Bonding and YOU.

ok time for another long winded post by ME!

i still consider my self a newbie... ok maybe a rookie... um my first doll arrived in JAN... so it hasnt been too long.

anyway. my 1st doll Moon the shiratori took me 4 months to save for. well after attending the bjd revolution pannel at otakon... i was set... i was gonna start saving for a dollfie. so i put all the left over money i had from that into a bucket... along with all the tips i got from work and 25-50 dollars for each bi weekly paycheck. I had my heart set on the shiratori but i figired she was to had to get... she had the face that made me almost want to cry.

looking at her pic made me instantly think of a character from my fav book. WHICH MADE ME HAVE TO HAVE HER. so it was instant bonding right there. but since i figured id never get to get her.... i settled for a nono. so i was saving casually, until one day my frined on here (chibistarpower) was like someone is selling an angel on DOA. so i signed up and my first post was to buy her ^^. that was in like NOV. and i did a 4 payment plan. 700 dollars for the doll.

so essentally waiting for me made me already love her... when her clothes and wigs would come into the mail while waiting for her made me happy. and they day she came home it was instant love. she had this look like she knew me well. and i just loved her to peices the instant she was in my arms. so bonding with her was easy.

my AR ren girl on the other hand wasnt. i kept this to my self mostly becuse alot of people on here knew how i was freaking out over getting them. XD. my boy isnt here yet. but i recived the girl ren recently.

i found out they were gelling the GAs one last time so i flipped out and scrapped allt he moeny i had together... moons buy a husband fund... gone 2 of my paychecks GONE.... a loan for 150 from my dad gone... so i could afford the dolls. ( i was glad they were delyed in the last sale of them.. it gave me time to save tips!) 975 for the 2 of them. @_@

she came... and well she was pretty... but it was just wierd. i would read how poeple werent bonding with thier dolls and think they were crazy. but for like the first week i finally understood them. she was very pretty... but i was sort of disapointed on how i spent almost 500 dollars on a doll that couldnt move... yes when i first got her she was VERY stiff... i still struggle moving her head. and she had this mean kind of look to her face. but i figured once i get her in her right wig and eyes she will be fine.

she is still in her defult stuff. and i played with her but she didnt seem as alive as moon did to me. and my moon is FULL of exppression. anyway... the day i recived word from AR that my ren boy was shipped i looked at my ren girl sitting at my comp desk... and suddenly she didnt seem as mean or mad as she did before. shes a doll and they cant change their expressions. but suddle it seemed like her mood lightened. prob cause her twin brother was coming home.

she too is based off another character. she is me, or how i would like me to be in the book i wrote. gods my post is already ridicoulslly long but gah this is how we bonded: (dont laugh) iv been searching for a long lost "internet love" basicly my first love... sine he dispaeared off the face of the net years ago. and i picked up my search for him again recently.9ya im obsesed with finding him XD). and i was going thur all theses sites (oh ya ps i wrote him in my book) and then i looked at moonlight,,, and it dawned on me that created this book partly becuase i could control the relationship of me and david. and i could make it how i canted to be... and i wanted to get dolls of the characters in the book so i could see in in reality. "see waht i couldnt have in real life"

right then i was like aww moonlight i love you! i dunno why, but thinking about that made me love my AR ren. and now i cant part with her shes my new baby.

ok well thats my worthless long winded post for ya!

 

I wanted a Shiro Tachibana even before I knew that I wanted Ryo to be him, after looking at a few owner pics of other Shiros Heh, that face said 'Ryo'

I've bounded with my boy before he came to me as head, In my stories he was a boy that needed someone to look after him, he was clingly shy type.
I'd hate to admit it, but he's sorta like a replacement for my younger brother whom I've raised....I miss him.

I don't feel so lonly since Ryo came to live with me. I look after him, and make sure that he's happy. ( Though his happiness is to see me happy.....he says it's something of "A Tenshi's promise.") He also is very encourageing....which is good becase I've still got to pay off my Visa card that I used to buy him ops:

I don't think He' liked it very much when he arrived painted-up as a girl *lol* I re-did his make-up a few times. I still need to refine it...
He's on a plush body that I made for him, the second one that looks better and is closer to the size of an SD13. I am now in the proces of getting Ryo a body so that I can have a whole Shiro-doll.

 

You're not the only one then - my first doll, Ayame, arrived in March!

I think I started to bond with her very shortly after I placed and paid for her order with Obitsu; I started buying wigs and things straight away. I didn't go overboard though; a pair of shoes, underwear, a pair of trousers, and a couple of wigs.

When she arrived in the UK, I was so excited that I travelled all the way to the Parcelforce Worldwide depot in Romford by train to collecther in person. I took her blonde wig and the trousers with me (the underwear and shoes were coming from Obitsu and were in the box with her). I bought a new blue silk scarf and a costume jewellery scarf at Liverpool Street station on the way so she'd have a top and belt; and the moment I'd paid her custom duty fees and collected her, I had her out of the box and dressed! She didn't have a face-up yet, but I carried her home on the train in my arms rather than in her box. You can see a photo of how she came home here. Her first faceup was done in the space of about an hour, and I took her out with me again pretty much the moment the paint was dry, to come and meet my friends at the regular Tuesday Borders meet - and she's come with me to every Tuesday meet since then!

In fact, Ayame comes with me pretty much everywhere; she even shares my bed! Bonding hasn't been an issue at all. :grin:

Talula (my Serendipity Shall), on the other hand, has been a whole 'nother story. I'm afraid she's very much an example of why you should never buy a doll off eBay on impulse. I felt quite excited looking forward to her arrival - but oh dear. She looked very sweet and innocent in her photos - but "in the resin"... well, my boyfriend promptly dubbed her "Zombie Britney" and the name kind of stuck. He swears that she's secretly a mad axe-murderer or a psychotic bunny-boiler! It took a long time before I could even find a name for her. She's decidedly a temperamental, stroppy little thing. She doesn't look quite so "Zombie Britney" now she has her new wig, but I still wouldn't like to turn my back on her! It's only relatively recently I added her to my signature; and to be honest I'm still not sure that she's going to be staying with us.

I have a different problem with Neph (DOD Hoo); I'm bonding with him in spite of myself! He's not actually supposed to be for me; a friend lost her husband a month ago (he was a good friend of mine) and she's asked me to make a doll of him. Neph is supposed to be that doll - but as I've been working on him, I've found myself bonding with him! He's the one telling me not to give up on Talula just yet, as he's quite fond of her. I'm hoping there's not going to be trouble and temper tantrums when it's time for him to go to Kris!

There's a Dollfie Dream girl on her way to me presently - she should be here any day now. I'm planning to change her head for an Obitsu open-eye one, and I have a lovely pair of green 18mm glass eyes ready for her and her faceup all planned out together with a black wig (though Ayame got to model those today!); and already she's been whispering a name to me. I think she's going to fit right in - I just hope Ayame isn't going to be too jealous at having another girl to share me with!

 

Let's start with Yukito. He is the very first doll that I fell in love with. One of my friends posted pictures of him in her LiveJournal and I was just struck by how beautiful he was. He was this perfect little boy and I loved him. So I saved up all my Christmas monies and ordered him. Then the waiting began. After about a month or so I was already busy buying him clothing and obsessing about when he would arrive.

While waiting for my perfect little boy, I was wandering through several auctions and came across my Vincent. My perfect "adult" boy. I just about felt my heart fly out of my chest. Grandma loaned me some money and I saved up for a month from a variety of odd jobs. Vincent was mine and I paid extra to have him shipped overnight insured because I wanted him before Valentine's Day. He would be my lovie to share the holiday with. I admit that since Vincent arrived first he has gotten most of my attention. I still carry him around more frequently than the others. Somebody pointed out that he is my most valuable doll and I shouldn't take him out of the house. I love him too much to let him lay in my house in the dark. I want to show him off. He is snippy and rude sometimes, but I love him. He's my baby for some reason. When his lip paint chipped a while back I nearly had a heart attack.

