Bonding and YOU.

I definitely agree with that. I had trouble bonding because Florizel wasn't turning out the way I wanted him to, and that was a major source of friction. But once I let it go and accepted him as he was, it was much easier to bond.

 

I can appreciate having problems bonding with a new doll; I'm having a hard time at present with Talula, my Serendipity Shall. I was all excited when she arrived, tearing open the wrapping paper and opening up her big pink box... and then she stared up at me with those big dark blue eyes, and I just felt this big empty feeling of "oh." She just seemed so much younger than her photos. And something about her eyes... I'm just not comfortable with her at all.

I've ordered a much paler pair of eyes for her in Powder blue from Masterpiece eyes, which I'm hoping will "open out" her face a bit more; and I've ordered a couple of dark wigs to see if the colour change will make a difference (Ayame's wigs are all SD sized and far too big!). I'm hoping that plus the little Gothic Lolita outfit I'm making for her will help.

It could just be something as simple as the fact that she arrived only a day after Ayame did, and perhaps I'm still too much head-over-heels in new love for Ayame to really bond with another new doll, and maybe in time she'll start to show her own personality and seem a bit less (I hate to say it... ) creepy - right now though I can't bear to have her in my bedroom at night, and she sits on the bookshelf with my little 27cm Dollfies for company whilst Ayame gets to come into the bedroom.

I feel guilty for not falling in love with her the way I have with Ayame.

 

I have the same problem with my Chiwoo. I still like his head mold, but partly because of his standing problem and partly because his head is considerably bigger than all of my other dolls, I don't play with him much at all. ops:

Maybe I should give him a remake and restring whne I have time and hopefully that would change everything. :grin:

 

I have the same problem with my Chiwoo. I still like his head mold, but partly because of his standing problem and partly because his head is considerably bigger than all of my other dolls, I don't play with him much at all. ops:

Maybe I should give him a remake and restring whne I have time and hopefully that would change everything. :grin:

 

Well I realise now his soul is an Angel soul. He is SO sweet and good natured. So i am going to make him look like an angel. Change his eyes to some blue crystal looking ones and give him silver or blonde hair...and I will change his Face Up too...use some silver and gold on him.
Anything more than that...nAHH im not THAT brave!!!

 

OOh, that's gonna be nice!! I would love to see a silver or gold face-up, I don't think I've ever seen one like that before. Good luck, I can't wait! :grin:

 

Sleeping with mine at night bonded me more to them. I had a bad day and felt really sad, and so I held Shelley, and after that knowing I had them to hold made me feel closer to them.

 

She was the reason I bought LE BW Elf Lishe. Yet, when I opened the box, Morganna Fey jumped out, unpainted, sexy full of personality. I painted her and she requested tattoos. I painted Mikazuki's face, stylized, blood-red lips. MFey became a person. Mika did not. She had a borrowed body that didn't match her skin and I did my best to find outfits and wigs for her, but I didn't feel that surge of happiness when I saw her that I felt for Tristan, Morganna, Sying and Hai Tsien's Daughter.

Mikazuki sat in a chair for months. I read so many posts about not bonding, people selling heads and whole dolls. Then, I thought about the stories I tell in my books and computer games and now my online manga AlienHeart. The dolls are what I make them, how I respond to the basic "look" of the sculpt. In fact, I can even change that to some extent.

So, I put on a wig I'd never tried before, yanked off those heavy eyelashes that hid her glowing golden amber eyes, thought about her story - how she was Bitten, her fiancee killed trying to save her, how her sister has left everything she loves to bring Mikazuki to Flower Land where the magic - both good and bad - is less powerful than in the Elven world.

And a few days ago, I put the ribbon cap on her head and she became real.

I love her.

Before you sell a doll you longed for or dreamed stories for because you're not bonding, spend some time with him/her. Put your energy into that one doll. Pour yourself into her. And, it may be like Mikazuki, your little boy or girl will come alive.

 

speaking of bonding, I am having some problems myself. I am so glad things worked out for you.
A few months ago I finally decided on my first bjd, cp Lishe, I had narrwed it down to lishe, marin, and margo. My friends convinced me that Lishe was the most versitile. when she came I had not time with her becase I was leaveing that same day. When I cam home some time later, I gave her her first face up which took forever. She is nice and all but, normally I would just rather go online and look at other peoples dolls rather then play with her. I half heartedly make her outfits. I try taking her places with me and talking to her. No name I give her sticks. Finally out ou frusteration I removed her face up and she remained headless for quite a while. I really dont knwo what to do.

