Bonding and YOU.

I instantly fell in love with my boy when I saw the pictures his old owner had taken of him. Lucky for me, his owner was trying to sell him and I happened to have enough money to buy him right away. When he arrived after two weeks of waiting, I fell in love with him again. I loved every smallest bit of him! I still do, and I just keep on falling in love with him every time I look at him. Which is like, a few thousand times a day, since I carry him with me everywhere.

Bonding problems - none. I think he's getting used to being with me too.

 

Hello there ^^ just really need advice.

How do you know when to let go of a doll? I love my dolls. I truly do, but I tend to lose inspiration in dolls and characters. of all my characters the most I bonded is my Leeke world honey. I adore her. ^^; my first actual doll since I never think in selling her, I feel like I can have so many ideas, photoshoots and all and I play much more with her. but rave (my SDF Ethan)..I've tried finding inspiration..I love him ALOT. but maybe its the doll? I dont know..but I jsut dont have ideas in his photoshoots. and he just seems "oh..rave" I've been spamming him up with pics to feel something but no idea..I love this doll so much..but I compare to my previous lishe..and I adored her. and it was such a mistake selling her. because I had many ideas....

so what should I do? what should I do to find inspiration? ^^; I love him but..I dont feel that.."omg Im gonna make a *INSERT IDEAD HERE* photoshoot!" I just go "..hmm..let me just shoot up some pics with rave"

so I dunno what to do ;__;..I need help what should I do!because I love him but I dont feel anything of inspiration ^^;

 

...This may sound weird, but talk to your doll I know, I know... but I had da same prob before and thought I needed the doll's opinion on the matter, just sit him on the bed/couch/whatever and look him strait in the eyes Mull through your concerns, in your head, and I'm sure he'll come-up with an answer! Just listen closely, and try to feel what he's saying.... I know it sounds crazy but if you truly love him ya gatta make it work, kinda like marriage Hope dat helps?

 

Sometimes you don't need inspiration just to keep a doll. If you like the doll and enjoy just having him, then sometimes that's enough. You don't really need to bond and do photostories with all of them.

I have some photography dolls, and some that are just eye candy dolls. :3

 

By your definition, I haven't bonded well with Bella at all! XD I never do photostories with her. I just take pictures of her and share them with my friends, and I talk to her when I'm happy or sad or bored or most of the time, really. : ) Like Nakitama said, sometimes they're just eye candy dolls.

 

I had a lot of problems bonding with two of my dolls (my twins). The first problem was that they arrived on the same day as another doll, and because I hadn't actually been expecting them so soon, one of them (the other was LD and had an outfit) had no clothes prepared and they had no names or definite personalities or anything.

Then I did some box opening pictures and such and stood them up to photograph them together and they both fell over, and there were wigs and hat and headcaps everywhere and I was just like, "oh nooooo ;~;" and I took them upstairs and ignored them for about two days, paying all the attention to the doll who'd arrived with them.

Then I brought them downstairs for a while because I figured they couldn't sit there being ignored forever, and they sat next to me while I was watching TV. I was watching the anime/episode their names come from (Cowboy Bebop) and suddenly there it was. Suddenly they had names (Grencia and Elijah, btw) and after that, the rest was easy. Now I can't imagine what I ever struggled with.

 

Eep, double post. D:

 

I bonded with my 2 dolls as soon as they came out of the box. The more I play with them, dress them, carry them around, etc. the more I love them. Before I got my first doll I thought the whole "bonding" thing was a bit of a load of crap because they're "just dolls". Forgive me. But now I know...

 

I find that I bond with my dolls the most when I give them wigs. x__x; It's somewhat odd. I can change their eyes out, give them faceup after faceup after faceup... But until I get them a wig, I wont feel that special 'click.' And then I put them into crazyawesomepointless poses (my favorite dollie pastime, haha), and it all goes uphill after that!

 

Well, I just got my first doll this past thursday, and I am overjoyed!
He came home, and I as so happy, I just don't know how well we're bonding.
What I do to try and bond with him and Have him sit with me when I'm just hanging out, and I take pictures of him, and that's when I feel the closest to the bonding feeling people talk about. He's sitting on the desk right now, and his presence is really nice, but it's not that hook I was hoping for. I still love him though, I'd never get rid of him. I love taking pictures of him and I love having him sit around with me...
I also think it might be his face-up or how tightly he's strung that's the problem. I guess I'll find out sooner or later.

 

Every time I read bonding threads, I about have a panic attack. I ordered a SA Saint form Luts, and I'm scared that I wont bond with him...*fidgetfidget*

Then again, I have a feeling he wont have a choice and that I'll love my first doll far too much to not bond with him. I will...no matter what. XD

 

I bonded with my doll as soon as I saw her, I thought, "that's her! That's the one. I hope it isn't too much money." I saw her picture as a tiny Avatar on some website and tracked her down from there.

 

Funny...

I just had an epiphany today about what my Evvie was to me. Unbeknowest to me, she was my muse all this time.
At first, when I received her I had to struggle for a while with several back stories and for some reason she remained a misfit and would not work with my plans. But thanks to my epiphany today I realized that she was the one who inspired all these stories even if she did not partake in any. That and she rekindled all my dormant artistic desires that I had thought died out within me long ago. Now I find myself actively trying to draw, sew, sculpt, write and even attempt(yes, attempt) to photograph.

