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Selling twice loved(second hand) BJD?

May 23, 2007

    1. I believe in the Velveteen Rabbit theory... the more love and adventures these guys have in their travels, the more life they pick up along the way until they become Real. :) My Shiro is third-hand, and he has so many layers of personality that he should be ready to start walking on his own any day now (were it not for those bad old-style knee joints of his ^^). Think of your home as one more stop on that doll's journey through life.

      I think it makes no sense to KEEP a doll at home if you don't really love it, can no longer bond with it, or aren't able to really enjoy it. Set it free, and you'll both be happy.

      That said, I myself find it impossible to sell any dolls-- because I only buy for True Love. And by now I am fatally attached to all 15 of these little bastids. ;; I suppose if I ever fell out of love with one of them, or got into a financially bad position, I'd have to eat my own words and learn to set him free. I just hope that day doesn't come! :sweat
       
    2. For me, it would depend if I bonded at all with the doll or if I felt a personality for it had arisen. If I bought it, ended up not having any emotional feeling toward it, I'd really probably look at it as "just a doll". Otherwise, it's really only the seller and buyers morals and stands on the issue. That's my 4 cents.
       
    3. I dont understand how you can get a doll you dont like if you spend enough time researching and creating what u want
       
    4. I am new and I don't own a BJD doll (yet) :lol: but in my experience with my Himstedt dolls... I have sold them when I did not bond or to make space (they are very big)

      Also, I have been happy to adopt dolls that are 2nd or 3rd hand and gave them a loving home. I think there is nothing wrong with adopting 2nd or 3rd hand dolls as long as you love them. :aheartbea
       
    5. All of my boys with the exception of my Saint, are second hand boys. I love them all to bits and pieces and will probably never sell a single one of them. Ever since i Got into the hobby, i longed most of all for a Breakaway (as do a lot of people), but knowing my chances of getting one were very slim, I started looking around at other dolls and decided that I wanted to get a MNF El. I figured that the small ones were the right size for me. Then Edo_Elric was selling her MNF El.. and I snatched him up... and I love him more than ANY of the boys I have. He's my little angel and I spoil him more than any of my other boys. When I go to meet-ups or outings, he's the one I always take with me. I did finally get my breakaway, along with the other El's I'ld been wanting and a DoC Homme Kirill I bought from the amazing Bloodyrose. But they've all been second hand. All of my SD boys with the exception of my normal El have been bought piece by piece from different people on DoA. And since so much effort has gone into making these boys exactly what I want them to be, I don't think I could ever bring myself to sell any one of them. If it did come down to selling my boys, I think I would rather sell them to someone I know than just any given buyer, much like what Lachlana did with her Roda. I'd be afraid of what would happen to them and what environment they're living in. So I think personally, I would sooner just give him to someone I know will love him and care for him the way he deserves than just sell him to someone for the money.
       
    6. Dolls have no physical or emotional needs, so I've never really worried about where the few I have sold are going. I do hope that their new owners enjoy them, but beyond that, they're not suffering in any way by being sold once or twice or fifty times.

      As a buyer, I would definitely be turned away from a sale where the owner made it like adoption and wanted to be heavily involved with the doll still after the sale. That's not how I play and it would be more of a hassle than it is worth since a lot of people do forget that many owners do not derive enjoyment from acting like our dolls are our friends/children/pets/slaves.
       
    7. Rive, please don't feel like there's anything 'wrong' with you for feeling the way you do about selling dolls or worry about dolls not finding loving new homes <3

      People are all different, and yes, the thing is BJDs are inanimate objects, they do not have a soul or emotiones - however, i understand where you're coming from. I tend to become extremely attached to my dolls and i would hate to sell one of my dollies, only to see the buyer putting it up for sale again. But i do not plan on selling any of my dolls, so luckily i dont even have to worry about that! :)

      I have often seen dolls popping on on eBay or in the marketplace, dolls that i have seen been up for sale again and again - without never seeing to find an owner that wants to keep it - it makes me a little sad, which is silly, i know.

      But I always keep in mind that those little resin critters are inanimate objects- and then i'm VERY careful when i buy a new doll, making sure that it's a little resin friend that i know i will be able to love and not have to sell. And so far that has worked very well.

      Much love xx x
       
    8. If I sell a doll to a person, I dont feel bad if they decide not to keep it. It is theirs to do with as they wish. Nor do I want them to keep my version of the dolls personality- it is just not realistic. It is a nice gesture, but when I make a sale there are no strings attached. LOL
       
    9. All three of my boys are second hand. I don't know why, but they feel more special in a way, even if it does take a while to be able to bond with them. I get very sentimental and attached to things, so I couldn't imagine ever being able to part with them.
       
    10. I have two "new" dolls (Baron and Sydney) and two "twice-loved" dolls (Rana and Irian).

      I LOVE Baron more than anyone else simply because he's so special, OOAK, and my very first doll. So while he's "new" I can't really compare him just because of those factors.

      As for my secondhand dollies...I fell immediately in love with Rana when I saw her photo, and I can't wait to get her. Irian was a slower burn (I was initially interested in another doll on the same auction) but as time went on I kept going back to her photo and finally bid to win.