 

I like to look at other dolls and stuff, too.
So, Ichiiro and I go window shopping.
Someday, I'd like to get another mini, or maybe a 60cm doll or two. I'll have Ichiiro sit on my lap, and ask him what he thinks of this doll or that doll. We're both fond of An and Syo. I like Jerome, but he doesn't.
We look at clothes that I will never be able to afford, and playmates that will never come to live with us, but it's fun, 'cause we do it together.

 

Awww. I feel so bad for you and I know just what you mean. Does your girl have a story? Maybe you can find a name for her from something you loved in a movie or other story. Lishe is always sexy. no way to stop her even with a girl's body. She's no little girl doll, but then Margo is very sophisticated and grown up.

it took months for Mikazuki to come to life. I liked her, but basically she was just a hunk of resin for quite a while. valuable resin, but nobody home, so to speak.

My Elf El still needs to become more alive. he's like a very shy guy that you wish would ask you out. I'm making him one of the Four Companions in my story, so I can spend more time with him, finding out what will put more spark into him.

I guess it's like a relationship. you have to put some work and time into it. So strange, isn't it? You think you pay money and you get what you pay for, but these stubborn spirits don't always reveal themselves right away. I hope you'll keep me updated on what you do. Lishe is so beautiful. I hope she finds her way to your heart soon.

Hi Meep! I love your Ichiro. Jerome is so cute. But, maybe Ichiro doesn't want competition. :wink:

 

I guess I could try some more things but it is so hard. I feel as if she dosent like me that much (as strange as that sounds) so she just ignores me. Every time i fuss with her, something always goes wrong. I changed her wig, gave her shoes eyes and even gave her a nose job to get rid of that slightly upturned look, but still, nothing.

 

I know exactly what you mean about her not liking you.
Talk to her, or better yet, ask her questions. See how she responds.... If she doesn't, just sit with her and watch tv or something.
Think of her as a relative that you don't really know that well, but want to.
She'll open up to you, I'm sure. Give her some time.
Besides, maybe she's angry 'cause you didn't get to play with her right away?

 

That could probally be why Gany. ;_; Today it has gotten even worse. Whenever I think about her I think about how much better she is then me! It is really weird and voo-doo-y.. Nothing like that has ever happened to before. I dont know what to do!

 

I couldn't even begin to imagine the way that it must feel, feeling as though she doesn't like you. Unless we are reffering to a cat, in which case, Joxer.. my cat, often isn't liking me.. *sigh*

Anyway. Have you taken the time to sit with her and talk to her about the way that you feel about her and the situation?

If she really isn't receptive, even after a few months then there is the possibilty that she isn't good for you. If she is unpleasant enough not to be able to make an attempt at living harmoniously with you, than perhaps you should consider that she isn't a person that you want to have in your life... Well. Maybe you do WANT her, but maybe she isn't good for you. Especially if she has such a completely different personality, in a negitive way...

Babbling.. argh. Point. we aren't always the problem. Sometimes the dolls just arn't right. And while I know you were probably looking for happier words than these, they are the best that I can think to offer, presently.

Good luck!

 

Don't worry about the squeaking, it goes away the more you play with him. Gabriel is mostly squeak free now.
I know I may sound utterly crazy...but try letting your doll sleep in your bed with you. XD It really, really works.

 

Hi,
if you don't like him, maybe my sister would like to purchase him from you: she loves his face up!

 

Oh, that so works! Ayame often shares my bed. Neph and Talula have been joining us recently too; Neph was always going to be a temporary stay (he's a commission for a friend), but Talula just doesn't feel as if she's going to be here long term. But Ayame and I are so close now that I'm kind of dreading the next time my bf stays over - because there's no way I'll make Ayame sleep elsewhere now! I don't think I could sleep without her there!

 

:grin: thanks for the offer. i have yet to get round to finishing Jaspers look. Still rather unsure of how i want him to look. I won't be selling him though...if things dont work out between us i may adopt him out to a friend.

 

Hi Bwiel,
that's all right, don't worry! ^_^
My sister will order her own one in case she decides to get a BJD (she still has to choose between DOD Si and Dollmore Dean).
Thanks for your kind reply, anyway!
Best,