Telling Your Parents *For Younger Members*

be nice to your parents. my mom understood that i really wanted them, and she's ok with me buying them

 

since it's my own money i'm spending, my mom doesn't really mind as long as i don't forget other things i gotta pay for like classes etc. so she's fine with it :]

 

I didn't lol I make my own money and I spend it on whatever I want myself... my mom will complain but my dad will be like "as long as she's spending it on herself then I'm coll with it"

 

my mother was very supprortive of me. i've been a cosplayer so i guess my parents have already gotten over the ''weird requests'' thing. but once again, my parents respect who i am and what i'm in to. if they give me a look or ask why i'm still into that i can just tell them point blank that i just still am.

but i just got them involved, told them about BJD's. i'm a artist/ photographer/fashion designer. i told them how a BJD would be great for all three. they took it fine.

my mother has actually been helping me out. shes been telling me what she thinks of the wig/ eyes i've chosen and what she thinks looks good.

BUT that still dosn't mean she still keeps pointing and says, ''OH! shes so cute! She's pretty!!'' and i'm getting a boy XD

 

I don't have a doll yet, so I really couldn't say. But I am scared of telling my parents, since I am sure they'll just think it's a waste of money... I really don't know how to convince them. And yes, I will be using my own money, but my mother can be dangerous...

 

My mom was never really fussy about it, but she understood why me and my sister liked them so much after she saw a few in real.

I have no idea what my dad thought of them, or thinks of them... heck... I barely know what he's thinking at all. He sometimes shows some sort of interest...
He's okay with it... but I don't know his exact opinion about it.

My parents know I'm good with money, so they were never bothered by me spending so much on a doll.

 

Well I am in my late twenties and though I live with my mom I just never told her its my money so the boy and so to be boys hide in my room which she rarely comes in adn she doesn't know bout them but I respect her as a person I just disagree with her inabilty to like the things that make me happy so they make me happy I spend it with my own money.

 

I never needed to convince my parents, as I got into this hobby in my early twenties, after I moved out and was living on my own. Of course, that didn't stop me from trying to convince them, seeing as my parents are my friends and I don't like that they were so wary of my chosen hobby.

I think at the end of the day, if a hobby makes you happy your parents should get on board with it eventually, even if they never admit it to you. Not many parents in the world actually want their children to be miserable, after all!

 

My parents are those kinds of people that don't really understand anything 'out of the ordinary'.
So what I did was created an outline for msyelf, a list of points that I wanted to get across. I told them what BJDs were, why I want one (that ones harder to explain so I just said for drawing and photography), how much one costs, and that the money is coming out of my own pocket.
After i sat them down and had this discussion, they realized that if I went to all this trouble to make a list of things I wanted to say and such, that I must really want one and that I'll be responsible.

The key thing here is to not act like a young teenager, but more like a young adult taking on your first financial troubles or such.

If they don't know what to say, give them time. Don't beg them about it every day and definitely NO whining. Prove yourself to be responsible. Keep your room clean, do chores without being asked.
It may sound really bad, but it all comes into play in the end and it's definitely worth it.

Good luck to you! :] (That is if you haven't already gotten your parents approval.)

 

it wasn't easy! Even though it was my own money my dad would be all "maybe you should spend it on art supplies or something....." and he held it off for two weeks! But everyday I would tell him how a doll was going to be used as art supplies! I could learn to sew, use it for posing preferences, practice painting on it, craft and sculpt for it , ECT!
eventually he couldn't find a way to prove it was a waste of money because how revolved around art it could be!
Even after we bought it he'd cringed at the thought of the doll... Well until I started making and painting parts and stuff for him! My dad was pretty amazed that I could pull off parts blushing and faceups without sweat (but I paint lots of figures and sculptures! Resin actually feels rly easy to work with compared some other stuff I work with)
i think I changed my dads perspective on these dolls even though mine hasnt entirely come yet XD
keep in mind that my parents want me to become a type of artist when i'm older~


that was sooo much to type on an iphone x.o

 

I have been living on my own since my early 20s and it was my money, not theirs, that I used to purchase my dolls when I started collecting (I was about 22 when I got my first doll). Though my parents did question the amount I was spending, neither of them have given me a hard time and in fact each has bought me a doll as a present once they saw I how much I enjoyed my hobby. I guess my point is since it was my money it was my choice and they were no longer supporting me so did not have much say. However, I like to think if I was a teenager when I started collecting they would have been supportive.

 

Or you can be like myself and get sucked into the hobby at the tender age of *cough*25*cough* when you have a job, an apartment, and a boyfriend that doesn't mind the dremel dust from time to time, along with your insane cackling about some new doll idea you had. ^_^

but I feel for you young-ens, hang in there!

