When You Can't Take Them With You :(

I took my doll to college with me, I locked him in my foot locker wrapped in towels. So if and when my roommate or friends came over he'd be out of sight.

 

Second. A good friend of mine got her door kicked in by a bunch of drunk guys. No particular reason why. They simply wanted to break something.

I'll echo what others have said. Security/safety > having a doll close. Can you take some pictures with you? Or upload them to an online site so you can view them on your computer.

 

Hmm, I don't get too stressed about taking them places if I want to, but I don't do it often. I don't take them out "just because." I have taken them to my dorm, and nothing happened to them. I took them to Otakon twice and it was good. I almost lost a wig though! That would have been awful, poor girl would have been bald the rest of the day But I realized it immediately and went back for it, it was still on the floor @__@

So... If you are able to keep an eye on them wherever you are, I would say take them! But you do have to scope some things out... I would never have taken my dolls around my first roommate, she was a disaster area @__@ But I had my dolls with me with my next two roomies

 

Would you have still bought the doll in the first place if you knew you would only get to play with her some of the week? I know that a BJD is a huge investment, and how scary it can be to worry about having that taken away from you... But shouldn't you be able to enjoy your doll as much as you can?

I'm in college myself, but almost finished with my current program. When I was a freshman, I used to go home all of the time, almost every weekend. I'm assuming that your college is a little far away from your home, since if it was close, maybe you'd commute. As time went on, I became more busy, and wasn't able to go home as often as I had when I first arrived in school. I've seen this happen with other freshmen, and my friends. They just can't afford to go home as often as they might like, or originally intend to.

How considerate is your roommate? Do you have more than one? If you think you can trust them not to mess with your doll, even by accident, I'd consider bringing her to your dorm (Given that you have the space) Explain to your roommate that she is very important to you, and not a toy or something worthless. Eventually, its something that you will have to do, if you move out of your parents house. If you want to wait till next year, most schools will let you pick a roommate. Maybe you could find someone with dolls of their own, or is at least sympathetic to your cause.

I think its better to have her with you, so you can enjoy her.

Also, to all of those people who said that their boyfriends/husbands get upset by them taking their dolls out in public, I'm really sorry to hear that. My boyfriend is very tolerant of me doing whatever I want to do, which includes dressing up like a giant doll myself. (I love Lolita, and often wear it just because I want to feel pretty) I know he's proud of me, and accepts the way I behave. If your significant other is embarrassed by you taking your doll with you, they are probably worried about what other people will think, and not very confident in themselves. It's not your problem, but theirs. I would talk to them about it and see if you can tell them why you like to bring your doll out. Since joining this community, I've seen a lot of doll owners that go out in public and just don't take flack from anyone, not about their dolls, and I think that's really awesome. (Sorry for stealing your thread.)

 

My dolls stay on their shelves when I am not playing with them, be that for five minutes or five months. EDIT: For the person who expressed worry about airport security, don't. The worst that will happen is they'll ask what the heck that human-shaped thing is in your suitcase, and they might want to swab it, but airport swabs don't hurt faceups and they do it quickly. I've flown with dolls now multiple times. Never a problem.

 

I've been thinking about this issue for awhile now. Mostly because alot of the jobs I could possibly get in the near future are one or two year contracts in another province and or country. Sooo... flying to another country for a year with just a suitcase of clothes doesn't really bode well for bringing my dolls with me. The idea of leaving them all behind does really grate on the nerves. I mean, if I went to Korea for example imagine the photo possibilities for my darling Heliot!
But then I imagine the hassle it would be to try and take him with me, unless I had the one doll as carry on and got a decent carryon case for him....
Really I wouldn't know what to do if I do go... but so far as going back and forth between dorm and home? if you can visit and do things with your dolls on the weekend? then leave them home where its safe and just plan for some excellent activites, projects or photoshoots on the weekends.

 

I was just thinking about this....I'm in college too and recently I've been so busy with studying and today's exams....I haven't had a chance to play with my dollies...and somehow that's all I want to do! I wish I could take them to school with me but I don't want them to get damaged in my bag....and then I can't even take them out or people will look at me funny.... =/

 

I take my dolls with most of the time. Like dorms, I lock the door and the building is always locked, so they are safe in there. But when I go to family weekends with little kids I get my best friend who has dolls of her own to watch them and I do the same for hers (all her 8 and my 2 is alot but I manage) I take them to cons. b/c we have bjd booths that have babysitters and they watch them (their dolls are there too) If it's a short trip they go to my best friends, but I'm going to an internship in Japan in a year so my friends is shipping them to me. I can't be away from them for a year! Plus the Japanese will love them

 

Short story time!

