Buyers remorse; when does it happen and what does it mean?

I used to regret a lot before I got used to the dolls and started making really nice outfits for them. I also bought my second one soon after I quit my job, without realising that I might not get the new job soon and that I will really need money... But they are beautiful, those dolls and even if I hadn't bought them, the money still would be floating without use in my bank account.

 

There's another great thread about buyer's remorse here:

http://www.denofangels.com/forums/showthread.php?t=307385

I have felt it occasionally... but the good thing in this hobby is that you can always sell the item later if that's the case.

 

I had buyer's remorse for a different reason entirely. Our income is very modest, but I'm an absolute budget queen and can stretch a paycheck a mile if need be. So I don't worry so much about the financial aspect, knowing I can always pull off a miracle to get by if I have to. But rather recently I got hooked on the excitement of ordering MSD sized minimee heads in the marketplace GOs here on DoA. The prospect of helping to design a sculpt was so compelling...and you could pretty much have anything you want. During the long group decision, ordering and sculpting process for each one, I busied myself making wonderful rooms for them. But once the display rooms were completed, I took my beloved MSD sized Batchix Machina and had her "try them out" size-wise for me. Every room I put her in, she looked utterly amazing and pretty much "fell" perfectly posed into each and every chair, sofa and chaise like she had always belonged there. That's when it suddenly dawned on me that I didn't need 3 different characters to occupy those rooms at all...just one greatly loved robot girl whose character could happily move from room to room whenever I felt like it. But I still had the 3 gorgeous heads coming! Ouch! Such a waste! But not to worry, I put them up for sale in the marketplace at a slightly reduced price and each one sold within hours. Then I took the money I made and spent it on a sweet little sidekick for my robot girl, Quadrophenia, instead. Great thing is I was able to buy her new little pal at a great discount too, which more than made up for any loss I'd taken on the heads and then some. Plus, I now didn't need to spend any money purchasing bodies for the heads, which saved me a substantial amount. Happy ending!

 

It seems like everyone's remorse vanishes when the doll appears ^^ That's how I've been too, although I once cancelled an order a few hours after I placed it because I 'impulse bought' a 300$ body...I'm glad I cancelled, because the resin would not have matched the doll that was intended for it!

 

So far, every time I've decided to buy a doll, doll head, or something for my doll(s), some finanical problem has sprung up out of nowhere. My car bill is suddenly $100 more, family member in the hospital, or I lose my job... But it only happens after I've either already spent the money, or have paid the down payment, and would only be losing money (and credit).

I wouldn't have buyer's remorse so much or so bad if it weren't for that. Frankly, it's got me more than a little afraid to buy anything for my dolls.

 

This post makes me sad.. *laughs*
I still feel remorse sometimes. LOL

 

I have... twice ^^

First time - when I ordered my LittleFee Shiwoo - he was a total impulse buy. When he got to me, he was cute and all but the character I had intended for him didn't fit the sculpt - he's too small... but he's cute, so the remorse wore off. That and the family thinks he's cute too ^^

The other time was very, very recently actually. I've just purchased an SDF body for my Ryu head - so I know the chances of a resin match are pretty damn low - but he's been body-less for just under a year and I was itching to purchase a body for him. Of course, as soon as I said I'd go into the lay-away Dad just happened to mention that you know, things were tight and they needed to save money so they were going to ask for some more cash from me for car insurance/ rego and phone. I'm really lucky they pay those for me, since most of my money goes to petrol, train tickets and Uni fees/ stuff I need for uni.... but as a result I don't usually have that much left over to spend. So as soon as he said that, I felt so incredibly guilty about putting the body on lay-away. That guilt is kind of gone now, since I promised the parents that there wouldn't be any new resin for a while... ^^

 

I believe I've already shared my thoughts about this with you but just in case... I rarely experience buyer's remorse, but I experience remorse that I don't have more money to spend.

 

True, true! Yeti-true!