      I see it this way: If a doll is not being loved the way it should be, then you have a duty to sell it to someone who will. Rana's owner knows I'll love her fiercely, and we see one another at meetups so we are actually friends. Irian's owner trusts I'll love her just as much, too. Rana was loved before, but for certain reasons she must be passed along now. If I ever sell her, I'll make sure it's to someone who will love her (although I hope that never happens!) Things change, and people change, you know? We buy these dolls and we put a little bit of ourselves into them. Thusly, we must treat them right.

      And if that means sending them to a new home where they'll be squeed over and given lots of attention and clothes, then that's just what we have to do. ^_^
       
    11. I think it depends a lot on what you expect from the doll. For example, I spent three years planning a doll named Ivoire. I knew exactly what every aspect of her would be, but when she arrived, even though everything was exactly as I imagined, I found she wasn't right for me in practice. It can and does happen no matter how much thought or planning goes into a doll.
       
    12. i do get bored with my head, but I wouldn't sell him. simply because I'm stubborn and abosulutley determined to get his body here. ><
      I don't think it would bother my to sell one based on where I bought it from. It's not really all that important.
       
    13. I have a slightly different situation on my hands. I have a second hand doll now and it is a boy that belonged to a very good friend of mine. Now instead of buying this doll I accepted him into my household as a gift if you will. She had worked very hard to be able to buy him and he is part of a story that I had developed while she and another friend owned characters in it. But she was not able to, in her morals, keep him from her parents or lie about him to them. She couldn't bring herself to sell him either so she asked me to take him. While of course I did so gladly it is odd to have him now since while he is technically mine- it still feels very much like he is and always will be hers. He is still the same character and I know that I will keep her up to date with any changes in him and such. It creates an odd situation for me that I will have to see how it works.
      Likewise I have a second hand head, and he does feel like mine entirely because there was no lingering attachment and I think in the future that is the only way I could have a second hand doll again.
      That is of course not to say that I am unhappy in the least to have Py as part of my group now.
       
    14. I've never sold a doll, but I don't imagine I'd have any trouble with it. I don't get very attached to inanimate objects, but I am more attached to my dolls than some other things, but only because they're in the form of little people O__O It's hard to not get even a little bit attached.

      But anyway, if I didn't like a doll I'd definitely sell it. Not because it was my duty to sell it to a person who would love it more, either. I'd sell it because I didn't want it anymore, simple as that. If a person pays me for it, they can have it. This actually reminds me of a conversation I just had about artwork: some artists grow very attached to their art and have a hard time selling it. But for me, I'm not attached at all. A person can tell me that as soon as they get my artwork home they're going to rip it to shreds and burn what's left, but as long as they pay for it I don't care! :0 But I guess if someone told me they were going to smash a doll they were buying for me, I might not sell it to them. Only because it's a waste xD If I really wanted the money I'd let them do it. In the end they are just objects :000

      And I agree with Kim, I would never buy a secondhand doll from a person who seemed really attached to it. I refuse to feel bad if I did something with it that they didn't like being done with it. :/ If they're so protective of their doll, they should have kept it!

      Which also reminds me of another topic you mentioned~ when I look at the marketplace, I never feel bad for the doll being sold. Ever. The only time I feel sorry if when the owner is sad to get rid of it. I can appreciate how people get attached... just like some people get attached to animals, but others sell them just like objects. I could NEVER sell one of my cats without feeling absolutely horrible. I would rather live in a box than sell them. And I understand that some people feel that way towards dolls, and I feel bad when they have to sell... I just wouldn't buy from those people xD
       
    15. I'm the opposite.

      I've thought at some point of selling anywhere from one to four of my dolls (back when I had only five) because I have different levels of attachment to them, and I do have favorites that the others don't match up to. But while some of my purchases were impulsive, I never bought a doll "just 'cause", and eventually I realized I'll never sell it that way, either. If there isn't a good reason for me to sell it, like a money emergency, or a close friend who wants it, then why bother? I won't take the chance I'll miss them when they're gone. They're not kids or pets, they won't wither from a lack of attention (in fact they will stay in more pristine condition that way!)
       
    16. Everything overlordu said :lol: I'm sure you don't want me to say the exact same thing but in different words.

      Except... well I think I would be pretty mad if someone destroyed an original painting of mine, since it'd be gone for good. Dolls are different, (unless it's a one-off, in which case I would have to think twice because it would just be a real shame) since they're *sort of* mass produced.
       
    17. I'm all for selling a doll that I just bought from someone else. It has happened a few times to me where I love her in the pictures, but then when I get her home, I'm not as impressed or she's not how I thought she'd be.
       
    18. To me it's a matter of bonding. I don't really care where the doll is from. If I was to buy a second hand doll, it's former "life" wouldn't matter to me, I'd make it my own character anyway :)
       
    19. Honestly all the dolls I have gotten I am in love with and wouldnt dream of selling them, you'd have to pry one outta my cold dead fingers ^^
       
    20. The trouble is you never REALLY know for sure if you will bond wth a doll before theyre in your hands....so you could think your in love with a doll from pics etc..then get it home and think eek not for me....so whether new or second loved its the same for me...im never sure till theyre with me..and i expect alot are the same....though i would feel a little icky selling on from a member.....and i would probably email them to tell them i was selling the doll on..out of politeness really.......