Do you appreciate your dolls less when you have more of them?

Since I have my dream doll here, I think he will always be loved more than any other one I get. ^^;; But I'll still give attention to the other ones too.

A good thing about them being dolls and not real kids is that they won't complain if you neglect them for a few days or buy one more stuff than the other. XD

 

They're not children or pets, so they do not suffer from blatant favouritism and neglect.

My Bluefairy boy is without a doubt my favourite doll. I am open in admitting that I love him more than the others, and spend considerably more money on dressing him than the other 2 combined. I was looking to have my Tohya repainted, and instead, my Bluefairy boy was sent away for a new faceup. I love my other two dolls and derive great enjoyment from them, but I do spend more time playing with and more money on the one that I like best.

 

If I get 2 dolls, my doll family seems to expand at twice the speed...
When one doll gets a boyfriend... it seems like the other has to have one...LOL

 

Well I have about 9 right now..not counting Phoenix my celestyn who is on layaway for someone...but I find it is hard to give them all time, but i try...but like it was already said they aren't pets or children..they won't suffer from lack of attention...but I like my all of my brood pretty much equally...I have three SD size so they can exchange clothes...two female MSD's so they can swap clothes, another smaller MSD who is a fairy and doesn't need clothes, an MSD who is a bit neglected with not many clothes..but he likes his cargo pants and t shirts...and Hound who would love to just hang around in jeans bare chested..{little tease!} but gets dressed up in his floofy Cheerydoll shirt and pleathers..when the whim strikes me.. and a soon to be catdoll that won't need clothes...a fuzzy mouse maybe
but do I have a favorite...that would have to be ....um well....hmmmm..its a tie..Dalton my hound .and my first doll who is a Soony/Obitsu hybid Isabeau.

oh forgot to add that I do try to give each a new item when I go in a group order.. maybe a shirt for one, shoes for another, but I have splurged when someone on here has something forsale...yikes..like the LIzard Queen outfit for my still not done Vampire Valarien.

 

i spend time with them all. no issue there. but it is hard to buy for them all at once. i want them all to have certain special outfits, so i'm trying to focus on one at a time to lavish with new clothes and hair and eyes.

 

I have six dolls currently. I would have thought that one or another would be a favorite and get more attention, stuff, etc but it doesn't seem to work that way. They're just such distinct individuals that it works out.

Fall doesn't care what he wears so he's only got one pair of pants and two shirts. Yoriko has the most clothes but she lives in her jeans and won't wear most of the other stuff I bought her. David loves Fall's cast off pleather pants and vest and lives in those, just changing the mesh shirt he wears under the vest. Rikio such a sweetie that he only wants the bunny bag David's body came in. He could care less about the clothes. Yuki wants chocolate, books and Harumi, not necessarily in that order. He's put up with pants that fall down his butt since he arrived because it doesn't matter to him. Harumi's the newest and littlest (Soom Uyoo) so she's getting lots of clothes and attention right now but she just wants to snuggle with Yuki.

I think that if they weren't characters I would have a much harder time. I'd feel bad because one or the other had less clothes, less play time, whatever. But because they've become such individuals it's not an issue. I know what they like and make sure they get it. It works for me.

Now my hubby, HE plays favorites! Rikio is his favorite, then Yuki comes second. The rest he sort of regards as lesser beings of a sort.

The nice thing about having lots of dolls is I get to pose them all together, playing off of each other. Yuki & Harumi snuggle and Rikio and David get to look dismayed / disgusted. Fall & Yoriko whisper to each other all the time, the plushies wreak havok on a regular basis. It's fun!

 

I love Yuki...
He's a fun little guy.

I would be lying if I said that I didn't have favorites among the crew over here at Turtle House... Harumatsu and Tien Jen were my first, and they'll always be special to me, no matter how many other dolls I end up with. And Teacup was my dream. He was the one I thought I would never have... That's not to say that I don't love all of my little resin minions absolutely to bits, though. I do.

Mine are all resin avatars for characters, like Me's. Every single one of those characters has *something* about them that's unique and special. Something that draws and holds my attention... Crane's gentleness, Amber's nobility, Seimei's calm, Sparrow's goofball grin, Chanter's sadness, Serras' snark, Sannru's frankness, the Pups' mischief... They're all things that make me want to interact with them, both as characters and as physical presences. They're things that make me love each of them as individuals.

'Thing is... Affection isn't a zero-sum game. It doesn't necessarily diminish your love for one individual just because you also love others. Attention is a little harder to balance, but once you find your limits you know how many you can handle at a time and how many you can't. My crew is pretty large, but I can still spend time with all of them, photograph all of them, design and build jewelry and outfits for all of them... Everyone gets toys and props when I find them... If it ever gets to the point where I can't, that's when I'll know I have too many dolls. It won't be a matter of not being able to love any more. It'll be a matter of not having time to give them the kind of attention I want to. ^_^

 

Thank you!!! I have to admit that I love Tien Jen and Teacup best of your brood. Although Haramatsu and Seimei are right up there.

 

I have to admit that even tough I spend a lots of time with all of my dolls, my sweet Tobias is still the most prescious for me, just becouse he is my first BJD.

