What to do if any of your friends/roommates/significant-others hate BJDs?

This.
110% this.

The root cause of your friend's reaction to the dolls is only one of the potential problems here, OP. The bigger issue is how things are likely to play out day-to-day if you two do end up living together. From the sound of things, it's unlikely be a comfortable situation for anyone involved and that should sound some serious warning bells.

 

All my friends seem to like my dolls. Lucky me~~
although my best friends mother finds them creepy therefore she has to keep them in her room
I don't think your friend seems to have much respect for you and I believe you may find it difficult or get into arguments later if you move in together :<

 

None of my friends despises my girl because she's too cute to hate as well as the closest to it was that my friend kept saying that she looked creepy (but she kind of did because of her face-up, now she doesn't)

 

About half my friends are creeped out by dolls or just completely disinterested. However, ALL of them know better than to be rude to me about it. I respect them enough not to shove a hobby they don't share in their faces and they respect me enough not to give me a hard time about my hobby. It works out.

If your friend disrespects you over your hobby, you need to lay down the law with her. If she's genuinely phobic of dolls, I doubt she'll be happy living around them. I wouldn't move in with someone who disrespected me like that, or who was phobic of my dolls. I wouldn't change or hide my interests in my own home, not for any of my friends.

 

no, there's a difference between friends not sharing your hobby and 'friends' who make you uncomfortable about stuff or say hurtful things about your interests...umm, usually because they aren't really your friends. ain't nobody got time for that.

 

My friends hate everything I like (from dolls to clothes, music and even movies) I have yet to find a person I can really connect with! =( but it's my life and I enjoy it the way i want it. Even so, I don't get mad at my friends because it's not their fault that we have different tastes, we just have to learn to accept that not everyone is gonna like what you like and there's no need to hate on that.

 

I only have one 'acquaintance' who gives me any sort of negativity related to my dolls. I've shown him 2-3 different dolls because I happened to like them and I thought he might since they resembled his roleplaying characters.. Needless to say, BAD idea. He got very hostile with me and basically said I was stupid for wanting to buy them (when I never said I was going to buy them.. just showed him the pictures) He basically thinks every doll I own has cost me $500 each even after explaining that they range from under $100 up to a few thousand.

At one point he asked me how many I had and what I paid for each one then spouted off about how I could put that money into so many other things. (Didn't believe me on any of the costs I gave him even when it's plain as day on the websites.) Apparently, with that money, I could buy things of 'real worth' such as video games or an Xbox! Who knew!?

Also, I haven't talked to this guy for nearly three months now. He would bring the dolls up even when our convo was far away from them and would just say idiotic things about something he had no knowledge of and was not willing to learn about because he thinks everything that isn't a video game or Xbox related is stupid.

At least my other friends don't mind.. most of them just accept it if I slip and talk about it but I try not to talk about it all that much.. People just aren't pleasant to be around when they're so negative. If they are just going to spout off garbage about it then it's probably in the interest of both parties to separate or find a common ground somewhere else. No sense in dealing with someone like that.

 

Well, my little brother likes to tell me that dolls are stupid whenever I have them out, but that's probably just because he's a teenage boy who thinks anything his older sister likes must be stupid. I live in the same house as him without this being much of an issue, but we don't spend much time in the same room together, so that's a completely different situation than with you and your friend.

 

I was living on my own when I got my first BJD, but I have brought BJDs with me when I visited family, and really haven't had any negative reactions. My boyfriend is also very supportive, he's been with me since my first one arrived and has never said a negative thing about them. I would work out an agreement with your friend about where your doll area can be, and if she would mind seeing your dolls around. Personally, I would have a hard time living with someone if they had a negative reaction towards my dolls every time they saw them.

 

I have a friend who hates dolls, and it doesn't bother me one bit. However, I probably wouldn't want to live with him. (I'm the type who'd never have a roommate, though - I'd rather double my rent than have to deal with living with another person.)

Here's some of my friend's comments that don't bother me:
"That doll is the work of Satan. It should be broken into several pieces, burned, and the ashes buried in different locations." (Friend's an atheist, by the way.)
When he accidentally saw of picture of one, "My eyes were now [expletive]; I should pluck them out and get a new brain to erase memories of that monstrosity."
"I would kill a thousand puppies if it meant all those hellspawn (meaning BJDs) would be destroyed."
"That thing is trying to steal my soul."
"Get thee behind me Satan."
"If I burned your house down to get rid of those demons, could we still be friends?"
"You're [expletive] insane for buying those pieces of [expletive]."
"You must be a lesbian if you think that things are male". (I don't understand his logic here...)

I think his comments are so ridiculous and over the top that they somehow don't bother me. If they did bother me, I think he'd just shut up about it, so it's not like he's a horrible friend.

