Bonding and YOU.

Deffinatly talk to him, thats a big one.

Try watching T.V. or listening to music with him, see what he likes..cuddle him and take outside to a park or you back/frount yard. The most important thing is to spend some quality time with him.

I'm finding that my boy is a little different that what I previously thought, but the more I figure out..the more I like him. :grin:

Hope that helps

 

The way I finally bonded with Yukio (and not to scare you--but it took several months) was by giving him a new faceup . . . . Granted, it's probably a very intimidating idea for you since it sounds like you ordered Xavier with makeup. (I ordered Yukio blank, so I was forced to learn how to do faceups.)

It's something to consider if nothing else works. And it's probably the best way to make him look younger, if you really want that. It's really amazing how just a little paint can make them look years younger or older. (However, you may find the older look grows on you--it makes him unique, after all.)

Give it a little time on the melancholy, though. He might still be adjusting. It can be rather shocking at first how intense then moods these dolls have are. Sometimes Yukio can seem moping and depressed, and then a few years later he'll look so devious and impish.

On another note, try doing something to cheer him up. Maybe buy him a gift? (Even a small toy from the dollar store or something . . . . )

I wish you luck, bonding ^__^ You've gotten a lot of really good suggestions from people.

 

if a wig and eye change and some lugging around and lap dances don't work then a good bath together will surely do this,,,, works for me !! lol

 

..... bath together??? o.o

 

If the wig/eye change fails, take his picture.
I often find that I bond with them more after trying to capture their personality with pics.....

Michelle

 

sure!! makes for lots of fun and nice splash and fun and bonding then dry them off and dress them pretty its lots of fun!!

 

I know the feeling - Ichii was much younger than I thought he'd be. (Though admittedly, he is maturing as we get to know each other.)
... as for the sqeaking, Ichii does that, too. I think it's sorta cute, but if it bugs you that much, take him apart, and wire/suede/re-string him.

 

Touching, petting, hugging, hand-holding, talking to, dressing, taking pics....it's all good! Try the eye change - it can really change the attitude of his expression, and may endear him more to you. Good luck! Let us know... Hugggggs a lot!

 

I feel better.. I put on his huuggee white wig alot with his floppy newboy hat, and IT WORKED! Even though it hides his eyes, he looks happier and he's sitting nicer in my lap while I hold his hand.

He still hasn't 'spoken to me mch, but hes backto what I'd imagined he'd be..

But I sitll like his other wigs that make him loo k sad =(

 

These are all great suggestions. Lay around with him on the couch and channel surf,talk to him about boys/girls, ask him questions. Let him get to you know your house, you know.. "This is the kitchen.." ect. ect.

If you have to go somewhere where he can't go, tuck him into your bed and leave some music on for him before you leave.

A lot of little tricks help. :]

 

Don't worry about him not talking to you yet. It took a very long time for me to be able to hear ChinSeung's 'voice'.. truth is, he doesn't like to talk to people, even though he somehow fancies himself a storyteller >_>;

But I found just holding him in my lap when I'm watching TV or on the computer.. playing with his hair, holding one of his hands... and photoshoots really help, somehow.

He may never want to be the type to do a photostory or ever talk to anyone else.. but that's just who he is ^^ Try to find out who your boy is before you expect him to do what you may want him to do-- he may not be the type, but that's just fine, because I think you can love him for who he is, ne?

 

As everyone else has addressed the bonding part, I'll address the squeaking of the joints ^^

Rosiel and Absynthe both squeaked for awhile after I got them. I love my dolls to death, but this annoyed me greatly. I tried not to let it get to me, though.

Eventually, with much posing and cuddling and carrying around of the both of them, the squeaking just ... disappeared. I think you just need to play with him for awhile. It's the new resin and string that does it. It needs time to age and be worn a bit.

If you feel that the stringing was done too tight, you can try relaxing the knot in the headcap, or you can pull on his hands and feet. Try doing this ASAP, though, because the elastic won't stretch when you pull his hands and feet unless it's new.

 

*giggling*

 

When I first got Nemo out of the box I was like "shit, he looks just like all the other Si's and I don't like that". Then I came home, changed his wig and.. fixed his eyes! The wig thing didn't really matter but fixing his eyes helped a LOT. He simply whent from being a little.. unpleasant.. to beautiful! Try fixing his eyes. I bonded with him instantly.

 

Haha, this might sound weird, but whenever I take a shower or a bath, Ichii sits on his chair on the countertop. ops:

 

I bonded with Jaede immediately (I swear it was love at first sight), but Jaede squeaked too a little bit at first. I cleaned his joints and that seemed to fix it.

But I just started taking a ton of pictures, bought him a few pairs of eyes, took him to a convention with me (Oh, the fun hours on the airplane with him in my lap! XD), and sat him at my computer desk whenever I was there.

 

Music is a good way to bond with them. I leave music on for my dolls too when I'm not in the room with them so they don't get bored, and I found out that Cecilia likes Queen, Flint likes Led Zeppelin, and Nina likes The Beatles.

It's best to let them be who they are, not who you want them to be. I'd be unhappy with them if I kept on trying to mold them into who I wanted them to be. Even if they're WAY different than I had planned, it's better to love the personality they have then trying to force them to be the way you planned them to be...

I thought that Cecilia would be a little sweetheart, but she's alot more spunky than I thought. And a brat sometimes too...

 

i am finding that im not really connecting with Jasper...I don't seem to feel for him as i do the others. I am thinking though that because of this I'm going to have a go at customizing him...being as I dont care about him AS much it won't matter so much if it all goes wrong. And i think I know how he is going to look now......

hmmm.

 

That's a good (and brave!) idea Bwiel. Maybe if you take a few days to spend just dealing with Jasper that will help also. It's sometimes hard to get stronger attachments to a doll when there are other dolls around... That's how I feel anyway. I almost wish I had only one doll because it's tough to have quality bonding time with one when another is screaming for shirts. *smacks Flint in the back of the head*

What kind of customizations are you gonna do? Just a faceup, or sanding and seuding and the whole she-bang? Post pics in the critique section when you do! :grin: