Bonding and YOU.

I love taking Kaye everywhere I can... I've got to say though, it's a little harder to carry Grimm around because of his size... not that that stops me... he just gets seen by everyone...

... the girl at the Starbucks drive through made all of her coworkers come over to the window and see him... they all ogled XD

 

I took Rinlocke to the hospital so that my mother could meet him, and I definifely confirmed the bond along the way. :P Especially when people would ask about him! I could almost hear him scoff whenever 'she' was complimented on how beautiful 'she' was. XD

 

Yes. I took Lutz to work and out shopping with me a few times, and that helped us bond. I've been taking the new girl out with me and she's already gotten quite chatty. Apparently she doesn't like cars now because my driving scares her. XD

I should take Nai out some... I'd take Ephram, but it's hard to take just a head. ^_^;;;

 

I dunno if it helps bonding, but it's really nice. I take Ichiiro with me places often, 'cause he makes me feel safe and stuff.

 

I originally planned to take my doll out with me more often, but I had a bad experience showing her to people the first day I had her and decided it'd be best if I kept her in the house away from people who don't understand how important these dolls are.

Instead of bonding with her that way I just let her sit with me while I'm on the computer or lay on the couch with me while I watch tv. I find it's helped me get close to her pretty quickly, and then she doesn't mind being left behind when I go out.

 

I definitely think it helped my bond with Kelyn grow. I mean, I had a bond with the poor guy the minute I managed to get all the bubble wrap off of him. :3 But carrying him around has helped to keep that bond pretty strong. It's like having a silent companion with you.

I'm probably going to carry around Aneirin for a little while too, to help bond with him. (I'm actually more worried about bonding with Aneirin than I was with Kelyn).

 

I think playing with the doll, wherever you choose to do it, helps with bonding more than bringing the doll around with you. ^_^

 

I had a hard time bonding with Winter at first just because I thought his personality was different than what it was. After a bit of change, though, I began to bond more. What really made me bond with him was taking pictures of him outside. Just to place him and watch him was great. I've taken him a few places and it's quit fun, just to see what kind of likes and dislikes he has. ^__^ I'd recomend it, personally, just for the wonderful reactions I've been getting. Many people find them beautiful.

 

Ditto for me, too.

I don't take my doll out with me mainly because I worry about damage and mean people, but just doing things like posing him, sewing clothes (which I'm bad at T_T), and putting him on the desk when I write essays really helps with bonding. Like anything else, the more time you put into it the more fun you'll have. ^.^

 

J hasn't been out and G has been out only once. I don't think the lack of "outside time" has affected our bonding process. As long as I spend time with them, it doesn't matter where we do it.

In fact, the best thing for me is simply to sit them on my lap. And then we just look at each other a lot. (As time-wasting and pointless as that sounds. XD) I like doing that even more than taking photos or carrying them around. Because, when I'm taking photos or carrying them around, I'm always careful not to accidentally knock them over or something. I become very aware of the fact that they are expensive dolls. However, when I don't have to do that and they're sitting on my lap and we're just soaking up the good vibes of being in each other's company, I feel like they aren't just dolls and they're... well, J and G! =D

I hope I made sense. Somehow. XD

 

Oh, yes. Lately, Purin is always with me. I'm starting school Thursday, and I wonder if I'll have Purin-withdrawals ops:

I like to have her sit with me, when I'm on the computer, watching TV, drawing, washing dishes... I can't help but feel like she wants to be involved... besides... if I leave her in my room - usually on her little sofa -- my mutt cat tries to sleep on her XD

I think its definately helped me bond. While I was doing dishes today, I looked up at her, and I FINALLY started imagining up her story. ^^; A little overdue, but I'm a lazy person, its no surprise she didn't have a story untill 2-3 months into ownership XD

 

I think it really depends on how comfortable you are with actually carrying your doll about. Be it publicly or just at home.

I try and take Jeanne out with me as often as I can. At one of my old jobs, I even took her to work regularly and had her sit at the computer next to me. Most customers thought she was a display (a coworker had her Snow Babies on display as well) and loved it. It's done tons to help me bond with her.

 

Thanks for your input, guys :grin: I can't wait to bond with my dollie - but I have to order her first ops:

 

I don't carry Shin around alot outside because I fear damage (plus lugging even an MSD around the whole day puts alot of pain on the shoulders) and when I do, I usually pop him in his carrier. Even though I don't see his face, knowing he's there makes me feel really happy and safe. I usually have him with me at the computer, in bed or when I'm reading. I bonded with him the moment I got the bubblewrap off of him, but my bond with him is growing stronger the more time I spend with him. I find the best way for me to do that is just sit him in my lap or hug him and talk to him.

 

i think it does. the only reason why i carry them out is because i feel comfortable around them. yea and i guess some a part of it is bonding.

 

I tend to carry my dolls pretty much everywhere, but now that I have two it's a little more difficult. I know that carrying Ryuen around helped a great deal with the bond, as far as Alex is concerned we're still on shaky ground (as I mentioned in an earlier post I haven't really done anything with him yet so it's affecting the bond) even though I do take him with me. Although even if I haven't formed a strong attachment to Alex yet, I think Ryuen has formed a bit of a bond with him (yes, I know they're dolls, but sometimes it just seems like they should be together). I am definitely looking forward to the day I can start putting the Alex in my mind together and see if it all fits together right or if I have some new unknowns to add into the mix once he's "together"

 

I believe so. I am so terrified of Odette getting hurt, that I rarely take her anywhere. I'm a little more relaxed about carrying Adelais around(I have NO idea why. O_o), And I've bonded with him much better from taking him places. And you don't even have to be taking photoshoots/stories or anything! You can just be holding him on your lap.

 

I took my Cecilia with me to PA last week and carried her around in my bag. I felt more attatched to her after the day was over, so yes, I think that carrying around helps bond with them a lot.

Also, I think that going to doll meets help bond with your doll. You see all the other owners with their dolls, and you with yours, and you get the feeling that your doll is unique and is it's own 'person,' so to speak. Those are just my opinions. ops:

 

So, I've had Yuki for a little more than four months at this point, and Gwyn for two or so. My issue is this: while I love the characters they're based off, I can't seem to bond with them as dolls.

For one thing, my little sister, who's also into BJDs, has bonded so much better with Gwyn than I have. I took him on a three-week trip with me, and he was miserable the whole time. Half the reason was that he missed her so much. She's got a U coming in the mail soon, and I'm beginning to consider having her make up the difference in cash and trade dolls. It's not something she'd be adverse to.

As far as Yuki goes... we get along, but more like casual friends than anything else. And that's not the relationship I was looking for with my first doll, you know? I've tried a lot of things to get to know him better, but to no avail. It just seems that we won't be getting any closer.

I have other characters that I've come to realize I'd much rather make into dolls. I've known them a much longer time than Yuki, and I'm much closer to them. It's driving me insane, trying to figure out what to do about this. Any thoughts? I'd really appreciate any advice you could give.