Couples collecting?

My boyfriend is in love with my dolls, I really didn't expect him to like them at all.
He likes that they make me happy. The funny thing is I kept my first doll a secret
from him because I was nervous he was gonna think I was weird!

 

I'm living with my partner and they like my dolls and respect the hobby. They put up with headless naked bodies lying around and pieces of fabric or props-in-making all over the place. ^^

Edit: not "lying around" as in "not cared for", but usually in a box or tray or blanket, together with brushes or half made clothing as a result of temporary work spaces.

 

Almost everyone replying has been female (Notable exceptions - Gorst & PuddingMolester) so I'm one of the unusual male participants in this hobby. My wife & I share a lot of interests. See my profile for a glimpse of mine.

Of the two of us, I am the 1st & primary BJD & DD doll owner. My wife was stunned when I approached her about the first doll I wanted, and not only because the cost was very high. After 25 years of marriage, she knew me pretty well. I didn't fit her mental image of a doll owner! She had some warning, as I had become a figure collector during my motorcycle accident injury recovery. Now dolls are a major part of my retired life enjoyment. She finally got swept up when I got our first YoSD . "Anne" won her heart where the others were mostly"ok". Anne is now my wife's doll pretty much...mostly.

I am fast reaching my collection limit. The dolls need to be attended to with periodic seasonal costume changes by my own protocol. (I don't know how others manage large 50+ doll collections!?) However, with 11 Resin & 13 DDs (plus 2 preorders) and a desire to have a couple more resin guys, I have to stop very soon. My wife is approaching exasperation, and we have other goals to pursue together.

 

My husband is more of a minimalist than I am, so he doesn't really "get" collecting in general, so it's not something he gets any particular enjoyment out of, but at the same time he doesn't object to them - they're just there, so I suppose it's largely a neutral.

That said, sometimes if I'm travelling, I'll come back to find a doll posed in some humorous way, so he does "play" with them every once in a while in that sense!

 

I have a girlfriend whom I intend to marry. I had an interest in bjds, but it was satisfied at the time with pictures. My girlfriend has a phobia of dolls. Overtime my desire to begin collecting bjds forced this discussion to come up. Thankfully it seems her phobia is dissipating. We agreed that I would get one doll at an agreed size (50cm) to see how she feels about it. She has begun to look at bjds herself, so I am sure everything will go smoothly!

The best way to tackle something like this is open communication.

 

Boyfriend and I have been together for nearly four years, so he's been around for the entirety of my doll obsession. He seems to like them, or at the very least he knows when to call them cute, He may have been eased into it slightly though, I did start out with some custom Pullips before I moved up to my SD girls this year

 

I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years and in that time I've become doll-obsessed as opposed to just vaguely interested lol. He bought me my first BJD so he is very supportive :P He also buys clothes for my non-BJDs for Christmas and stuff which is very cute He doesn't really 'get' it but he knows I love them and that seems to be enough for him! He is a massive lego fan and will drop £150 on a big set no problem so I think we get each other in that way! I don't see what's so good about lego but I know he loves it so I'm not bothered when he spends a lot on it and I think he feels the same way about mydolls

 

My partner and I share the hobby so sometimes it's all bjds, all the time at our house.

 

My partner is extremely supportive of my hobby. He listens to my doll stories. He and I also go on dolly photoshoots together. He helps me dress and pose them, and then we take photos. We've done this multiple times and we both really enjoy it. If I leave my dolls in the room he's in, I sometimes find them in strange poses. We look at doll things online together when I'm sad. And, just this week, he put a doll on layaway for me (I get him in September for our first anniversary!) when we visited the doll shop together.

I couldn't be with someone who wasn't. I'd understand if we were married and he was concerned about the money, but if he tried to stop me from doing what I love, then I'd leave him in a heartbeat. I don't think anyone should stay with someone who won't let them enjoy their passions.

 

My partner actually has dolls of his own! At first, he was a bit confused about me wanting a doll, but he has always been supported. When my first Minifee came along, he fell in love, and he now has 5 girls of his own, with plans for another two ^_^

 

partner hates them but its not a deal breaker.