 

I have a friend who has a phobia of dolls, but she thinks BJDs are pretty and likes mine. She just would never get a doll for hersel and prefers to admire from afar..

 

I have people who are scared of dolls, but I don't know if that's the same as 'hating' them. P: It doesn't affect our friendship, I can just put my boys away if they visit. If someone was actively saying mean things (with the intention of hurting me) about any of my hobbies, not just dolls, I don't know if I would want to be friends with them anymore... Depending on what the relationship is like, you'd at least want to tell them to please not make rude comments about BJD, because it hurts your feelings. If they're a real friend, then they would stop.

 

I have friends that are not interested in this hobby but are ok with my hobby but my dad hates it be says they're evil and cursed but he's just teasing me, so it doesn't bug me I'm the ruler of the family nah just kidding but alot of my friends put me down about anime and I'm not close to them anymore because I can do what ever the hell I please (within legal boundaries) so do what you love and don't let people walk all over you I did that for far to long and now I scare everyone who gets in my way and insults me at my school so don't judge me pplz whom hate the hobby like what you like don't hate on what others like

 

I had a friend like that. She made me miserable nearly every day over it. Anytime anything doll related came up in conversation she would mock me, tell me I was wasting my money, and tell me that my hobby is "retarded." It reached the point that I dreaded going to my Photography class every day because I hated seeing her, I hating even seeing her in the hallways. I'm actually afraid to run into her at this point, and we graduated almost a year ago, that's how bad she made my anxiety. Nothing good can come of a friendship that isn't respectful on both sides. It's nice of you to respect her wishes and avoid discussing dolls around her, and of course you'll slip up every now and then. Someone who can't give you the same respect isn't a friend at all. A good friend should be supportive enough to not mock you or your hobbies, regardless of their personal opinion of the hobby. It's just general respect and being polite, no one should make you feel bad about your hobbies, especially your friends. Much as the choice is, of course, up to you...I would strongly advise against moving in with your friend until she learns to treat you better. Even though it may seem like things could improve, don't rush into anything, because until you see real improvement you never know. I fluctuated between being friends and enemies with my "friend" my senior year. At some point, though, we gave up and dropped the act. We knew that neither of us could come to any sort of agreement because I refused to be treated badly, and she refused to respect my hobbies. After that, we stopped talking altogether. Even though you value your friend, you really need to look at how it would affect you to continue your friendship and whether or not it's really good for you to move in with them.

 

I wouldn't say "hate" but one of my friends is seriously afraid of them! She can't even stand hearing about them, so as it is natural much less seeing them.

 

As just about everyone else has said, it sounds like neither of you would be happy in a living situation like that.

Speaking personally, I don't think I would be friends with anyone who hated my dolls. If they thought they were a bit creepy/disliked them, that's fine and understandable, I'm sure we could find common ground somewhere. But some of FrigidDamsel's friend's quotes make me cringe a bit. Having a friend say those sorts of things all the time would really get to me. If it continued after I told them it was bothering me, it wouldn't take long for me to cut them out of my life. Then again, I tend to make friends fairly easily and I'm unwilling to put forth effort for people with whom I have repeatedly shared negative interactions.

I'm like a doormat with nails sticking out of it. You'll only step on me once.

Now, my older brother, who has been a far better male figure in my life than my own dad at times and whose opinions I value greatly, was extremely vocal about his distaste for BJDs when they first grabbed my interest. But I think his outbursts of anger were out of concern for me--he didn't want me to join this hobby because his understanding of it was slightly skewed and he didn't want others to view me in a bad light. (Okay, maybe even HE didn't understand his own motives at the time, but what can he say now? His wife has a BJD of her own now, too!)
With him, I just dealt with it (easy to avoid doll conversations and encounters, because he had already moved out) until he began to see how much good these dolls have done in my life.

Aaaand realized that his preconceptions about these being sex dolls were a little... nutty. He still doesn't like them. But he can appreciate that I'm happy.

 

I just moved to this area, so most of my friends are co-workers that I get food with and stuff like that. So none of them have been to my house or know about my dolls. I'm sure I'd get made fun of, though. :/ I don't bother to talk to them about it since they aren't good friends or anything.

 

You know, I'm sort of in the same boat as you where I have plans to move in with a friend whom isn't extremely fond of dolls. The big difference being she respects the fact that I love my doll. I think you need to have a serious talk with this friend of yours because if she doesn't respect your dolls she isn't respecting you and that will NOT make a good roommate.

 

One of my best friends is a guy and he does not particularly like any doll. But he supports my collecting and in the past has actually helped me put up shelves and that for them. My Dad and brothers, same thing. They don't get my doll thing at all, but they know I love them and they accept that I do. I think it helps though that I am not collecting creepy old kid sleep eyed dolls like the ones they use in horror movies. If I had any of those on my shelves they might not support it as much, lol.