But ... she just GOT there! >__<

I collected vintage dolls before I got into BJD's then I started selling them to buy BJD's! When I sold them I put them out of my mind..they no longer belonged to me. If I saw one up for sale right away for double the price I might not like it (especially if they got that price!) LOL but it is not any of my business. I learned how to detach from working at an animal shelter for years. I bottle raised orphans! How hard was that to let go? I agonized over the new owners and was devastated to find out one was given away or mistreated. To save my self the heartbreak I totally detached after they were 8 weeks old and never inquired where they went. Same with dolls. Once I have the money and they are sold, I treat them like they are not my doll..because they aren't! I only bought one BJD that I didn't bond with but after a year of fooling with him (and almost selling him once) We have finally bonded. I also got one doll who was sold by his second owner very soon after she purchased him. He was a Mecha Angel and she couldn't deal with his size. The original owner was sad that she sold him so soon but I feel he was just meant to be mine and that's why she sold him!

 

I guess I know exactly how you feel.
About one or two weeks ago, I got a face-up comission. So I did two face-ups for someone and she seemed to be really happy.
But yesterday, while I was looking on the Dutch Ebay, those two dolls were for sale!
With my face-ups!
Like.. I thought she was happy with it... >.<
I really feel like I screwed up the face-ups or something XD
(though they were like the best I ever made)

 

Very different but somewhat similar situation I guess....I sold two dolls to a friend of mine because they didn't fit my troupe but I still was kind of attached. I figured this was the best option. I'd still get to see them. They both still had their default face-ups and she sent them off to get new ones. When they came back I was moderately horrified at first. I thought the face ups looked terrible. And then she told me their new names. And I didn't like those either! I was really unnerved and upset for a long time but eventually it occurred to me, these aren't my dolls anymore. It took some time but I was eventually able to separate myself from them and see them in a new light.

 

Had the same feeling when I sold my second doll. I bought him 'cause he was my dream doll, but after 6 months I didn't feel any closer to him, so I desided to sell him - after many wake night thinking it over.
I put the prize a bit high, cause I wanted him to go to a good home. I was so scared that the only ones whod want him maybe some of the gore-mood fanatics on the forum I sold him on, and if one of them said they want him, I probably just hang on to him, but a friend of mine bought him. I still have some trouble calling him by his new name, but at least he's taken good care off ^^

 

THIS.

Plus, you dont know what happens in a persons life, they may need to make money quickly and dont want to get attached to a doll so want it out of their hands quickly.

If you decide to sell a doll, with a wig or clothes etc and you send them to someone who paid for them then you want stuff back or are hurt by them selling their things or the actual doll then I dont think you should have sold them.

I have been sold a doll, then decided I didnt want it. I put it up for sale and I got a message from the person who sold it to me, I thought they were annoyed, but not at all... They wanted to buy her back! Sometimes things just happen in an odd way.

 

I can understand your frustration since almost everyone wants their dolls to go to a good home, not continually be passed around.
I do agree with others that once the doll is sold and sent off then it is the new owner's business what they do with their doll.
I've been guilty of this on occasion. Sometimes you unpack a doll and you just know immediately that it's not going to work for you whether because of size, face-up, or something you just didn't notice in photos. I'm not trying to make money or be rude and I'm pretty sure they're not either.

 

I may have a momentary feeling of "awe, but you just got it." but then I would remember I, in fact sold the doll myself. Even if I had it for years, and the new owner had it for hours, I still sold it. If it was so precious that I should become so emotional as to feel "duped" or annoyed at the new owner for not loving it, I wouldn't sell it.

Once someone agrees to buy a doll from me, it becomes a business transation, and as long as they pay me in full when they say they will and all goes smoothly, I see no reason to feel anything negative over the situation.

 

I can agree with this one. Just like the actual doll, I agree that any customizing work done for a person is theirs do do with as they wish. However, I do find it a little disheartening when I do work for people who end up selling it a week later. I know there are many reasons for doing so - not bonding, or needing money, or there's always the possibility that someone feels that the photos were much different than the actual product.
Maybe I'm a little old fashioned, but I do try my best to make sure people are content with my work before I send it out to them. When they don't bond, sometimes I wonder if my work had something to do with it...? Ha, I probably need a thicker skin.