A while later (about another month) I came across Gabriel (AGA Fairy Cookie) I was amazed by how tiny he was. I was so excited when he came home. Unfortunately, we never bonded. I was always afraid the cats would run off with him or I'd lose him because of his size. It made me cry a lot, but I've sold him. Maybe I'll order another Cookie in the future when Yukito forgives me. The only one Gabriel ever bonded with was Yukito. Yukito is pissed at me.

All this time passed and still no Yukito. It got in my head that I needed to learn to sew more clothing. So I bought myself a Koori head with birthday money. Sent her off to be painted by KirikoMoth who did a WONDERFUL job and soon my first girl was home. She's a sassy ice bitch. I love her ghetto booty and her attitude. She certainly keeps Vincent on his toes. Still, I don't get the urge to carry her unless she's wearing something I've sewn. Sure she is ligther than the others with her DD body, but I dunno. Yukito and Vincent are much more likely to be seen around town with me.

Yukito was the last of my children to arrive. I had so many clothes that when he came home I dressed and undressed him like twenty times and took pictures of him in all his wigs. I love my little guy. I'm still hoping he'll forgive me for selling Gabriel. *sigh*

Overall I guess I bonded with my boys more because I take them everywhere. When we are at home, Yukito normally plops himself in Vincent's lap and they bug me while I do things. I love them. Koori is a wee bit too aloof and Selene is just a head and therefore is yet to be "alive" in my opinion. Someday I'll have a body for her!

I guess that turned into a random babble about the arrival of them all. Suffice it to say I've bonded with my boys more than my girls. Same thing seems to happen IRL. Guess it is cause I'm always "one of the guys." *double sigh*

 

I guess I should finish up my stories for my last two dolls. Wouldn't be fair to leave them out, after all. ^^;

My fourth was my precious Lucas 1st, Andrei. If I didn't look at his face every day, I think I might doubt that he actually happened... it still seems so surreal to me. When I first fell in love with SDs in 2002, I was drawn in by Cassiel's beautiful Zafkiel, but my first real, honest-to-god love was the entrancing Lucas 1st. Other dolls came and went, but I never forgot that face. After the slight disappointment that was my F-28, Alexiel, I hoped to soon obtain a real Lucas, but all of the Lucas auctions and sales were well out of my price range. I had pretty much admitted defeat when I got an e-mail from Aimee. () She was to part with her Lucas, and since she knew that I desperately wanted one, she offered him to me. Naturally, I jumped at the chance. I paid him off in installments, and there were setbacks and delays that I still feel guilty for... bounced checks, expiring credit cards, all sorts of dilemmas... and then, finally, the balance was paid. Before he went into the mail, Aimee sent me a few photos of him getting all cleaned up and packed for the long trek from Cali for Florida. I almost burst into tears when I opened the e-mail. The two-year-long wait was finally over... and he arrived the day after my birthday. ^_^ I descended on the package like a woman possessed, pulled out the box, and soon revealed my long-awaited Lucas. And he was more beautiful in person than I could have ever imagined he would be. I think a lot of things make him particularly special to me... the long years of waiting somehow made it sweeter when he finally did end up here. And every time I think of him, I am reminded of Aimee's generosity, and how indebted to her I am, and how privileged I feel to have him, and to have such wonderful friends to boot! He is more than I could have ever hoped for... he's utterly irreplaceable.

