Would you change your doll after hearing someones negative opinion/criticism?

No way would i ever change my dolls no matter what anyone else says. Some of my family insist on nit picking at my dolls, but thats the thing their my dolls they are what i want them to be not what pleases others.

 

Lots of terrific comments here already, but I thought I'd weigh in on my thoughts.

Dolls are art. To me, art has soul as long as someone loves it. You breathe a piece of yourself into the artwork you surround yourself with, whether it be music, dance, paintings, writing, or in this case, dolls. The tricky thing about art is it is really the most subjective thing in the world. One person can look at a piece of art and be entranced by it, another feels repulsed. The thing that makes one person laugh might make another person cry. Every person will get something different out of an art piece and, while sometimes it causes waves and hurt feelings, this is a good thing. People should be different, have arguments and conflicting opinions. If everyone's tastes were the same nothing would ever be special, and imagine how boring the world would be?

So that being said, your dolls are YOURS. You have spent x amount of money and x amount of time and love acquiring pieces of art that YOU are drawn to. Please don't change or alter your doll collection for someone else. Now, if someone brings up something specific like "It's weird she has black eyebrows and blonde hair" or something like that and now it bothers you, certainly I would change something like that, but if someone called one of my dolls ugly I would just silently call them every nasty thing I could think of in my head, take a deep breath, exhale, and let it go. It's their opinion. Of course it's wonderful to share your collection with people who like them just as much as you do and it feels fantastic to show off and receive positive feedback. Sometimes when I post pictures of my dolls I feel like a peacock showing my feathers X3 Still though, if I had a doll and I was the ONLY person in the world who saw beauty in them, then that doll is for me. I would say I have a special bond with that doll that other people don't get.

I hope my comments were helpful to you. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for loving what you love. Not everyone is going to understand but that just makes you unique. Your tastes are your own and you should be proud of them, even if some people want to hurt you for it.

 

Someone once told me I should change my doll's lip color because she didn't like the yellow. Heck no I'm not going to change it, it's fun yellow lipstick! I will customize my dolls as I want to!

 

I know I'm mostly parroting what others have said so far, but here goes.

I'm sorry for the negative "feedback" you received! I can't say too much on the subject since you didn't really go into great detail other than they mentioned the dolls were ugly, but I'll take your word for it that it was just rude unnecessary meanness.

Like some of the others have said, for me it would mostly depend on the intent of what the other is saying and if they're actually giving criticism (even negative criticism) or just being outlandishly rude and mean spirited.
If they were telling me that they think the doll would look less white washed with a darker wig on (that has been brought up to me in the past) I would take that into consideration and POSSIBLY change the wig to something darker (I did and liked the change)!
If they were just saying "ew your doll is so ugly!" then I absolutely wouldn't take that into account.

The fact is there are people who don't like dolls. There are people who have a phobia of dolls. There are people who find the asian BJD's to look incredibly creepy. I don't necessarily blame them for it in the same way I don't want people to blame me for having a fear of clowns, but I'm not going to tell someone that their clown collection is hideous because that would be absolutely rude and not constructive in the slightest.
Hell, there are people who think that we in the hobby are absolutely insane and are not shy about announcing it to the world and sometimes even to us.

 

Has anyone experienced this kind of attitude before?
Not from strangers, but I have a honest friend who can be pretty blunt sometimes. She jokingly, semi serious said one of my dolls was ugly. This bothered me, because I did the face-up myself and was fairly proud of it.

How did you handle it?
I told her she kind of ruined my doll for me. She apologized, saying that was never her intent. I do have a feeling that she is trying to be more diplomatic now, allthough she remains honest (and that is something I appreciate). I think it was the fact that I did the face-up myself was a big factor, because I don't mind if she finds a doll creepy or dislikes the way it looks sculpt wise.

Most importantly, did you go as far as altering your doll in some way as a result of your feelings towards what was said/the person who said it??
Yes, I couldn't bare to look at her anymore, so I changed the face-up. Recently I changed the face-up again and in hindsight I can understand the "ugliness" a bit, in the sense that my face-up skills are improving. She is still nowhere near perfect, but I am happy with the way she looks currently. Also, I have no hard feelings to my friend, because we cleared the air. Communication is key.

However, it were a stranger, telling them such comments hurt your feelings won't do much I think, since a stranger doesn't give a hoot about your feelings. I think if a person succeeds in "ruining" a doll for you, it might also say something about your own attitude towards the doll. I know I was insecure about said doll. My "creepy" dolls didn't get ruined, because I absolutely love the way they look and I couldn't care less if someone doesn't share that opinion.