Telling Your Parents *For Younger Members*

My mom was way too happy that I finally had a "girly" hobby to say no. xD

 

still cant convinced, i dont think never ever going to happen, they dont understand and never will

 

I'm only 15 and I got my first doll a year ago. I had a pretty difficult time earning all the money through odd jobs and savings. My mom kept asking what I was saving for and when I finially had enough, I showed her. She at first was confused and weirded out and didn't understand, but with time she began to see how amazing and artistic the dolls are. She is pretty understanding about my hobbies (lolita, anime, figurine collecting, sailor moon collecting), so this wasn't exactly something new.
I now have three dolls (I actually earned about 1000 of the 2000 I've spent so far on my own). You would be completely suprised by how much money you can earn over time Especially if you remind yourself what your goal is; getting that doll.

 

and you'll go threw a lot of annoying crap to get it
(if this was any other of my hobbies I'd have said to hell with it weeks ago lol)

 

For my very first (Domuya D1 Syon, now sold) I worked at a job and saved up the money myself back in high school.

As for the argument, Domuya was having a sale and given that BJDs are expensive, my parents loved the idea of a sale. However, convincing them that this wasn't just a passing-fancy was a bit more difficult. I researched my butt off and started making clothes for him even though I wasn't sure I could get him.

In short, to my parents, if you're going to have something expensive, know EVERYTHING about it. Plus I used the guilt card of making clothes ahead of time. I think a real deciding factor for parents to allow a large/expensive purchase is to see the child completely into what it is that they want. Think about it, if a kid has an obsession with looking at the stars and astronomy in general, his/her parents would be way more likely to agree to let them buy a telescope instead of a kid that just brings it up out of the blue.

Now I knew just about everything about BJD's before my parents said yes. I knew what chemicals weren't safe, clothes, fabric, sewing classes, wigs, shoes, paints suitable for face-ups, how to properly clean, what would stain, etc. I even read countless problem transactions and such to prepare myself for when I got marketplace access here.

 

haha...yeah....told mum I had no money in bank account...*whistles innocently* Two days later "oh look! A doll!"
Mum wasn't particularly happy and said I was more out of the main stream than she thought (what planet has she been on for the last 17 years XD) but yeah...I never asked xD saved up my xmas money.

 

I didn't.

I waited until I was in university and had my own bank account and my own credit card and ... yeah.

Only my mom knows about my dolls, and I kinda let her find out since it was impossible to hide forever, and she still hates them and calls them "stupid things" but at the same time she doesn't stop me from buying them because... they're my things. But I wouldn't waste my time trying to convince her that they're worth their price--because in her eyes they will never be... >_>""

 

My mum's the same lol. So instead of asking and getting a no, I didn't ask xD therefor....I didn't get a no xD She's gonna flip out when I get another one haha

 

I didn't need to convince my parents, I have my own money and my parents don't really care when, how or on what I spent my money. But maybe that's also because I'm 20 already..

 

I didn't need to convince them - I'd earned the money myself, and so they were fine with me spending the money, even if they didn't really understand.

 

lol, it was actually easier than i thought. but that might do with the fact that i'm an artist, and i used a lot of "artsy" excuses?
they do make good models though. and that's what i told them. plus i'm 18, i didn't really need their approval
but they did help me pay for it!

 

I didn't.

The doll just showed up at my door and then I showed them what I'd gotten xD. They've never had a say in it because I know they're not fond of dolls at all.

Luckily they've gotten to become quite accepting of my two so far, hopefully they won't freak out at the third or fourth ones I get though ^^;.

 

Even though I'm an adult now, my dad gets very negative and very jealous when I spend money on things and he saves (he doesn't spend at all). However with the coming purchases of the doll I explained how its because I will no longer be playing a much beloved roll playing character after ten years, and that this doll will be a representation of her. Its sort of like a living, expensive memorial.

He seem to be less prissy.

 

at first i asked them to buy me one for my birthday, it was just a normal msd size around 200$
euro/dollar change was even good, but they didn't agree, it costed too much in their opinion

then i've asked them to buy me the head first... and they agreed to that XD
then her body for my birthday, it was even offered in free shipping

i usually don't ask for presents and i don't even have a party... now i'm buying my dolls on my own
and they still think that they're too much -_-

 

I didn't. I just bought Shizan with my own money. But! IT didn't take the family to understand WHY I'd spend so much on 'just a doll'. After a month they were in love

 

Hi, I'm 16 and discovered these wonderful dolls perhaps around two years ago. And have been doing research online ever since.

I told my mom about them, showed her pictures.
And told her how much they were.

I didn't really need to convince her at all. I've had issues with depression, and my parents are always happy to see when I gain interest in a hobby (Or anything at all, for that matter). She's even helped me get my bank account set up to start my fund. She say's she'll be helping me with making Doll clothes too. It's also her Paypal I'm going to have to use to buy my doll.
And on top of that, She's been encouraging me to learn how to do good faceups and mods so I can take commissions ans such. XD

I love my mom to bits.
And my father too, He gave me his old guitar in condition that I sell it, and use that money for my doll 333

They don't seem to mind that the doll I'm saving for is 600$

For those teenagers that do have the issue of convincing their parents, I wish you all luck~!!
When I do chores, Keep my room clean, and stay caught up in school, My parents are always way more willing to help my out financially. (Since Its kind of hard to save with only 20-40$ to spare a month. OTL I wish my Job would give me more hours.

 

It went surprisingly smooth for me.
I first got my bank account when I was under 18, so it had to be opened with my mom's name on it above mine. We left it like that in case I need emergency money while I'm at school, so I couldn't just buy a doll without her noticing that a large amount was missing! So one day in an e-mail I brought up that I was really interested in bjd's and briefly explained them, although I did not into too much detail. I mentioned that they can be expensive, but one of the few things worth the cost, and that it isn't too different from the cost involved with other hobbies. I mentioned the level of customization available with them, and I linked some pictures that I had found, ones that people had really customized. They replied that if I had gotten into something like models, they wouldn't have questioned it at all (dolls were probably a surprise). While I didn't mention any exact prices they won't question it as long as I keep my priorities straight. They seemed happy that I found another way to be creative.
A huge part of it is that I have proven that I am responsible with money. If my behavior had been different in the past I think it would have been a huge problem trying to convince them.
I think they do care about how much I spend on them, but I know they won't make me to tell them the exact amount if I choose not to tell them (I probably won't be specific).
And much like Emeril, I have many artsy excuses!
I haven't told them that I sent it home - I was worried about not getting it in time before school ends. I haven't told them that they are anatomically correct either. So if the body comes before I get home, and they need to check the items, I have to figure out how to tell them that! Not a big problem but they'll be surprised and it will be kind of awkward to bring it up.

 

my parents don't really care. they say as long as it doesn't involve sex, drugs, or tattoos i can do whatever i want. x)
though i was prepared for my dad to have a hissyfit (he's really strict about money), and was going to argue the whole "they're customizable, so i can be a better artist, and i can become a better photgrapher"... but he didn't even bat an eye. which pleasantly surprised me.

 

My parents don't really grasp how amazing they are and that this is an expensive hobby. They were SO iffy about ordering one because of how much money it was (I only ordered a MSD from D.O.D.) They made me spend hours researching the company (D.O.D.) to make sure they were good and if anything went wrong, they could fix it (ex:they gave me the wrong doll somehow). All they've really told me is "it's your money" which is true. So they let me order the doll but it took a lot of persuading. My dad still doesn't like me spending this much on a doll and my mom is kind of neutral on it. She understands the hobby but complains how much money it costs (clothes, shoes, etc.) I've tried saying how it will help me to become a better photographer (my dad's hobby is photography) but they don't seem to really take that into account :\

 

My parents told me that If I could earn it, if I could save it, I could spend it. They disapprove mightily of the hobby but I told them its better than drugs and doing stupid stuff and I'm learning how to manage my money since I have to buy absolutely everything on my own for them and if I want to money for it I have to do the extra work for it.