Would you change your doll after hearing someones negative opinion/criticism?

I don't use flickr, can you delete the comments? I love deleting comments when people are just being plain mean and not helpful.

Otherwise, I don't care if anyone dislikes my dolls. I love how they look and they make me happy and since they're mine, that's all that matters.

 

Don't worry about people like this. I was very excited to get Tristan, My SDC Kurt in '07. But when we had a small gathering at my house, a girl twisted her face and said he was ugly. I was hurt, I loved frogs since I was a child(I loved them because people are disgusted by them for no reason, much like me) and I love Tristan. She couldn't see I was hurt, she just focused on how ugly he is, why did I get him, and he's not worth of her attention. I have always tried to comment how beautiful or original and lovely someone's dolls is, because I know how much hard work and saving up they had gone through only to hear useless painful comments. it is easier to hate something than loving something, admitting loving it publicly (especially when people think this hobby is for pansies) can be open season for bullies. so i respect people who have the courage to love no matter how much hate have been hurled to them, and encouraging them is better than destroying what could be the only joy in their lives.
photography skills should not be a deciding factor in this hobby as not everyone are camera enthusiast.

i didn't enjoy my mikhaila because i've seen the bombardment of negative comments and abusive words on other users pictures. it was really bad. i love her, she is so cute and lovely, and i dont believe she is a recast. believe me i would buy a dust of doll version as well if they were easier to access, have the colors i wanted, the face-up and the outfit sets by Leeke was attractive. In the end I sold her off, because I couldn't love her. It was a mistake of course, and I hope on the future I won't be like that again.

Over the years I read cruel comments people leave for others for stupid reasons. Could be jealousy, could be to put you down since you are euphoric with your dolls and probably immature or whatever in their minds, etc, what other things bullies would think. could be how they are raised, there are plenty of reasons. don't let other people decide what your dolls gonna be!

 

When I was still very new to the hobby I had a, now former, friend comment that my second doll's, a Dollzone Mo, faceup was ugly. The thing was I had just got him back from getting a faceup. It was simple, but he is a boy, and not the sort of boy to where a much of any makeup either. Because of that comment I ended up sending him off for yet another faceup, but I also never brought my dolls over to see her again.

 

Awww I'm so sorry that happened to you, ashbunny! Those people sound really rude and mean. I hate how some people think that just because it's the internet, they can say those kinds of things... I bet your dolls are beautiful! To answer your question, though, I personally haven't experienced any real criticism before, but that's probably just because I don't post pictures of my doll very often ^^; I've been meaning to get better about it and ask for more feedback, but ah, well, life has a way of getting in the way sometimes. Mmm, but I agree with what most other people here are saying. I feel like BJDs are like any other kind of art - sometimes I agree with critique and sometimes I don't. If I do, I might decide to change it if I really do think I would like it better. If I don't, well, that doesn't mean I have to listen to them! But yes, I think that the only person your dolls have to please is you!

 

I've found in artwork that when the useful comments dry up and what's left are fundamental changes to the work, I've achieved what I set out to do. I don't entertain the fundamental changes, because they're fundamental changes. They aren't my vision, they're someone else's vision. They can make their own vision; I'm sticking with mine.

That's when the remarks are well-intentioned, just no longer useful. When someone is vicious like you describe, it says more about them than it says about me. It certainly hurts, and can make me unsure about myself, but honestly, it's really truly not about me. And in your case I imagine it's really truly not about you. In those cases, I take that person off the share list. I do not allow other people to bully me, and if they've shown they're going to try, I remove the opportunity.

 

I don't know why people bash other people's doll, pictures, posts and other stuff on the net. But it seems to be an internet thing: some people seem to feel the need to be vicious and mean to others as soon as they can comment anonymously or under a pseudonym :/.

I might act on comments if they were constructive and I agreed with them. At a doll meeting, someone told me my doll was cross-eyed XD. She didn't say it in a mean sort of way, and she was right too! So I changed the position of my boy's eyes. Some comments are good advice from people who are more skilled or knowledgeable about doll or art stuff. If they help me to improve, they are welcome to comment .

 

Interesting question.... maybie i can change some details, clothes... hair dress for example. But change everything just because somebody said that it awful? Phhh... never)))

 

Oh man I understand exactly what you're feeling I'm getting back into the hobby and yesterday I got out my boy doll's wig and put it on him and I felt like I hated it, and it was really confusing, I was sitting there asking myself "Wait, why am I feeling this way? I used to love this wig on him and I picked it out specifically for his character, what happened?"

And I realized it was because when I was dating my ex, he had asked to see my boy bc he had already seen my girls, and when I showed him he like... scoffed and went "that's not a good wig." and when I asked what he meant he said "It looks bad on him. It looks dumb." and it really really got to me, and even now after he dumped me and I realize how rude and inappropriate those comments were I can't shake the feeling of being criticized so harshly, especially since they came from someone close to me.

