Asking for a doll as a gift: okay or rude?

i think its ok, like if you ask some one in CLOSE family like your mom or your dad.
or even your husband or wife :3
as long as your family has the money for it, dont ask when your struggling paying bills and car payments ; 0 ;

i did as my dad for a Bjd for christmas, tho i think he took it as a joke when he saw the $$$ but idk it would be nice suprise lol

 

I think I'm with the majority in saying "it depends."

I don't think it's at all rude when it's a gift-giving occasion or the person has expressed an interest in buying you something, and the cost of the doll is within the typical price range you have established for gifts.

Most people who are buying gifts for a loved one want to get something the person will really like, if they can. If you're upfront about what will make you happy, it's actually easier for the gift-giver to please you than if you hint around or make them guess. Speaking from the position where I've been the gift-giver rather than the recipient, if someone is spending that much on you, I think it's actually more helpful to tell them what you really want, rather than just frittering their money away on trinkets you won't enjoy as much.

If they're buying you a significant gift, most people would rather get you a gift you'll treasure, and it can actually be less stressful for the gift-giver if they have some guidance.

That said, I do think it's questionable if you just request the gift unsolicited (asking the person to buy you something expensive when they haven't expressed a desire to do so) or the price vastly exceeds the established gift budget you've set between you. If it's a much more costly gift than you usually exchange, I think it's better to ask for money to put in your fund to save up, than to ask for the whole thing to be paid for.

 

I'm only comfortable asking my family to buy me anything doll-related. Other than that, even if one of my friends wanted to buy a full doll for me, I wouldn't let them. It would feel weird having a doll that a friend of mine spent a few hundred dollars to buy - even if they were well-off and could easily afford it.

I think that, if a friend did want to buy me something doll-related, the most I'd ask for would be a head. Most heads are around $100, so I wouldn't feel terrible about them buying it for me. And even with that, I'd try to give them money for shipping, since shipping will cost a decent sum as well.

I think it's OK to make the request if it's someone you know and who know you very well, like close family, or friends. For me, I think the only time I'd ask for anything doll-related is during a gift-giving holiday, such as Christmas or my birthday.

 

Well, if you had the courage to ask initially, then I think you must really have a strong bond with your brother. Which means its probably not really a bad thing.

 

oh yes the combining of the presents! i used to hate that as a kid! well at least we can buy something
dolly orientated eh!

 

Asking for an expensive gift depends on the circumstances and we cannot judge a situation without knowledge of the circumstances. We are individuals living with constant circumstances and only we understand those circumstances and what lines cannot be crossed with those around us and for what reasons said lines cannot be crossed. It's not really a subject that can be answered by strangers who have a paragraph's woth of knowledge as to the situation. It's purely circumstantial! What's good for one is bad for the next guy - for reasons that we cannot be the judge of.

My motto is "It doesn't hurt to ask."

 

my sisters b-day is one day before mine, we always had combined birthdays ; ;
I usually ask for doll money as a gift, since no one gets me something as expensive as a whole doll. (understandably). I don't think it's rude because I wouldn't mind a friend or family member saying they wanted money to save for something they really liked.

 

Think who you are going to ask, in my opinion. They are very expensive

 

Well I think it doesn't hurt to ask but it depends on who u r asking. I mean my bday is three days before Christmas so I often ask for a combined gift. When I was kid my mom used to get me American Girl dolls for my b-day and Christmas or like buy me the doll for one and assessories for another though my sister would probably get me assessories but not a doll my mom would probably since she doesn't like them give me some money if I asked for it but she thinks they are frivlous wastes of money as I am no longer a child. Sooo I guess it depends on who it is that u are asking for the doll from.

 

I, like everyone else, think it depends on your family's financial situation.

If you come from a family that has plenty of money, go for it! It's worth a shot! If you come from a family that struggles, nope nope nope. ​

 

I prefer to earn for dolls and buy myself, never received them as a gift and not sure that I want it...

 

Hmm I agree everyone's saying it depends on the financial situation... and I also agree that it's rude when you know someone close to you has money and you just beg them to get you a doll. Bbbuuuttt around the hollidays and stuff I think it's a little different... Like around my birthday and Christmas my family and friends are always going... What do you want for [this event]?? and it used to be like art supplies/photography stuff but now it's kinda switched to BJDs... which it isn't WRONG to tell them the truth... If that's what you want it's what you want... But most of the times if I ask for stuff it's not FOR a bjd it's more like stuff for my bjds... like clothes, or something a little more affordable for them... Although I have gotten a doll body for one of my floating heads for a gift before ^.^ I guess alot of it is just making sure they understand they aren't being HELD to the expectation of giving you a doll... If they do awesome! If they don't that's ok too!

 

I asked my boyfriend (now my fiance) and family to help me complete the payment for my first doll...So, I don't think that it's rude.
For the body that I am actually waiting my fiance paid half and I the other half.

If I could pay the full doll I wouldn't ask for the money.

 

I realize the original question is a bit old now, but this is an interesting topic.

