Your Dolls in Your Wedding??

Weddings are for people, not dolls. It would be as likely as me letting someone's dogs in on the occassion, zero percent chance.

 

if i ever did get married, and my to-be husband was a bjd fan himself (in the odd chance) it'd be kinda hilarious to me if we both had our very first doll at the wedding XD Julian in a suit, probably being held by the bride's maid XD that'd be awesome and epic (for me, anyway). I'd make sure though that there was someone to keep an eye on him at all times when i couldn't. but who knows what will end up happening in the future.

 

I would be hesitant - I know not everyone would have any bad things happen, but people tend to sometimes... overdo it at weddings (drinking). So, you might have tame guests who you think would respect your dolls, but when people are drunk, they can be totally different people. I'd worry that there would be people who could get a little crazy at my wedding, and may somehow steal the dolls, or accidentally knock them over, and/or break them.

And I wouldn't feel comfortable asking people from my wedding party to sacrifice having their own fun to watch over my "tiny couple" when I was out dancing and such. It would seem to me like a lot to ask my friends to babysit a couple of dolls (because even if you love your dolls like family, not everyone's going to understand how important your dolls are to you). And even if they do decide to, they might get distracted or decide nothing bad will happen and walk away.

At my parent's wedding, there was a big fight, and my dad said one of his relatives ran off with the cake topper - so you never know. It could all go good one minute, and then there's a fight.

So, for me, I'd bring them, take them out at picture time, and either keep the little ones in my purse or entrust a friend or relative to maybe put them in their car or somewhere safe.

 

Hmmm, I dont think I would. I think its nice if people do it, but for me i would probably just play with them to calm my nerves just like pretty much everyone else said.

 

Yeah....bringing your dolls to the wedding is an interesting concept...But in the end it kinda seems like a recipe for disaster, lol.

The wedding just doesn't seem like a place for your dolls to be. I could see if you had a little private reception with friends after the wedding and there was some sort of sweet geek theme going on, but other than that it just doesn't seem necessary. If your significant other wasn't all into dolls it could cause some awkward moments too. Then there's the chances you would spend too much time making sure your drunk uncle Roary didn't bump into the doll table or trying to keep the sticky fingers of your little cousins/nieces/nephews off the dolls. Just too many opportunities for mishaps, distractions or conversations you're probably not in the mood to have with members of your family regarding your dolls...during or after your wedding ceremony.

 

I would NEVER, EVER have my dolls at my wedding. And not even from a damage/theft concerned standpoint, either. For me personally, and I really don't want to offend anyone else by saying this, it'd be crossing the line into weird. My dolls are nothing more to me than a cool little side hobby that I keep in the confines of my room, and I'd feel more than a little stupid displaying them at a wedding. While I "get it" regarding bjd-dom, I'm aware enough to realize most people don't, and I'd be dealing with a lot of strange looks and questions when I'd rather be focusing on my own big day. Plus, like I said, they're just not that big an aspect of my life. Hell, my dog and horses mean more to me, but they won't be included either!

 

My point - exactly!

Just thought of this - maybe a better idea would be at the pre-wedding party, the Bridal Shower. There's probably a lot less drinking, too, being that it's during the day sometimes. And I bet female friends/relatives would be more accepting of your dolls (fussing over their cuteness, though you'd make sure no one touches their faces or them at all). Because tinys are just utter adorableness to me. Like, you'd make yourself a little centerpiece or little separate table with mini everything and a cute tiny couple in a gown and tux. The thought is adorable! It takes a lot less effort, I think.

Plus, I don't think kids would fit at a shower. My first - and, so far, only - wedding experience started with me and my mom going to my cousin's shower. There were only old ladies, and my cousin's friends, and my other 2 cousins... but the only "kids" were my age or older. It's really not a 'fun' time for kids.

 

In reading this wonderful discussion, I like the thought of dressing one's dolls for the special day. If you have a boy and girl doll, it would be fun to dress them as bride and groom, and have a photo shoot for your wedding album, or just some pictures to put in one's doll album.

 

I would do it, but they would be in a (decorative) but locked display case....

 

The doll at my wedding...hm now that would be interesting, but to be honest, I won't have the doll. For me, something so fragile and expensive as well awckward for the family at the wedding would not do. I don't trust if there are kids around as well. But mostly because I don't think that I will be into the doll as much by that time. Also that would depend on the man I am getting married to as well. But overall, no - the idea of having my doll there..I just can't see it.

 

I'm with JennyNemesis on weddings overall. But for someone who's not been married a year, this is an interesting topic. At the time of our wedding I only had my two MSD girls, though I was as much enthusiastic as ever about them. If I had had more, I would certainly have made them a table of their own high on some shelf where they could have had their own feast; what a conversation starter. As it was, I just dressed them in their finest and propped them on their own shelf. Our ceremony was at home so every hobby was fairly well presented. (Even Nordic Walking sticks unintentionally show in some of our pictures.. how elegant.)

