Asking for a doll as a gift: okay or rude?

I find it depends on the person who's asking. Like I would never ask someone for a bjd (actually, a friend of mine almost did and I had to actually tell him not to because I'd feel too awful for him to spend his well earned money on me like that,) but if my mom or boyfriend ever asks what I want, I'll usually respond that I'm looking for a bjd head, but I want neither of them to help me. I only mention it in case I start talking about how I really want it and can't keep my mouth shut about it, it's never a guilt thing.

It's a different story if people give me money, as I'll use that towards a bjd if I have one in mind at the time. I feel better doing it that way as the person gave me the money to buy something I really want (and it was their choice of the amount they gave me,) and the money definitely won't go to waste!

 

I don't think it's wrong to ask. It's never wrong to ask. But to put pressure on someone? That would be wrong. It's also not great to give them as gifts unless you are pretty serious about it. Like they say in the knitting hobby "never make your boyfriend a sweater". Which means don't feel entitled to, or make huge gifts for people unless you are 100% sure they can handle it, are cool with it, and will be nice about it.

I bought my sisters grail for her as a gift, and although we now have a strained relationship. I still feel as though I showed her I loved her in the biggest way I could, and so don't have any regrets no matter what happens.

 

I think it depends on the situation

 

Depends on the person. I'm happy to get my sister a doll as a gift and even close friends now that I have come into money. I'm not gonna buy someone I hardly know a doll though.

 

Wow. A lot of people on this post just really went all out on the jerk factor. Good for you for asking, and I'm happy he decided to get you a doll. You were not in the wrong, because it's his money, and all you did is ask; it's not like you stole the money from him. Some people don't understand that family is generally more caring than friends and probably more likely to get you a present like a doll than a friend- I feel people are posting their opinions from the "if my friend asked me" perspective. The people who posted who were being mean are just that. I would ask anyone for a doll for a present if they were willing. Congrats on the Mars, his sculpt is lovely!

 

I'm glad it turned out okay! I definitely don't think that you were in the wrong to ask for one, though I would've probably given him a range of options (cheaper to more expensive) just so he can choose what he is willing to pay rather than make him think it's one doll or nothing.

Your brother sounds like a really nice guy and you're lucky to have such a sweet sibling. Treasure him.

 

I never asked for a BJD as gifted but my boyfriend already proposed to offer me one for Birthday or Christmas. I accepted once as it was for a quite cheap BJD so I was quite comfortable with it offering me a doll, but I won't be comfortable if he proposes to offer me an expensive BJD. I know he could propose it but I'd rather accept him to pay only a part of the doll and not a full expensive doll.

 

I would never ask for someone to buy me a doll, family or otherwise. I wouldn't call it rude but I wouldn't feel comfortable asking someone for a doll knowing how much they cost. I'm fine with people giving me a tiny bit of money instead of a gift for special occassions though. It helps me save up for the items I'd love to purchase someday. I don't mind if it takes me years, I love having the satisfaction knowing I saved up and worked hard for it. It wouldn't feel like my doll unless I had to work hard before being able to afford it. This is different for everyone though so if you feel no guilt about having someone buying you a doll, then by all means go for it. I experienced first-hand that I can't handle my family gifting me a doll, I kept feeling like I owed them so much so I eventually ended up repaying them.

 

I'm on the guilt ridden bandwagon. I would never presume to impose the cost of these dolls on someone else. I feel bad enough accepting rent money from my live in boyfriend knowing he knows what I spend on these guys! (I know that makes zero sense, I can't shake it!)

That being said, I have had significant others that shared this hobby with me and did gift tiny dolls to me. It was sweet and something I would do in return.

 

I would feel horrible to ask someone to buy me a doll, even a tiny one.
The only thing I might ask for is doll clothes, or accessories. Even then I would feel guilty for asking.

