Things your family cannot stand about BJDs

My family is convinced that my dolls are substitutes for a daughter, never mind half of them are boys. My husband is the most relaxed about them and isn't bothered by the dolls at all anymore. When I first got them he wasn't too fond of them, but now they just hang out all over the house and he doesn't even notice. At least, he doesn't mind them most of the time. Eyes are the worst for him, he hates when one of them sits around with empty eye sockets, or if the eyes get jostled so they stare unnaturally. It also gets him when they're bent at unnatural angles, like if I have them loose on the table for cleaning or restringing and I leave them there for some reason.

 

I try to focus on the positive emotions my family has in regards to my dolls instead of the negative. I find focusing on the negative does little but hurt myself.

 

The eyes that seem to stare into your soul, and the price I guess. Mostly the price, which is pretty sad since they just can't see anything but money flying away when they see bjds! And if they see them dolls at night, they'll prob freak out lol

 

My hubbs was afraid of them at first. He did the usual reactions. "They're creepy." "They're staring at me." "They're not allowed in the bedroom, since they're big enough to murder me in my sleep." "They're too expensive." It worked out that one of my first dolls was a PKF PongPong, because that little one is Daddy's Favorite. Over time, he's grown to like them a bit. He would never get one for himself, but he thought up my 70cm boy's backstory (and still hasn't written it, or given me enough details to write it yet!) and he'll hold them, or make suggestions on their hair, clothes, etc. He always calls them by name, and he even gave my white tiger girl her name (by accident). Now that I'm taking a much more hands-on approach with the dolls, he's being even more supportive, so that's really awesome.

My mother won't really talk about them. She kind of resents me and my sister for not "growing up". We're both huge animation fans, gamers, tattoo nuts, we love collecting, etc. Our mum is a minimalist. She hates that we spend our own money on "unnecessary" things. I recently told her about my more hands-on approach to dolls happening this year and she seemed supportive though, so I guess we'll see what comes of it.

 

The price the main thing and my Pa keeps calling My Mystic kids francis a He she.

 

My one brother is totally creeped out and doesn't want to be near them or have one in his house. The rest of my siblings rib me a bit, give me amused looks, but mostly they leave me alone about it. My Dad is cool about it mostly. He's actually given me $$$ for stuff and gotten me dolls as gifts. He's got a "Whatever, but if it makes her happy I don't care." attitude. I think he's come to respect the art aspect of it because he sees me working on them, on their clothes, how much work it can actually be.

 

I don't think my dad likes my boy much, but he doesn't say anything about the doll specifically. My mom I have no idea on her opinion. They both hate that I spent so much on him though. My roommates (while not family) liked him though. Then again one had a HUGE collection of anime figures that she bought while in Japan, and the other has a few other friends into the bjd hobby as well.

 

My mum doesn't say much. She only thinks that all boy dolls look like girls ^^''
She complains about the price too. But I complain too, sometimes. They're expensive, you want it or not u.u
My family, except my brothers, don't know about this hobby. I didn't tell them because they'll complain, telling me I'm a kid, that I have to grow up and so on. Besides, they don't ask permission for nothing, so they'd take my doll without permission.
My brothers are very supportive. They ask me about my doll, about her story or which wig I want to buy...
My younger brother has remote control cars, he builds cars, paints them and they're kinda expensive too xD so he doesn't complain about that haha

 

My mum loves them and has fallen in love with Iplehouse BID Serca and has even expressed the desire to buy her one day! I swear I'm gonna buy that little dolly for her when I can...

My boyfriend is into BJDs as well, so it's two nerdy collectors at home going 'dawww' over cute Etsy stuff... XD

 

Same.
My Mom thinks their faces are "goofy" too... I dunno why. :/

 

Just the fact that they 'cost so much', really...

 

The only two people who even think about them are my husband and daughter. Everyone else just accepts it as one more of my quirks.

My daughter thinks they are wonderful, and would probably buy one of her own, if she didn't get bored with things so quickly. SHe won't spend that much money unless she is sure she'll keep her interest.

Ah, my poor husband! He accepts them, because I like them. I'm pretty isolated here at the house between being unable to work and a bit introverted. So, he likes that I have something to do that makes me happy, plus I get out of the house for meets. He pretty much just wants me to be happy. On the other hand, he has several problems with them he chooses to mostly ignore. He is very thrifty, so the price kills him. He really doesn't like collecting things, as we both come from families who tend to hoard a bit. And lastly, they aren't really really "normal" in society. He likes to fit in, whereas I'm okay either way. So, I think he's afraid I might embarass him. I wouldn't, of course. I know who is appropriate and inappropriate to talk about different subjects with. All in all, he is quite wonderful about something he probably doesn't really like.

 

My mother doesn't quite understand all the hub-bub about them. She doesn't understand why they and their accessories are soooo expensive. She likes them, sure they're pretty but she would never bother with them. I'm an adult and what I do with my money is my business. My dad doesn't quite understand them either, but he does think it's pretty neat how customizable they are. He was pretty fascinated when I got my new girl and he said "Wow, she has purple hair" and I told him she can have any color hair I want her to have, and her eyes as well. He thought that was pretty neat, lol.

My husband isn't too fussed about them, but he does appreciate them. He understands their price points better, because he's a specialized model maker, so he knows the costs of casting and resin and materials. He understands how tiny intricate clothes can cost so much, too. My nieces are a bit indifferent towards them (they are 4 and 6) because I'll show them the dolls but stress that they can't touch them. They'd much rather play with Monster High dolls with me, haha.

 

-sigh- My mom thinks they're all 'big-eyed anime things' (despite my attempts to educate her about how wildly different dolls can look), and my dad just flat out thinks they're stupid. 'Quit buying this stupid sh*t!'

I love my parents, but when it comes to BJDs, I need a new family.

 

Same here... I don't have anybody who understands or appreciates Bjds. My mom can agree they are beautiful and well detailed but she says it's a ridiculous way to spend money, however, she buys tons of brand perfumes and i.e a coat that's worth 400-700$! How come that stuff is okay but toys and dolls are not?

 

Things my parents cannot stand about BJDs are: Why you play with it all day? Why you bought a lot of clothes?
Very fortunately for me because my parent did not ask something like: Why it so expensive? and Don't you waste your money in these?

 

Really, the only thing my mom gives me a hard time over is the pointy, pointy noses, and it's because I have a pointy, pointy nose. XD I'm blessed, I have a very supportive and understanding family.

 

Well, I don't have a doll yet; but my family and friends don't think it's a good investment. They hate the price of them and think I should be spending my money on better things. It's quite sad though, as I haven't bought one yet it's really putting me off spending the money on them. Did any of you have this kind of issue? Or did you just go ahead and get what you wanted any way?

 

My mum doesn't mind them she just hates the prices...

 

Yeah, I did - and still do. I don't really let what my family thinks get to me, though - I go ahead and get what I want. I'm an adult, and it's my money. It just saddens me that they can't see how happy this hobby makes me.