 

I definitely get pangs of "I spent HOW MUCH?" when I buy a doll, but I generally decide it was worth it. When the feeling continues past the doll's arrival it tells me that I spent more than the doll is worth to me, and those dolls are sold pretty promptly. BJDs are so expensive that I'm not keeping one I don't really, really love, so if I'm still feeling iffy about one after three days or a week it's resold.

 

I've not felt buyer's remorse. I carefully think about each purchase before I make one when it comes to more expensive items like dolls.

Actually, there was once where I'd had a little bit of remorse. I'd bought a Dollheart dress for an incoming doll, and when I got it, I decided I wanted another one (in a different colour) for my other doll. I felt sort of guilty after buying the second one because they were around $100 each with shipping. Once I thought about it though, I didn't feel so guilty when I remembered I'd intentionally spent much much less on a trip than I'd expected to.

 

SDF as in Souldoll? I hear that;s great resin match for migidoll!

 

I think there comes a time when almost everyone experiences some buyers remorse for one reason or another. With the price of these dolls it's easy to feel guilty over spending that much money on a pure luxury item, but hey, as long as the bills are paid, we all need a little joy in our lives, right?

And then there're those times that you wait so long for a doll that you sort of get discouraged along the way. Or you see gorgeous pics & when you actually get the doll it's a big disappointment. And even when everything seems right, there are those times when you just can't bond & feel bad about buying the doll in the first place.

It sort of seems par for the course & yes, it's happened to me but I just end up selling the doll or outfit or whatever & go on to something I love more.

 

I haven't experienced buyer's remorse over a doll yet. I tend to think about it for a while before I actually buy the doll. Doing research is helpful but sometimes it's not the case if one can't bond with the doll once it's home.

But I have experienced buyer's remorse on some outfits I bought for my dolls. I think it went away once the outfit was on the doll I bought it for.

 

eh only sometimes but that usual has to do with my anime or my figurens and well the remorse does go away because i eventually get it anyway

 

I think remorse usually comes from rushing a decision. The next big cause, atleast from personal experience, is simply growing out of it. There may have been a style aspect or even the hobby itself that you were really into but your tastes have simply changed. However if I know I really enjoyed something once and I was reasonable and thoughtful about the decision I don't tend to feel remorse. Even if I do grow out of it so to speak.

 

My first MSD, it hit me HARD! I spent the money, just jumping on this little Volks Nasia which has such a sweet face. She was adorable! But, I didn't *really* have the money to buy her. Nevertheless, I hadn't bought myself something in months, so I figured out a way to scrape by. Then she got her. I was disapointed as soon as I unwraped her! I hadn't done enough research and didn't realize the older volks bodies where like that. I wanted to cry! I tried for about three months to get used to her and to actually try and make myself feel like I hadn't just wasted nearly 300$. But, eventually, I just sold her to someone who actually wanted her and now she has a loving home.

And then, again, VERY recently. Again, didn't really have the money to spend, but knew I could stretch and get everything taken care of. So, I bought my sweet little brownie off the marketplace. I'd wanted him for months and months, pining for a tiny since I sold my Puki Pipi a while back. It hit immediatly that I should NOT have bought him. However, with him, the minute he got in, the remorse was gone, even though I'll be feeling the financial strech until next friday.

 

Shikaruchan: Your ICON!

Apricotkiss: I agree completely. Impulse buying is not for BJDs, they're far too expensive. And therein lies the guilt :P

 

It hasn't really happened for me with my dolls. I've been happy with them because I feel like they've been mostly worth what a paid for them (they're beautiful dolls with a lot of work put into them and their clothing, I just wish they had come with shoes!), so I only really get buyers remorse when I buy something that wasn't worth my money or grief (like something I bought once at a convention ¬_¬).

But these days I can see why people would get buyers remorse more easily, especially when a doll can be seen as a extravagant purchase.

 

I don't feel remorse when I buy a doll, I feel it later when I have to sell the doll to pay a bill. I guess in a way a BJD is like having money in the bank because you can usually sell without much of a loss and sometimes even a gain on your investment. I try to look at it that way and love them while they are here and if someone has to go...then I deal with that issue.