Bonding and YOU.

For me, I don't normally bond with dolls I haven't worked on extrensively. I have a set character for each one, and I "work" at bringing that character out. You're going to feel amazement when your Soah gets here, maybe even a little reluctance to "spoil" her. The trick is - she's yours, and you have to work at "finding" her.

If you don't bond, put it down to experience and sell her. If you feel you want to try again, find another mold that "speaks" to you and keep trying!

 

I can't really answer, but all of mine are planned out. I have bonded to Kyo, but I can't do his faceup. He might only be a head, but he's mine and he seems happy here. I do play with him, talk to him, and that helps. I'm not talented enough to try a faceup nor do I even have the stuff to do one with! But just holding him, playing with him made me bond to him.

 

I think you'll bond, no problem. Especially once she has her faceup.

I felt the same way before I got Sharmin, who was MY first one -- I'd never even seen a BJD in person before! So, yeah, it was kind of scary, especially due to the amount of money involved.

I know what you are going through, but I am positive you will adore your Soah when she finally is in your arms!

 

Of course, I used to have my doubts when I first decided that I wanted to get my TZen, but in the end even though he's not here yet, I know that we will have no problem bonding already I feel like he will be a big part of my life.

 

http://www.denofangels.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=15633&start=0
http://www.denofangels.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=20124&start=0
http://www.denofangels.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=375&start=0

The last link isn't so pessimistic. ops:

You shouldn't be thinking about this now, the majority of people bond well, and if not, it's simple enough to sell them, and getting a new faceup will make it even easier if worst comes to worst.

Focus on the fun time you're going to have with your girl, not the bad times that could happen. You're going to jinx yourself!

This is your first doll, so you need to be very happy! When my first came I was flipping out. Then I noticed her freaky stringing. Then I fixed it. Smooth sailin'. I wuv her.

 

I'm going to be ordering a FCS girl (once I have enough money -.-;;;;;;; ), and I, too, am very afraid that I will not bond with her. But, I feel that way about all the dolls that I seem to like (Jun and Mika). I think they're gorgeous, but then I think 'is there something about them that would make me dislike them?' And that always goes through my head.

But, I always, always find myself drawn back to the same dolls so I know that there aren't any other dolls for me. ^__^

 

These past few days I've been worried that I won't bond with the U that I ordered, it's a very sad feeling
But then I read that alot of people had those feelings when they order their dolls and when they first open that box and hold their little one for the first time all thoughts of parting with him/her fly out the window :grin: So Im sure it will work out for the best! Soah is a very pretty doll, just wait til you have her with you ^ ^ But If you still don't feel as if your bonding, then it would be best to sell her to someone who will bond with her and if you sell her to someone on DoA then at least you can look forward to seeing pictures of her ^ _ ^
Thats just my personal opinion though ops:

 

For the past year or so I've been in this weird, neutral funk, where I can't really get excited or enthusiastic about anything. Once I can finally afford a doll, I hope she doesn't arrive, I go "Well, this is overrated... meh" and move on.

 

I was afraid I would not bond with Michael while I was waiting for him to arrive, but it was definately love for us when he came to me.

 

Xander is arriving this week and I'm mildly terrified we won't bond, but at the same time I'm super super excited to meet him and can't wait for him to arrive. I love dolls with lidded expressions, so Woosoo is theoretically perfect for me. I just hope he comes home happy. I can't wait to meet him. :grin:

 

That sounds an awful lot like depression. You've had it a year; talk to a doctor.

Go on, do it.
Pleeeeeease.

Life is too short to feel like this all the time:

Yes, I have depression. It's boring. Everything is boring when I'm especially depressed. But treatment can work.

Ann in CT

 

Yeah I had that feeling with my ex-Isao...When I first saw his promo pictures I fell in love with him, but after I saw some of his pictures from other owners...I felt dissapointed somehow, and I had already pre-ordered him.

When he finally came it was almost 3 months later, but it just didn't work between us...and I really did try. I sold him short after.

