Your dolls after your death...

In my heart of hearts, I’d want my partner or family to keep them to remember me by, but none of them are doll collectors, so realistically I’d like them to sell them to BJD hobbyists so that they may be loved again, and my loved ones can put what they make from it towards my final expenses.

 

My daughter was in hobby, daughter in law is in hobby and I hope granddaughter one day wants to be into it more. So they all know the value of the dolls and whichever ones they don't want will go to friends.

 

I’ve made an excel document for all of my collection, not just bjd, it has all of the information needed to sell them. Each doll has an id number or letter on a small jewelry charm inside their head for bjd and on the wrist or ankle of the others. The boxes are also labeled with the id. BJD without boxes have been assigned appropriately sized decorative boxes to hold all of their items. The document also has instructions on how to prepare bjd for sale. I also label all boxes of clothing and accessories so they know which doll type and size they go to.

My daughter likes dolls and can keep whatever she wants but the rest can be sold. To make it easy I’ve told my family to use an auction service, it will take a lot off of what they make but so does ebay, and it’s a lot of work to sell them individually. Ultimately they will do whatever they want with them and I don’t have any hang ups about my material things when I’m gone, I just made the spreadsheet to make it easier for them if they sell them or send to auction.

Another thread about this topic https://denofangels.com/threads/your-dolls-after-your-death.766468/

 

if I know my time is coming (advancing age, sickness) I will try to sell them. I'm not having any kids so everyone around me is going to be around my age, probably. I wouldn't have anyone to will them to. If I die suddenly in an accident... I guess I don't care? I should leave a speadsheet for my spouse so they can sell them if they want.

 

My family is informed of values of my dolls. Plus they also see what people pay me to do for their dolls so they can tell how it could cost for doll alone. I probably leave some info on how and where they can sell my dolls when I pass in written form. I hope that help my family financially even a little bit

 

In an ideal world, I'd have had time to line up something for the gang myself. If not, I suspect they'll just end up being sold off. My family members know that even my most out-of-fashion Old School dolls still have at least some marginal value, and that there are a few others who are worth a fair bit more. They also know that they can check my records to find out what each sculpt is and which set of paperwork goes with which doll, and that this web site is a good resource, too. Given the size of my gang, though, I don't envy the person who gets stuck with the task of liquidating it.

That said, if I actually had my way, I'd love to just donate the entire lot... all of the dolls, all their "stuff", the whole nine yards... to some museum's toy collection when I get to the point of being too old to maintain or enjoy them anymore. Just as a range of examples of their doll type, I think they would make a fun display. The complication is actually FINDING the right place to give them to, and then arranging the eventual donation.

 

Legally, everything I own goes to my husband. But we've talked deeply about our plans when one of us does inevitably go first. He gets to pick whatever dolls of mine he'd like to keep (which would most likely just be Amir, my first and Harriet, my plus size goth girl) and then he gives everything else doll related to my sister, who is in the hobby and knows what everything is, the value, how to contact my hobby friends and how to sell within the community. She gets to go through my massive collection and decide what to keep, then do whatever she wants with the rest of it. I'd like for my hobby friends and role play partners to at least get one of my dolls, if they'd like to have one, but really, if my sister decides to just sell them all, that's up to her. Regardless of who gets them, I have a good feeling they'll still move along in the hobby to someone who will appreciate them, whether that's family or friend who preserves my character, or stranger who gives them new life.

 

Mine will be going to my godchildren to keep or sell as they wish. They all (except, possibly, the youngest) are aware of how expensive the dolls are. Hopefully there will still be enough of my doll friends around to guide them through how to dispose of them if they don't want to keep them.

This is the reason I really should catalogue them properly, but I never seem to get around to it.

Teddy

 

I hope I live long enough to fully enjoy them. Otherwise my family will keep my Holy Grail Popovy and the other one(s) go to my friend.

 

My Real Puki SoSo (Thad) goes to my house mate. Everything else doll related goes to my niece. She's the one who got me into the hobby. She can keep or sell them as she chooses. I know they'll go to people who will appreciate them.

 

I hope my husband would do as I told him and either keep my dolls as a memorial of me or sell them to fellow hobbyists. He doesn't know what part or outift goes with which doll if his life depended on it, so I have left him a list of my trusted hobbyist friends and told him he could contact one and request them for help sorting and selling the dolls, and in return he could reward their help with either free dolls or cash.

Of course when I'm dead, I won't have much feelings one way or another, but I swear I'll still roll around in my grave if my husband donates any of my dolls to his or my non-doll folk family members who don't know their value.

I have a will, but for tax reason it doesn't mention the dolls, just "all my property" as a single lump. (Here, a heir pays inheritance tax based on the property value, and the tax officials will receive a copy of the will to help assess that value. Hence, in some situations like if all the property goes to a single heir, it makes sense to not list individual property on the will. If you don't, the tax officials will never know it existed. So your heir can just take your valuables and not pay tax, saves them a few grands at the best.)

 

I used to worry about this but not anymore. It doesn't matter what happens in this world when I pass away, but I'm trying to sell my dolls now because I don't have the time for them anymore. It's better if they go to someone who can care for them. So you can sell them to someone who collects them because it's not the same to give them to family or to people who don't know about them.

 

I have some accumulations, they will not be enough for the funeral, but they can help pay them. Selling dolls will pay them completely. But I would like my dolls and some other things to put in the coffin with me. But if my relatives decide to sell them, I can no longer do anything.

 

I was recently left a BJD by a collector friend who passed away. She had specified it in her will, and it's a wonderful memory of her. So I guess if you want to make sure your dolls go where you want them to, make a will.

 

I had a friend who, in 2007, unexpectedly passed in a car accident. She was also a BJD collector and her family reached out to her close friends and offered each of us one of her dolls. I still have him, though due to his age (he's a Luts Dreaming El in their old white skin tone) he lives in his box now to try to reduce the chances of yellowing.

But back on topic - I don't have a will. I probably should just in case, but if I were to pass away unexpectedly there is one particular person I would give all my dolls and doll things to. If she wanted to sell or give them away, that's her call. I won't be here for it to matter anymore. More than wanting them to be cared for or safe, I'd want to have a plan for what happens to my belongings (all of them) so that I am not a burden to my significant other and family.

 

I told my partner/ husband he could sell them, or give them to someone who would want them when I passed on.
He said he rather keep them, because they're sentimental.
My child who is 5yrs, said that she would want to keep them too, because, they're like friends.

 

There's too much stuff to worry about in life to consider worrying about death stuff too

 

This gets on my mind often lately. Part of why I only want a few dolls is that I don't expect to live long due to declining health. I doubt any wishes would be honored by my relatives, so I'm afraid I've already damned any dolls I take in to be thrown away or a similar unhappy ending. Frankly I feel guilty about it, and sometimes I think I shouldn't have started to begin with. I have other valuable things but I don't care where those go, they're just things. And then I have a cat and she's aging, but she's not too old and that's a major worry I have because it's likely that she'll end up on the street if I'm gone too soon.

 

I...I don't even have MOST of my dolls, yet. Any advice?

 

I care that when I am gone to not leave back my son without help or care , that he will be respected cared and loved and that nobody will take away from him anything that makes him happy, that he will have the happiest life possible,that is the only think I worry after my death as about the dolls I don't care I suppose the expensive ones will be sold and the rest donated or tossed if in bad condition but I don't care about that at all. It's not like I m going to need them.