And if I had had my pukipuki at the time, I would certainly have brought her to the register office. I bring her with me everywhere if I feel at all nervous. Then again, I didn't have a purse and I didn't remember to add pockets to my dress, and nerves were luckily at ease because I was with the man I love and only our parents as witnesses, so it was fine without a doll, too. Just that I think it's okay to do what is best for one self and the situation. If our reception hadn't been at home or if there had been more kids or more people (than 15) I probably wouldn't have taken them for all reasons stated in this thread, but that would have been a pity.

What I'm trying to say is that a wedding should be exactly what the couple wants it to be, not what it is "supposed to" be or what the mother-in-law wants. You can do anything you want, if that does not involve hurting others in the process. And you should make it your day, yours and your spouses. What I did to incorporate dolls in to the party was a sort of a cake topper. We didn't have a cake and the dessert table was too unsteady for resin BJDs, but I took a barbie and made her a fancy wedding dress and an action man and painted him to look like my husband and gave him a Dollmore wig and made him.. not a tux as I didn't know how, but a frog prince outfit. And they were really cute and the action man kept the rings until it was time to exchange them. I don't care it someone in the family thought they were childish or unsophisticated, it's just a party.


What is important for love and commitment is what comes after the wedding anyway.

 

My husband and I got married on June 2nd and I did bring my Bobobie Mei She was wearing an exact copy of my wedding dress, except that hers is pink/white and mine was white/blue. One of my best friends was keeping an eye on her all the time, and nothing happened to her at all. We also have some pictures of her with us, but as soon as my husband forwards those to me (we only received them from our photographer yesterday) I will start a new thread and post the link here. So this is a preview picture Dress by the same lady who made my wedding dress and face-up by my lovely, talented friend Miriam Bos of Sweetly Twisted.
I absolutely loved having her with me that day ^-^

 

She's gorgious. Even though I'm not a fan of the colour pink, she's beautiful!

I think when I get married, there will be guests who also own BJD's so we might set up a doll sitting corner or something .

 

Thanks, TMar!
Here is the link to the thread: http://www.denofangels.com/forums/s...e-(wedding-on-June-2nd)&p=6585405#post6585405

 

Shelly667, I think your Mei looks beautiful! It's great she shared your special day with you and your husband!

As for me, it depends...ONLY if I marry my boyfriend (together 3 1/2years now since the end of college), I will consider having 2 dolls at the bridal shower because their back stories are very close to our relationship (creepy thing is I came up with the characters 3 years before I even MET my boyfriend!).

Those two dolls are very very special so I would like to incorporate them or even a nice portrait of them (dressed in traditional Indian wedding clothes to match us) in our wedding album. Again, the situation would have to be very very specific for me.

 

>.< I'm getting married in a year or two. [My fiance keeps changing from 2011 to 2012 and stuff.]
I'm sure I will have my doll incorporated into everything. I'll probably have one of my friends hold her as well. XD

 

I think for those who have incorporated their dolls in their wedding, it's adorable!

That being said, I would personally never have dolls at my wedding. Mostly because of the risk of something happening to them, and also even if I were to appoint a "doll-sitter" to them that would be no fun or fair to for whoever got the position. They wouldn't be able to do anything besides sit around and watch my dolls all night. And I wouldn't want to worry whether or not they got back to my house safely. I'd rather store them away myself since I'm a natural worrier. It'd be just like how I'd never allow pets at my wedding. Some of my friends are allergic, and too many mishaps can occur for my tastes. But this is just me being me.

 

No; if I'd had dolls then I would not have used them in the wedding. Besides there being several young children in attendance, my mind was everywhere and anywhere; the husband and I didn't even realize we hadn't eaten until loooong after all the adrenaline wore off. I would not have even thought of the dolls unless someone mentioned them or when we were all cleaning up. It would have been a pretty picture, though, to have a boy and a girl doll standing or sitting near the guest book. Things were a little on the non-traditional side at my wedding as is, so it probably would not have stood out much.

 

Hehe...so funny I stumble on this while browsing for the first time in a little bit.

My husband and I had our dolls at our wedding. We both enjoy them and since our wedding was small and held in a house, we didn't find ourselves worried about them. In fact, we encouraged those of our guests that owned dolls to also bring theirs as well, so we had a good turnout.

We did make a point to put up a small sign asking that people not handle the dolls unless they were adding or removing their own.. but overall, given the environment (Victorian house with many antiques), it was easy to treat the resin beings like all the other pretty things in the house



It's a tricky situation and likely depends on the kind of event you are having. I was able to trust those that attended to not mess with the dolls, and the guests that we had that were doll-knowledgeable were kind enough to pack them for us at the end of the evening so we didn't have to worry over them. But your mileage may vary.

 

Saibysai - that's a lovely photo, and your wedding sounds lovely too.