Bonding and YOU.

Well, it's hard for me say right now, as my only girls at home are AR Little Fairs. (I absolutely adore AR dolls. I love their faces, their hands, their feet... gorgeous sculpts and silky resin!) When Aislinn--er, Souldoll Katie--arrives, I think I'll be able to offer more of an opinion.

Actually, the T.Zen I have on layaway through radiotrash I've seen in person. She's a gorgeous girl, and I'm very much looking forward to owning her. I think she'll fit the character I have in mind perfectly.

 

Same thing with me, I easily bond to any Volks dolls, but other makers there are only a small amount I could, if any that is.

I guess I just love Volks too. :3

 

I'm very particular to DOD and Volks only.

 

I think there is something to that. But I for me its a few companies I can't bond with one being custom house, I have had two of the dolls from there and had to sell them although I loved them in the picture they just didn't seem to have enough personality in person. Also now when I look at Custom House dolls they don't move me at all.

I am definately a Volks person, though I hardly think of volks when I am with my dolls. Which is good! they have moved beyond being from Volks. I actually had to think ok Toppi is from ? LOL. So I guess volks is really for me and Araki's creations.

But I do have a number of dolls I would like from less well known companies and I want to keep an open mind to these stunning and wonderful dolls that seem to come out daily.
I have two dolls I am waiting on now from other companies.

 

mm i pretty much have a problem with CH..i can't really bond with them. do you think it's biasness that we can bond with Volks well? like some part of the brain is responsible for it?

 

I think it has to do with the energy behind the doll, if the look and feel match with the energy you need then it works, if not it doesn't.

 

My two dolls sculpted by Rainman, Dollmore Dean & Rainy Doll Ryung, took me forever to bond to. Neither would tell me their names for months. They'd 'talk' about other things, their preferences & whatnot, but 'not that name' & 'that's not me' to every suggestion.

But Baltazar & Nan are part of my bunch & wonderful.

I have a lot of dolls from a lot of companies, & have bonded to them all, now.

C'mon, Marius--let's see if I can bond to a doll from Alchemic Labo. *holdsbreathturnsbluefallsover*

Ann in CT

 

I've had those same sorts of troubles. I love Volks dolls but I bought a Shiro Tachibana when he first came out and we absolutely did not bond. I ended up selling him to a very loving home. I think it doesn't have anything to do with the brand but with the dolls themselves. If a doll doesn;t have that "feel" to it for you it just doesn't.

 

I have dolls from a few companies too, and for me the brand name is absolutely not a bonding factor. I love my Volks, but I've had Volks SD I couldn't bond with (Shirou, Isao) - I love my Elf El's, and my Yder, but couldn't bond with Elf Lishe. I love my CH Ai Jin, couldn't bond with Jun.

And it's not that I didn't think they were all wonderful dolls - and beautiful - it just never went beyond that.

I think I'm like Lore, in that it's something in the indivigual doll that speaks to me.

 

i absolutely cannot bond with my obitsu! ><

 

It depends on the doll, I'm not fussed about the brand name.

 

I havent yet owned a doll, but personally, Volks and Souldoll dolls tend to 'wow' me less than those of other companies. I feel like I would buy one and then just kinda.. sit there.. staring at it.. While if I'd bought something from SOOM, Luts, or DoD, I'd be excitedly prancing around taking pictures of it with anything and everything.
However, there are still a few dolls from those companies that interest me, and likewise, dolls from my favorite companies that I dont like.

 

I have an AR doll and a CP doll, and I didn't take to one faster than the other. However, it did take me a bit of time for both. For me, it was like getting to know a person I had just met.

 

I think it depends more on the doll than the brand, at least for me. Even though my dolls are all from one company, there are dolls from Customhouse I wouldn't even consider owning. Likewise, while I didn't bond with MSD Enn, I don't attribute that to him being a Volks. There are plenty of Volks dolls I would love to own and am sure I could bond with.

