The importance of showing affection to our dolls

They are inanimate objects and positive or negative feelings do not affect them. Now just pure neglect can certainly affect them. Like if you go and sit them in front of a sunny window and leave them there for a significant amount of time the results won't be pretty. And all the positive feelings in the world won't stop that doll from yellowing right up. So it really has nothing to do with positive or negative feelings imho.

 

There's a lot of spiritual aspects that coincide with this concept. In certain cultures (such as Japan's Shinto) that non-living objects have souls. In fact every year, Japan has a doll's festival called Ningyo Kanshasai which means Doll appreciation festival. Children take no longer used dolls, old toys, and stuffed animals to a shrine to be turned into ashes. It's away of thanking them for their services. The Japanese believe that merely discarding an object, especially a doll like the girl did in the Dollmaster movie is disrespectful. I feel when dolls are loved and treated with respect, they will warm up to their owners and open doors you couldn't imagine. I'm not necessary connected to my first BJD and because of that, he's in the box all the time, however I can't bring myself to sell him. However, my second BJD is my joy. I speak to him and comfort him and even tuck him in my bed before I leave for school. He's come to me in dream prior to meeting him and after. Not to mention I spend a lot of time and money and pictures on him with lots of love and respect. I don't even let others put their hands on him and I find myself apologizing if I scratch him by accident or tuck too hard on his hair while combing it. There is something. What it is, I am uncertain. But I guarantee if I ignored him or worse, abused him, things would not be as they are now.

 

Nope. Not for me. You can't "show a doll affection" because the doll is a non-living, non-sentient object that is incapable of percieving anything you "show" it. The fact that a doll is human-shaped doesn't change the fact that it is in no more need of love than an old shoe, or any other object--- and no more capable of responding. It's one thing if you WANT to play with your doll that way, treat it with affection and pretend it has feelings--- whatever floats your boat, man--- but thinking that you HAVE to and that it's some super important thing that you MUST do or be guilty of doll neglect---- THAT is another thing altogether. (And not a good thing.)
I'll stick with "the importance of showing affection to the humans and animals in your life."

 

Well, I do believe in good-bad energy effects on what surrounds you. I use to buy quartz and pieces of amtasia to put them under my pillow so I can sleep better. Also, carrying with me a piece of blue quartz helps me to concentrate better. Let me explain this better. As CloakedSchemmer said, that depends on the way you see stuff. If you believe that doing this kind of things will have eny effect, then they'll do. The power of the human mind is impressive! I mean, why do we believe on what we do, or why not? If we believe, it's because we know that it's worthfull to, 'cause we had already got results. If not, it may not have worked. Everything works according on what each person thinks.

 

Hi , I've read a bunch of reply's to this post cuz i generally am sorta having trouble understanding why i myself at the age of 27 and male feel the interest to get a Bjd. i know partly its because I'm an artist and find an interest in 3d modeling (not very good :P) and am in love with the idea of creating things off of a blank canvas of sorts. although its funny as much as i feel it is silly. and maybe it is. but i get excited when choosing a doll. u get an immediate feel for a purchase i think ..u get it, your happy to see it . u want to dress it up to a character u envisioned for it , and spend time and energy taking photos purchasing items of all sorts of which none are or rarely cost effective :P whether u actually faced it up yourself or not. its not light weight decision to get a bjd. and there's a reason for it being an adult hobby. I might not agree that there's a some kind of 2-way love connection that can happen between a non living object and a human. because in my opinion that just wont and does not happen However , there's a definite "pet" relationship i think between a doll and its owner.

Also please avoid getting goosebumps from my lazy grammar and writing ^^. Its hard. but try.

 

They're objects. Plain and simple. Do I think they're awesome...well yeah why else would I have them. Do I love them like I do my mom, my dog, cat, even my snake? No. I think I'd compare them more to a car. Do you hug your car? Maybe lol...I don't. (especially not mine, she keeps going too fast when I'm not paying attention and costing me money). But if you don't change the oil, put gas in it, wash it once in a while...bad things happen. Same with dolls, if you neglect their care they suffer. But my dolls aren't going to fall to pieces b/c I didn't give them a hug before I go to bed.

 

This is really interesting. I know that theory works with plants and music: positive music makes the plant grow strong and negative music makes the plant halt its growing process. It's a living, breathing thing so it makes sense, but not with objects like dolls. It's mostly your mind playing tricks on you because you feel guilty for not loving your doll like you used to.

I'd like to think stuff like this is actually "true" though. It's a very interesting concept and has been proven and disproven many times.

 

I don't show any affection to my dolls. I dress them, change wigs and eyes etc and make sure they are well stored/displayed safely and that's as far as it goes!

 

This is all very interesting. I tend to think that objects can absorb energy good or bad. There are some dolls that are supposedly haunted as well as many other objects that are said to be. I think the energy we put out influences what we get in return. Can a doll give energy back to me? Probably not. But putting out positive energy to anyone or anything to me is good, or certainly can do no harm.

 

They're pretty things and have stayed pretty despite my not treating them like people and often not doing anything with them for months at a time so...yay.

 

Interesting. Well, I think the affection for doll can effect our dolls and vise versa. If we give love, it becomes more adorable, cause we manage it and take care to it maintain it's beauty.

 

I think if I saw someone bashing their own doll, my reaction wouldn't be understanding.
My dolls bring me so much joy and reflect individual traits about myself.
Im attached to them emotionally, physically and mentally.
i believe in positive energy being absorbed through them, and being able to see that through them.

 

Whether or not showing affection to the dolls 'makes a difference' as far as they're concerned, I think it's fair to say it makes a big difference to many owners. It feels good to be able to be affectionate, and humans need to be able to have conversations-- and if you haven't got pets, and are living alone, then on days when you don't get out and see people, your dolls fill a void for you, and being able to show them affection and talk to them can have a big positive impact on the human being in the equation!