Asking for a doll as a gift: okay or rude?

I don't think asking for a doll as a gift is rude but then again it depends on who you're asking. I know I can't ask my family for dolls because none of us could afford such an expensive gift! So I prefer to ask for money to aid me in my saving up endeavors. In a sense it's like asking for a doll... or at least a part of it... without being too heavy on anyone's pockets.

 

Well I really wanted a minifee m line before they sold out- I asked my mum and my boyfriend if they would put some money towards her as a birthday gift so that I could afford to get her. There is only one condition- when she gets here once I have checked her over she has to go back in her box til my birthday in November. I don't really feel bad about it, my boyfriend was happy to give me the money for her, cos he understands how happy they make and my mum is always very supportive.

 

At the end of the day, my motto is to not really ever ask for any sort of gift. If you are asked "what would you like for___?" then answer modestly. If you want to bring up the dolls in another conversation, I think it is a little less aggressive, (like "I want THIS!"). If someone offers something that you consider rather expensive, perhaps decline or offer to pay for part of it. If they insist, well then, enjoy your amazing gift!

 

It depends on you asking, but to me. Since I came from a low-class middle family. I don't think my parents or relatives can buy that doll with that kind of amount.

 

I don't think there's any harm in just asking... Or if you ask for money to go towards your doll, and no directly for him to buy you a doll. If I had that much money on me, I'd buy my little sister a doll for sure. If I had a little sister.

 

It depends on who you're asking. I feel comfortable asking my fiance for a BJD as a gift, since he's offered before and he likes to get them for me. I would buy him an equally expensive gift in return for his birthday or Christmas. However, I would never ask my parents for anything BJD related, since they don't really understand what I get out of them and why I like them so much. Because I know they don't really feel comfortable buying me things for my BJDs, I would consider it to be rude to ask.

 

If you would ask for an ipad you might as well ask for a doll.

It does depend on the person and situation though. You don't want to ask somebody to get you a gift that they can't comfortably afford but I think many of us would like to spoil our loved ones a bit if we had the funds.

 

I don't think of it exactly as "rude" but definitely not ok.
I hate asking people for anything other than the occasional ride to/from school/somewhere really important or something really small and cheap that I really need (and I almost always pay them back quickly)

some people offer things to me often and I always turn them down unless I really need the favor/thing, my grandma offered to buy me my second doll and I told her no because it's just too much.
I'm certainly not rich and have never had a job but I save every penny I can for the things I want and if I don't have enough to fully cover the cost then I don't get it and keep saving until I do have enough myself.

 

The only person I would feel comfortable asking for a doll would be my husband and then I would only ask for Christmas. He would be happy I told him something I wanted so he didn't have to guess.

 

At this point in my life there is no one that would spend that amount of money on me, so I wouldn't ask for a doll. My parents used to spend a larger amount of money on me at Christmas, but they just recently took over a loan on our cabin (that my uncle took out behind our backs. Long story.) so they don't have the money to get us big Christmas presents anymore. We're all adults so it's no big deal.

However, I don't think it's rude for someone to ask for a doll for a present if the person usually gets large presents from people (such as a husband or from parents for Christmas presents).

Maybe it's a cultural thing (we live in the northern US), or maybe it just has to do with certain families, but in my family we don't really like to guess what to give people and ALWAYS ask parents what kids want for birthday presents. It saves on duplicates and having to return things later. Maybe we're just non-createve present-givers? LOL

 

I don't know about other people, but I don't celebrate my birthday or holidays, and therefore, never ask for gifts.

With that in mind, I know that if someone asked me for a doll as a present (even if we were very close), I'd probably be offended.



Just my $0.02.

 

Different families have different situations and for some a doll might not be an outrageous expensive wish. I would, personally, never ask for such an expensive thing. For my family gifts are simply not expected to be that expensive.
I don't think there is anything wrong to ask, if you know your family can afford it, and would feel comfortable with it.

 

I've asked for dolls and/or doll stuff before. I don't think it's rude, I mean they can spend the money on the doll(/stuff) that you do want, or they can try to guess and end up getting you something you don't really like and are going to sell.

