Would you sell your collection for a spouse?

Not even 20 year old Leonardo DiCaprio could replace my 4 resin boyfriends!

 

Nope. You love me, you love my hobbies, you do not try to change me or my possessions. If a person cannot love you as you are with what you have now, then they don't really love you.

I'd be the same way with my cats. Either my cats come with, or you're on your own. I'd rather be alone than anyone tell me to get rid of this or that in order to love me/be with me/marry me.

 

No. I can't even conceive of how "the person you always dreamed of" would be someone you would have to abandon yourself for.
Big pass on that.

 

My collection isn't five years old yet specifically because I let someone shame me out of my first collection. I'll never get that time back, and I will never make that mistake again. They don't have to love my hobby, and they can ask me to keep them in a doll room if they specifically have a doll phobia, but I'm not selling my children for anyone.

 

Wait, do you mean the person I've always dreamed of will only be with me if I give up my doll collection? Or this is like a deal with the devil in which my doll collection is the price I pay to find true love?

And anyway, what if the person I've always dreamed of was a little resin man who is completely at my mercy and won't complain if I ignore him?

 

If they make demands like that then they’re not the person anyone should dream of so no, I wouldn’t! They’re manipulative, controlling and probably dangerous. Once you’ve given one thing up for them you’ve given them power over you and it won’t stop.
I’m afraid the dream version of them is a far cry from the harsh reality so stick with the fantasy version in your head.

My dolls, parrots, fish, gecko, turtle, camera, love of fantasy and video games, respect for nature and quirky ideas are all part of me so they accept the whole package or go kiss a blue ringed octopus!

 

No. Absolutely not. Never.

 

Hell to the >BLEEEP< No!

The oldest of my collection is more than 14 years old and I'd never part with them for anyone or any thing.

 

Nope, I wouldn’t be with my partner if they didn’t respect my hobbies or wanted me to get rid of things I love (they’re actually a very supportive sweetheart )

Also, even if I wasn’t with them I wouldn’t accept a "deal with the devil" thing, I don’t fall in love with someone unless we’re very close friends first

 

Hm. This is an interesting one for me as that person exists and I am very much head over heels. If it was the price I had to pay to be with the person I love, then yes-- it would be a price worth paying.

But! Say we're in an alternate universe, and I were offered a chance to be with a dream person in exchange for my dolls...welp. If it's a demand directly from said someone, then I hope that they know I can play ugly-- if I lose something I love at their demand, then they must give me something in return. A portfolio of fine investments, a hefty portion of any and all assets, a cabin in the mountains with at least 500 acres, and then I demand a great and grand pond that I will fill with fish and turtles and frogs and all manner of local waterstuff, and then I will demand a small herd of goats and some dogs to help me manage them, as well as a few elderly horses rescued to be my oversized and very expensive lawn ornaments (they deserve a nice retirement!). Finally, I demand a nice little boat to putter around in, and additional funds ($50,000 per month for the rest of my life should suffice-- that seems like a reasonable and modest sum alongside everything else mentioned)-- funds that I will use to build a few more cabins so that I can invite my friends to come out and enjoy nature with me for as long as they like. This is the price the dream person must pay, with the added stipulation that my demands can change at any time, and if the dream person wants to back out after signing the initial contract, then not only will I have my doll privileges returned to me, but I will also be granted $25,000 per month for the rest of my life as an...early termination fee.

I know it's wildly silly, I know.

 

The person I always dreamt of would not demand such a thing
And if I had to trade my hobby to get that person, like in a kind of magical bargain, I still probably wouldn't. I prefer being alone too much and I'd go crazy without a hobby.

 

Like, if you were selling them of your own accord to afford to elope or something I could see it. But if that person wants you to ditch your hobbies it sounds like a red flag...

 

No way! I’d be happy alone but luckily I have a pretty good spouse who has supported my hobby since the beginning.

 

Hard no here as that's one of my big red flags.

I have collected and loved toys my whole life, I have had BJDs for around 15 years. I have been with my significant other for 22 years, we are deeply in love. If my love told me to give up my dolls/toys for them, then for me it isn't really love. No one should give up hobbies that make them happy for another person that's a form of abuse. That goes for give up dolls, give up gaming, give up your photography, give up cooking, give up fixing cars, whatever it's a big red flag. A loving heathy partner/relationship might not always get or like your hobbies, but will understand they bring you joy, and thus be ok with them.

Now if a hobby crosses a line and becomes unhealthy it's not a red flag to say "we can't afford another X right now" or "you are spending a lot of hours doing X maybe you need a break." That is not the same as saying give up this big part of your life for me. Again I feel forcing someone to give up a hobby is a controlling red flag like cutting a person off from friends and family. As long as your hobbies are affordable and not harming anyone, you have the right to enjoy them, and should be with someone that supports that.

Now I have been blessed in that I got my S.O. into BJDs through photography, she now dolls of her own. We share some hobbies and differ in others, I hate cooking She loves it and has many cook books. Anyway bottom-line no I wont give up my toys for someone, they can love me as is or can find the door that is my stance on it.

 

Been in the hobby 17 years and I have literally kicked out my boyfriend who was jealous of dolls. Current husband tells me not to sell dolls in case I regret it. Quality people exist.

 

Not a chance. Like most others have said- if it’s a “the dolls or me” ultimatum type of thing, that’s a massive red flag, and if it’s a “deal with the devil” type of thing, then still no. I don’t really believe in the concept of a soulmate/one true love/etc, so there wouldn’t really be a point to it. I’m lucky to be engaged to a man I absolutely adore, but I’ve also dated enough to know that there are a lot of people out there that I could build a happy/content life with. I think that’s true for most people, whether they realize it or not.

 

So awhile ago, I was asked by an ex to give up my two cats to be with him. He didn't want any pets in general. I dumped him and I got an additional cat. I would not give up any hobbies or anything I collected for a partner, I don't care who it is. Strangely, he is not the only man I met who thought it was reasonable I give up my cats. It seems to be common, but I'm still not budging.