to get her, and better not let the second choice (a Roda) get away if that happened.

Of course, then my first choice became an open order. So I ended up with both dolls. When my limhwa doll arrived--it was mad love at first sight, unfortunately it wasn't so with my Roda, and for the first time ever I was the dolly villain. We weren't bonding, I nearly sold her the first night I got her, but stopped because I felt I wasn't giving her a chance, I was being unreasonable, and unfair and bending to a pre-mindset about how I wasn't going to bond with her from the beginning. (I only ever wanted 1 girl, I'm a boy-doll person all the way) And plus, I was afraid she wouldn't go to a good home. I would rather she stayed with me, even if I wasn't terribly thrilled, than go someplace where it might be worse

So she stayed, and I did my best to pay her as much attention as I could. In fact, I paid her more attention than my limhwa girl, who was sort of just sitting there not being played with after I'd waited 5 months to get her. And everytime I needed money, it crossed my mind to sell my Roda. But I didn't.

And then two weeks ago some friends came over with all their kids for a mini meet. My Roda and my friend's Ducan immediately bonded and looked so good together--it was really adorable and made me feel that at last she was getting some good genuine attention. Two days later, I fell for a new doll on the market, and again thought of selling my Roda. So I jokingly asked my friend if she was interested.

What started as a joke/hypothetical situation, became a done deal by the end of the night. And now my Roda is going someplace I know she'll be loved, and I know she will fit in ^_^ I can let her go because of all that. But in all honesty, if the buyer wasn't my friend, whose doll already bonded with mine, I probably would not have sold her.

I'm still uncomfortable with the idea of selling my dolls, but I understand it better now because I've been through it. I sold a doll, and bought a doll I really wanted with that money. And I know the doll I sold is going someplace good--and being that it's my friend, it's not like I'll never see her again either. They were pretty exceptional circumstances that sort of fell into place--so I think it was all meant to be

 

No matter how many people a doll goes through in the end I am sure it can
make someone happy, maybe if its had so many owners and is old enough,
sometimes the price is lower, its in reach for someone to get their first doll
who might not have been able to get one otherwise.

Or maybe a head they aren't afraid to try that first faceup on. (the head on
one of mine had gone through 5 or 6 previous owners)

Some don't mind a stain or 2, a scratch, a little chip,

The hobby has all levels From TLC to Mint.

 

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