Okay well, due to circumstances I've had to move around a lot lately, and not always to the safest places. During this whole time (about a year) my dollies have lived in their boxes anonymously and while that was slightly annoying (and unnerving at times) it wasn't to bad since they were with me.

I now live in a fairly secure place, and I'm visiting my mothers for x-mas... only I wasn't meant to stay as long as I am so I left them at my place. And now I want them.

Right here. Right now. In plain sight. Only I cannot reach them until I get back.

I dunno if anyone else has experienced this, so I'm just asking.

Do you get separation anxiety when you have to leave your dolls home alone for long periods of time? Or even short?

If you don't own a doll yet do you think you would?

Or am I just odd?

 

I definitely do! Though they are usually out of sight in their cabinet I still 'know' they are there and safe, and occasionally i take one out to play with. But when im gone for days or sometimes even a few hours I start to miss them I guess thats why im starting to get some 'pocket sized' ones so I can have someone with me at all times ^^;

 

Well, I thought I wouldn't have any separation anxiety, because I've left my dolls home many times for longer periods when I'm away, but now...
I was visiting my BJD-friend who lives in an another city and she promised to sew something for my boy Polydeukes, so I left him at her place to keep company to her dolls and to be a proper model, because it's always easier to make some clothes when you can try them on.... And now, I'm missing him a little, when I really realized that I don't know for sure when I'll get him back and Polydeukes will spent his first Christmas at my friend's place. I still have 2 dolls and a floating head left, so I'm not completely out of dolls, but still... He's my first BJD and I always though he's no different to the others, but now I might be proved to be wrong XD Well, I know my friend will keep him safe and sound, so I'm not concerned at all, I just miss Polydeukes a little >8 Weeeeeeel, I'll get some pretty clothes for exchange when I'll go and get him back, so I know this is worth it ^^

 

I've never had to deal with it overmuch, actually. When I have to leave home for an extended period of time, I usually take one of my dolls with me. Especially if I'm going to be visiting my family. I need to have that comfort during the holidays! >.<

However, I do feel a little sad when I can't play with my dolls, even though they're home. Both of my dolls I can't quite play with. My girl is kinda broken, so she doesn't pose or stand too well. And my boy is in pieces, as I don't want to have to deal with him unsueded, and I can't find the hot glue gun, or glue. I really miss being able to play with my dolls.

 

Hehe! Yes, I have had surprising separation anxiety before. Every year I spend two weeks at Xmastime back east with the family, on the opposite coast, thousands of miles away... And when I go on non-family-related vacations, I also stay away for a couple weeks at a time. I don't bring the dolls with me, because I never schlep them anywhere that's not a doll-related event (air travel is already enough of a pain in the ass!).

While I'm on vacation, I really don't give the dolls' absence a second thought, because I'm out doing other things. I don't feel I have to play with them all the time. But after a few nights on the road, during my downtime, I start to get the craving to just look at them again. Cure: I bring my camera with me. Its memory-card is chock full of doll photos, for impromptu slideshows when the craving strikes. ^^

 

I miss my dolls when we are apart, sometimes as soon as a day of separation! It really surprises me. My collection has gotten far too big to haul it around all the time, too. Back in the day I had one MSD and two pukis, and I was able to put them all in the MSD's box and cart them from place to place (from college to my bf's to home) but now that really isn't feasible So now I'm kind of worried about leaving them behind over winter break D:

 

Huh. I don't think I have it too bad, but like, I don't really think about it when Ceylon is here. But she's at my boyfriends and suddenly, I want to make her clothes and stuff and I'm finding it irritating that she's not around to use as a model.

But, I don't know if it'd be different if it wasn't christmas and I wasn't trying to do stuff. I went on vacation and I visit my family and friends and I'll be gone for weeks sometimes and it never bothers me.

Hmm.

Granted, I do have a puki now so I supposed if I ever do feel separation I can just drag her along with me. Lol.

 

Pun intended or unintended?

Anywho, yes, I get a little anxious while I have bits off being painted. But never full-blown anxiety. I agree with Jenny. I'm sure dwelling on the problem isn't helping. Try to focus on something else (in this case, hanging out with your mom).

 

I do miss my dolls when I'm away from home. I travel with my kids (human kids) so the additional worry about bringing one isn't worth it. I'd rather know they are safe at home than getting smooshed in my luggage or man-handled by some bag checker.
When I'm gone for a month I look at their pics often and buy them little things when I'm out shopping.

 

I'm generally only away from home for a couple days at a time, so it's not so much separation anxiety. Sometimes though, I have intense urges to see my dolls, so I run upstairs when I arrive back home )

 

I've had this, too. Only it's when I drive to class. I've always wanted to bring Emma; it's just that there never seems to be a day when it'll all work out, and I can go from home to school to home.