Bonding and YOU.

i fell in love with DOD Camine's mold when i first looked at him. something about him was so flawless. and he really looked like my character.

when i finally got my girl, yes my camine is a girl , i was so happy. i would always hold her and want to be with her. since i got her her first wig, i am sometimes scared to touch her because i don't want to ruin her hair. i know she would have an issue with it to. there are also times when i feel so distant from her. i am not always sure why. her character is more of a loner either way.

when i am focusing on her and making clothes for her, i feel like i really connect with her. i also feel like that when i bring her places.

i guess what i am trying to say, is that i know she is alright with sitting around and watching me do things, but i will sometimes feel bad because i wish so much that i could spend more time on her.

but she is still my girl and i love her so much.

 

I am painting and blushing my first resin boy now. I feel close to all characters which I create in my mind so I think bonding for me is just feeling that the doll is in fact the character whom I already love. His head came first and I felt it was my Llewelyn then, but after I got his body and started sanding and painting was when I started to really feel close to him. He is not even finished; his head is on my desk drying now but I think painting him and seeing him start to look the way I had imagined is what helps me bond.

 

Thank you! I tried giving his headcap and a twist. And it popped right off...now just have to get it back on. Lol.

 

I've had my fair share of not bonding ._.
First: DZ Megi >> no bonding (sold)
Second: MNF Shiwoo >>bonded but sold him
Third: DoC U >> no bonding (sold)
Fourth: MNF Lishe Boy >> bonded and sold him to upgrade
Fifth: MNF Vampire Shiwoo >> no bonding (sold)
Sixth: 1/3 Vampire Shiwoo >> bonded and LOVE (sold both of my MNF Shiwoos to get him)
Seventh: Migidoll Miho >>coming<<

 

First, I had a Ginza Michael. We...didn't bond so well...so I sold him >.< Then I gots me an AR Allern, and we bonded pretty well for a long while, but then..he just...stopped talking to me. I think that's how you put it...

During the time I had my Allern, I also got a Soony boy...and..that didn't work out so well >.<

Now I have a DIM Angelo hybrid and an LS Ted, and we've bonded pretty well XD Although...I get mad at my Angelo's body a lot <.<;;

I've learned that if I see a mold I like...to wait for a while, just to make sure I REALLY want to try bonding with a new doll, instead of just snatching up a mold due to 'dolly lust'.

 

I haven't had a chance to bond in person yet. I'm a little worried because although from a distance, Silvia is my absolute favorite BJD ever, and perfect for my character...I realize it could still not work out in person.

I had a fashion doll once that I didn't really love until I customized her. Now I adore her

 

Okay, I've been reading all these posts and they are very informative. I own two BJDs and I haven't really bonded with either one. I love the way they move and pose, but I have yet to be motivated to buy either one any clothing or accessories. Most of my other dolls are babies.... and I'm beginning to think that I really prefer little kids to more mature ones. I'm hoping to get a tiny BJD who is more toddler-like. Maybe that will help. Has anyone else had the same reaction to mature dolls?

 

When my Megi arrived home I thought I would just bond with him right away considering how happy I was I had finally saved up the money to get him! When he arrived however, I didn't just "Click" with him the way I had imagined. After I finished his face up (It took a day to complete because I kept tweaking it) I was awestruck how his personality developed right after. After that I loved him to pieces and I have ever since.

 

With my first doll I bonded right away. He's just everything I expected, although I think not many would agree Seen as he's a OD Il (you know the tiny MSD dolly) And now that he has a new face up I love him even more.
Locke is total love

My second doll is another story. When I first saw him (DZ Mo) I just had to have him. But when I got him I was a bit awestruck. Maybe due to the "big" size difference or that I do not totally like his face up or something else. So a few wigs and eyes later and some other clothes...he has improved for sure. But I am still missing something I guess. He still needs another face up and well see after that. If things still don't work out, maybe he has to go.

 

If most of your other dolls are babies and you like them then I think getting a younger looking BJD should help. I do not feel that way about more mature dolls but I feel that way about baby dolls. I have seen some tinies and MSDs that I like and I might be okay with a doll that looked like a child as long as she/he looked passed the toddler stage. It is just like some people liking masculine dolls and others liking femminine dolls. Personal preference

 

Hum...bonding with my boy was a bit slow for me actually.
When I first saw the mold I instantly fell in love and knew this was the one I had been looking for all those years (I had decided before that I'd only have one bjd, so I wanted to find the perfect one).
When he arrived home and I took him out of his box...I fell in love even more. He was perfect, just as I imagined him to be. He was very "huggable" (or "flippy" if you prefer XD) so he didn't stand very well, and since he was my first bjd I was not used to handle those kind of dolls and was afraid to break something. Also, something was just off, I could feel it but I couldn't put my finger on the exact thing. The clothes I got him weren't right, everything just felt off. Then one day it hit me. His default wig just wasn't right, it wasn't him. I tried several wigs (and god knows how painful it is to find a good wig for a DOT =_=) and then one day someone was selling a wig which hit me instantly as being the right one.
Now we're bonding just great. He has started to reveal me his tastes in clothes and everything. It couldn't be better. X3
This whole "not bonding" process took nearly 4 months. I'm so happy everything is fine now.