And lastly, my Soony boy, Mitya. Mitya was a special case in more ways than one. For some time, his personality has manifested itself in my mind, and he has come and gone and taken various forms. For a while, I toyed with the idea of a modified Syo... then Kun came out, and I thought she would be it. I considered my options... SD13 boy body? SD body? CP body? And I hesitated... and I waited... and then, one day, I went to the Luts website, and as I went to hit the scroll button, my eyes locked on a picture, and I gasped. Soony. She was IT. It was like everything I had envisioned in my mind had become manifest, and I knew she had to be mine. I placed an order the day she became available and sold her body, leaving me with a disembodied little head. But, oh, it was a beautiful head. I could have scarcely loved him more. I pierced his ears and painted his face and put a wig on him, and he was my little Head-chan, my spoiled new boy. I took pictures of him (and posted them!), even though he had no body. I kept him by my computer so I could look at him... it was strange to be so taken with a doll with no body! I eventually sewed him a little cloth body to sit on until his real body could be ordered, and I swear, as silly as he looked, I adored him. I left on a trip for Europe shortly after he was granted his cloth body, and I had to bring photos of him with me because I missed him before I'd even left. ^^;;;; I was able to buy his body not long after I returned home. As soon as I finished restringing him, he put his arms out to me, and I grabbed him up and just held onto him for the longest time. It's rather like we've been waiting this long to meet each other, so we both bonded almost immediately. I'm glad that I waited... I couldn't be happier with how he turned out to be.

And that's it! Yayyy. ops:


~Kalmia

 

My doll story

I looked for months and months deciding which doll to buy, it was so hard. I first fell in love with the CH cosplay doll Eva from the manga Model. But sadly she was long long gone. my next love was Margo. I loved her so much. However, My family friends ect tol dme she was sad looking and most of my friends said she was absoutly terrifying. This made me sad. Finally I was persueded to buy Lishe because I guessed she would be most versitile.

she came

we have never really bonded, I restrung her, gave her a nose job, billions of faceups, took her places, watched tv with her, talked to her, but there was no one home. If there is she dosent like me much I think.

Her Name is Anathema She is very beautiful. But I do not feel like taking her picture, makeing her clothes, shopping for her. I think it is perhaps because she is BW I dont think she turned out to be how I expected. I dont really know exactly.

I got a Lishe elf head and sold it emmidiatly. It did not like me either. I have always wondered abotu getting margo and seeing what is is liek haveing a different doll. I dont know, I am confused I guess. However it is so nice to hear everybody elses happy storys! I like this thread much!

 

Newbie question:
Wouldn't sleeping with a doll be an issue with wigs/eyelashes, and delicate parts such as hands and feet?

 

I searched this topic but came up empty handed so sorry if this has been asked.
I just recieved my first BJD 6 days ago. I am still in that "omg he's so new I can't believe he's here" stage. I was hoping to hear others experiences of how your relationship with your doll(s) has evolved and changed over time. I know the initial "newness" wears off but what then? How long have you had your doll(s) and how has your relationship changed?

 

I've had Oliver for about.. half a year... I was so happy when he arrived because of that initial newness... It was all very exciting. I sold my other doll to make room in my heart for Oliver and I've slowly grown to love him more and more, and it seems to grow when I take him out of the house to something public. ^^

 

I always feel a bit nervous when I have to handle new BJDs, especially if they are MIB.
I have finally found the courage to re-string my first SD after 1 year, and he was not even new: he was third-hand! ops:

 

I've had Lucien since February and you can already tell he's really well loved. ^_^;;; I've worn the MSC off his joints from frequent handling and he has some scratches in the MSC here and there.

When I first unwrapped him from his box my initial thought was "My god, he's perfect" and that has never changed. His personality has really grown and developed during the time we've been together, I keep learning more about him. I play with him a lot, and even if I'm not handling him when I'm at home I have him nearby, so I can look at him.

I take LOTS of pictures of my boys, we're over 5,000 pictures taken since I got a new camera in February. I make photo stories about their lives together. I take them places. I've taken Lucien to Uwajimaya several times, and he always gets lots of attention (usually from women); I've taken him to the movies once and probably will again.

For the longest time I was afraid to take out his default eyes because I was afraid it would make him "less perfect" somehow, but once I finally got up the courage (to put in a pair of Eyeco eyes I'd ordered especially for him) I started changing his eyes as frequently as his wigs. He looks good in absolutely everything (and knows it!) so it's fun for both of us. Whenever I change his appearance like that, I fall in love with him all over again. Then I'll return to his default hair and eyes in a week or so and fall in love AGAIN.

