Bonding and YOU.

Hi, I just ordered my first BJD, a Dollmore Asha.
I have a two year old daughter, and a cat. I am worried that i will be afraid to play with Ayla when she gets here, and that we won't bond, and the whole thing will be a disaster. Please help! I'm afriad that my toddler will break her, or feel neglected if I pay attention to the doll, and ect...
AND, i don't want her to think that the doll is for her to play with, Ayla is my doll.
Does that sound harsh? Please help!

 

Dragonprincess, I can understand your concerns...being somewhat familiar with the behavior of two year olds, I can see the potential for problems. These dolls are most definitely NOT for small children...I guess it may depend on your child's personality but it could be an issue that she will want the doll or be jealous or something. All you can do is wait to see how it goes when you get your doll. Possibly, you will need to put the doll away until your toddler is asleep or off doing something else. It's hard to say. I hope everything works out okay and you are able to bond with your new doll...keep us posted on how it goes!!! Oh, and I think your artwork is fantastic!!!


:grin:


Az

 

Toddlers and a dolls--a strange combination. However, what has worked for me and my son is that I got him his own doll (one of my extra B**** Boy dolls) for him to play with when I play with any of my own dolls. He dresses and undresses the little guy, makes him talk to my dolls, then goes back to doing his own thing. But he also knows that Mommy's dolls are not for him to play with.

But get your daughter a doll to play with that's just hers. It's what some of the other doll-collecting moms I know on other forums have done, and it seems to work. Just keep your doll out of reach while your daughter is awake until she gets used to the idea that it isn't hers. Also, I think you may want to play with your doll at the times when your daughter is play with her own toys, or isn't demanding your attention. It will get easier as she gets a little older, and she may want to be involved when you are dressing her, but it's pretty easy to teach them to look and not touch.

And enjoy your doll, even if it's only for three minutes between one crisis or another. And just think, this may be somethin g you and your daughter can share as she grows up.

 

I wasn't bonding with my Sakaki at all when I first got him.
But the day after, my best friend came over and she really liked him and told me she thought he was beautiful and he was the only doll she's ever really liked.
That boosted my confidence in him, and then we took him to the coffee shop and spent a little quality time.
I brought Takeo too, or he would of tried to Shank Yamato when we got back for getting more attention xD;

 

Dear Ecchan

could you post a picture of xavier??? because I'm about to get Si myself.
is he si(F)???

aerith

 

He's not the fullset, but the oly difference is the clothes ^^;;
He also has custom makeup. You could get it back when I ordered. =w=

 

I think this advice sounds very wonderful to me. I don't have any kids, but I have friends who do, and I think it is important for them to learn that not EVERYTHING belongs to them, and some things are not for playing with. My friend Paige has lots of dolls that she didn't want Faith to play with, so Faith always had a lot of her own dolls that were "jsut faith's" and that worked out really well.

 

Dear Ecchan

Wow! I think he's adorable. Just as I imagined.
good to hear that you're starting to bond with xavier.
can't wait until I get one

 

Aerith, if you want to see more photos of a Si[f], I have some shots of my Neph-kun up here.

 

wow! he looks very mature. he is the most mature looking si that I saw so far.
almost looks like SD13
such a handsome boy.
thanx I enjoyed the pictures

 

Sometimes dolls just aren't who you think they'll be. EWhen i got my doll, she wasn't who i was expecting at all. Even though i loved her to bits from the moment i saw her, I had a hard time getting a feel for her personality, until i made her a wig. I had some leftover yarn from a haloween costume and ended up making her a wig with blond dreds, and it was like, *poof* as soon as i put the wig on her she came to life. I don't know if it's because i made the wig myself or because it just looks so perfect on her.

~Erin

 

I'm sorry but, that not a Si ^^' That's a Hoo wearing Si's clothes ^^'''

 

Yup,Caucau-chan is right. ^^;; The eyes are TOTALLY different!

 

Well that's funny - because he was advertised on eBay as a Si[f] (auction listing is still up here ), and he came with all of the Si[f] clothing and wig as advertised, complete in his bag. All I've done is put a new Poshdolls wig on him for those shots. Are you sure it's not just an effect of the lighting?

[Edit]: OK, yes, you're right. Having had a closer look at the DOD site, I can see the eye shape is different. The monetary value of the dolls is the same, so I don't think I've been "diddled" there, but now I'm a bit annoyed. I had a problem when he first arrived in that the wig was missing and I had to chase up the seller to send it on, but I never considered that I'd perhaps been sent the wrong doll!

Still, never mind; he was bought for a special commission for a friend and she says the face is right for what she wants, so no harm done.

 

Definitely a Hoo.
But damn, I like Hoo's alot better anyway. Maybe its fate!

 

After one year of saving, I finally had the chance to purchase an FCS SD13 boy doll.
I received him a few days ago: he's beautiful, exactly what I wanted, with his strawberry blonde hair and light blue gray eyes.
Moreover, he's got the angelic face I was looking for.
Well... Strange but true, I don't know if I'll ever be able to bond with him!
You see, all of the BJDs I bought before him were pre-owned, and therefore had developped very strong personalities, whereas this one is somewhat like a newborn baby: seems not to have a personality at all...
You see, I never "created" a personality for any of my dolls: I just accepted the personalities they showed me as soon as they arrived, or within the first days they stayed with me.
But this boy seems so quiet!
I don't know what to think of him, he hasn't spoken to me yet...
And so, even if he is an F16, I found out I keep on drooling over every other F16/F28/Lucas/Chris and Kai on the Internet.
I feel so silly!
Will I ever be able to fall in love with him?
What would you suggest me to do?
Have you ever had similar experiences with a MIB or an FCS doll?
Many thanks in advance for your kind help,
hugs,

 

Maybe he's just a quiet boy? You know, the shy type?

chris

 

Probably he is... ops:

Thanks for your kind message!

 

Maybe you're just shy with him? Since he's the one you've been drooling over, and bought brand new maybe your's/his expectations were different? I was like that with my boy (DOD U)...I saw him and drooled and lusted. I was shy when I got him because I was still O______O even though I loved him I was kind of afraid of him!
I got over it. I slept with him, and took many pictures to find out his rang of motion and balance and what not! I know him well now, and his personality really developed to me.
Hope my experience can help :grin:

 

Barbara,
Post pics of him.....and ask for people to write a background!
Then, pick the one that you think fits him best, and VOILA!
<plus, sounds like fun!>

Michelle