 

I'm totally in love with my Elf Chiwoo, Oliver,
and he's still just a blank, eyeless, hairless and bodyless head.
I'm looking forward for making his face up next week and get his eyes and wig next month. For me, Chiwoo's are the most beautiful boy dolls I've ever seen, I fell in love just when I saw him for the first time last january or february at Luts website (I saw the normal Chiwoo first, but I got an elf one at the end. I like them both, actually. ). He is my first bjd and I feel like I have a little treassure now he's with me. He is my little dream come true. I just can wait to get him a body and have him complete!

 

My Sylvia who is my first doll, a Dollmore Asha, will always be treasured. I had a bit of an issue bonding with her since it was my fault- she was my first and I felt afraid to do anything with her as I thought I'd hurt her. After I started playing with her hair, and eventually taking the plunge and playing with her headcap and opening it, I learned she wasn't as fragile. That broke the wall then and there and I truly bonded with her. She still seems very delicate, but now it's due to her character, and not to my fear. I love her dearly.

It was easier with Adonis my SOOM Namu as I was not so new to the BJD world anymore. He's a representation of my fave character Dilandau of Escaflowne, so it was pretty easy bonding with him. You can say we hit it off VERY well and I'm very happy to have him here. He's deeply loved and spoiled even if he is a brat.

So I had no issues with bonding. I love my dolls for the characters they presented to me.

 

My girl definitely spoke to me. I think of her as a person, with emotions, desires, talents and problems of her own. Her face sculpt was what originally drew me to her, she didn't need a face up to be who she was. Her soul was already there.

She has told me she has a little brother and we are trying to find him and bring him home. It's an expensive process, but reuniting the family is a strong incentive.

 

Funny... I spent a long time trying to decide which doll to buy. Went to Volks LA to look into a FCS MSD, Yori, Kun etc... Sitting up on the shelf was a LE Emma. I had seen pics of her here on DOA, but I wasn't impressed. So while at the store I asked to see her close up. That's when it started to happen. I started noticing the depth in her face. If dolls can speak, she was saying take me home. Which eventually happened after a couple of weeks of frantic ebay selling. She is now still with me, and after a year I can say that I am so happy we found each other and that I did not pick one of the other dolls I was considering. I realize not everyone is fortunate enough to have this opportunity. Soooo... after hours and days of dreaming, stressing and thinking,,, I just stumbled over my girl.... You just never know..... Things just have a way of working themselves out.

 

Well, I have two dolls. Perhaps more soon.

Elina:-: Elina was the first doll I ever saw and REALLY liked - After seeing someone with a doll in a signature on a forum, they had linked me to many websites and one of them was AngelRegion.
I fell in love with the Dana Girl almost instantly on the website and kept watch over it, but didn't purchase, thinking "it's probably a phase" for one full year. But, I still felt the same, and ordered her!
After a bit of prodding and persuasion, she shipped to me.
I had to slog down to the post office to go get her, because she tried to turn up when no one was in. I remember I got up way early - two hours before the time it said I should go to collect her.
Ran all the way to the post office, slammed the paperwork on the desk and said "You're holding my package!"
They didn't seem to mind handing it over early.
So then.... well, imagine a crazed looking man in an 18th century long coat running down the street carrying a massive box.
Got home, nearly tore the box apart getting it open...
Pulled out the AngelRegion box.
Opened it, and there she was! default outfit on, tied to a piece of card.
I grabbed my modelling supplies, liberated her in under a minute and hugged her tight!
Even in her default state I loved her.
After some struggling and posting on here, I got her head open to find HOT GLUED eyes. I managed to gently pry them out and put in her lovely soft glass EyeCo ones.
Slid her wig on and POW.
Elina was home! Another hug.
Then came the only slightly awkward part. Undressing. I had to change her from default to the lovely outfit i'd prepared for her about a month in advance.
Must admit I was shy to look -down there- at first. It's like.. HER private area.
Anyway, that was a bond right from the start.

Mina :-: Mina here was a far greater curiosity. I was ADAMANT when Elina arrived that I would -only- ever have, want and need the one doll. But she was lonely and asked me to get her a friend. Luts kid delf cherry girl.
So I ordered her, quite unsure of myself and if I even really wanted her.
I had a chat with one of my friends, who persuaded me to go for it.
Time passed, she arrived.
I got her out of the box, but there wasn't that fantastic joy like I had with Elina.
I was however intruiged by LUTS' new body system and spent a bit of time admiring the poseability.
I got her eyes and wig on, dressed her up and did a little photoshoot introduction with Elina.
It was after i'd posted that, that she felt welcome by me.
And after about a week, I was bonded - she was part of the family now.

Elina's meant to have a sister, but i've also been thinking of buying a BOY for a little while now.
It's turning into quite a dilemma...
DOLL HORDE INCOMING.

