Sharing a friend's doll? (blurring the lines of doll ownership)

Do you or would you share a doll by splitting the cost (true dual ownership)?
My good friend/writing partner and I are currently doing this. We split the cost of a doll we adopted from a friend evenly. Tamsyn, our doll, spends two weeks with me and two weeks with her.

Do you or would you share a doll by letting someone else choose a character for your doll, or by creating a character for theirs?
I wouldn't do that for someone else's doll nor would I be very pleased if someone else did that with mine. With the exception of Tamsyn, I have purchased all my dolls with a character and backstory in mind for that doll.

Do you or would you share a doll by creating your own character for your own doll, but relying on another person to "complete" the set and letting the doll stay with them as much as he/she stays with you? (or by having their doll at your house/trading off)
No. I spend a lot time developing my characters (again with the exception of Tamsyn) and it gives me a lot of pride and enjoyment when I can buy things to "complete" them to bring their image to life. It's one of the more pleasurable aspects and I wouldn't give that up for anything.

If you do share a doll (in any form), are there certain guidelines you won't cross (something you'd do with your own but not theirs)?
I think this can go from case to case and person to person. I'm very fortunate, and my friend and I have a great relationship and we're both very similar and flexible so it makes sharing easy. With anything like mods or new face ups and such, we would discuss this together first before taking any action.

 

Do you or would you share a doll by splitting the cost (true dual ownership)?

This is an interesting thought, but I really, truly think it would be impossible for me. While splitting the cost of a doll is tempting, there's no way I could stand to share the ownership of my doll, even with someone really close to me. For me, my dolls are based on characters whom I hold very close to my heart. They're mine in every way, and it would feel odd, even for my best friend (whom I share just about everything with, including an apartment).

Actually, said best friend, Haiiro, would tell you that I'm really bad about my dolls. I've fussed at her for doing small things to my dolls, like licking her finger and using it to try to get a smudge off of my boy's face... it's small things that I might even do without thinking, but when someone else does it, I panic. XD It's stupid, but that possessive paranoia is what makes me think I couldn't handle sharing a doll.

Do you or would you share a doll by letting someone else choose a character for your doll, or by creating a character for theirs?

I don't think so. I mean, Haiiro and I will sometimes trade ideas and give suggestions to one another, but ultimately the decision is always our own. We're really familiar with the characters we want to shell, even each other's, so we usually have a pretty good idea, but only the creator can know for sure what will work and what won't. Although, originally she wanted to get her Iple Storm a really pale blonde wig, and I suggested a more golden blonde one. She ended up liking the latter better.

Eh. All I can say is, a huge allure of BJDs to me is the characterization aspect of it, so it would be weird for me to hand that step over to someone else.

Do you or would you share a doll by creating your own character for your own doll, but relying on another person to "complete" the set and letting the doll stay with them as much as he/she stays with you? (or by having their doll at your house/trading off)

I guess I kind of do this already. The dolls Haiiro and I collect are from stories we write together, so all of the characters are intertwined. Heck, we have been buying the dolls as "couples" sort of (buying the dolls that go together as a pair at the same time). It's not a big deal, really, because we live together, but if she lived far away, I'm not sure how I would feel about leaving my dolls with her. If she lived across town, yeah, I'd go hang out and leave them there for a week or two so she could take photos or whatever if she wanted... but if we lived in different states, there's no way I could mail my doll to her. Having my doll in the post once is scary enough.

If you do share a doll (in any form), are there certain guidelines you won't cross (something you'd do with your own but not theirs)?

Hmm. I think probably sanding or extreme mods. I had no problem helping Haiiro wipe her boy's face up, and if she ever wanted me to give him a face up or suede him or anything like that, I'd happily do it. I'd even re-string (though I suck at it... I'm really tempted to ask her to re-string my dolls because she is way better at it). There's no way I'd ever sand seams or do extreme modifications (or even less extreme, like dying the dolls). I'd be too afraid of damaging her dolls irreparably....

