Buyers remorse; when does it happen and what does it mean?

There were several dolls that I did regret buying, 2 Dollzones & a Bobobie. Not that I have anything against these companies, in fact I have several of the 27cm Bobobies that I adore. But the Dollzone dolls looked nothing like their promo pics & even after redoing their face-ups, I just couldn't enjoy them as I felt so mislead. The Bobobie was cute but as soon as I saw him, I knew he wouldn't fit in.

I also somewhat regretted buying the 2 Angelregion dolls I bought as, again, they didn't look like their promo pics. In real life, the character just wasn't there. But otherwise I've not regretted any of my dolls & have a hard time choosing who has to leave when I need to raise some money.

 

Yes my last purchase was a Tiny and I love her she is so cute and sweet and whenever I see her I smile and she was the only box opening I did where I actually SQUEED when I saw her.....but tinies are not for me....I have no idea what to DO with her....

I have an SD and an MSD boy and I usually have them sitting with me watching TV or playing video games or surfing the net with me but she is too small to hold in my lap so she ends up just sitting there and I feel like I can't enjoy her like my other dolls because she is so small

 

How many of you have ever bought a doll and then regretted doing so?
I got my first bjd for Christmas this year. She was rather inexpensive, (Asleep Eidolon Cherry for any one who cares XD) and I may have subconsciously got her just so I could own a resin baby I'm gonna buy her a new wig and clothes and do some photoshoots with her, but if that doesn't help me bond with her I don't know what I would do. I really don't want to sell my first doll, you know?
Has anyone ever felt the same way?


**Ack, I'm sorry for posting a thread that already existed!**

 

I had instant buyers remorse, and then was instantly over it because I realized I hadn't done anything to bond with her yet. And I finally got over that feeling tonight! So yes, I have felt the same way you do!

 

Definitely! I've bought several dolls that ended up not looking anything like their promo pics & they ended up on the market fairly quickly.

As for selling your first doll, well let's face it, these dolls aren't cheap, even the less expensive ones & it doesn't make much sense to keep your money tied up in something you don't love. It's not like you have a special bond with your doll yet so the number really shouldn't count. I eventually ended up selling my first doll as my tastes had changed.

 

Since I have yet to actually recieve one, I don't know if my opinion counts. But I DEFINITELY know the feeling. It's more of a "God I just spent SO much on a silly __insert object___."

Even if it's something I super want, and am really excited to receive, if it's not something necessary or that I use constantly, I always feel a pang of regret. Mainly I see this as just some silly quirk I have. I'm REALLY careful and such with money because I don't have a large flow of money atm and I'm really paranoid about not being able to get by/ have some big unplanned expense smack me in the face.

But really, she's a beautiful doll! I bet when you get that perfect wig and eyes and clothes.... make her as YOU see her, you will fall in love. A pretty doll is just a pretty doll until you truly make them your own. So I wish you lots of luck in finding her real self.

If it doesn't happen after some work and a little time, then I bet she can find a home with someone on here and you can try again First dolls are usually that special one you have a hard time letting go and will always have in your heart, but if it didn't work out, then it didn't work out (just like with first loves XD). Just give it a go and see where life takes you.

 

Changing wigs, eyes, clothes... all that helps. My first doll doesn't look like her promo pic at all. She came with a random wig which didn't suit her, and over time I slowly changed things about her -- her wig, her body... and now her new eyes are arriving... She looks completely different now and I love her to bits.

 

Been there, done that, sold my first doll to someone who adores her. Sold several more that just did not fit the character I wanted it for.

 

Promo photos can be deceiving and several dolls I bought were not appealing to me once they were here. My tastes have changed a bit through the years as well, so if I am unhappy about a doll, I sell them to someone else. They're too expensive to keep if they don't make me smile when I see them here.

 

In August of this year I was in California and decided I would vist Volks because I wanted to know what all the fuss was about... Well I felt compelled to order a FCS doll since I was there and I couldn't get one anywhere else. This was my very first BJD. By the time I did the order and added the sanding, coating, stand and outfit I spend so much money I felt guilty and sick for weeks. I actually left the store shell shocked and all I could say over and over again was ------ did I really just do that????? ----- did I really really just do that????

Well, once my doll arrived and I started dressing her and playing with her I quickly got over that feeling and would easily buy another if I'm ever in Los Angeles again. It all comes down to bonding with the doll and realizing "YOU'RE WORTH IT"

 

I may aucthualy be feeling a little bit of that too T^T. I'm getting a Bobobie Mei soon and I'm pondering if its the right choice condicdering shes my first doll n' all, and I also wanted other dolls but I wanted a doll so soon. I'm getting a little anxious but I have a somewhat good feeling about this because I'm thinking all that I'll do with her, We can get through this together >.< *squee*

 

I totally understand where your comming from!

I bought an Iplehouse Arkando, and alough he is beautiful he is just to perfict.

It has taken me a long time to bond with him tho generally he is the one I play with the most to keep tha bond! Weird! but then again he is my only doll without a box!

 

I've been saving for so long that I had plenty of time to think over which doll I would get (to be my first) so buyer's remorse isn't an issue with me at all
the reality of her price still hasn't really sunk in yet though.....

 

I was like that about my very first doll actually I was always thinking about what if but I still have him this day so....lol I would at least wait till your head home then if you don't like him then you can always sell him.

 

I have started up on prepping for my doll's closet and the first time I actually bought bjd clothes I felt really bad for quite some time (just b/c the amount of money was not something I was used to spending on myself, and this was so many times smaller) I mean, it definitely was beautifully made, but the price made me go

 

I definately hear ya with the prices! When I first saw the dolls I was floored... Untill I saw the price tags... Oh well, quiality has a cost!

 

I had buyers remorse with my Planetdoll Emma . Her head was modified and I didn't realize how much that changed the feeling of the sculpt. I hated her body and was seriously considering just giving her away because of how upset I'd get looking at her. Turns out the problem was that she is actually a he, and not at all the happy character I'd imagined. So a new body, head restoration and face up will fix that.

I figure with buyer's remorse it's best to wait a couple weeks and then see how you feel.

 

I feel kind of rotten right now ordering 2 dolls so close together, and then a bunch of clothes for my MSDs. Just today I dropped some more on two outfits for my incoming JDF.

I also feel bad for rather impulsively getting a DZ doll... Nothing against them but my other boys are either from Luts or FL and the face-ups are so different and it's been bothering me. I just can't find myself bonding with the DZ boy as well as the others...

I feel like I'm getting side-eyed every time I just say the word 'doll' around my parents.

 

Hahaha yeah I totally felt that for like the first 24 hours after buying my most recent doll. He's the second doll I've ever purchased myself and the first with my own money (my first was with Christmas money) so I was bit hesitant about it all. I had him in my cart and on the last page of check out for like a half hour before I finally hit the submit order button.

I was so anxious over it for around the next 24 hours but then it turned into excitement and when he came home today I was just over the moon excited to have him.

 

The exact same thing happened to me when I had a tiny! Another doll I had just didn't portray the same emotion that the promo pics did, and I just had to sell him. Otherwise, I've had great luck with my dolls and feel confident when I place an order.