Thanks for all the replies. I know taking her out with me and things isn't an essential to do, it's just that I really love taking my dolls places with me. For some reason, I just seem to take the others instead of her. I get bonded to many many inanimate objects in my life, I have ever since I can remember! (I used to feel guilty if I didn't kiss everysingle one of my teddy bears at night!) I'm going to wait on it a bit. I know there's other dolls I want, and I don't want to have too big of a dolly family, so maybe that's where this is coming from... I'll wait it out for a while, see how I feel.
i second that this shoudl be a sticky, because it gets brought up so much. i think that this is very wellthought out and written, very intelligent, and articulate. I just want to say thank you for posting this and taking the time to do it right! Kudos to you!
I'll tell you what my boyfriend told me when I wanted to sell half my pullips. "They are your CHILDREN! You wouldn't sell your children would you?" He also mentioned that I collect them and they make me happy. I might pay much attention to them now, but one day, I will want to, and they will not be there for me.
Can I fourth the sticky? Some of the people telling stories of their wonderful bonding with their dolls even make me doubt my relationship with Iglen, and that's a tad silly. Seeing as it's rather good and she's not souless by any means. It saddens me how many people sell their dolls because they don't feel they've bonded enough. Many people would do good by reading this and seeing that relationships are different. *personally feels closest to her doll when she's wearing hand-knit/sewn things* :grin:
Nicely written. Sometimes I grow tired of the implications that because I don't make up complicated backstories for my doll, and don't do huge complicated photoshoots with her, and don't take her out with me in public, that I'm a bad owner, or not bonded to her.
I fifth the sticky idea. This is beautifully written and I could have really used this when I first got my boy. I worried that I hadn't 'bonded' with him but, in the end, I just had to realize that I enjoyed him in different ways. ^__^ I think this will help a lot of people. Thank you.
Ya, I know what you mean. I guess the thing is, I think she's utterly beautiful, I love how her face looks, but since I got her, I haven't really felt too much of a personality from her. It always felt a bit forced. She kinda gets left out and I feel bad... I'm not too sure what I'm gonna do, but my friend's sister really wants a Sharmin. I may see if she's interested. That way, I'd be able to see her sometimes and I'd know she would be in a good home.
Don't be scared! I'm sure you'll loove your girl! Just wait till you see her face in person, Sharmin is gorgeous!
