Can she make you cry ? (Your Perfect Doll)

I cried when I split up with my then-husband.
I cried when I watched the 4th person that week jump in front of a train on my watch.
I cried when my ex-husband moved to Wales with our daughters.
And I cried when he died following a motorbike accident.

But cry over a doll? Never. There are far more legitimate reasons in my life for tears; inanimate objects are not any of them though.

Don't get me wrong; I do love my dolls. But anyone who cries over a doll really has their sense of proportion rather out of whack.

 

I appreciate your post, Arkady.

 

I already found my perfect doll.

I've been in the hobby for years, and when I finally laid eyes on 'him' (no 'she' for me), I just knew that this was what I was looking for, after all this time. My partner has his perfect doll, He found his on the first try. Me, it's taken me...six years..to find the perfect boy.

I definitely was hooked on him. Seeing him (as owned by another here on DoA) was like a shot of adrenaline, and like an addict, I trowled the internet for more of him. When I lost the bidding on the original doll when the original owner sold the mold, (and yes, this sounds crazy) I knew it before I even saw it. It was a pang in my chest when I was lying in bed. When I got online later that evening, I found the bad news in my inbox, 'sorry, he was bought on BIN'. Later on, I did literally tear up a little, only out of dissapointment after having built myself up like that for him. Nothing serious, though. No drama, no huge tears, no wailing or sobbing. I was upset, but I calmed down fairly quickly and absolved a new plan of action to have my own whiteskin Lina boy in hand. After all, they're just dolls, no matter how attached you get to them. They're not as 'OOAK' as we imagine them to be.

Over the next few months, I sold some other dolls, and with the money, ordered my Lina boy through Supia while whiteskin was still offered. Right off the bat, he was going to be different than the one I'd set eyes on, because whiteskin had changed since then and my boy was actually more cream-pink than the original boy (who I jokingly call 'Lux v1'; mine is 'Lux v.2', and is actually the more 'improved' version for me) but I could still have him ALMOST exactly the same. I sent him to the same artist who painted the original boy, and modified him, and had her do my own Lux up almost identically, but with his own differences that were actually inseperable from his character (and that Lux v.1 simply did not have, like green blushing and a more sweet face). She added an extra rib to make him even more malnourished than Lux v.1, too, and because he was brand spanking new, he 'felt' like he was 'all mine' after he'd arrived here, finally, after nine months of waiting and pining. Story ended happily. My heart still skips a few beats when I look at him, sometimes. I know I have something very special in my home, and I'm treasuring it.

That perfect doll feeling is completely priceless. But I think, personally, if it moves you to tears in an unhealthy way, that you need to distance yourself from the hobby enough to realize they're only resin, even if they are lovely and mean very much to you (as Lux means to me). There are some people who take this hobby to unhealthy extremes, but in the end, it's a luxury. If you're so involved that you cry over it, okay, just as long as it isn't 'the thing worth living for' in your life. If your 'perfect doll' feeling is like that for you, then I would be worried, you know?

Stay inspired, but stay healthy.

(And find your perfect doll, while you're at it!)


edit:

I just wanted to add that I agree with Arkady, one hundred percent on the fact that there are better things to cry over in life. Healthy, rational reasons to cry over.

However, I also think there are different kinds of tears. Tears of real sorrow, as Arkady has expressed, should be left exclusively for real life and real life tragedies. This was what I meant, chiefly, in my post here. Tears of joy should be mostly limited to real life, but hey, some people also cry when they win a door prize during a community raffle; it's the feeling of something good, something unexpected happening to you that makes you realize how fortunate you are. Expression is a tool that we should be able to use more freely, and that does include the expressiveness of emotion through tears.

Some people are more sensitive than others. They cry more, for lesser things, (that does not always make them less mature, or 'whacked') but I believe that it depends on the extent to which they cry which deems how appropriate their tears are for the given subject. If you express grief (as in Arkady's post, over a doll, then you have priorities that need to be straightened. But I think crying to small extends is just another form of expression. Some people, when they lose an auction, storm off and swear alot (not that I am excusing such excessive behaviour) or grow sad or even depressed over losing the bid on something like 'Williams: Darkness of Ensign'. I'd much rather see someone go, 'that sucks', and then sigh unhappily and maybe wipe a tear from their eye, than any of the above listed behaviours.

But yes, in short, tears over dolls should best be left in sever moderation. This is a hobby. It should not be a lifestyle.

 

That happened to me the first time I learned what BJD meant, googled it, and found Iplehouse Vito. I just absolutely lost it for a few days. I don't know if that's a first doll experience, or a grail doll experience, or just plain hit-with-perfection, but either way it was wonderful. It seriously was on my mind for days and nights.

 

Crying over a tragedy like having your children taken away and crying tears of happiness over obtaining something you've always wanted are two totally different things.

Trying to keep in perspective with the original subject: It's fine to shed a few tears over an obtained perfect doll.

 

I have had a few 'oh she is so perfect' moments with dolls on the MP, but after a few days to a week I usually realise that I don't really think that, and it was more a case of just really wanting them because they were cute.
But one doll that has always been perfect to me is a DOD DOT E-an. I always think that I am lucky that I didn't fall for a Volks or a monthly doll, because at least it meant that I had a while to think about her. But she has never lost her charm to me, and I can sit and stare at my computer for hours just looking at her. I have begged my parents to get her for me for my 21st, because it would make her that little bit more perfect (if that is even possible!). I really hope I can bring her home. And I am sure when she arrives I will cry. If not because she is so perfect to me, because she will mean so much coming from my parents as a rather special birthday present.