I do play with all of them and mostly they are just hanging around in here, somewhere reachable so I can cuddle one of them or just see them closeby. :3 But I do appreciate all of them. I don't think that it changes and doesn't matter how many of them you have, or atleast I hope I never reach that point that it would do that. Each of them is special one I've fallen in love with, and love them even more when they've come home.

I do try to get them all the attention they deserve and make photoshoots and clothes for all of them.

 

Of course you would as they don't seem so rare to you

 

I can honestly say I wouldn't love them as much if I had tons (not sure what tons means in numbers yet lol, probly more than 3-5 if I have no stories to go along with them all).

I think your wise to set a limit. If you really want a doll though I think it would be wise to consider getting it (or them in the case of the three more. 7 really isn't all that much if you really love them).

I have such a hard time choosing I'll probably get like 7 or 8 instead of my 3 to 5 lol!

Good luck with your decision (and please post picks of your new dollies )

~Meg

 

Even as a die-hard collector I have to say that, yes, one can have too many dolls but how many that is varies from person to person. I have a huge doll collection & the BJDs are only one part of it. As they began arriving I started looking at which other dolls I could part with so that I could afford this new obsession & came to the realization that I had far surpassed my doll comfort limit.

Now a lot of dolls are leaving home but the ones that continue to give me joy are staying. Whether or not I play with them is not the issue. I have some dolls, like antiques & artist dolls, whose purpose is not play but rather to be beautiful pieces of art, just looked at & enjoyed. I love them even though I'm not actively involved with them. There are faces that evoke a variety of emotional reactions from me & as long as I still feel that thrill, they're here to stay.

The BJDs are, of course, designed more as play dolls. While I can't give as much time to each individual doll they all have their place here & each embodies a different character that appeals to me on an emotional level. As long as that connection exists, I believe I can appreciate a variety of them. Besides, having many dolls allows me to explore more complex relationships among them.

So whether you're happy with 1 doll or 100 is really up to you. No one but you can answer that question. A lot of it does depend on finances & space but, other than those limitations, I say if a doll speaks to your heart then it's one you should have. And when it stops, it's time to part ways & move on. Once you start with dolls it's generally very hard to break free of them completely. There always seems to be at least one that's wrapped it's little arms around your heart.

 

Hey Dottie,

I have a bunch of dolls... I mean a BUNCH. And I'm horribly anthropomorphic about them. Each of them has their own personality, likes and dislikes. That's just how I play. Each is a little person to me.

That being the case, just as with my human friends, I don't have to talk to them every single day to love them. Most of my dolls have "lives" that involve interacting with each other. I have a doll who spends most of her time with her boyfriend, and we catch up whenever we can, but mostly she's into him. My little herd of tinies mostly live together and bug each other constantly. My Barbie sized girls share an apartment and get along fabulously.

I don't love any of them less. I do have one who is most precious to me, but isn't that how it is with real life friends too? You wouldn't necessarily trade one for another, but don't you have one human friend who you would do anything for, and who would do anything for you? I have a dolly like that.

I know I'm a nutjob, but this is how I play. And the dolls are pretty much the only thing that's kept me from climbing a clock tower with a sniper rifle, so I think I'll stick with them. It's been a rough year.

If you feel that you can only handle 5 dolls, stick with that. But something to keep in mind... in my experience, limits, on anything, can breed resentment. Would you eventually find yourself fighting with one of your dolls and thinking "This wouldn't happen with doll X, who I could have gotten if I didn't have YOU." (shrug)

You are the only one who knows your heart. My family continues to grow, and I think we are all the richer for it. But that's just me.

Your Mileage May Vary,

 

I thought so for a while, but really each time I get a doll and I hold its little head in my hands and look at it and all its beautiful detail and its unique expression... I feel almost as if it's a child of mine.

 

Nope. I even started appreciating them more - how nice one's faceup is compared to the others, how well one conveys a character, how good one's posing is compared to the rest.

 

Oh no, not at all. I still appreciate them as much as I did when I just had say 2. Actually, I probably appreciate them even more now ^^

Sera~

 

I'm kinda scared to get a second doll because I'm afraid I won't play with her as much as I do Ren or maybe that I wont play with Ren as much since he's not as new.

 

I have three dolls, and I don't appreciate them any less than if I just had one. However...if I had fifty, that might be a bit different. I do spend less time with each individual doll, but...that doesn't bother me so much.

 

Not at ALL! I just recently completed my doll family (sans Karrian's son, who isn't born yet!), and I think I appreciate them all even more now. ^^ The sense of completion has brought me closer to them. I've been customizing them, giving Karo freckles, Bedwyn a beautiful new faceup, and Karrian brand new wiring - not to mention taking TONS of gallery pics and photostories! Now that I have five, and I know I won't be buying anymore any time soon, I feel like I can spend money and time on completing them individually. ^^

 

Yeah. I kind of dont appreciate them the more I have. At one point I had around 7 dolls lying around my house. It became too much so I sold them to loving homes and Im now recreating my doll family from scratch.