 

I'm married, and my SO supports my hobby but thinks some of my dolls are "creepy". She does like Aubrey (CP Chiwoo Elf), however, and even took some photographs of him last night, which made me really excited and happy (she's a photographer - I've asked her to take pictures of all my dolls!). So I guess she's... supportive because I like it, but not a fan of the dolls herself.

 

I'm married & my hubby is fine with what I do so long as I buy responsibly. He has pricey hobbies too.

 

I met my BF through the hobby. He's amazing and perfect and has been in the hobby for much longer than I have, and knows so much more than I! We have a lot of fun having doll parties and roleplaying our doll charas. :>

Honestly, he's a dream. [MENTION=4304]JayEll[/MENTION]

 

Oh hi there [MENTION=58483]Quetz[/MENTION]

Having been in the hobby for almost a decade, I consider myself very lucky that my four dates throughout have been very supportive of my hobby (and half were involved). The two who knew nothing about dolls were very supportive, and willingly sat through my cycle of love, indecision, and the occasional frustration until they learned enough worth keeping up a conversation with me. I don't think I'd be able to stick it out with someone who would actively be unsupportive about my enthusiasm for my hobby, but if things would go my way, I'll keep my date for long enough that I won't have to worry. : )

 

My girlfriend and I originally met over biology (she's a genius, I swear!) but later ended up bonding over dolls. We have very different tastes in BJD's, in that she likes cute anthros, and I'm more into mature sculpts. Either way, I'd say dolls are a fairly important part of both of our lives, and I love having someone who understands.

 

Engaged right now, but we've know each other for almost 10 years right now, and are living together since 2013, in hobby since 2009.
I can't say if my fiance is supporting or not to be honest. He definitely doesn't hate the dolls, since they are always out in the open, and he doesn't mind it at all. Sometimes he's even curios in what I'm doing with them, and I can discuss the wigs/eyes I get for them whenever I need an opinion. He wouldn't mock the hobby itself since he's been a gamer his whole life (we do play LoL and MMO's together as well), but I know he totally hates how much the dolls cost, and would definitely not support me buying a doll worth over 500$, he'd rather travel or buy a new PC or something x) Otherwise it's my money and he doesn't care what I do with it.
The only other thing is, I'm into yaoi, and so all of my dolls are guys who like guys obviously, and he mostly comments with things like, "...oh why do you make such a girl from this guy?" and so forth. He really wishes for me to have a pretty girl doll, so he can enjoy the view so to speak.

 

Yup married for quite some time now. Yes, they know about it primarily because of the cost. I really thought about getting into dolls for a long time before making the jump so my partner went through that whole process with me. If they hadn't been supportive then I don't think I would be here now- well, especially not with as many dolls as I have at the moment.

Oh, but I do keep my dolls in their own room, behind glass and in UV blocking curtained (?) cabinets. That's my choice as a collector and not necessarily dolly shame.

 

I'm engaged and yes, my fiancee has known about my hobby since day one. I don't think I could keep my hobby a secret since I always handle my dolls and display some of them in my studio/office. He also has an expensive game collection and sometimes spends more on a vintage video game than I do on a doll, so he understands what an expensive hobby is. He's never judged me for playing with dolls, in fact he finds dollfie dreams quite fascinating since he's also somewhat into anime. I don't think I could've planned a future with someone that couldn't support something I like.

 

I'm engaged too, and my fiancé saw me start in the BJD hobby.
He has supported me from the start, he has helped me with money for my dolls or dolls' clothes and accessories in special occasions too.
Money is not really a concern for him because he has a really expensive hobby too xD

I usually ask him his opinion about the appearance of this or that doll, if he thinks this sculpt would fit for a certain character, etc.
His opinion is very important for me as he knows me better than myself xD

I don't think there is a way to hide this hobby to a partner, because of the cost and the space these dolls take.
Besides I like to watch them while I'm working at home, and even cuddle them or talk to them when I'm not feeling well.