Asking for a doll as a gift: okay or rude?

A lot of people think asking for something in particular as a gift is rude, but to be honest, its actually much easier for the person getting you the gift if they know what will make you truly happy. Say you know someone is going to buy you a gift no matter what, there is nothing wrong with giving them ideas.

I can't stand buying gifts for someone who doesn't know what they want or even have a particular interest. If I know exactly what they want I know my money won't be wasted on something they don't like.

 

No it isn't it just depends on who you're asking but I tell them anyways so I font end up with a crappy gift that I hate.

 

I'm battling something like this myself.

Sometime ago my uncle bought my brother a $200 smartphone. A pretty great phone for the price I picked out for my brother and he loves it, especially with such a large screen and in yellow which is hisbfavourite colour, but I digress.
Well my brother toldy uncle I'm into dolls. I was a bit worried since my uncles an ex marine and very manly(though he is a huge sucker for cats) until my uncle message me asking if I wanted a doll. I would have jumped to ask for a pukipuki or realpuki. But. I felt bad. So I didn't. I decided no to ask for it since bjd are expensive. I would rather ask for something I can make money from like craft supply to sell props and wigs and such.
In the end I'm gonna ask for supplies.

I think however if someone wants something they can ask for possibly parts. Like head only or body only. Or money to buy secondhand goods.
Also its better to avoid the other person who is not in the hobby from buying nonlegit dolls or those that could have been stolen or even a doll that one wouldn't like at all.
Everyone is different so it dear nds on the situation.

 

I'm glad it worked out for you! I understand what you mean, my boyfriend is getting me my first resin BJD this year, but it is for my birthday/christmas/our anniversary (five years next week!) and is a lower priced doll. He often gives me birthmas presents (my birthday is in December) and says he would rather get me something big that I really want instead of little things. I still got that guilt/panic feeling too though after he agreed! Eyes and wig too! He told me the more I asked if it was okay, the less okay it would be :P I had to order though because he is scared to mess it up. He was also upset to learn that they take a couple months to be made and it wouldn't be here in time! Like most people I think it comes down to context and relationship.

 

To answer your question "is asking for a doll as a gift from someone okay, or is it rude?" I think it depends on their financial situation, and on the person. Personally, I don't ask for gifts in fact my mom says when I was younger I wouldn't even accept money gifts from anyone, and when I receive gifts I feel immensely guilty and feel the need to pay it back or just not accept it. I know its rude not to accept gifts so I'm always conflicted . If he insists go for it, if you feel guilty taking the doll then the doll will remind you of that.

 

Remember when you were little and you wanted almost everything for you birthday? Did you get everything you wanted?
I think this works the same way. You can always ask.
If you will receive the doll you asked for....well the outcome may differ.
Personally I would really consider the circumstances and the amount of money that could be spend before I would ever ask a certain thing. Some great ideas have been issued when it comes to that; like combining the funds of multiple people.

 

It's cool to ask, but be considerate when asking. You never know what else is coming out of that person's pocket as well, so try to make sure it wouldn't be much of a burden. Make sure you aren't forcing them into a corner to buy you one, and that they're supportive of you and your love of dolls.

I know I wouldn't want to support someone's hobby if I didn't really think it was healthy or is against something. I.e. get you a doll when they feel you shouldn't like them or something.

Lastly, as long as you are open about it and let them know there's no hard feelings for saying no, because dolls can be a bit pricey then you're golden.

 

Yesterday my sister told me that her boyfriend's grandma wanted to get me a BJD for Christmas. She told her no, and I am glad that she did so because I think it would be kind of awkward. I mean, she's really nice, but getting something so expensive from her would feel weird for me.

If, for example, my mom and my sister pitched in to get me one, I think that kind of thing would be acceptable. But I wouldn't ask for a doll because they are such a big purchase. I might ask for clothing if they did ask if I wanted anything specific, but a doll is way too much to ask for. It has to be something people do because they want to do it.

The most expensive thing I ever asked for was a drawing tablet that was around $100. I asked for it as a High School graduation present since I had good grades and was graduating with honors. Other more expensive things like game systems were bought by myself by saving up or passed down to me by my older sister.