 

I find I'm becoming attracted to very diffrent dolls each form a diffrent company! o.o For example, I used to find -many- of the DoD dolls vert attractive to me and the charaters I wnted to protray.. but now I only have 1 dod calling to me and one a few from many othe comanies! *LOL*

 

hmmm, i do best w/ my CP dolls too. though i bonded very easily with Sophie (CH Gabriel) and Emmaline Joy (CH Sia) ... size seems to be more of an issue for me, i just don't do very well with MSDs, i've had to sell all of the ones i've gotten so far. but no more - i've learned my lesson. i'm a straight up SD girl from now on!!

 

For me, I love all the CP Delfs... but none of the kid-delfs. And I really love certain Volks sculpts, but not all of them. And the one doll I have (A AR Ren girl) is the only doll from angelregion I like. I think that in some ways, brand might help you choose a doll... because all their dolls will be similar?
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First off, I ran a search yesterday and did find a few suggestions that would help, but I'd like an opinion specific to my situation. If this thread is in the wrong forum, please move. Also, if this post seems too 'personal', please feel free to delete. Anyway.

I've got a problem. On the fourth of january I got my first doll, a tan el. At first, of course, I felt the usual swell of love and excitement, as he was perfect in every way! Two days later, I was feeling down. I couldn't look at him for some reason. I just couldn't. I wasn't feeling a real 'connection', like we weren't 'bonding' or something..

In hopes of remedying the problem, I scooped him up and went and watched some tv with him. That seemed to help, and I was fine after that. But again.. Yesterday, and today as well, even after watching tv with him for a while, I don't feel a connection. I don't feel like we're bonding. I might even go so far as to say I don't 'love' him as much as I feel I should.

What.. should I do? First off, if I even so much as thought about selling him, my parents would throw a fit. They think he's just an object, and think I can like him regardless of 'love' or 'bonding'. Though technically they're right, that isn't the kind of relationship I want with my doll. I want to be able to look at him and smile. I want a little resin friend who can brighten my day when I'm feeling down. Not see.. just a doll, like now.

Have I not waited long enough for a bond to form? Am I not doing the right things? Have any of you experienced stuff like this before? I don't know.. I tried something already, and the results disturbed me. Each night before I go to bed, I put him in his box with the lid open on a high shelf, out of my cat's reach. Now, each day, he's stayed in his box increasingly longer before I finally went to get him out. What do you think this means?

I'm.. not entirely sure what I'm looking for. Comfort? Suggestions? Moral support? Anything you're willing to give, I'm all ears. Thank you for your time.

Edit: I just thought of this.. I recently bought all the materials required to do a faceup. Should I wipe his face and do that..? But then, there's a problem there as well. First off, it's very cold up here, so I feel I shouldn't use the sealer in this frigid weather, I should wait 'till it warms up a bit.. And also, of course I am nervous about getting rid of his face because it is bautiful, and I fear I wouldn't do a good job, as well as the fact that I only 'enjoyed' a $50 luts faceup for a few days...

 

I would say just try to spend a little longer with him. Sometimes it takes a little time.

And since you did go to get him, I think there may be something there.

 

You've only had him since the 4th, right? Don't worry...this is not unusual. It can take days, it can take weeks, it may take a particular pair of eyes to make him "just right," it might take the perfect wig.

I recommend just...doing stuff with him! Cuddle him, or set him up to take photographs, build a little environment for him. Get him some new stuff and try switching out his wigs, or his eyes, or both. Try to find his "style." Bonding is an individual experience, there's no "right" or "wrong" way to do things.

For my gal, she took Shouta out of his box and was thrilled at his arrival, but it took her a few weeks to connect with him. She did a new face-up on him, we took him apart and sanded and coated him, bought him some stuff at the craft store, did a photo-story with him, then his personality began to take shape.

With me, I took Lucien out of his box and it was pretty much love at first sight. Although he's a bit standoffish, I've never felt any problems with my "connection" to him.

There's no right or wrong way to "bond" with your doll. The key, I think, is to spend a lot of time with him.