When I got Stefan, stringing him together was a really bonding experience, then a couple of weeks later, doing his face-up made him completely my baby. Performing maintenance on your doll is scary at first, but can be an experience that brings you closer to your doll.

 

I can understand how you feel ^_^ I just got him about 2 weeks ago and i'm still like: woah he's here!

For the 1st few days i was just.. really happy that he looks perfect to me. But then i thought, it's only looks. I still can't really 'talk' to him. I was expecting alot of action but i realise that i'm quite protective of him and he's so much quieter than i thought.

But just today, i just kinda.. lean my head against his (it's nothing big really, but i guess it's a step). I usually just place him near wherever i am but never really got close or huggle him before. I guess my bonding with him is alittle slow but i don't mind ^_^ Everytime i look at him i just go.. XD

 

hehe, my first doll I loved and he as 'perfect". Before he came home I was all a flutter and had plans to costumeize him, when he arrived though, I didn't have the corage to.

He arrived in march, and now that I've restrung and blushed him..plus sent him off for a face -up I'm now giving him a compleate makeover...plus cat ears. ops:

 

Thank you for all your answers so far! I have tried to not be as "intimidated" by my first boy because he came from another home and was not "new". He already had been given faceups other than his default so I was less afraid to try my hand at customizing him. I also decided that I would take him places and sleep with him without stressing about getting him dirty or messing him up. After all... he's already around a year old and still in great condition so I know he's pretty durable. I don't want to be so fearful of the "what if's" that I prevent myself from enjoying him.
I hope this experience will keep me from being nervous about my El (who should be here within the next week or so). He will be brand new with his default faceup but same story... I don't want to be so cautious that I take the fun out of having him.

I look foward to hearing more of your stories. Since I'm new to all this it's interesting to hear from those who are also new AND those who have had their dolls for a long time.

 

When they first come ... I'm shy and careful, and take time to get to know them.

But after awhile, we get very comfortable with each other - taking pictures, chaging clothes, eyes and wigs - or just going from room to room. When I'm tired of seeing their seams, I'll sand and coat them. (Or I do this when I have to repair them for some reason.)

All my dolls are very well loved. ^_^

 

I'm still at the "getting to know you" stage with Erik...it's been very hard to bond with him, but I hope that will all change when he gets his body. I'm eager to see where things will go from there.

 

With my first bjd, I felt comfortable with him but yet didn't actually bond for quite a while. I'd change eyes and I'd disassembled him with no idea about how to actually put him back together...

But although I was really comfortable with the doll itself, it took a long time for any actual bonding to occur. Maybe not until after two and a half or three months. The road there was pretty rough, though. I really disliked him and I looked into reselling him and buying a different doll. But I eventually came around.

After that, I think I felt really, eh..."close" to him? Like bjd was the only hobby I thought of. Nowadays it's become more casual, and I've balanced out all my other hobbies alongside bjd. ^_^

 

I buy mine clothes and take pictures.

 

Kel and I bonded immediately, and he's sort of a companion for me. He's very quiet now that he's here, kind of contemplative and protective in a way. I randomly carry him around, change his eye/wig combo, change his clothes. All the normal little things.

Well, that and we amuse ourselves by freaking out the guys at work. All the girls at work think he's a little hottie, the guys are freaked out. Haha.

 

I got Megumi last August and bonded with him immediately. What did it was sitting with him while watching TV and touching his little feet. I don't know what it is, but BJD feet just do something to me. I've bonded with my other kids in similar ways. Just being in physical contact with them brings on a feeling I can't describe. Yesterday, my F-09 boy arrived from Japan. While he is not new to me, as soon as he came out of his box, he was no longer the boy he was before, but my little Tsukio. Sleeping with him next to me on the pillow last night really cinched the bond. I dropped him off today to have his new faceup done and I already miss him. :cry: