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Which life lessons have BJD's taught you?

Aug 21, 2015

    1. I was just wondering which life lessons you learned from BJD's. Not just skills, but the deeper stuff too.

      In my case, they have taught me tons of things:

      - I learned how to save my money in order to buy something I want
      - I learned how to patiently wait until they arrive.
      - I learned to be a responsible person. In this hobby it's super important to take responsibility, especially when buying and selling in the marketplace! I used to be more sloppy.
      - I learned that with hard work, endurance, research and time, I can make and build anything I want. I surpassed what I believed were my limits.
      - I learned to live and let live. Sure, some people do things with their dolls that I'd never do, but there's no right or wrong. I no longer judge those people.
      - I learned to share. It's so much more interesting to share your knowledge and see how your ideas grow and evolve.
      - I learned that stories are much, much more interesting than opinions.

      In short, I believe BJD's and being in this hobby/community have made me a much better person and I hope they will continue to teach me stuff!
       
      #1 Wiske, Aug 21, 2015
    2. Definitely how to save up for long periods of time. I was pretty good managing my finances before but was much quicker to spend it once I found something I liked, now I'm willing to put up with not buying things I like in order to save up for bigger things I might want even more! Patience is one thing the hobby has also really helped to drive home. I knew part of it due to waiting for game releases (and pre-ordering games before they were out) but nothing even remotely close to what I have had to wait for dolls!
       
      #2 Soenatte, Aug 21, 2015
    3. For me it's taught me patience. I'm still a newbie and I knew when I ordered my first doll I was in for a long wait. Now I know whenever I order anything I've got quite the wait ahead of me and I'm fine with it. I just occupy myself with other things. It's also helped me to break my jewelry buying habit so that I can spend the money on my doll instead of more jewelry I really don't need.
       
      #3 Kimaeril, Aug 21, 2015
    4. Definitely patience! But mostly that quality is so much more important than quantity. I used to collect other, cheaper dolls and I had so many, but I didn't enjoy them. Now each of my six bjds are so important and give me so much pleasure.
       
      #4 Charlotte Sometimes, Aug 21, 2015
    5. This is by far the most important. ^^ I am with you 100%

      Too many ppl in this hobby feel the need to hide it for reasons of shame over the dolls (I can sometimes buy hiding the amount/value from ppl who would make your life hell if they knew). But as for loving and enjoying something NEVER should anyone feel ashamed... ever.

      I also learned that even if your doll kick, bite or otherwise harm you (seen few doozie injuries incurred from dolls) THEY will never judge, belittle, or otherwise seek to 'hurt' you.... this is something "humans" could learn from dolls... Shame is what others try to put on you, your dolls won't.

      Put your dolls out in the open (well don't sunbathe them ;p) If ppl try to tell you in some way how 'bad, stupid, etc' they are.... look at the speaker ans say
      "at least they never deliberately try to hurt me like you just did" ... then either leave or ask the other person to leave until they can accept YOU for who YOU are... not what you like or like to do. It's a two way street... others who are not into them need to at the very least, learn to have respect, for the dolls (as an object of value) but more importantly respect for the dolls owner. For many of us owners our dolls are something we rely on to help us cope with the crap we have to put up with in life... and from other ppl ... I know who won't disappoint me in those terms ^^


      That being said... dolls more than anything have taught me "never say never"
      The thing you think you can never find/get/have... think again... I've beat this saying not once but TWICE where my dolls are concerned ^^
      I've learned to do things I never even 'imagined' doing and... they open up whole new worlds. I am relearning to take pictures despite vision loss... My dolls actually drove me to replace my stolen camera (had only one year ><)... It was only 2 months I lasted before the need to take pictures drove me to a replacement lol...
       
      #5 Lady Tiku, Aug 23, 2015
    6. Be patient. Good things come to those who wait and are persistent in achieving their dreams. If someone told me 5 years ago what dolls I'd have in my collection, I don't think I would have believed it.
       
      #6 AmberLeigh, Aug 24, 2015