I'm throwing this here because I don't know where else to put it, and I wanted to hear people's opinions about this topic. If it's not welcome, mods are of course free to delete it, however I couldn't find anywhere where it said that topics like this aren't allowed, and I feel it needs some kind of addressing. After seeing several post of the past year or so, and talking to a lot of people in the hobby, I really think the hobby has become increasingly paranoid and suspicious when it comes to second-hand market deals. I've barely been in this hobby for three years and yet the change has been noticable from my first dealings to my latest. The fear of scammers has put us all on high alert, and in a tight-nit community such as the BJD community, even if it's the local, national or international community you've been engaging with, there seems to be a constant rumour mill going about whichever seller or artist, who've scammed someone somehow, like selling dolls of low quality, selling recasts as legit dolls, commissions never being received et.c. This is not only limited to the second-hand market. As late as 2017, a lot of people experienced a huge setback following the disappearance of the dealer behind DollSquare. The repurcussions are still ongoing. Following the wake of the social media spreading and the ease of access to information from first-hand sources to "scam reports", feedback as well as the general vibe an anonymous confession blog gives off, it's like a poisonous blanket has enveloped the community. The fear of being ripped off or scammed has taken a hold over everyone I've dealt with. Endless requests for proof, proof you might not have, and subsequent suspicion that you're a liar, a scammer or a fraud, and all you can do is sit there and stare at accusations thrown in your face and maybe also distributed across social media, where your reputation might be at stake. A weapon against scammers has for a long time been, for example, claiming paypal refunds, but what do you do if the claim is false and paypal still (almost always) decides to side with the buyer? I'm not always a person who believes in the best of other people's intentions. I'm generally a suspicious person with very little faith in humany, but after joining this hobby I've had a hard time coming to terms with the paranoia among people here. I try my best to cover my own side of a bargain, and I believe that is the ideal thing to do when dealing at a second-hand market, but a botched deal going haywire and spinning out of control into accusations of one another of being scammers while both have a good reputation in the hobby, that is too much unnecessary drama. I'm not entirely sure what I want to achieve with this post. It's a start of a debate or discussion as well as a rant and also just a piece of my mind about the atmosphere on the internet. Obviously in a hobby with so much money shifting hands all the time, scammers are attracted, and there's always a risk when dealing with one person out of 7 billion,that they're not trustworthy. What can be done against those who claim refunds for things that are not legitimately "refund-worthy"? What are the differences? Who investigates negative feedback threads from different social media platforms/forums and collects all the data and help put together the pieces of the puzzle that is called scam-profiles, people et.c.? Could we register scammers somehow? Also, what does it take to be forgiven for past transgressions? If you amend your faults and mistakes, if you genuinely try to get out of the shadow of your past, can you expect forgiveness in a society based on "he said - she said" and word against word conflicts (in cases where evidence is not crystal clear)? I'm just putting these thoughts out there. I'm not sure where else to post this. I'm not trying to stir anything up, I'd just like to hear people's opinions, thoughts or similar about this. I know a lot of people have dealt with frauds and scammers, and in a lot of cases the experiences can be compared but each situation is unique to each customer, so sharing would maybe help navigate the second-hand market? Yes? No? I'd like to hear what you think about this whole thing.