Do you feel that ABJD's compensate for something you don't have IRL?

I don't own a doll, but when I delved into this community recently I wondered the same thing, and wether the reason I wanted a doll was for that. I'm a lonely girl, what can I say? I don't think I'm ugly or anything, but through a series of strange circumstances I have ended up eighteen without a single kiss. Also, I'm something of a "good" girl, I don't act rashly or take chances. But, the doll I want is the fullset dollzone hid. He's tough, battle-scarred and handsome with a wild and free appearance. Everything I sometimes wish for plus something pretty for me to oggle. And I don't have to worry my boy will get in a motorcycle accident either.Yeah, for me it's a compensation thing, and I'd say for a lot of others it is as well.

By the way, Aya, rock on! It feels like those of us who need a " 'till death do us part" are few and far between.

 

Yeah, a real life bishie......cause real life bishies don't exist!
And if they did they could never compare to my gorgeous boys. XD

 

Blisdon compensates for my lack of a scandalous little man hanging out in my room in his underwear.

 

I agree with the notion that these compensate for the lack of hot pretty boys bending (quite literally) to my will. XD Yes, I am that superficial, I wouldn't be as nearly into these dolls, if at all, if they weren't attractive like that! (Hey, I'm the kind of person that can find anime characters sexier than most RL men, so, dolls aren't any different XD)

They don't compensate for any deep-seated issues (lets ignore that having the hots for cartoon characters is probably a deep-seated issue in itself ), except maybe to help brighten up an otherwise ho-hum life (but thats what all luxuries or hobbies are intended to do, I think...)... though I think if I got a female doll, I'd dress her up scandalously partly because I wish I had the bod to do it myself. ^_^;

But otherwise... yes, hot guys and playing out fantasy storylines for them that can't exist in RL, thats about it!

 

Like the fashion doll artist the OP was discussing, I have a less than perfect figure. I'm not as young as I used to be, either, and today's youthful fashions would look just plain silly on me even if I had the figure to wear them.

A doll, on the other hand, doesn't age. A doll doesn't have to worry about cellulite, or bad skin, or bad hair days, or weight loss/gain.

I love to dress my girl dolls up in modern "girl" fashions because I can't wear them. I'm not ashamed to admit it.

 

They compensate for my inability to wear a million different awesome outfits at the same time, plus as well compensate for my lack of closet space. That's about it!

 

's too expensive to make all my designs in people-size, and some of them wouldn't suit me, so pretty dolls beat having to spend vast sums on the fabric to make something human-sized that i'd wear twice

 

I suppose fantasy has a bit to do with it. I know I want my first doll to be a girl and I do like dressing them up in outfits that I myself could never wear or pull-off and look good in. (The curse of being "cute"...) so while I have the black goth boots or whatever, I'll never look as good in them as a doll will so I can enjoy different styles of clothing that way.

But more than that, I've always been a collector and I've always loved miniatures. So this doll hobby is just an expensive culmination of both hobbies. I get to buy tiny cute things for them and lord knows there's tons of various things to buy for them.

I also like doing photography, but stuff around here gets repetitve and I don't have any human subjects to use so the dolls are a great way for me to practice my skills in regards to posing, lighting, scenes, etc.

Most of my friends have moved away and I've never been good at making new ones, but I actually don't think the dolls are compensating for that since I've always been a loner and my current ones will go for weeks sometimes without being given attention, so I'm going to guess that I'm okay without having them as surrogate loved ones.

 

I started looking at BJDs as something to draw. I get body proportions a little out of whack sometimes and I was just going to get a boy and a girl to draw so I had an "always available model."

Then, it happened. I started looking, researching, and drooling. Before you know it I've planned 3 dolls and I probably will play with them more than sketch them.

As far as compensating, no. I'm content with my life. Dolls don't create that missing link for me.

 

Hahahahahahaha! Oops! I mean (Why write lots of hahaha's when an icon can do it?)

.... Maybe for me they compensate for the fact I can't afford bronze or marble statues. I see BJDs as works of art ... with the added benefit that you can influence how they turn out and therefore exercise your own creativity in a way that you could never do with bronze or marble.

*thinks* The Boy David in jeans and a hat? The Dying Gaul sporting a D&G t-shirt? .... Nah!