The solution I've come up with is that I'm going to play with the wig, see if I can trim it and style it a little bit, and change it enough that it doesn't remind me of those comments anymore and that I can feel like I improved it, but is still the same wig, and hopefully get back the way I once liked it... So I guess my answer is: I wouldn't change something beyond recognition if someone close to me insulted it, but if I'm having a hard time getting over it as it is I'd maybe try to improve it enough that I feel better about it

 

Ordinarily I would say no, however some things I once was the butt of at a doll meet - was concerning a doll I had and a doll someone else owned that was the same head sculpt - actually ended up driving me to sell him >< I regretted it, and I now have him back, though as the sleeping head of the same sculpt instead which I think is actually better for the character it is for. That is the only instance I've had though, and nothing is going to make that happen again. I am proud of them, even if they are unusually designed or are of rather unpopular sculpts (like most of them are due to personal aesthetic preferences). It happens, don't let it affect you :3

 

I love my dolls, and I love the books their characters come from, and I love talking about how different things about them connect the two. The moment I saw Arra, I knew she was my Arra Sails because she has the proudest, most disdainful faceup ever. She's just like "No, I will not shake your hand. You suck." When I changed out her eyes to ones with lighter irises and more defined pupils, it intensified the effect. I was setting my dolls up in my room and I explained my choice to my roommates, my attraction to the fact that she has such an evident personality.

My then-girlfriend promptly scoffed and said "No she doesn't. She looks completely blank. They all look completely blank. They're all the same. None of them have any personality at all." I just reminded myself that she never approves of anything that isn't hers, kept going and never made the mistake of sharing my personal relationship with my dolls with her again. It did throw me off a bit and kind of hurt my feelings, but it didn't last.

Then, a year later, I posted Arra's picture on my tumblr, with an explanation of how well her sculpt and faceup fit the character of Arra Sails. It immediately got likes from the Darren Shan fan community and was reblogged by a major DS blog. It was amazingly validating: my idiot ex's opinion didn't matter, because the people who counted, who actually were familiar with the character, got it. And they agreed with me, and celebrated my choice.

Moral: Aslong as you believe in what you're doing and do it with passion and dedication, you will find the people who count and they will appreciate you. Never listen to idiots who have nothing good to say.

 

I have encountered this with someone in my life. I never did understand why people feel the need to say negative things to others about stuff that is not even theirs. We all have different tastes and interests and I for one am not the best at photography. I do my best and if I am met with criticism from others, I tend to feel sad for them that they feel the need to do that. It just means to me that for one reason or another they consider themselves to be an authority on me and my stuff and that kind of well, sad. I don't change anything because of the comments by others. I am usually shocked when it happens as to me this is a very bad social mistake and totally not appropriate no matter how right one thinks they are. Nice comments always uplift others. If there isn't anything nice to say then say nothing. I have been in this situation. Silence is golden.

 

Even if several people told me that my doll is ugly, I don't think that I would be upset enough to not love her anymore or change what they don't love. When you spent so much times and moneys on your doll, you have to be proud about what you've done. Of course, nothing can be 100% perfect, and people would always be jealous, or criticize your work without any reason. But you can take criticism if they are helpful, otherwise you can just let them talk and go on doing what you want with your doll.

 

I've never experienced any mean comments about my doll, and if I did, it would definitely hurt I'm pretty sensitive to negative comments, but it wouldn't be enough to get me to change my doll. My doll is mine and what matters is that I'M having fun doing what I'm doing, and it's no one else's business. I would remind myself to ignore the ignorant comments.

 

I change things all the time due to bad feedback. One time I made an outfit for my minifee and posted it on tumblr and a bunch of people said it was really ugly. I took the comments that actually said WHY it was ugly and striped them down to be helpful in improving my clothes. Now my sewing skills are a ton better. Never again can anyone say my clothes look fake, I size down real people clothing patterns and sew them for my dolls. So my dolls now wear real clothes with real pockets and hardware.

Use the negativity to make yourself and your dolls better. sometimes bad things can turn into good things

 

There are doll sculpts that I don't particularly like and I've seen face ups that I felt left a lot to be desired in terms of artwork. Usually in situations like that I just take the high road and refrain from comment. I mean I'm no Rembrandt myself and which sculpts a person like that can be very much a a matter of personal taste. But what you are describing sounds more like cyber-bullying to me than not. Someone is getting their jollies off on being utterly nasty to you, and they're hitting you right where it hurts, via your dolls. Well, don't let them. Ultimately this is just someone with nothing better to do trolling the internet for people to bug. They're YOUR dolls. You are the only person they have to impress, measure up to, please, and that person simply isn't worth the mental angst. Hugs...

 

My room mates hate my dolls, so I purposely leave the door open so they can be creeped out every time they walk past. Hehe

 

HeHeHe - ah, the haters - if & when anyone starts truly ragging on anything I have or like, dolls or otherwise (not teasing or just expressing their honest if misguided opinions mind), they get to find out JUST how nasty and original I can be w/the English language.... My mom's a Southern lady for those of you who know what that means in terms of the ability to destroy another politely w/words...
Now I do listen to constructive criticism. I don't always agree w/it but I work it through to see if it makes sense to me & whether it might help improve my concepts etc.

 

I wouldn't change my doll just because someone doesn't like it, but I might be less inclined to share that particular doll. I think sometimes people just feel the need to be mean and bully other people. There's no reason for someone to insult a style you chose for your dolls. It's easier to push the back button than it is to comment. I am thankful that people have been really kind to me about my dolls, and I like to post nice things on other people's pictures, share in the excitement of box openings, etc. I don't know why it's so hard for some people to be nice. It's just sad.

 

I agree with what other people are saying, that if someone gives you constructive criticism it's worth considering if they're just being mean or insensitive they should be politely rebuffed or ignored. I know some people find my fanged Real Puki creepy just because of the sculpt she is, but I love her. And plenty of people like Blythes and I find them really creepy. I wouldn't tell someone that in a rude way though!!

 

Hell no, they're my doll, and I'm not going to change her for anyone elses opinion, especially if they're doing it behind my back y'know?