 

Agreed, crying over inanimate objects is just not something that makes sense.

 

it happened once. with SOOM epidos. not just his looks made me cry but also that he was sold out. T_T

 

My favorite doll is an avatar of the central character in the book I'm writing, and an immense amount of hard work has gone into that book. My dolls are extensions of my life's passion -- it makes me happy to look at them. I guess if I was in the right sort of mood, I might get a little goofy and teary-eyed over my favorite doll, but only because I've grown so fond of the character the doll represents. I'm a big sap, though, and cry easily.

 

My BJD always makes me not crying but feel anxious when I look in her so deep and expressive eyes full of mystery!
I love her very much!

 

My emotional reactions are more in the form of giant smiles and gasps of joy as well as stunned silences and giddy spells. I had that with each of the dolls I've bought so far. That's how I know I really might get the doll. Naturally there have been dolls I had that reaction to but I rationalized myself into not getting (DollZone Aurora for one) and I seriously considered getting a doll (cant remember his mold anymore) that I did not have that reation to.

 

I remember i was breathless when i saw the Mnf Soo tanned version and the latidoll Green coco tanned T__T

 

Yes, I've cried over dolls. LOL I cried over Amir, my first, and Cosmos, who I just started a layaway on, because the instant I saw them, I knew. It made me emotional, I'm assuming like seeing your newborn baby for the first time. I'm not having kids, so this is it for me!

And tears of sorrow...yes, that too. Like when Loki face planted and broke his nose....or during intense, emotional roleplay. But it's not like I'm seriously grieving for a doll, I see more like somebody that cries over a sad movie.

Though I see no reason to "save tears"....maybe I'm just an overly emotional person, but holding back tears stresses me more. The release is a good thing!

 

I rarely cry over stuff, so of course... I don't think I'd ever cry for a doll (not even if any of them broke into one hundred pieces).

 

I've never cried over a doll, myself, but I definitely did get an excited rush the first time I saw the Luts Untold Story Regen. I just thought the body and armour design was so incredible, I was quite excited. I felt a little loss of breath as well when I spotted the recent release of Withdoll's Priscilla. I definitely go for the armoured dolls.

As for the crying issue, I most definitely agree with CloakedSchemer - tears and emotions are not finite things one needs to hold onto in case of an emergency; having strong feelings about one thing doesn't take away from how one feels about others. I haven't ever cried over a doll, but I absolutely wouldn't think there was anything wrong with someone who did, whether out of joy or sadness. Some people are more emotional than others and some are moved by different things. For me, it seems more outlandish that someone would assume there's something wrong with a person just because they express themselves differently or have different emotional thresholds.

 

No, I never cried during the process of finding the perfect doll for me.

Actually I knew very exactly who I wanted. As I found the perfect face, I could not cope with the joint design.

Then the perfect body crossed my way - but I do not like the head going with it.

Thus I set on the hunt again - to find a head with a similar vibe of the first one. And I found it. I was very, very happy - but still did not cry.

So yeah, there are really more important things in life to cry over. As an example, I almost cried two days ago, when we went swimming, and our little girl managed to swim without aids for the first time. This also not world-moving, but for me a very important moment of life.

 

Although I've never been brought to tears by a doll, there have been a few that have made me stop and go, "That one, I need him!" Mostly it's happened with boy dolls. <w<;

 

I personally think that's incredibly rude and judgmental of you. It's tragic what you've been through, but suffering is relative to circumstance and I find it unfair of you to belittle everyone who thinks differently to you.

As Splynterhayde has said, there are different kinds of tears. There was a story of a girl who lost her apartment and her dolls in a fire. I believe she had every right to cry over something as materialistic as her dolls. Whilst I myself have felt moved by receiving a doll after a long wait, I have never cried over one.

 

I am very moved when I perceive something extraordinarily beautiful (nature, art, people, literature, music etc.). Dolls happen to be beautiful. It is not only the perfect doll (that can be perceived as art by the way, namely a sculpture) that evokes tears. It can be an extremely beautiful face-up on a sculpt I don't even like much too. I see the face-up, think: "This artist created something close to perfection, a wonder!", feel thankful that I am able to experience this perception, and woooosh! - tears.

As much as I understand that crying can be a serious thing for many, I don't think crying for a less serious reason or crying of joy devalues the traumatic experiences that are commonly perceived as cry-worthy. There is no "inflation" of crying that would make it meaningless or anything. And come on, how often do we really find something perfect? How often do we feel joy so exorbitant that it can make one cry too? It is a rare thing in most people's lives. Sometimes even rarer than the traumatic experiences.

By the way, crying is an involuntary response in most cases. So we cannot really choose over which matter to cry or not.

 

Yes, My Crobi boy has made me cry, he's everything I've ever wanted in a doll, he's the doll I wanted more than any other in the world. I cried most when my mom asked me "So do you like your doll?" and I told her "I adore him. He's more than I could have ever asked for."