 

I've been wanting to have a child with my fiance but this isn't a good time for it... I really badly want something to take my mind off things and dolls seem like a great idea. I can love them and dress them. I know it won't take all my feelings away but it'll get me through this depression. Also, it'll be a great way to let my creative side run free. ^_^

 

I agree with this right here! I also have a deeper reason~

I find it difficult to truly connect with people IRL(but I am definitely not anti-social). I have only two or three friends who I feel actually understand me, and who I understand in return. My family is...a bit of an emotional mess where we "get along", but nobody really knows anyone else. When I was little, I didn't have any friends because my family kept moving, so I'm naturally a bit of a loner. I'm at ease, though, when I'm on my own doing things I enjoy Be it gaming, writing, or drawing. I think having a BJD will expand my "things to do on my own" options n_n And it would give me something to connect with, albeit something inanimate.

 

For me, owning a doll wasn't due to compensating for a lack of anything. It was just another creative outlet. Since most of my friends love role play and creative hobbies like this, I thought it was just one more thing we could all share and experience together.

...And I've always wondered what it would be like to own one irl instead of just admiring them through other people's pictures. In my imagination, I've always wanted to have a small djinn on my side. lol!

 

YES Thank you

I know and have seen many people that hide complexes behind them... OR "embodice" different personalities that one can like but can´t have at the same time

but me.. I am just as you said.. and love how you pictured it XDDD

I just create characters that I invent.. they have nothing to do with me (likeness-wise) and I do not envy any feature that I gave them or hide any kind of frustration behind them

I just like them, I love to create characters, I love to see them grow and change I love this hobby

I don´t have any trauma.. just a lot of imagination XDD

 

I think it would be very easy to assume these dolls are for compensation.

In some cases, I think they are. I mean, you can have them look exactly as you want, play out stories with reactions and endings you control, photograph them endlessly without being thought of as weird. You know? There's plenty of ability to live through the dolls in various ways.

However, I think for most people, this is a hobby. And while there is no way for a hobby not to reflect a bit of a persons wants or personality, I feel that most people are just using the dolls to relax and have down time. The way most people use hobbies for.

For myself, I think, that I think they're cute, and want to play a little.

 

The dolls I'm intending to buy will be for the original characters I'vehave created within the past six months or so. I'd say it's just another extension of my imagination, being able to "create" those characters in front of me and photograph their "lives" if I want to at any time. I have a really active imagination and so yeah, I'd say they give me a means of expressing my creativity and making my imagination and my own creations come to life, so to speak.

I think they're filling the void that I get from my fear of death and "normal", as odd as that sounds. They're helping me express the fantasy worlds in my mind of characters whose lives are so exciting and thrilling and fantasy-based, making them real and 3D. My imagination helps me escape reality, BJDs make those characters more real. So yeah, I guess they're filling a void.

 

CactusJuice - Hmm Filling the void, I never thought of it like that, but I do agree with you, they're another way to express creativity, and it's fun imagining their worlds as sort of an escape from the mundane. But i figured everyone enjoyed a little fantasy here and there. So I didn't think I was compensating for anything. Lol, so maybe it's a lack of...excitement?

 

For me, dolls offer an outlet for my creative urges. I sew; I love to sew clothing. Someday I hope to open my own shop. However, budget does not allow for me to buy enough fabric to make outfits for humans.

Dolls, I've found, are the perfect alternative.

Aside from the financial advantage to practicing pattern drafting with different dolls, I can sew a large variety of clothing and put them on my dolls. They might not like some of them, but they will deal.

That said, I have always had a love for dolls, but never found Barbie attractive. Now in my adulthood, I can catch up on the dolls I've been missing out on

 

I've always wanted a sister- for so long and very badly- but I just have brothers and they aren't the same as growing up with another girl in the household. I love my brothers, but I feel that my dollies compensate for a sister that I never had. I can do their hair and "make up" (face ups ) dress them and tell them secrets. (Which they never blab!) So I think that yes, they are my "surrogate sisters"

 

i don't have a doll yet, but in this, i guess i have some input. for me, i never really "fit the mold" or so to speak. like most girls, i'm not barbie-like. i really despise female dolls and other depictions because i know that i will never be like that. it has even transfered over into how i was looking at the potential dolls i want to try to save up for. whenever i could, i would just look at the male ones, because that's what i want, because in that, i can keep away from the "perfect figure" anythings in full feminine form.

maybe it's not good that i want only male dolls, because in that way, i can keep my fantasy world going, putting me in the center of the universe with no "competition" like we all want some time or another. if i can surround myself with androgynous yet beautiful forms, i can keep that and be happy. but, in some way i know i need to keep in touch with reality.

i think i've strayed a bit...but all in all, i think as long as you can keep in touch with reality, they won't be compensating, per se, but more just "supplementing"