Telling Your Parents *For Younger Members*

It was my money saved up over a few years worth of Christmas and birthday presents, so my mom didn't have that much to complain about. I think she was also too happy that I'm finally getting a "normal girl hobby" to say too much, lol. >_>;

 

make an effort to pay for the doll yourself. Raise money by selling your things, saving up your pocket money of birthday money, seeing if my parents friends need help painting a wall, or having their house cleaned for a small fee. My parents wouldn't buy it for me but they weren't stopping me from raising the money myself.
I would think most parents would have nothing to say if they saw you putting in the effort to buy it yourself. It shows you're serious about this and it's not just a phase, (which was my father argument).
Once i got my first doll my mom fell in love with him, and after my forth doll, i convinced her to give me a 'loan' to buy a limited edition BJD. Which in the end i payed off in like three months of pocket money, which was kinda like her paying for it.

The doll will be more special if you pay for it yourself and really work for it. I can proudly say I've payed for every single one of my boys myself!

 

with my parents, even saving up all the money myself doesn't help -_- i had to use my mom's credit card, giving her the money I had saved, but she would only buy the second one for me after i spent several months bugging her, promising her that it was way smaller than Julian, cost less, and would be the last doll i bought for a while. So now of course any new dolls I buy (saved up money for two more) i have to find a way to buy them and get them shipped without anyone in the house knowing because they are so against my dolls -_-

 

Oh, I'm sorry, that must suck. You should be rewarded for you hard work, and saving the money for what you want. But once your older you'll be able to do whatever you want!!

 

totally XD

 

@Laelon

Well, I'm sorry if that's your opinion, but I don't 'use' my dolls being art as an 'excuse' to get them; There are so many things in this hobby that require practice of a practical craft;

Sewing, figurine modelling (Such as crafting miniature furniture, making and selling props that are in a BIG market even for non-bjd people) make-up art, learning new strokes. Even photography, learning rules of thirds, practicing against different backgrounds and experimenting with them.

Besides, I use my girls as models in gesture (You don't need details there) my muses for more impressionist, or even abstract paintings, et cetera. Even just practicing the contour of them, even if you can't sell them, teaches you to 'see'. Some people, like you, just use them as a pretty little thing to look at ONLY, but for the rest of us, they are so much more than just dolls.

Sure, if you never draw him/her, and buy clothes, wigs, props and furniture premade, and never photograph them, you won't learn anything, but for me personally, they ABSOLUTELY are part of my art. Not what I take into my classes as my subject, but for at-home practice and error and mistakes and beautiful little muses, then yes.

So, in essence, they certainly can be art and nobody really needed that snobby tone of looking down on them like they could never be art and like we're all just taking advantage of our poor, apparently stupid parents to get dolls by suggesting that they MIGHT be CONSIDERED as such.

 

Actually I just talked to my mom about saving my money for a dollzone yan I just pulled up junkyspot, clicked her picture and went hey mom you know how I want to sell a bunch of stuff on ebay and I'll have some moneys left over? and she was like ya.... and I turned my laptop around so she could see the picture, told her the price and told her I was going to save up and buy her. She gave me a skeptical look for a few seconds but she just nodded and said she would have to talk to Bill (my stepdad, with that name you'd think he'd have moneys for me to ask for this doll for christmas...ya right) and she walked away. Inside I punched the air and yelled from happiness. Cuz that means mom is on my side!

 

When I was in high school, I would ask my parent's for help or just their input and a lot of it was negative...I mean they didn't bash me for the thing's I want but they did laugh and just say "in your dreams" So I kinda dealt with not getting help to save up for one but when I got my job, I bought my self my first doll. My mom was happy but my dad was kinda eehhh on it. I can understand where he was coming from though...I could have spent that money on something else lol >< But it's good that everyone's parent's here are positive and willing to help. I like reading these post's :3

 

It took me about a month to work up the nerve to bring up my interest in the dolls to my parents, but I should have just told them immediatly because it wasn't even that big of a deal! Sure, jaws dropped at prices, but once I explained that I really wanted the doll for writing purposes, they were pretty cool about it. Yes, my dad teased me a little at first, but what can you expect? After all, I've never been a girly kind of girl. I like cars and working on them, I don't like dressing up, I'm a jeans and T-shirt kind of person, so the fact that I want a doll seemed kind of alien to them I'm sure. It was weird for me too! But I couldn't help but fall in love with them!
Working for a few summers also helped speed along their agreement!
So basically, don't be afraid to go for it!

