Bonding and YOU.

I'm not good enough to paint a professional faceup. It takes a lot of practice in order to get really really good at doing faceups. You shouldnt worry about that. Either decide that you want to enjoy making faceups on your doll (regardless of whether it looks super profesionally or not) or ask someone else to do the faceup for you? there are lots of people on here who take commissions!

when I got my first doll I repainted her a lot myself. She didn't look professional, but I loved her anyway and I had a lot of fun repainting her. I'm so critical of my own work though that eventually I asked someone else to paint her for me. Even if I did a good job, I'm never happy with my own work.

I think you should wait till you get her a body, and if you still feel like you don't like her much, then sell her!

as to DD,... there's nothing wrong with DD! DD's are super cute and a lot of people really enjoy them.

I agree that taking your doll out to do photos of them can really help you start to like them more again. and also, if you take them out and you really just don't enjoy it at all, *L*, then it's probably a sign that the doll just isn't what you want anymore, IMHO.

most dolls that I started regretting, I thought about it for a long time... and eventually if I couldnt warm up (or warm back up) to t hem, then I sold them. It's better that someone else who really loves them should have them, then for them to sit on someone's shelf not getting any attention.

I'm glad it worked out for you and you were able to resolve your feelings!

 

Sometimes it takes awhile to get to know a new doll. Spend lots of time with him and try changing his look--you might get a very different vibe from him with a different wig and eyes or clothing style.

 

I'm amazed this isn't sticky, so I'm bumping it up for members who haven't read it yet, or those who would like to read it again (I did).

Sera

 

Great post! I'm glad to see it!

 

Well said Hitasura~ I agree this should be a sticky.

 

Thank you for this! I'm saving up for my first doll and was feeling really anxious at how I would be percieved if I didn't bond so closely with him. It's good to know that other people feel the same way.

 

Very well put. I also vote for making this a sticky.

 

This is a great thread. You put it very well. I consider myself very attached to my kids, and I know I couldn't sell them, but I don't constantly take photos of them and post threads about their milestones. They're really for me more than anything. I love this community because it's so great to be able to share my love of BJDs with others, but I don't feel the need to prove to anyone here how devoted I am to my kids. This would make a great sticky.

 

I love my dolls and I do give them personalities but I don't put a huge ton of thought into it like others. I don't do photostories but I enjoy them and like to share them with other people that are into BJD's.

I agree with the Sticky comment. I do believe that people should see something like this when they come to this community.

 

I sixth... seventh... eighth? putting a sticky on this. Your wording is clear and I don't think you sounded intimidating at all. My bond with my dog ($50 from the animal shelter) will always be stronger than my bond with my dolls (more than the cost of a purebred show puppy!), but I would still have a hard time parting with my boys, even though I don't do photostories for them or take their lives so seriously.

 

wonderfully put. :: applauds :: I never really worried if I would bond with my doll or not. hide spoke to me, and told me he'd love me. I don't post pictures everyday, I kinda prefer him as a companion, as someone to kinda just sit there on the bed with me, so I don't feel so lonely. he's also my fashion model too. ^_^ I don't really have a character or background for him, quite frankly ever thought about that. but anyways, like you said it doesn't make me love him any less. all that matters is that I do love him, in my own special way. I totally agree with this being stickied. it would help oodles of people, who have this same worry. it'll put their worries to ease for sure! excellent job.

 

I have to agree with you on this. My bond with my cats (free from a farm) will forever be stronger. While value many other things more than the dolls it doesn't mean I am any less deserving of them. While I love the dolls, they are just an escape to me, not actual children or placed on the same level as family or pets. It would be hard to part with something I brought life to but I think I'd even sell them before I sold my favorite drawings.

I think it's awesome seeing how much people love their dolls and the creativity people have with their photostories, I just don't believe that there is only one way to love a doll or one reason to own a BJD.

 

I am repeating what other people are saying but this post is well thought of and was needed. Bonding is a personal thing, taking your doll out with you is also personnal.

everyone is different in the amount of Bonding... After all isn't getting a doll a kind of bond? You wanted the doll, it may not the THE GREAT BONDING Experience some people say YOU MUST HAVE with your doll. But still if you got the doll it's because it did meant something to you. It all depends on the people getting the doll. But I agree, some people need to bond more and some people less...that doesn't mean they don't love their dolls.

 

Wonderfully put. I did wonder if I've bonded with my Amos, Samael, because I don't take many pictures of him, and he hasn't really got a solid personality, no backstory, and all that. But I know that it is sort of like a bond, as I love to have him sit next to me, or just look at him and play with him.

This really should be a sticky.

 

Very well put, a lot of good points have been made in this thread. I'm also in the same basket kornkob, and others of course. When I do take pictures it may be several. My girls don't have detailed backgrounds either, but they all have their personalities and it shows. Nothing more to really say with out repeating what has already been said.

 

i...what ever number of people voted this to be a sticky..
well i want it to be a sticky too, i don't know if i am the 10th person or 12, but i just want it to be a sticky XD;;
this is very usefull to those people who feel like they need to be constantly boding with their doll to fit it
Bravo!

 

i just got my paris from davona today he is awesome.

curious if others wish that more companys would offer these ufk dolls because you like to actually build the doll it adds something to the process of bonding?

it sure helps also for body blushing you don't have to take the doll apart.

 

Whether or not it helps with bonding would depend on the individual. I got Liam (Soom Rian) as a UFK, and it was fun puting him together. I would have had to unstring him anyway to blush him and I do their faceups myself, so I might as well get a UFK and save some cash. It was a little strange, though, opening up the box and seeing little baggies full of doll parts, lol. I'm currently saving for a Happy Doll Louis, and I plan to get him as a kit.

 

Well... I've never gotten a ufk doll... but I pretty much built Spade (see my icon) and he's my one, my preeeeeeciousssssssssssss!!!

 

I acually feel a little dissapionted when I get a preassembled doll. But since I tan most of mine I get to take them apart and put them back together agian.

I really wish the companies I like would sell UFK regulary.