 

I think it is great that the original question poster can share her fun and love of her dolls this way with someone. I've been deeply disappointed by people I trusted. I mean physically and financially harmed so even trust at this level would probably not be comfortable anymore. Sorry if that is too personal sharing, and I'll understand if the comment is removed. [Guess that kind of shows I tend to expect negativity?] But in most ways I am an up beat person. I am really looking forward to being an active member of my area group of collectors and to as much of an extent as I can, I want to share. Perhaps as I go along in the hobby some of my trust will return.

 

Do you or would you share a doll by splitting the cost (true dual ownership)?
Hmmm...I do have a hard time keeping my friends close after a while but with the one I'm sharing my dolly story with, I do believe we'll stay such good friends for a long time, so I wouldn't mind sharing a doll by splitting the cost with her really ^ ^ Though I don't think we'll ever do that because I don't think we're going to like it hahaha! Like, if we both like the same sculpt, the first thing we'll think is 'TWINS!' because we both want to have that sculpt home and customize it how we each like (and believe me, we have very different tastes sometimes xD) instead of passing it back and forth. Like once I told her that when I finally get a Dreamingdoll Judy, I'm going to leave her at her place if she wants to play with her and she went all 'No, I think I'll become too attached to let her go afterwards!' so yea hahaha UvU;;;
Do you or would you share a doll by letting someone else choose a character for your doll, or by creating a character for theirs?
Well, I don't consider it 'sharing', per-se. I've let my friend choose a character for one of my want dollies. Not exaaaactly character as in personality, but who/what they are in the story, because I was having a very hard time to come up with something that would make them important enough to get the doll...and we kinda give each other ideas of who/what are the characters story-wise, but yea, I wouldn't call it co-owning ^u^
I don't think I could do exactly that either. If it's not a personality I thought of, I have a very hard time (if it's not impossible) to rp them and understand them /: And I know she's the same uvu
Do you or would you share a doll by creating your own character for your own doll, but relying on another person to "complete" the set and letting the doll stay with them as much as he/she stays with you? (or by having their doll at your house/trading off)
Like I said above, we kind of 'complete' each others characters sometimes by giving ideas to each other and also, since it's a co-owned story, her characters complete mine, if it makes sense ^ ^
And yes. I already know Patrick will not want to come home with me after he sees C in dolly form for the first time and I was actually thinking of sending him to her for C's box opening (damn expensive couriers...) And she has also said that her Eien will like to stay over at my house a lot because Eulia is here. I'm very fine with it, I know she will take very good care of them as I will with hers and I'll be happy to know that my 'kids' will be with their beloved and won't be cursing me behind my back for separating them

 

Do you or would you share a doll by splitting the cost (true dual ownership)?
The only way I would do this, is if it were with my boyfriend or twin

Do you or would you share a doll by letting someone else choose a character for your doll, or by creating a character for theirs?
We would find a way to collaborate n_n

Do you or would you share a doll by creating your own character for your own doll, but relying on another person to "complete" the set and letting the doll stay with them as much as he/she stays with you? (or by having their doll at your house/trading off)
I would probably let it stay with my twin or bf more often if they so desired, due to I have a lot of cherished dolls and wouldn't feel 'greedy' I guess, to keep a shared doll all to myself.

If you do share a doll (in any form), are there certain guidelines you won't cross (something you'd do with your own but not theirs)?
If it's a total duel ownership, then we'd come to a middle. Especially with my Twin.. we are so alike, honestly it wouldn't be a problem n_n

 

I'm actully planning something similar.
Yami, one of my non doll friends, likes a MUdoll that I like as well. We have disided to put our money together to get the doll. Because it's a fullset it has part of a character build already we have been building the character together. Because I already have an idea of where my dolls live we've been trying to find a way to put him into it. Because of the very fluid nature of my (doll's) universe because it hasn't been completely built yet, we're doing fine with sharing him.
She doesn't want to go into doll keeping so I'll be caring for him and she'll be getting a detective who I'll be quite willing to let her take pictures of so long as she doesn't mind him interacting with the story of my other dolls (which she doesn't mind, and I don't mind).
It probably helps that I've known her since I was two and trust completely with anything I own (including my other dolls).

