Would you change your doll after hearing someones negative opinion/criticism?

I appreciate constructive criticism when I ask for it; otherwise I find it offensive when someone randomly points out something they believe to be 'wrong' with my work, more so if they're outright rude as opposed to being helpful. I'd only change my dolls if a comment made me realize something I want to change about them. If I was perfectly happy with them as they were and somebody said they didn't like them then they'd stay as they were.

 

I usually don't mind if someone says something nasty about my dolls, yes it might upset me but most likely I'm just "nah, it's your opinion". But when I first started in this hobby I made up couple of characters for my dolls. The usual demon, angel etc types and I was accused of copying other people's dolls. When well.. the types of characters were actually really Mary Sue and not original at all - most likely most demons tend to have black hair and black clothes and angels have white. They didn't even know anything personal about my dolls characters but just accused me of copying when I told a sum what my dolls are like. I ended up crying over about it sold my dolls and dug a grave for those characters. I became very vary of people and I normally don't even talk about my dolls personalities etc. anymore. I keep them to myself if I come up with something I like. It's kinda sad really.

Everyone has their opinion of dolls they like and don't like but the best might be keep the negative thoughts to yourself and don't express your dislike to the person who ownes the doll - that's just rude and will most likely hurt the feelings of the owner.

 

I have to a lesser extent and i did "change" my dolls. My mother likes my dolls as much as I do, but my Soom kids weirded her out whenever they had their anthro parts on. I just took the anthro bits off. I suppose I could have raged at that. I suppose I could have pouted and been a brat about it. I didn't because it wasn't a big deal and my dolls are on display in -her- house.

My family also has a sarcastic humor. Mom calls my Lahela the "hussy" because of how she's dressed but I know she's kidding. She loves her outfit and adores her "kinky" high boots. She even tried to "magic" them her size. XD

If the comments bother you to the point where you feel badly, then TELL THEM. Tell them you don't like it. Use your voice.

 

I personally don't care what people think about my dolls, I like them. Constructive criticism is fine but vicious attacks, in every situation, should be ignored because they are just trying to hurt you.

 

Unfortunately, this is true. Since the internet is so anonymous, some people seem to forget that they are talking to people with feelings and a right to the civility you would give your RL peers.

There's some truth to this, too. Jealousy is sometimes a factor, but more often I think it's a case of someone being careless, rude, and/or way too blunt in stating their opinion. Not everyone likes BJDs, and I know a lot of people that find dolls of all kinds creepy. Sometimes when something is unsettling to a person, they react very negatively. I'm terrified of spiders and centipedes, but some people love them. However, because of my strong phobia I can get really vocal about my dislike, especially if unexpectedly confronted with them. The fear brings out strong emotions I have difficulty controlling.

This is also something that I consider. Sometimes I don't like the way that criticism was delivered, but I evaluate it later and realize that there was some truth to it and make adjustments. Though if I evaluate it later and disagree, I shrug it off as someone with a different opinion from mine and go on with things. Not everyone is going to like the things I do, so I have to accept that.

Rudeness really isn't acceptable, but being rude back or confrontational isn't helping, either. If you can have a civil conversation and get to know why that person said what they said, sometimes you can understand them, educate them or help them realize what they did was a bit over the line. It's surprising the number of people that really don't know just how rude they come across.

 

I'm sorry that happened to you, that really sucks

This kind of thing happens to me a lot, at least the part where I post something asking for a specific type of response and I get nothing even remotely like what I'm asking for. I think people don't really pay attention to what other people write or are asking for. So not only was that person a complete $(*@ for insulting your dolls, but also for ignoring your request.

I am constantly bombarded by dolls that I don't like but I won't say anything unless it's something I can phrase to be helpful. I see a lot of crappy faceups and it makes me cringe and I wonder if I should say anything, then I think "Well they might actually LIKE their doll like that!" then I shrug it off and I'm happy that they're happy and sharing something they're excited about.

I haven't really experienced what happened to you. I think the closest thing was, when I showed my mom one of the dolls I was getting, along with a dress, I asked her advice on shoes to go with it. I -knew- the shoes would clash with the dress but they were super cute and they wouldn't show anyway, and I figured they'd go with a future outfit. She confirmed that they did NOT work out but also commented that she didn't like my choice of wig. I knew the wig would "clash" with the dress, but my reasoning was that in real life, we don't usually tend to match our hair to our outfits. So... she criticized my choice of wig, it bothered me a tiny bit, and I kind of regretted the choice. Then the wig showed up and it's so crappy anyway, I want to replace it really bad. Uhg.

Uh, sorry for the ramble. Just had too much caffeine

 

There are some people whose opinions do affect what I do with my dolls, but that's because I respect their opinion and know the person. My mother, for example, loves watching me work on my dolls because she loves seeing me be creative. She loves seeing what face-ups I've done, or what I've sewn. But she also is quick to tell me when I've done something she thinks is 'off.' For example, she's told me that a face-up on a boy doll has made him look particularly 'girly' and most of the time I'll listen to her, unless that's exactly what I wanted the doll to look like. (For example, Elliot is supposed to look like he's wearing very vivid Bowie-style makeup.) With sewing, she's quick to tell me to remember my seam allowances, and advise me on if she thinks I could do a seam better, or what decals I should use. I respect her opinion and I know she's only trying to get me to create the best thing I'm capable of, so I'll listen to her and take what she says into consideration.

But random people on the internet who are just being mean for the sake of being mean don't get the same consideration. If someone says "That's ugly" or gives a harsh comment about my dolls without any resaoning as to why they think that way, I'll just ignore them. Criticism is half opinion and half reasoning and advice, and if it lacks that second part of the equation, it's no longer criticism. An argument is only an argument if you have evidence and reasoning to back yourself up.

 

Random rant......

NO ONE deserves to be made to feel bad about their artistic expression no matter what. Those of you who have had to deal with this are dealing with very immature people. Your doll is an outlet for your own unique and individual creativity. Be proud of your doll and ignore negativity in your life. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people. Do NOT change your doll or yourself for anyone BUT yourself.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I have never heard a more true statement than this.


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If I took to heart all the negative slings and arrows shot my way, I would have left this hobby five years ago. Just keep ducking...and yeah, what Bambi said, do what YOU want. No. Matter. What. It's your doll, your money, your ideas and so on.

 

Don't forget.... we all WANT approval... but it should not determine our value or 'what' we value/like.

 

Hey..
Don't let yourself be dissuaded or discouraged, in any form, at anytime!!
I do some zany things, when I feel like, because I feel like, when the novelty wears off, or I have derived sufficient pleasure, I move on. This includes, odd makeup, weird clothes, and yes I perfected hobo chic! I have pics to prove it. I get my share of stares, people watch me like it's Showtime, my point? Don't let the critics get you. Don't change your esthetic, or conform. Commend yourself, that you actually got up and did something, you made a great step, in the series of many. I'm proud of you!.
Live outside the box, I'm selling real estate outside of the box, build a condo next door to me, hahaha
I was in the critics forum, but not to critique, I think, it's ok to have a new pair of eyes look at your work, but it's how they relay back what they see...
Also, every time I've been told something was ugly, I would see people wearing it, and doing it after.
So you have a percentage, who wants uniformity, you have a percentage, who want to do it also, so dissuade you, so they can, you have a percentage who simply don't share your taste, mindset, or viewpoint..
I'm speaking of the mentality of individuals.
Don't let fellow man deter you.
I haven't seen your pictures, I'm sure if they were not to my taste, I would honestly look at them as an artist, and see where you where coming from, and try to understand your point of view. Your freedom of expression..
I'm not ranting :-) :-) :-) :-)

 

People who make comments like "your doll is (insert rude insult here)" have my pity. A person has to be chronically untalented if the only way they can feel good about themselves and their works is to tear down everyone else around them.

If critique is constructive and I can tell they mean well, then I listen and I follow it, but if someone is using me as a metaphorical step stool in order to feel better about themselves/ look good to others then I mentally flip them the bird and continue doing what I want. That goes for everything in my life dolls included.

 

I wouldn't change anything about my dolls, even if someone flat out said they don't like something about them. After all they are my dolls, not theirs. If that bothers them then they can just move along. I will however always take suggestions and constructive criticism to heart.

 

I haven't had anyone say anything bad about my dolls, but then I haven't been in the hobby very long at all. I wouldn't change my dolls because someone didn't like them. 1) They are my dolls. I can do whatever I want to do with them and that's whats great about this hobby. 2) You can't make everyone happy, all the time. So you just kind of have to do the hobby for you.

 

That is super lame! For me, dolls are different ways in which I express myself. So I kind of see it as changing how you express yourself to better suit someone who is kind of a bummer.

 

yea, sure, i get negative feedback whenever my brother sees one of my dolls. but its no secret that he hates me so i just sort of ignore it XD his gf loves my dolls and so does my daughter and my niece, who cares what that brat has to say anyway? They're MY dolls, why should i change them to make someone happy? (plus he thinks they're creepy and they keep him out of my room, so bonus!) I dont think you should let what others say bother you. I've never gone so far as to change a doll based on someone else's opinion, tho i do often request critique from the people i'm truely close to, and they help me pick a finalized look for some of my crew (for example, Serafina, she's got a different wig than i had planned and its thanks to my bf, and she looks FABULOUS! and another doll got eyes from my favorite sibling :3 tho sera stole them for a while XD).

They are your dolls, why change them just cause some brat doesnt know what real art is? I'm sure your dolls are lovely and i'd love to see them sometime this isnt to say that some of what they say CAN be taken constructively. I have never recieved any of this sort of thing from the people who criticize my dolls tho =p most of them are just creeped out by my dolls themselves.

 

I would take constructive criticism about the styling of wigs, artistry of sewing and face ups/blushing, as well as advice on scenes, photography and where to buy better clothes or props from. But once I'm happy with my dolls, I'm not about to let anyone tell me what I should be doing. What gives anyone the right to moop on someone else's happiness and hard work.

 

I've had some rude comments before, but not about my doll and her appearance/character.
They were just from people who don't care much for the hobby.
However if someone were to speak negatively about my doll in any way (how they look, their character, etc) I wouldn't make anything of it.
I made my doll the character he/she is because I felt it would suit them. And I love them that way.
Why would I change them if I love them the way they are. Sure sometimes you change your dolls sculpt but most the time the character changes.
So unless YOU feel there needs to be changes, then I wouldn't change a thing because comments were made.

 

Depends on the way the negative opinion is given. Just as said before constructive criticism is fine, then i might think about what the other person have to say, but some people would give you negative opinion in very rude way just to make themselves happier, and then of course i would not even care about it. Anyway everybody got different tastes so the thing i like, might be just horrible to others. I try to not to judge the others tastes and i expect others to do the same.

 

While I would not change anything about my dolls, because someone else does not like them.. I would take it very personal to have someone call them ugly or anything negative. It's not hard to say that dolls are not your cup of tea, or a certain style.. but it's beyond rude to just flat out say someone's dolls is ugly.

I would not even think twice about letting that family member or friend know they have jumped way over the line !!