 

My mum knew how much i wanted my first resin, she knew some of the ins and outs from what i'd been telling her, and she gifted me some money in order to buy him in advance of my birthday, got him the month before. My girl i bought with money off my dad on my birthdy, since i asked for money off the family anyway. My third boy was my money and a joint split for his head off my friends~ ^^ The others were various other sources of income and saving etc

 

I think if you ask your SO or your grand/parents it's fine and not rude at all, but if you ask anyone else, I'd surely find that super rude and presumptuous.

 

I would never ask for a doll as a gift. Although if offered, I wouldn't refuse

 

My husband is the only person I would ever ask (and I have on a few occasions). He gets how happy they make me and that dolls are really the only thing I want. However, I've asked for items such as wigs, eyes, shoes and clothes if people really wanted a wishlist for some reason or other, since they're a bit more affordable and again, are the only things I'm usually interested in. Dolly on the brain, this one

 

I've asked my fiance for dolls but I've always kept them under a certain dollar amount. To be fair he has an equally, if not moreso, expensive hobby so it evens out.

 

I would only ask for a cheaper doll (which is not a bjd) because bjd are just too expensive as a gift. But if that person offers me to have one, I wouldn't mind... Saving money to buy my own bjd makes me feel better in some ways...

 

Even if my post is months too late, and Linzabeth feels less conflicted and happier with her choice, I will say that asking for a doll as a present will always depend on who you ask, what kind of relationship you have with that person, and how much they can afford to give (if they so desire), and if they are being sincere and they will follow through with their promise.

Communication is very important and so is trust. Being to insistent and pesky denotes bad manners, but if they are willing to give you a doll, never forget to show your gratitude.

 

Because my birthday is in December, I've been able to ask for dolls as a combined birthday/Christmas gift from my dad, who usually enjoys getting me one larger gift as opposed to my mom who likes to wrap up lots of littler things. This year I asked for a pukifee because he will be less expensive than last year and I was going to buy one next anyways (I already have all his clothes and everything!) Other than that, my roommate and I are planning to give each other dolls from the same size and company to make character dolls of Kaworu and Shinji from Evangelion (it was one of the first things we bonded over, haha!).

 

That depends of the price of the doll, and if you participate or not. For Christmas, the only thing I wanted was a doll, a MSD that will probably come AFTER Christmas anyway. Well I paid a little less than half of her price, my parents paid the other half, and it's the only gift I will have for Christmas.
So, if it's really the only thing you desire for a special occasion, then why not ? If it isn't too expensive and if you pay a part of it, I don't think it's rude to ask...

 

I believe that by mentioning your brother's golfing expenditures as a way of justifying his spending hundred of dollars on a doll for you as a gift is indeed coercive and manipulative especially since you mentioned it more than once.

If he offered you several hundred dollars as a gift and you bought a doll then I think that is ok. But otherwise, I think you may have over stepped that sisterly bond.

Just my humble old lady opinion.

 

I don't find it rude if you ask for a doll as a gift for your birthday or christmas or something like that, because those are gift giving occasions for many people and in most cases family members will splurge a little and spoil the person in question with something nice!
However, I would have to say that it does seem quite rude to say that he spends his money on expensive things for him so now he has to buy you a doll, since it is his money in the first place. I agree with lostkitten, if he gifted you some money then by all means spend it however you want, but the way you are asking for a doll doesn't seem correct in this situation.

 

I think it really depends on the situation and the person you're asking.

I've been told by both my parents and my partner that I'm hard to shop for. My dad normally gets me a nice electronic device for Christmas or my birthday (a new iPod, a drawing tablet, etc.), but since I'm not wanting for one this season, he came to me and asked if there was a doll I wanted. He told me he wanted me to pick one out and order it, because he wanted to make sure I got a doll I wanted, and that it wasn't a bootleg. In this case, I found it completely appropriate to ask for one, though I made sure to pick a relatively "cheap" one, to be considerate.

I feel like asking for a doll as a gift would be...I don't know, kind of over-the-top, to me. I've been offered dolls/partial payment for dolls as a gift, but I've never gone out of the way to ask for one. They're just too expensive for me to, in all good conscience, feel okay about asking. Even a "cheap" BJD would weigh too much on me--most people don't just have $100-$200 to just drop on an incredibly luxury item for someone else.