After that I was doll-less for a while, and then I saw SA Bermann, and I just knew he was the one for me...I ordered him, he came after 2 months...and I was hooked lined...and I'm still sinking

Sabriell

 

Oh, well...
A few months ago I received my beautiful F16 boy, Oliver C.
I had chosen him because I was looking for a "little lord/prince" or similar kind of doll, someone having a very "aristocratic" and distinguished appearance.
But I also wanted him to look sweet, gentle and polite ^_^
Well, when he arrived, he looked very much shy and detached, and refused to speak to me. He just stared at some point behind me with a somewhat melancholic and indifferent look in his eyes.
I was so afraid my bonding experience with him was going to be a complete disaster! >_<;;;
Finally, a couple of days ago, I decided to put all of my other BJDs back into their own boxes to totally dedicate myself to him.
And so he slowly started to warm to me, at last!
Oh well, I think I had forgotten that every F16 boy would like to be the one and only perfect doll for his owner... ops:
Now I'm wondering when and if he'll ever decide to get along well with his BJD companions...

 

I don't blame you, I'm always worried because it sucks to save up and pay hundreds of whatever currency you use to be disappointed with what you bought.

 

This SORT of happened with me. I was smitten by the company photos, and it was only after I had bought her (from eBay, sort of spur-of-the-moment) that I was able to find the (very few!) Asha pictures that were on DOA. I think I ended up only finding one or two little Gallery links And to be honest, I was really disappointed. She looked so... different. Not appealing. Her jaw was wierd and her eyes were dark and her cheeks were puffy... I freaked out a little. ops:

So finally the day came and I was excited as can be but sort of reluctant to go pick her up from the post office. I convinced myself I would like her but still felt doubts.

We got her big old box home and I had Paul grab the camera and opened her up... and even though her head cap was askew and her face had one of those Icee things over it... I fell in love. She's so pretty in real life; better than any of the pictures that were around back then. Her eyes are vibrant, her jawbone and cheeks aren't unattractive unless photographed at a bad angle (as with any doll)... She doesn't look at ALL like the company pictures, either, but I couldn't be happier about it

I think it's natural to worry. It's something that's generally considered a little "unnatural," to bond with something that isn't technically alive, so it's a lot of pressure to wonder if you'll be able to pull it off; if you'll even know HOW. I think it's easier to do then it seems at first... these creatures can truly captivate with only their beauty. And then you learn about who they are, and it gets deeper. Try not to worry too much, as that can dampen your excitement. The money can be made back by selling her if it really doesn't work out! Dolls are wonderful in that they don't lose value, but don't sabotage yourself by being too worried before she arrives to get excited!

I, however, am worried I'll be able to bond with future dolls and not neglect anyone! Hehe, good luck! Soah is gorgeous Sorry for the huge post!!

 

My boy hasn't gotten here yet, but I already know that it'll be easy for me to bond with him. It took me a long time to decide which doll I wanted, and when I finally ordered, I was extremely happy. I know I'll just love him.

Having said this, I don't know how it feels to be worried about bonding with a doll, but I wish you luck!

KD

 

I've noticed that some people here take their dolls everywhere (to the post office, on a plane, the mall, etc.), and then some don't even take them out of their room or house.

I was wondering, because I fear that when I finally get my doll, I won't bond, if taking them around with you helps? If not, why? What other suggestions do you have to help you bond, besides doing a face up or restringing (you know, something I could do and not screw up somehow ops: )?

 

I spent two weeks with a friend not too long ago, they're on DoA too. We took our boys lots of places with us, and I had Jules with me much more often than I normally do~ by the end of the two weeks, I felt I had bonded with him more than ever. So I'd definitely say that bringing your doll with your could help a lot with bonding. ^^

 

i dont usually take my kids out to crowded places but i took midori out camping a couple of weekends ago and it was lots of fun and i felt like i bonded with her more. I felt like the bond wasn't as strong as it once was because i have gotten other dolls and i know most of my attention is going towards dominik lately. So it was fun to take her out and play with her.

 

I definitly bonded more with Doli from carrying him around. Also taking him apart and putting him back together. ^^