 

i'll never convince mine... so I'll hide it!

 

Well I didn't even ask my mom about it since my dad is the one that has the paypal account (parents are divorced) And I just showed him and told him about them and he thought they were cool. Told the price and of course he looked like ---->
But he was like "Well considering everything, price does make sense."
He was fine with me getting one as long as I had the money

Though once my mom found out she was all like ]:<
No big surprise there. c:

 

I'm in college so I too am responsible for my spending- my parents don't even know for certain how much is in my account. And they agree with me that it's my business and my business alone. So I didn't have to get them to agree, but I did let them know what I wanted to do, and they knew what I was buying, and when my dolls came I'd show them to my parents and all because I wanted them to be part of it, but it was my choice. I think what won my parents over to at least tolerating my dolls was how lovely they were, and the new talent(s) I discovered because of them.

 

When I first told my mom that I was interested in buying a BJD (She knew what they were because we had both seen one at an anime convention) her immediate response was, "No way!"
My response was to remind her that I have my own job and to mind her own business... lololol


My mom fully believes that people should be able to waste their money on frivolous things if they make you happy, and of course, as long as you can afford it AND your bills or other responsibilities.

 

My parents didn't find out til after I bought my first doll, mum wasn't really happy lol :0 When I was 16/17 they had these awesome prepaid credit cards with only $1 fees everytime you put money onto it so I had no trouble paying for one myself XD I didn't have a job at the time, but I saved up money myself.

I don't think my parents opinions of them have changed, but I can't be bothered to reason with them if I have to. I have a part-time job nowadays, so I spend my own money :3

 

Well, when I first told my mum I was getting a doll, she wasn't very impressed.. Apparently I was supposed to save for a car instead.
Well, I have the car now, so I guess she has no reason to disapprove anymore!

 

My mom thought they were beautiful and my dad is a photographer so he was fine with me liking BJDs. But I didn't buy my first, and only doll, at the moment. She was given to me.

 

Ahah.....at first my parents thought I was completely nuts since I bought a Dal from Jun Planning recently.
SO.....I told them that I was no longer buying any of the figures I've been waiting months to come out ((I like to collect anime figures )), not buying any more DVDs, not buying anything for Christmas, my birthday, or graduation, and that I wasn't buying anything at an upcoming Anime convention.

I started showing my mom a ton of photos as to how great these dolls are too.

Then....this kind of scared my parents since I always like to buy anime/manga related things, and especially at conventions since they only come a few times a year, so....my parents said I could get one. ^^;

 

I didn't have to convince my parents when i bought my first bjd since i was using my own money from part-time job, and i was living far away from them (different continent).
When i came back home, i brought 5 bjds with me. I was kinda nervous about my mom's reaction, but i knew she'd love them..and she was!!! In fact she wanted one for herself, she loved how it could be customized etc.
Fortunately, she could own her first bjd....a month before she passed away from cancer...
Now i'm taking care her bjd....

 

well i took the aproach that this is not only a good hobby but also it is good photography practice !
i also think that you can go at it from the perspective of how these dolls are worth allot. its like an investment.
they are so customizable its a one of a kind thing. these dolls are super fun!

can i ask what doll you are thinking about getting !?

 

I'm in college so I don't really plan on discussing it with either of my parents since I don't live with them now. I know they'd go through the roof upon learning the price (currently saving for a DoI Luke) so I expect sometime when they visit me they'll wonder what it is and then move on, lol.

I'm terrible with money though. Two lifesaving words: student loans. :P