 

I can't imagine Actually sharing one doll between more than one person but I would be fine with letting one of my dolls visit a close friend or having a doll or two that was connected with a friend's story.

Also, there are some dolls that I wouldn't be ok with sharing and some that I would be

 

Do you or would you share a doll by splitting the cost (true dual ownership)?
-Yes if it were a doll that was meant to be shared, but if it were for some doll that was an integral part of my story or something no.

Do you or would you share a doll by letting someone else choose a character for your doll, or by creating a character for theirs?
-I don't think I'd let someone make a character for my dolls, no, it's a personal thing for me but if it was ever asked of me to help create a character, sure I'd help. But in my eyes it would still be *their doll. I just helped with it.

Do you or would you share a doll by creating your own character for your own doll, but relying on another person to "complete" the set and letting the doll stay with them as much as he/she stays with you? (or by having their doll at your house/trading off)
-....if I'd spent time creating the doll for my own story no, of course not. It's a part of my ideas and I'd let my friends keep them for a while but I wouldn't let them have ownership of it.

If you do share a doll (in any form), are there certain guidelines you won't cross (something you'd do with your own but not theirs)?
-I wouldn't allow mods or any significant change be made to the doll without the consent of all owners. I mean, I'd be a bit pissed if someone took a dremel to my doll without asking

 

Do you or would you share a doll by splitting the cost (true dual ownership)?

Technically I have done this with my Heliot. I only wanted a head but the seller said that she would sell the body too. My boyfriend insisted that he come with the body, and bought it for me since I had only saved enough for the head. The doll is still mine, since he has no interest in a Unicorn boy ^^ I do plan to pay him back one way or another though, since I don't expect him to fund my doll hobby.

Do you or would you share a doll by letting someone else choose a character for your doll, or by creating a character for theirs?

Sure, as long as I had some input. It would be hard to look at a doll I owned if someone came up with a completely different personality than what I saw in it.

Do you or would you share a doll by creating your own character for your own doll, but relying on another person to "complete" the set and letting the doll stay with them as much as he/she stays with you? (or by having their doll at your house/trading off)

Maybe if I lived close enough to the person, they were a good friend and they paid for half the doll. I'd also have to be able to trust them with it. If they take good care of their other things, and BJDs if they had any, I'd probably be okay with it

If you do share a doll (in any form), are there certain guidelines you won't cross (something you'd do with your own but not theirs)?

I don't share any dolls right now, but if I did I would treat it like my other dolls that I own. I'm very careful, so there's really nothing that I wouldn't do with it that I would do with my others. But I wouldn't make any changes on the doll unless the other person were to agree with me, such as face-ups, mods, etc.​

 

Do you or would you share a doll by splitting the cost (true dual ownership)?

No. If the friend moved or something happened it could make things awkward with the doll. Besides, I have my own ideas about how I want my dolls and want to be able to make decisions about them without having to clear it with someone else.

Do you or would you share a doll by letting someone else choose a character for your doll, or by creating a character for theirs?

Sort of did this -- my ex roommate got a doll to shell one of my characters (with my permission of course). I realized after awhile, that I was not comfortable having someone else muck around with my characters. When she moved I ended up with the doll since I had the rest of the family, and it was a big relief.

Do you or would you share a doll by creating your own character for your own doll, but relying on another person to "complete" the set and letting the doll stay with them as much as he/she stays with you? (or by having their doll at your house/trading off)

The above situation could have gone that way, but as she was moving out of state and I don't like shipping dolls if I don't have to, I'm glad it didn't work out that way.

