What to do if any of your friends/roommates/significant-others hate BJDs?

I have a dear friend at work who is totally uncomfortable about my dolls. I of course show her pics & otherwise tease HER this way - plus as I pick them up at the post office across the street from my office building I've shown off lots of dolls to my co-workers. Several of them shake their heads & say - 'they all look like girls' & a couple think they are a bit creepy but its only the one who just does her 'talk to the hand' thing about them.
BUT - none of my friends have ever been hateful to me about them! Mind you I'm the world's biggist Beotch when given a reason (as in being a real jerk etc) so that may curb nastiness...
I do get sad that my friend can't share in this enthusiasm w/me (nor in my total obsession w/KDramas & their beautiful boys...) but we have other things to talk about & as I said she's not hateful about it
Being hateful - saying awful & destructive things - obsessing over your collecting (nagging you about it etc) - these are NOT nice. It is a way of controlling another. Even those w/phobias don't have to do these things.

 

No, I don't have such friends. All me friends like my hobby and my dolls. They like to look at them and ask about my hobby.

 

Some of my friends find them creepy and weird and do not understand why I like them, but none of them really hate them.
The rest are pretty cool about it though.

 

One of my friends thinks dolls are creepy by default. She accepts that I like them, and I accept that she doesn't ... and we've got enough shared hobbies to easily be able to avoid the subject of dolls.

 

I have one friend who really dislikes dolls, he thinks they're creepy and doesn't like them looking at him. When I lived in a one room loft apartment, this was an issue - he couldn't avoid seeing them, and would ask I put them in a drawer/under a blanket or something, which was a pain, but he put up with a lot from me so I didn't mind, and would usually remember before he came over. Now that I've got a flat with multiple rooms, it's a lot easier.
Most of my other friends either love my dolls, and look forward to my occassional facebook posts of them, or are pretty neutral; they just skim over the photos, and I try and avoid waffling on at them about dolls. My family is the same - my mum and sister love them, my grandmother is always really impressed at the amount of work I put into their clothes, but most of the rest of my family think that it's silly that I'm 23 and still play with 'toys'. But they've learnt not to try arguing that point, cause they know I'm not going to suddenly say "Oh, you're right! I'll just stop doing it!" XD

 

Dude, you should really talk to her about it. Tell her you don't like the way she bashes your hobby. If she were a true friend then she would support you no matter what. Does she have to like it? No, she doesn't, but she needs to be there for you in the end.

Now, sadly, I am going through the same thing with both my friends. They absolutely hate the fact that I'm buying myself one. Both of them are even trying to talk me into reselling him once I get him in. It's driving me crazy! Half of me does want to resell him because I don't want to lose my friends and the other half wants me to keep him. I mean, I am absolutely in love with this doll. He can really be considered my dream doll. No other doll so far has caught my attention like he has. The price did not matter when it came to this doll. I just wish my friends could see that. I hardly buy myself anything. So what's so terrible about splurging on myself?

Sorry about my mini rant lol I really had to get that out! On a happy note though all my coworkers are very excited about it. In fact they want me to bring him in once he arrives they really can't wait to see him. After they saw his online pictures their interets peaked lol

 

You honestly shouldn't feel scared talking about your hobby. Perhaps not natter in her ear all the time since she doesn't care, but you truly and honestly should never feel scared to mention it by accident. If this is the way she behaves you better tell her that if you two are to move in she must deal with the fact that you like things she doesn't. She doesn't even have to badmouth it, she can just choose to ignore the comments you post by mistake. Is what I would of done.

For me it isn't exactly the same, but I just recently showed my precious dolls to my fiance who promptly exlaimed that he found them really creepy. I was a bit sad about that, but I tend to be honest about his likes when I find them ugly, so no harm done really. I told him that he'll just have to deal with it and placed the dolls on the dresser opposite our beds so the dolls are staring at him the entire night. He's too kind to tell me to move them xD

 

Hate is a strong word. Most are indifferent, some say they're creepy and one won't acknowledge they exist. No one, however, is a jerk about it because in the scheme of things , does it matter? Not really.

 

Roommates can be a giant pita in general even if the person is a great friend that isnt rude like OPs is.Stay home and save up for a place of your own even if it takes awhile you will be much happier in the long run than being locked into a potentially horrible living situation.