I asked for Christmas last year, and my Mom ended up buying me $40 of dollie shoes, and my Nana bought me a Cherish Doll Beau.
(Well, technically, I told her I wanted the doll and how much she was, but my Nana didn't want to accidentally order the wrong one, so she had me order it and she paid for her.)

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Now, on the other side, my best friend got into BJDs last year, and had a wishlist of dolls, so I bought her a Mushroom Peddler doll for Christmas. I was more than happy to get her the doll she really wanted, and she ended up with a new member of her dollie family that she loves.

 

yes it's rude because the doll is too expensive to be given as a gift. I'd say ask for money during a day where gifts are exchanged and save up. Let them know what the money will be used for and that way they can set an amount that they feel comfortable with. That way you can thank them and they don't feel bad about not being able to afford it outright. As an example, one of my cousins married a rich guy in New York (his income alone is double ours). ALL of the things they registered for as gifts were WAY out of our price range and it made us feel really cheap/poor/ inadequate.

 

Um... It's your brother, a family member. It's more than reasonable to ask!! It's not like it's a stranger or a dolly friend. Then it's rude, and just awkward.

 

It sounds like he really wanted to buy something for you with some of the money, so I think you were fine in asking. I think it would depend on the person you are asking, how much the doll costs, and whether or not the person can afford it. I have asked my hubby to buy me a doll before, but would never ask a friend or someone who I knew couldn't afford it. :0)

Congrats on getting your doll, I am sure you will always treasure it!!

 

I don't think it's necessarily a rude thing if it's someone really close to you who understands how important the hobby is to you. For example my husband is buying me a Littlefee for Christmas and my Birthday(which is two days after christmas lol). I talk about certain dolls I want and or am trying to get for my doll family in the future and he listens to me. I tell him other things I want and need around the house too like clothes, curtain... etc. So it's not like dolls are the only thing I want him to get me all the time. But he wants to be nice and get them for me. We usually can't buy them right away and save up for them. Like last year he couldn't afford to get me anything at Christmas time and such so during the summer he got me a doll. I do however think that it should be mostly immediate family, S.O.s etc. Asking my Aunts, Uncles, or Cousins to get me a doll is pretty much out of the question, and DEFINATELY not my in-laws lol. I think it depends on each person for each situation. I know some people who's parents and S.O.s really aren't into dolls and such so would NEVER buy them. And there's nothing wrong with that, but I don't think it's rude to tell them what you really want. Especially if they asked you what you wanted for your birthday, or Christmas or something.

 

I agree with everyone and wanted to add you could also asked for a gift card for example from Denver doll or another company that sells dolls but has layaway if you would feel better putting that money towards a shop made for dolls rather then straight up ask for one.

 

Based on what you said, your brother seems more than willing so think it's completely fine! It's not in my nature to ask for things but I don't think it's something you should feel guilty over. Unless you overdo it of course! However, if this would just continue to make you feel guilty, then maybe you can earn some money bit by bit and give him something too c: doesn't matter if it takes time, it's the thought that counts!

 

The only person I would ever ask for a gift this expensive is my husband. My mother could never have afforded to buy one for me when she was alive even my dad I would not have asked to spend that much on me. My kids are in the early 20's so I tell them specifically to not buy me a gift. My kids usually have a picture taken of all three of them and give that to me framed. Instead I would maybe have asked for cash to help me buy one but thinking about asking for cash is a little odd for me. Christmas for me is about giving not receiving everyone gets so wrapped up in what they do or don't get that they lose the real idea of the holiday. If you have a family member who can afford it and you also buy expensive gifts for them maybe in that case you could ask for a doll but otherwise I wouldn't. I guess being an adult with adult kids it's a different situation than if you are still young. A member of our family actually suggested we buy an IPad for a child. I was shocked. They said if they got it for them that that would be their only gift and that would be bad for the child. I was a little offended that they even suggested it. We have 6 grown kids together in total to buy for and 4 grandkids. It's a little selfish to suggest anyone pay that much for one gift for a person when you have so many others to buy gifts for. I considered it rude to ask for so much.