So in the end, I'm happy to say I accepted my Ev for the permanent little misfit she is.

 

It was the same for me, almost. Orian is my first doll, and I hate to be away from him. He is with me in every room in the apartment! He's so important to me...
I think the main reason I love him so deeply is because I bought him in parts... his head, then body, then hair and eyes, and now clothes. I painted all his faceups, I named him, and I gave him a soul. I love him simply because of that...
It makes me afraid to buy a second doll, because I want to bond with the second as much as I am with him. But I don't want to love Orian less, or the second doll less than Orian. TT-TT so I worry. (I'll still get more dolls, though >O<)

Orian is just special to me. I can't describe it, but when I touch his little hands after a long day at work, all the stress melts away. I have tons of photos in my cell phone, too, so when I'm away from him I can look at the pictures and feel calmer.
>.<! *grabs him and hugs him tight*
Once, I tried to sleep with him in my bed O.O his hair got so messy. My roommate saw him when I had left for school, and told me later on he looked rather sexed up. lol!

 

I think what bonded me so closely to my first doll, MinWoo, was that he was a Christmas gift from some of my best friends. They really did a wonderful thing to give me my first doll. Even if I had to sell all my dolls to live, I'd never sell MinWoo because of that reason.

I generally bond with my dolls by creating their stories. Their histories, personalities, etc. This is how I can get really creative with them as I'm not very good at customizing them myself. I'm trying though! I've put in a lot of time and thought into what makes each doll/character unique and special. Not only does it help me bond with my dolls but it's a great creative outlet.

 

I thought I was in love with my Soul Doll Arhanian, Emory C. But when he arrived, it was instant coolness - on both our parts. He was 'way too girly for me, and I was not sympatico for him. Nothing helped, and I finally managed to place the Arhanian head with someone who DID love him & want him, and replaced it recently with an Alan Rickman minimee head - & suddenly it was love at first sight!

Now, my Limhwa, I fell in utter love with from the beginning, & still am. Ditto her sister, the Supia Roda.

Guess I'm just not able to handle 'girly boys'.

 

When I bought Yelena (dollzone cherry), it was also the first ABJD I would see real life. So when I took her out of the box, I found her really pretty, but I was afraid that she would not be the character I had in mind. I was afraid that I made a wrong choice and would not bond with her.

Then I started with her face-up. It was the first face-up I've ever did, and it took a while before her eye-liner was right. But when she was finished (first try), I found it really pretty! Then I made some clothes. I was not afraid anymore that she was a wrong choice, but I was not bonded well with her yet.
Her clothes turned out ok. Then I started with her dreads. That took a very long time. And when I braided them in (took another 6 hours or so), I could definately feel that I was bonding more and more with Yelena.

Sadly, I haven't got time yet to do Leana's face-up, or make some clothes for her. (Don't worry, I got a dollzone outfit, so she is not naked ). And I do not feel bonded yet with her.

When Ivan arrived, I was really bouning of happiness. I really love him, but I don't feel bonded with him like I am to Yelena. I think it is because he still hasn't clothes and dreads yet.

So for me, I can clearly see that the bonding process for me is while I am turning a doll into the character I had in mind. So while doing face-ups, hair, clothes, hot glueing, sanding and such, I feel bonded more and more. And when they are finally finished, I feel I am bonded to my doll.

And a note: for me is bonding a little different than just love the doll. I love dolls because they are pretty, but I feel bonded when they are "finished" into the characters I wanted them to be.
So for example: I can love the dollzone cherry that arrived, but I only feel bonded to Yelena. I hope I made myself clear.

 

Well, so far I only have one doll that I just recently got, and I remember I was pretty worried about bonding with him at first. Still, I found that I bonded with him the most when my family members would start making fun of him or even just comment on him. Awknowledge him and stuff. I don't really know why exactly, but throughout the last few days I've really bonded with him. :3 I guess it's also because I've figured out who he is. His story. That definitely helped the bonding process, I'd say.

 

I've had Ashen for a few weeks, and I really like him (save a few issues that are easily overcome) but I was looking at him last night and he just didn't feel like 'my' Ashie. Ashie is an OC of mine and has been for ages, i have him worked out down to the letter, personality, looks, everything. And even after his face-up was done (which is perfect) he doesn't feel like Ashen, like a deep feeling in my subconcious.

He just looks sad all the time. I'm planning on getting him new eyes, but I think it would still be the same. I don't know why, but even though i love him to bits, I feel its more of a materialistic love because he cost so much. I'm afraid I'm never going to feel like he's 'my' Ashie.

Any advice?

 

I'm really glad there is a thread like this. This thought has been squiggling around in my head for the past few days now. I was kinda worried that I might not bond with my first doll, since I don't have any characters I want him to be; any past or back story... I don't even know his name yet! And I always feel so under-prepared when I hear of how everyone else has planned their doll's characters right down to their personality quirks...

But then reading this thread, has helped put my worries at ease. Because I know when he's mine, I'm sure he'll tell me who he is, when he gets here. And I know I'm going to love him anyway.