 

My friends are like my family, I love them and I'm incredibly lucky to have them in my life. That said, only a few of them make jokingly negative comments about my dolls. They know that I will verbally bitch-slap them if they were to be truly mean or rude (and I know they never would be). We have a lovely relationship

 

Hmm... I do think I have 1-2 friends whom dislike doll in general, not only BJD. It's more like, they don't like it because of pediophobia or sort of. But since we're mature enough and respect each other, we try to avoid this topic while chatting. Sometimes it slipped out from me, but we quickly change the topic. I will apologize to my friends if it happens. It’s because I don't want to make them to freak out. ^^;

I have my own horror too and they try their best to not talking about what I fear. As long as we can value each other, I don't think one can bad mouthing what we like just because they dislike/afraid of it. Imagine if other people do that to them, they will frown as well.

 

Yeah, uh, she doesn't sound like any kind of a friend. Moving in with her sounds like a bad idea to me. Full of nothing but stress, which does NOT make for comfortable living situations. If it were me, I'd tell her to either shape up and start showing me respect as a friend, or to get the hell out of my life because I sure as hell don't need someone like that in it. She doesn't have to like your hobbies but she DOES have to respect you as a person, especially if you're going to be sharing living space! That would just be horrible.

 

I have to go ahead and agree with a lot of what everyone is saying; If your friend has no problems insulting you and your babies in a chat room, she probably wont have any hesitation about saying mean things in person, which will probably hurt a lot worse. In my experience, I haven't personally had a friend that HATED my dolls, just thought they were creepy, haha.

 

I have a friend who thinks they're creepy and totally ignores any comment I make about my boy. She pretends that they don't exist.

 

I have lots of people in my life who doesn´t like dolls, but never find anyone who hates them... like someone when I tell them I collect dolls or they notices they told me things like "Those dolls are creepy" or things like that but nothing more.

 

I have friends who don't care or like the dolls, but never one who bad mouths them or yells at me for the hobby. (Usually they don't like the dolls because the dolls freak them out.) I would say if you have a friend who can't respect your hobby or your property, you may want to reconsider moving in with them. It will only cause tension and a possibly for problems.

 

Your friend needs to respect that is your hobby and just deal with it. By not accepting your dolls she's not accepting a part of you. She can't have it both ways, all your support but not give your hers in return. She doesn't have to love them but she doesn't have to be mean about them.

All of my friends are ok with my dolls, they aren't 'doll people' but they just get used to the fact I take my dolls to places and even help me transport them on occasion. i.e saving space for them in the car. Putting the seatbelt over the doll if they are dropping off the doll to my house. They look after them very well.
It's more people I'm not close with that add my Facebook page and see them. If they give me any kind of negative comment about my 'children' I delete the comment and block them from seeing my photos. It's MY page and I put what I want on it, I've never asked for their opinion.
If it were someone random I just happened to be in the same group as and they want to add me I would fully delete them then and there, the end.

I don't mind people asking me about my dolls, but I will take negative comments about them very personally, they are my creations, it's like insulting someone's paintings or art work when they never even asked you what you thought of it.

If your friend is genuinely scared of dolls *tries not to laugh* … then she shouldn't move in with you, it's like some one being scared of spiders and moving in with a person who has pet tarantulas!
If she just doesn't like them because they are weird to her then she's not being a good buddy in my books.

 

Hating them, no. Absolutely not getting them or why I would want dolls or would pay anything for them- Yes.

One of my childhood friends especially made some slightly foolish life choices and has little money to spare. She has a hard time seeing anyway why all my hard work in University and working 60+ hours a week for years has given me a comfortable home and a good life, while her couchpotatoeness, binge drinking, partying etc has ended her up in welfare. Let alone that she can see me spend money on expensive fun stuff.

 

All my friends think BJDs are really interesting, unique and cool! They say they wouldn't get one themselves, but my current best friend says she just wouldn't get one because of the price. They don't really like dolls, but I showed them pictures I have saved of BJDs on my phone and they really opened up and were were talking about how beautiful some of the girl dolls were and how hot some of the boy dolls were (lol)...
All of my friends are really accepting though; they're fine with my being bi, and we're all into the same music, games and anime.
I'm lucky to have such friends.

 

It's been my experience that people who flip out with hatred over a particular item have something else going on beyond mere dislike of that item. Something about it is pressing a hot button within them. And that hot button usually has to do with something they fear about themselves.