If you do share a doll (in any form), are there certain guidelines you won't cross (something you'd do with your own but not theirs)?

I won't share a doll -- it's just too much trouble. I would rather there be a clear line between my dolls and their dolls. It keeps things much simpler in the end.

 

Do you or would you share a doll by splitting the cost (true dual ownership)?
- I do share a doll with someone, but the head is mine and was purchased separately from the body, which belongs to her.

Do you or would you share a doll by letting someone else choose a character for your doll, or by creating a character for theirs?
- Cat and I share Rouge. He started out as just an idea of having a Diva doll, and went about a million directions until he finally coalesced into the doll he is now. I think in this instance, it is easy to say that he lead us on a merry chase, and chose his own character.

Do you or would you share a doll by creating your own character for your own doll, but relying on another person to "complete" the set and letting the doll stay with them as much as he/she stays with you? (or by having their doll at your house/trading off)
- Yes. I was doing R's esthetics and had him for about 2 years, so now he's cat's responsibility for the next 4... lol

If you do share a doll (in any form), are there certain guidelines you won't cross (something you'd do with your own but not theirs)?
- I hate going over 10 dolls. It almost gives me hives having that many. I think it's my obsession with single digits, I don't know. ^_^;; Knowing Cat has Rouge makes going over 10 a bit more bearable.

I'm strangely paranoid. I always think; in the event of a fire, how could I hold so many? So knowing he's with Cat is freeing, and imagining him enjoying his time with her and her crew, makes me happy.

 

Do you or would you share a doll by splitting the cost (true dual ownership)?
No, definitely not. It sounds like a recipe for disaster. I wouldn't want to lose a friendship over a doll, or a doll over a friendship so I'd rather keep them both separate.

Do you or would you share a doll by letting someone else choose a character for your doll, or by creating a character for theirs?
I might take inspiration or suggestions from a friend, but I have more than enough ideas to create my own characters, and I'd feel awkward with one of my dolls having someone else's character.

Do you or would you share a doll by creating your own character for your own doll, but relying on another person to "complete" the set and letting the doll stay with them as much as he/she stays with you? (or by having their doll at your house/trading off)
Not unless I was paying them to paint/sew, or they were doing it as a gift/favour, and not if they had any expectations of part ownership over the doll. None of my close offline friends are into dolls, so there's nobody I'd send my dolls to stay with (unless they're painting it).

If you do share a doll (in any form), are there certain guidelines you won't cross (something you'd do with your own but not theirs)?
Sharing dolls altogether crosses a line for me. I'm happy to let someone 'borrow' a doll while at a meet, but at the end of the day I like clear boundaries between property - there's less room for drama and hurt that way.

 

Do you or would you share a doll by splitting the cost (true dual ownership)?
Definitely no. And honestly, it sounds like an incredibly bad idea to me. I suppose you could share with a family member, but friendships with other people are fleeting, it seems to be a recipe for disaster right there.

Do you or would you share a doll by letting someone else choose a character for your doll, or by creating a character for theirs?
I always choose the character for the dolls I own myself. I think it's quite rude to take someone else's characters or force someone else to have one of your own characters as a doll. It's different with pre-existing characters from media like films and games compared to personal characters and worlds people have come up with.

Do you or would you share a doll by creating your own character for your own doll, but relying on another person to "complete" the set and letting the doll stay with them as much as he/she stays with you? (or by having their doll at your house/trading off)
No. Because it would mislead the other person into thinking that they had some rights to the ownership of something you've paid for.

If you do share a doll (in any form), are there certain guidelines you won't cross (something you'd do with your own but not theirs)?
I would never share a doll, and I agree with Selidor as in that it crosses a line for me.

 

Do you or would you share a doll by splitting the cost (true dual ownership)?
I have not done this but being very close with 2 other persons (my best friend of 15 years and my boyfriend/other best friend) who own dolls I would gladly share a doll with one of them so long as we come to terms with what would happen to it if we were to part ways for whatever reasons in life.