 

i feel in love with moth when i found her on ebay after being heartbroken that i couldn't aford the chiwoo i had also seen(i got finally him, but that's next) when she came in the mail i adored her. we bonded mostly by me makeing all her clothes and she be sitting in my lap or next to me. Iorek, my chiwoo i had been pining after was a different kind of bond. when i opened his box, i went on and on about how pretty he was but when i picked him up he just fit in my arms, andi have VERY small arms for my age, and i fell totaly in love with him. he can be a pain to pose, but i can't tighten his strings because i love holding him

 

I fell in love with Dollmore's Kyle Reese the moment I saw his pictures. I Saved up the money for him all on my own and after almost a full year of saving, I finally managed to get him. It really was love at first site opening up his box and seeing that beautiful face looking back at me.

Now, Lance sits on top of my book case with his pet dragon (when I'm not holding him) and my play arts Axel figure. He's started a mini family up there and I just wish I could get him a friend more his size. Lance and I do a lot of things together like watch T.V and read.

Other than that initial open the box love moment, what really helped me to bond with him was actually a school assignment. I had to do a motion project for my design fundamentals class and I chose to do a motion sequence. Lance was more than willing to model for me (he's in love with the camera and it loves him) and I enjoyed working on it with him. We ended up getting a good grade on it too so I was very happy.

I really do feel blessed to have someone as wonderful as Lance in my life. He's just got great personality and he truly is beautiful. I think he's going to be the subject of many an art project (and maybe animation) projects to come ^_^. He's wonderfully supportive and loves it as much as I do. He's one of the best things to ever happen to my life and I know that as more come along and joint the family, I'll bond just as strongly with them too but he will always hold a very special place in my heart.

 

Right now, I'm in a strange perdicament...

I currently have 4.

The first is Michelangelo who I love so much, I sleep with him the most often. How I got him was in an unusual fashion, I found him while I going up and down the booths of the Artist Alley tables at Metrocon. I saw him halfway across the room and ran for him, it was like he was calling out to me... and I came as soon as I heard him. Even though at the time, right off the back he set me back on the spot about $400, his price + a new face up... I don't regret getting him. Ususally carry him around when he feels like leaving home, he's the most vocal about how he feels and I can hear him the most clearly. Right off the bat I can feel how protective he is of me, and he's the first I pick up when I'm feeling down... Always, it never fails when I sleep with him, my head ends up on his lap and his hands are petting my head. It's quite strange to some people, but I love it! He's just, always been there for me.

2) Is the baby Marie, when I first got her ( as a birthday gift on my birthday! hehe ) it was another case of love at first sight. She loves to hang around me, be with me... and then sometimes her attention is elsewhere and she obsesses over someone else for a while and then always comes back... but I can understand this because she is a baby. She loves sitting on Mich's lap, but he is her father. xP

3 ) is Hikaru, she's a little loveable monster. xD She adores me, but sometimes I can't stand her cheekiness. She's about as blunt as is a half-brick to the head, I'm so proud of her! She's so ADD and often wanders away to go do something else, but she's like what? 8? So, it's understandable. She likes to hang out with me, and going on an outing is fun with her, but she mostly likes to stay with her big brother Hitoshi and his boyfriend Rowan ( Nic's Yuu and X-2 )... Which is why she's staying over with my friend Fango's house, because she's attached to her brother's leg. Which I'm fine with actually, and I can still feel the bond between us. ( if that makes any sense to anyone? )

4) My un-named Shushu, she's attached to my leg. o_o She's antisocial, but I can feel her just slightly freak when I'm not with her, is it possible for a doll to be possesive of a human? Well, she says "Yes. D:< ". She is my first completely selfish doll, I bought her because I wanted her, not because she wanted me ( if, once again that makes any sense... but that explains why most of mine are second hand ). Anyways, she's really great once you get past her shell. I adore her, she's sweet, kindhearted, but... I don't know it's like she herself is a little broken ( and she herself doens't want to talk about it ). She tends to cling to Michelangelo alot, and tends to often get into a relationship with him ( which were the end results of Jaron and Marie ). Though recently... her and Mich had a bit of a falling out, and they've made nice again... but hmm, he's been so wary of her for the past few days, that's he's been really distant.

I can feel when he's not here, like there's nothing in the doll.... and that makes me a little sad sometimes. I don't know how to make it a little better.

:/ Any ideas?

 

I've bonded very nicely and quickly with my first two boys, they're my favorite sculpts and I adored them right from the start. Their characters and styles developed-and are still developing and I still feel like I'm bonding more with them every day. So, I thought that was bonding-you get a sculpt you adore, you fall in love with it when you get him out of the box and you gradually work on him and love him even more..

..then I got Xem XD I took him out of the box and, even without his proper wig or eyes it was just this..instant bonding. Like he had always been here, I don't feel like I have to 'get to know him' at all. I think it's because-unlike with Vasy and Sumi, Xem had a preexisting character which I adore. So..there are different ways of bonding, I guess. They both work great for me and I'm curious to find out how bonding with my incoming Seimei head will be, as I purchased him for the sculpt(like with Vasy and Sumi)and he has a preexisting character(like Xem) ^_^

If you don't bond with your doll, I would suggest trying different wigs/eyes/clothes/maybe even face-ups..things like that can do so much for a doll, maybe the doll who you thought would be a blonde will make you fall in love with her if you put a black wig on her.