I agree with most people that it completely depends on the situation. My first (and only right now) doll was a gift from my parents. Now, I'll admit that I ask my parents for things every now and then (a new game, clothes, etc). Sometimes I feel wretched about it because they give me so much and I'm sort of in the habit of asking them for things, but the fact of the matter is, in my family, children have never gotten allowances. We've always just been expected to do our chores, do people favors, be polite, and do well in school (seriously, a 'B' was no laughing matter in my family). In return, my parents will buy us things. It's not a matter of, 'Oh, well you should save up your allowance to get that,' it's a matter of, 'Oh, well you can get that if you get all As'. But of course, I would never get something I wanted if I didn't let my parents know that I wanted it by asking for it.

So for me, it was always proportionate to how well I was doing in school, how well-behaved I'd been, etc. My first doll was a gift, technically, but it was also part of a deal with my parents. I told my parents I wanted one, and they told me that they'd get me one if I got a scholarship for college. Lo and behold, I worked my butt off and earned that scholarship, so as promised, my parents bought me a doll (he was also sort of a joint Christmas/birthday/graduation gift, lol). In a situation like that, I don't feel that I was rude to ask for such an expensive gift. Now if I had been failing my classes, never doing my chores, being a generally rude kid, that would've been an entirely different story.

I think it really just depends on who you're asking it from, and how you ask for it. And then of course, be conscious of finances. I knew that my parents could afford something like that, but I'd never ask anything of someone like my uncle, who struggles to pay for his own house.

Personally, as I said, I've never gotten allowance, or a part time job, because my parents always just wanted me to work my butt off in school and be a generally good child. They didn't think it was high-priority for me to save up my own money for things; they'd just reward me by buying stuff now and then. Of course, it was very rarely something so expensive as a doll; I got 'no' plenty of times when I asked for anything they didn't think was worth it. :P I do look forward to getting a part time job in college, and hopefully that'll give me a little spending money to save up for future dolls.

Well, I've just been rambling on a bit about my own experiences, but as someone who's never really saved up for their own doll (or had the means to do so), I guess I just wanted to chip in. This hobby is much easier for self-sufficient adults to manage, I think, unless you're a kid whose family just happens to be kind of rich. ^^''

 

It is good friendship have with your brother! If he can afford it, and you fancy yourself that gift, why not? I have read what you have edited. Glad you're happier with the decision. I think it's great ^ ^

And congratulations on that brother!

 

I think it completely depends on the gift giving traditions that someone has that would determine how appropriate it is. Whenever I have been asked what I want, I always consider the asker, their means and the likelihood that they would feel good about getting me the gift that I asked for.

 

When I was ten up til I was twelve I got an American girl doll every year for Christmas. I'd pick an American girl doll for my collection and I'd recieve it...And they cost about as much as a Resinsoul BJD. For my 17th birthday this year I asked for one thing and one thing only.

This:

I don't think it makes me spoiled. My dad told me he never wanted me a month before my birthday so I think I was entitled to have a little bit of happiness. This hobby during a lot of dark times has kept my sanity in check and helped me focus on things other then dark and dreariness. I needed to feel good again and my mom got me Avalon as a birthday present. I even tried to insist I'd work it off I'd sell my things but she said: "No. It's your birthday present why would I make my daughter work for her birthday present?"

So this year I asked for an RS Qing for Christmas...Granted I gotta earn half the money but I don't mind doing the work. She's helping me buy it....That still means a lot...Especially since Shane is gonna be likely my only gift from my mom (besides maybe some shoes for her and a wig but that's it...I literally just want my Qing for Christmas and given my mom has attended meets and such she doesn't mind) and after the so far kind of cruddy year I've had...I think I kind of deserve to feel some joy.

I'm a teenager but I'm not one of those who complains and whines and begs for things. I understand that if I want something I need to try to earn it myself. But I also do not make it my primary goal. I'm happy with my doll collection currently and whilst I want a Qing I'm in no rush to get Shane home.

 

I agree with it depending on the situation. If out of no where you ask for someone to buy you a doll just because you want it, then I believe it is rude. If you ask for a doll for a special occasion (christmas or bday), it depends on the relationship with the person and the finances. If someone asks you what you want and you respond with a doll, again it depends on the finances (but the finances is something you have to consider before you answer, this is what makes it rude or not).

 

I only ask if it's within the budget of money they usually spend on me for the holiday. Such as- my grandparents bought me two dolls before. One for christmas, one for graduation. For both of these things, dolls fit within the amount of money they planned on spending, and they asked what I wanted. I don't think it's wrong at all, if they're already planning on buying you something, the item fits within the amount of money planned to be spent on you, and you're polite in suggesting a doll as the gift. If a friend happens to have received a large amount of money and you go up and beg them for an expensive gift, be it a doll or otherwise, that's rude. It's all about situation and the way you ask. Plus, just generally not asking for an item unless they've planned on buying you a gift and are asking for a suggestion.

 

I think asking for a doll as a gift entirely depends on who you're asking and what you're asking for.

I think it would be irresponsible and selfish to ask for something from someone when you know they couldn't afford it or could only afford it by sacrificing the money that should be spent on something else. If you think the person you're asking can afford the thing you want, and your relationship with that person is the kind of relationship where giving a large or expensive gift wouldn't be outside the realm of realistic possibility, then I think it would be okay to ask.

I personally would never ask for a BJD as a gift, mostly because I know that most of the people in my life can't afford it without sacrificing, and the people who can afford it don't have that kind of relationship with me, or have their 'play money' committed to their own rather expensive pastimes.