 

For me it really depends upon the circumstances, and the people involved. My dad has a lot of expensive hobbies and is all about pursuing interests. If it were around Christmas and there was a tiny that was a reasonable price, I think he'd be okay with buying it for me, because he knows about the hobby and thinks it's cool. I wouldn't feel guilty asking my parents for an inexpensive bjd as a gift, but I don't really intend to ask just because I don't mind funding it myself. It helps me learn to really weigh my financial decisions, and budget my money. Sure it's frustrating when I miss out on an event or a limited doll or something due to lack of funds, but that's just how the hobby works sometimes. I wouldn't feel comfortable asking anyone other than my parents for a bjd, though, just because of how expensive they are and also most of my relatives that I actually exchange gifts with don't "get" the hobby.

 

I don't feel comfortable with for asking clothes and accessories either. Asking my family for a 20$ outfit is just plain ridiculous knowing that 20$ is worth a meal for a few days. You can't eat fabric or resin after all.

 

I see alot of it's rude to do comments and i don't want to be another one of some sort. but i am going to share with you an experience i had with my boyfriend not so long ago. It was about to be our one year anniversary together and i wanted a gift to be rather special for the special day. I wanted a doll. After practicing talking to my mirror i have worked out my courage and ask my boyfriend for the gift i wanted... a doll.. he wasn't that happy to hear that i wanted a doll because he knows they are expensive but he also wanted a special gift he wanted an ipad the new one which costs much much more than what the doll costs.

He immediatly put me in place. I am not saying that he was rude for asking me what he wanted because i asked mine. in the back of my head i was hoping he would buy the doll for me but i was taken back when he named his price and i excused myself. He obviously laughed it off and asked for his real gift , to buy him his hobby yu gi oh cards. rare edition. Ofcourse they where expensive for just 5 cards but i done it because i felt go guilty that i have asked him to buy me a doll for our special day and also because i love him and wanted to show him how sorry i was and stupid of me to ask for such a thing. At the end of our special day i ended up with a totoro plushie and bag (which still wasn't enough of the money i've spent on his). which btw i picked out because he hadnt bought me anything at all..

My realization is that if i wanted a doll i should buy it from my own money that i work hard for. A lot of people in my life refuse that i buy these dolls because they are wasteful and temporary hobby but that's what they think. It's great that your brother is going to buy it for you but i think it would have been better if you bought it on your own with your own money, would give you a special bond with your doll upon arrival saying that to get this doll you have went through heaven and hell just to get the money for it. Because in my view when you look at your doll upon receiving is going to be, my brother bought me this and for awhile i felt guilty for asking.

 

I have asked for and received a doll (Dollzone Wendy) from my friends for my birthday. However, it was the one thing I told people I wanted, and they got it for me as a group (which is not uncommon in our circle of friends, asking for one large gift that people can buy together), so none of them spent a massive amount of money on me.
I got one of my other dolls (IS Su XiaoDan) as a birthday gift from a close friend and her husband who knew I wanted her, but I never actually asked them to buy her for me. They just decided to do so, which was very lovely of them!

 

I think it depends on the family. For Christmas, we draw names so we can "spend more" on one person. I know I've spend more than a doll for others. Birthdays are usually a "chip in" situation. However, my related family would find the entire order process and wait too confusing. My husband will sometimes buy small dolls from dealers like Denver Doll because they're already in stock. So I never know what I might end up with.

 

If I had rich friends and family, I'd have no problem with asking for a doll. But my friends and family are of a modest income, so I'll ask for things like eyes and wigs. Got a couple of lovely wigs one Christmas.

 

My friend bought me a doll for my birthday! But id buy him one for his if he'd ask so its not something I'd feel guilty about because its equal. I wouldn't ask my parents because they'd complain it's a waste of money T-T

 

I think it's okay to receive dolls as gifts as long as you don't impose it on the person. It's better to come out of freewill. It feels nicer and happier that way. ☺ I think it depends on the relationship between you and the other party. If you're like super friends and are not shy towards each other, then I think it's okay.

 

For me it really depends on who you ask...

 

If you're still a teen and your parents are super rich, and it's Xmas/your BDay, why not ?

If not, don't.

BJD are too expensive for regular people.