Asking for a doll as a gift: okay or rude?

Yes it's ok, as long as it's for an occasion like Chirstmas or your birthday, and of course if the person has the money and is close to you.

 

Hmm good question! I wouldn't personally ask my boyfriend to buy me a BJD for my birthday or for Christmas. I would feel very guilty, I would save up the money myself, because only one person can truly enjoy the doll and they are expensive. I also know that he would want something else for the money, that we both can be happy about and enjoy together.

But if your parents, boyfriend/girlfriend really wants to buy you a BJD as a Christmas present or for your birthday then it's fine, as long it's ok for them with the prizes, I think that's very sweet of them!

 

I don't see it as rude if you personally don't ask for one. My boy friend has bought me three of my dolls one for my birthday and two on Christmas. He doesn't see it as buying something expensive, he sees it as a gift to fuel my hobby. I try to do the same and get him action figures of anime or comic book characters and those can get pricey as well. We buy each other these expensive things to one give a goos surprise gift and two to fuel our hobbies because be care about them.

 

I don't think it's rude to simply state you're interested in a doll as a gift...I think what would be rude is pestering someone about it, or ONLY accepting the doll as a gift and not taking anything else. The way I work is I don't ever actually ask anyone for gifts. I let them come to me and be like, well what do you want? I'll say something along the lines of, I'm not sure, to there's something I had my eye on it's "..." I've never asked for a doll, but I think the surefire way of being able to get a doll as a gift is to just get money as a gift, that way you can use it however you want, on a doll, on anything. However asking for money instead of a gift is a whole new bear on its own. I'm happy getting whatever from people, it's the thought that counts.

 

Is it bad I am just demanding that my parents that buy me a doll when I gradute culinary school as a congrats? I sadly do not feel bad at all

 

Most of my dolls are gifts. I show my husband what I want, and he has me buy it, then he gets it to put away for the next occasion. It takes the surprise out of gifting, but I do the same type of thing for him, and we both are delighted with what we receive.

 

I don't think it's rude tbh.
If they ask you want you want, you can't help but want a doll.
I already asked for my second bjd for Christmas and I might be able to buy one MYSELF for my birthday in a couple of months.
It all just depends on who you are talking to or asking.

 

i don't think you should ask your friends to buy you a doll as a gift, but my parents asked what i wanted for my birthday and i was honest and said a doll, because in was turning 18 they didn't mind it being a bit pricey. I will probably as for the same as a x-mas present if they ask, but pay for part of it if this is the case.

I see no problem saying what you want for your birthday if your asked

 

I jokingly mention a sculpt I'm in love with to my roommate as a birthday gift but I wouldn't ever expect someone to actually buy me a doll. I could maybe see something like that from my parents or significant other but my friends and I don't exchange such expensive gifts.

 

I think it's perfectly okay to ask for a doll as a gift for birthday or Christmas, especially if it's from someone who is close to you and would spend that money on you anyway.

That said, I off-handedly asked my mom if she wanted to get me an Island Doll An An for my birthday, since she's small and relatively cheap. She said yes and was happy I suggested something because she had no idea what to get me, and 160$ isn't that odd to spend on a child's birthday. I still feel a little guilty since I know we're beginning to cut back and I'm not very good at controlling my budget (although in my defense - I'm trying to get better, and it's hard when you're sick and need to buy things like solid new shoes. 200$ or not, I would have been in pain otherwise, and it was solely because a four year old pair had finally given up.) But since all I'm getting is a doll and maybe a couple books, and I'm getting a job in September, I don't think I should feel bad at all.

My best friend, also in the hobby, has bought me a wig and clothing before without prompting. I haven't returned the favour yet, but I want to! Although, now I feel guilty about wanting to sell the wig. It's beautiful, but doesn't suit the doll anymore..!

 

I don't think it's rude. If you ask someone that someone can get with someone else to chip in for what you would like. I would just be open about what you want. If it isn't possible then be cool with it. Some people have a budget. So pick clothing or wigs. That a little cheaper

 

I would personally never ever ask for a doll as a gift. It comes down to the fact that these are expensive luxury items that are more than likely only going to be enjoyed by one person. When I'm talking about dolls I'm always mindful to phrase things in such a way that it's clear that I'm not asking for gifts. I'd also feel guilty if I was given a doll as a surprise gift even though I hadn't asked, partially for the above reason, but I guess in general I'm not good at receiving gifts, it always makes me feel guilty. To me this applies to everyone, I'm no more likely to ask my most financially stable uncle for a doll than I would be to ask my practically broke boyfriend or my parents.

On the other side of the coin though, I wouldn't think someone was rude if they asked me for a doll as a gift (assuming I could afford it, and I was close with the person), I like giving gifts and for someone who loves these dolls that'd make a wonderful gift and I know it'd make them happy. I also don't find a problem if I see that someone else has received a doll as a gift, that's awesome for them and I hope they enjoy their new doll.

 

Your brother sounds like he loves you a lot! Enjoy your doll
Also, I don't think it's very rude to ask for a doll as long as it is someone you are very close to, who wouldn't feel obligated to buy it for you.

 

I think, like with most things, it depends on the situation. If the person gifting is financially stable and is happy to do so, you're not pressuring or guilting them or anything like that, then I can't see how it would be rude. So long as you don't pitch a fit if they say no or anything. I think maybe it's the kind of thing you'd be more likely to ask a parent for though, rather than a friend or a partner, but hey, everyone is different and everyone's relationships are different. If your sibling is got a new laptop for their birthday for example then I'd almost argue it'd be rude for you not to ask for something of a similar value!

 

I was raised to never ask for gifts, so asking for a doll as a gift is a little off to me. If it's someone who's asking what you want and is willing to throw that much money around then I'd say more power to you, but I'm never around those sorts of people :P

 

It's all in context to me.
I don't think it's rude if someone offers to buy it. They offered, after all.
I don't think it's rude to ask within reason either: If you know the person can't afford to spend that kind of money on a gift or just plain isn't willing to do so you should refrain from asking. Especially if that person is easily guilt tripped into doing things. But if they got money to burn and they want to spend it on you...hey, it's their money. Nothing wrong with accepting kindness from others.

Personally though, I wouldn't ask. Mostly because I'm the kind of person who can't even ask "can you pass me that [thing] over there?" I just get up and go get it. The most dreaded questions I've ever been asked are "What do you want for your birthday?" and "What do you want for Christmas?"

 

No matter how much money a friend had, I cannot imagine asking for them to buy me such an expensive gift as a BJD. They are an expensive luxury item. If I want one, I will work, and save my money and get it. I just can not imagine feeling entitled to such an expensive object that I would ask a friend for one as a gift. If they offered, no, I just don't think I would be comfortable with that. I have known lots of people who have been gifted with a doll from a friend they later broke up with, and in every case they felt uncomfortable and eventually sold the doll. I would not want that sort of thing to happen. I am not saying that accepting a doll as a gift would be wrong for other people. I just don't think I would be comfortable with it myself.

 

A BJD is kind of too expensive to ask it as a gift from someone. ): Unless someone has gifted a doll to me on their own accord, it should signify that they are fully aware of the price and still decided to buy it for me anyway, then I am alright with it. But even then, a BJD is so expensive and yeah I'd feel really bad about knowing they spent so much on something for me. ):

 

I wouldn't ask for a doll, because they are generally pretty expensive, but my wife has purchased clothes and accessories for my dolls in the past as gifts for me and those were very appreciated!

 

If I were to ask for a doll, I'd be willing to pay for part of it. I'd feel bad having someone spend that much money on me.