Do you or would you share a doll by letting someone else choose a character for your doll, or by creating a character for theirs?
My boyfriend loves the cute factor but isn't huge on character creation so with one of his dolls I created the character almost completely and we both decided together on the look of him (because he is the twin of my doll) and another I "fleshed-out" a bit of her origin story although he already had a character for her.

Do you or would you share a doll by creating your own character for your own doll, but relying on another person to "complete" the set and letting the doll stay with them as much as he/she stays with you? (or by having their doll at your house/trading off)
My boyfriend's dolls live with me and 2 of them are characters that are companions to mine (the same 2 that are mentioned in the previous answer) and my best friend has a character that is a brother to one of mine however her dolls live at her house (which luckily isn't far from mine!)

If you do share a doll (in any form), are there certain guidelines you won't cross (something you'd do with your own but not theirs)?
Well obviously I wouldn't sell them or change their appearance in an irreversible way but other than that there is nothing I can think of that I would do to my dolls that I wouldn't be comfortable doing to my boyfriend's dolls.
Best fries

 

Do you or would you share a doll by splitting the cost (true dual ownership)?
I do actually. My best friend is also my girlfriend/domestic partner (Cynner on DoA). A few of my dolls either have bodies or heads bought by her. Even before we were even dating or living together the lines were getting pretty blurred with our dolls.

Do you or would you share a doll by letting someone else choose a character for your doll, or by creating a character for theirs?
I've done this a few times with Cynner's dolls. If she doesn't know what to do with a particular mold I'll come up with a character idea, sometimes I even kidnap said doll and get stuff for it and hand it back completed. Almost all our dolls are interconnected in some way, it makes doing photoshoots more interesting. With my friend Naoya we have a lot of dolls that are interconnected, though it's harder now since we are a state away. ;o;

Do you or would you share a doll by creating your own character for your own doll, but relying on another person to "complete" the set and letting the doll stay with them as much as he/she stays with you? (or by having their doll at your house/trading off)
If it involved my doll leaving my household I couldn't do it. I lose interest if they are gone from my household for too long. But I have taken random friends dolls in a few times and made them clothes and stuff while they stayed with me. I don't do this like I used to because I am so busy with other things.


If you do share a doll (in any form), are there certain guidelines you won't cross (something you'd do with your own but not theirs)?
I try not to go too over the top with Cynner's dolls. My dolls tend to be very androgynous or frilly because that's just my esthetic. But she has dolls that are more varied so I have to keep that in mind if I am helping out with concepts.

 

My fiance and I sorta have this going on...we don't usually create characters together, but we'll help each other save up for our dolls and even though some are more "mine" and some are more "hers" they are all ours and all our family. Errol, a DZ Megi, is my favorite doll and my favorite sculpt. She named him and he lives with me, but she won't hesitate to pick him up, take pictures of him, dress him, etc. It's the same way with Beau, her LittleFee Bisou. But I think having dolls that came from both of us creates a much more varied collection and it's much funner than collecting by yourself-as long as you know you'll be with that person forever. I wouldn't buy dolls this way with someone who I only think of as a friend.

 

I am sharing a friend's dolls. I now own all three of hers, but I purchased them to help her out. She was, or is, needing to move, and needed the money for luggage and airline fees. If she can find a job where she moves too, and can purchase them back, they're hers again. Until then, they're here with me, safe and sound.

 

I do not share dolls in ways described by Cloakedschemer However, my 2 boys Volks Isao and Christian (F38) share a close friendship with my friend's DDdy Sasara Kusugawa. I won't dare suggest or even think about "sharing" dolls with Sasara's owner as her market value hits 5 figures. Inferiority complex put aside, my 2 resin boys prefer to be good friends with Sasara, to respect her independence and the fact that she belongs to someone from another family. This is how friendships work. I share photos of the dolls when they get a chance to meet. I always clarify that Sasara belongs to someone else.