 

It could be that she wanted to sell the dolls anyway and when they arrived back felt they would sell faster with the great faceups!

 

I would feel bad if someone flipped my doll like that. IN truth, it is their doll, so there is nothing I can do about it, but I think it's okay to feel a little disappointed. It's all part of the letting go process, and if you want to buy it back, there's nothing wrong with that!

I feel sentimental about my dolls, and I think that if I ever had to sell one, I would have a really hard time letting him/her go. If I do, and I saw it up for sale again right after I sold it, I would feel bad for who that doll used to be to me, if that makes sense. But I also have to keep in perspective why I sold it in the first place. That should be the focus.

 

When I've sold dolls in the past I've always emotionally detached myself altogether before I've decided to put them up for sale, so it really wouldn't bother me at all. As many other people have said here I appreciate the fact that people can change their minds about items once they see them in person, especially something as personal (in my eyes) as these dolls.

 

Funny comment! lol

 

I only have one doll, and I don't think I'd ever sell her just for the reasons mentioned...what if she's not happy... what if they don't tell her how pretty she is... what if they don't spoil her the way I do... It would be like selling my child lol

 

Just never sell a doll you are still emotionally attached to.
The hard part is finding out if you are. Once you feel totally unattached you will be ok and so will the doll :-}

 

I've sold plenty of dolls and never felt this way. Once I'm to the point of selling a doll, I'm no longer attached to it. I never throw in extras that have any meaning or could be used for any of my others. While I would LIKE for my dolls to go on to loving homes, I really don't even stay in touch with most buyers (I have become friends with a few) and have no idea what ever happened to my old dolls. Once I sell something, be it doll, faceup, clothing, etc, it is no longer mine and the new owner can do as they please. I've never felt bad for reselling anything.

That being said, I think it's extremely tacky to use the previous seller's pix to resell the doll. That happened to a friend of mine. She sold a doll, then found it on the MP a couple of weeks layer, using her pix. She wasn't bothered that the doll was being resold, she got what she wanted out of it, but I think she was a little surprised to see her pix posted, especially since the extras in the pix were not included! You want to resell? Fine. But take your own pix.

 

I agree with TreeLore. I personally will not let a doll that I still love go, unless I'm in a seriously bad financial condition. But I still understand you, if that's the case I will be unhappy as well. It is as if letting a child to a bad home, where he/she is still unwanted. But I agree if that's the buyer's right. It is already becoming their doll, so it is up to them whether they want to sell it or not. Moreover, some dolls has financial value that can be used as investment. So re-selling the doll may let the buyer gets a better price or profit. maybe.

But of course it will be better if the doll is sent to a loving home, where it is being loved, not only considered as luxury goods for trades or investment.

 

I always feel sad for dolls that happens to. I hav a frined how does it all the time. I always feel Dolls are kind of like my characters. (FYI, I'm a book writer) and when I write my book its sooo hard for me to get rid of a character! I feel its the same with my dolls. I couldn't just give them away to someone who would trash there little soul ;w;!

 

I didn't really have someone turn around and sell a doll. But when I sold my entire collection before, it was because my now ex boyfriend had brainwashed me and I was on anti-depressants that caused my reasoning to lag. I sold my whole doll family, when I finally got off the anti-depressants and got away from that guy, I realized too late that I had sold my family! Now, I'd give anything to have my Puki Piki and Chu chu back, particularly Puki Piki! She is sold out everywhere and the buyer I sold it to was a complete jerk to me the whole time! I should have never sold Puki Piki because she is no longer available at Fairyland. :'( She had the full face up for both sleeping and awake face. :'( I know that if I ever see her for sale again, I'm snatching her back up for sure.

 

I recently saw a doll sell in the MP for $300 and less than a month later the new owner was selling it for $400. :\

 

I understand it's kind of like a puppy you sell it wanting it to go to a good family and then they're like of he
destroyed blah blah blah and now he's back up for sale. Like WTH! But it is their right.