 

OK, so I'm a parent (suddenly feeling a bit old) and it was me who bought the first bjd. My daughter immediately wanted one too and I have to say I didn't need any convincing
But the dolls are expensive so I can understand why some people may be a bit reluctant to buy one. On the other hand, they are beautiful works of art so once your parents get to see them they may fall in love too. Or you could point out to them that bjds can be also a good investment - it works for some people

 

not hard at all. as long as I pay they dont mind ^^ of course i have to tell them before using the credit card in case we are broke! (MY paypal account + my father's credit card)
they are usually supportive towards my hobby and they are very open minded.
I just had to prove her the site where i order my doll is safe

 

I don't live with my parents so no problems there, but I ran into the same issues with my friends. They kind of gave me weird looks, but now that my first dollis here, they're all totally in love with him and want dolls of their own now, ha ha!

A good thing to do is let them know how serious you are about the doll. What you can do the save up, how you're planning to... and of course, what the doll will do for you. If you're into say, photography, then its a perfect focal for your pictures. If you're into fashion design like me, its a great scale model for making clothes you plan to size up, and what better than to spend a little money on fabric for something small before you make it on a larger scale, which will only cost MORE money.

Also, think of this is comparison to dolls here in America/Europe/etc. I know in America, there are dolls called the "American Girl" dolls, which are just "Dolls". They're the same height as an MSD, but have a plush torso, but moveable arms and legs. Depending on which doll you get, it runs about $100 or so. Their accessories, tables, bed, etc, cost just as much, if not mroe, than the ones you buy for your average BJD. But you don't have the option of face-ups, changing their hair and eyes, etc.

In the end, its just another hobby, and parents spend hundreds of dollars on things like video games and consoles, art supplies, cameras, computers, etc. Its the same thing, really. And a doll will last a lifetime, if you take good care of it--and maybe even last long enough for your children, if you ever plan to have any.

Good luck! ♥

 

I had been hording money for years so that when I finally had more than enough to get one my parents couldn't say I was blowing all my money. This New Years I just sort of told my mom I was getting one. It's my money and when she realized I had been saving for so long she really didn't say much other than that she was worried about me having one because I live in a dorm, I'm a first year university student. She may have been a bit stunned that I wanted one, but I have always been an overly responsible person, ever since I was a small child, so she didn't say anything more than that. She trusts me to anything I want to do in a highly responsible manner so she hasn't complained, even when I told her I was getting a second one before my first even got here.
My advise would be to just show parental figures that your making a mature investment. I didn't even have to really extensively explain to my mom because she trusts me so much.

 

I didn't ^^; I live an eleven-hour flight away, on the opposite side of the world to my parents and I have a scholarship so I just bought my doll without saying anything to them. When I eventually showed them the doll, I didn't tell them the cost and their reaction was more curiosity than anything else (my younger sister on the other hand wanted to know exactly how much it cost and where I got the money from because she has a part-time job and still doesn't have enough to buy many of the things she wants.).

The problem with wanting something so expensive as a teenager is that parents tend to assume it's just a passing interest. You need to be able to convince them that you're committed to buying and maintaining an interest in the doll. Saving up for as much of it yourself as you can is important. Looking for part-time work or doing things for neighbours or family members in exchange for money shows you're putting in effort.

Doing lots of research and printing it all out helps show you're not going into it without knowing anything about it. Whenever my father buys anything expensive he always has loads of pieces of paper with reviews and specifications taken from the internet. When I was in the UK, whenever I wanted something expensive I would always mimic this and my parents would take me more seriously.

Be prepared to spend a long time convincing them, and to wait for them to decide. Obviously don't pester them continually, but if you maintain the interest and show them that it isn't fading away then they'll be more likely to consider it.

Some parents just aren't going to agree no matter what you do, and then you're just going to be stuck waiting until you're old enough to order one yourself. Such an expensive hobby is going to seem like a waste of time and money to a lot of people no matter what you say.

 

My parents kind of have an "it's your money" view of the whole thing. However, that was when I ordered an MSD. I've seen an SD that I LOVEEE and I don't know how I'm going to convince my parents to let me buy him Also, since I'm too young to have any job other than babysitting, I don't know if I have the willpower to save up for a year.

 

I'm mostly in uni so I only see my parents over the holidays... I remember bringing my first doll back home. I got a few raised eyebrows and the standard "what/when/where/why?" questions. I won my mom over by dressing them in oriental outfits (she is obsessed with Asian antiques) and told her that if she can have an obsession, then so can I. She laughed. My dad didn't say much and tends to generally avoid them.

 

How did I convince my parents? Well... bribery tends to work well. xD;; My dad was so thoroughly against me getting a doll, let alone a $300 one, that the only way I could convince him to let me buy her and keep her was through grades. (Honor roll bribery wins~. ) My stepmom was easier, once I showed her the Gallery here.

As for my mom, she was all for the "If it's your money you're using, go ahead." approach. Then again, as long as it isn't drugs, sex, alcohol, or tattoos, she's pretty much cool with me spending my money how I like.