Do you feel that ABJD's compensate for something you don't have IRL?

I think my dolls fill my need to nurture someone. I'm a very giving person by nature; I guess I always kinda want to be that person that everyone goes to for advice and depends on, you know? Plus, I half-raised my two younger siblings because of our severe age differences (my little sister is twelve years younger than me, my little brother is six years younger). So I have a huge mothering instinct, and my dolls (I even call them my babies or my children) allow me to have someone who is dependent, someone who is connected directly to me. I love them like I would a real person in many regards; I miss them when I spend the night away, I like buying clothes and dressing them, cuddling and holding them...and I feel like a better, happier person for having them in my life, just like some people would with their family, child, pet, close friend, etc.

 

Don't give up so easily Pink Plushii!!

You never know what's in your future- I know it might feel like everything is going to stay the same way forever, but trust me, things get better, and things do change for the better!

I'm only 18, so you might think I know absolutely nothing, and you're probably right- but never say you'll never have something, because at 18 I've been proven wrong about a million times in the past two years.

I'm sure you'll find someone that you love so much that even your phobias won't be able to control you- just keep an open mind and never say never!

Sorry for hijacking the thread >.< But I just thought you might be able to use some encouragement?

 

My Sard compensates for the lack of a real satyr in my life.
I'm very sad that there are no real men with hooves in the world

 

It's a question I used to answer no to, but the more I thought about it, the more I came to realize that my dolls to compensate for the things I feel I am missing in my life.

I'm not a very social person and am often lonely and while I do have friends sometimes I just can't handle being around people and have days where even getting out of bed is too hard for me. Which is only complicated by depression and anxiety disorders (general anxiety disorder/social anxiety/Agoraphobia etc)

I'm single and as I see more and more of my friends marrying and having children in brings the contrast of my life into focus. The thought that I may never have children, when I am at heart a person who loves and nurtures.

I've always been somebody that is mentally old for my age - somehow I seem to have been born middle aged or even older. I was the type of child that demonstrated manners that went out of fashion before my grandparents were born... My Mother and I used to say that I had somehow been born over 100 years too late. Because of that I was never really a child. I saw things in ways that even the adults around me couldn't comprehend. And the older I get the more it seems my mind and emotions grow into my body.

For me having dolls gives me something of that child that never existed, a chance to be 'young' and to dream.

 

due to my disease (tuberos sclerosis), i've decided not to have children. i was told there is a 50% chance that my children could be born with the disease, and there is no way to tell how bad it would be. so, i've decided that my dollswould be my 'children', so to speak. i plan on spoiling them something terrible

 

While I'm in school to be a veterinarian I think I would give up everything but my soul to be a fashion designer. I'm fashionable enough on my own but the things I make for my dolls are way more so and I love getting into that sort of creativity on a mini-scale. Men and close friends also need be wary, I'll dress up anyone who doesn't run.

 

Its funny how when I was a kid I've always been "masculin". People always thought I was a boy since I've always had boy haircuts, played with boys (yes, lego, warcraft, football, floor hockey etc) My brother doesn't help either. I always end up picking up his guy way of talking. So no barbies or even interest in girly clothes. But after I've been put into an all girl's school, I guess i've been overly girly-fied. I have a passion for very androgenous boy dolls. I guess its a way for me to reconciliate both my masculinity (ha. not that I have any now) and femininity. The boy dolls are so versatile that even girl doll clothes would look fabulous. And I get to dress up dolls. I completely regress back to a 10 year old with her barbie

 

Most definitely.

 

For me yes. I wish I was a pretty boy. Instead, I'm a girl who tries to look like a pretty boy, but can't always pull it off (since most people assume pretty boys are girls anyway 0.o). So I want a doll that looks like the pretty boy I can't actually be, as if somehow it'll make me feel better :P So yeah I am one of those people who would live vicariously through their doll. They have the pencil figure instead of the curves that I long for, and look great in boy clothes...

But then, the reason I want to be a pretty boy is cause I love the way they look, in which case I could argue that I want a pretty boy doll for the same reason I want to look like a pretty boy, not BECAUSE i want to look like one....if that made any sense.

 

Kinda, kinda not, like osme other here.

I'm not thin. Mind you, I'm not morbidly obese or anything, but I WISH I could wear some of the tummy-and-leg bearing outfits my boy can :/ I also wish I had graceful features like his. So... kinda?

Also, I hate kids. Hate 'em. But I have VERY strong mothering tendancies. And sometimes I NEED to take care of something. And these are the days that I take Nikky out fabric shopping, or for little doll-sized accessories, or something. Just the need ot nurture. I think all females have it deep down. >>;

So... he's kinda my child, and kinda something I can dress in a manner I could never dress my own self? Yeah... kinda.

I am aware he's a hunk o' resin though, and though I do tlak to him, I don't expect him to talk back.

(fyi, I talk to a lot of inanimate objects. Computer, sewing maching, fabric, car, wall, etc.)

 

I used to think my dolls compensated for my being overweight and unable to wear nice clothes, but I've lost a lot of weight in the last year and can finally wear what I like, and I still spend as much money on doll clothes as I do my own >> Which really means Im spending twice as much *sigh* But oh well, it's a good cause!

I definitely live out my obsession with fantasy through my dolls, though, my existing and planned dolls are for the most part demons or mythical creatures

 

Okay, this question cut me deeply, and while I could give several answers, I'll keep it simple and just do an example.

I hope one day to own a doll based loosely off a character (from the Chronicles of Magravandias by Storm Constantine) called Tayven Hirantel, who I love desperately. I've always had a tendency to fall for imaginary people, and the most satisfying way possible to substiute this would probably be dolls.

On the other hand, how else am I likely to spend a day tickling the nipples of a girl with a paintbrush?

 

Yes.

Fashion sense.


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No, really, I'm a really lazy person when it comes to my looks. So once I've gotten into a habit with clothing and such, good luck getting me out of it. I've at least stopped wearing baggy shirts (I've always had a pretty normal body size, but for so many years I looked so fat and chestless thanks to my clothing that friends of mine still look surprised when they see how I look in a dress) but I still wear just a lot of t-shirts and jeans and very rarely do anything with my hair, much less apply makeup.

Thus, my girl, when she gets here, is gonna be WAY girlier than I could ever be.

I'm sure I could be if I tried, but....meh. I'll just buy her tons of cute stuff and stick to my usual level of dressing up only when I have an anime convention to work at.

 

Not yet having a doll, I'm not sure if I'm qualified to answer. But I can tell you why I want one so badly. My maternal instinct has been very active lately, and while I don't really want a baby at this point in my life, I do want something to take care of. Plants, ikebana, and my stuffed animals aren't satisfying, but those few moments that I held a doll at Ohayocon were wonderful. I felt loving and protective, but really happy. So, getting a doll will compensate for my lack of something to take care of other than my boyfriend. ^_^

~Angelkitty

 

I think that they do actually (not sure if I posted here or have just been reading it) But I realized this tonight that they supply me with the needed 'love' for a family. I have bad family issues and have for sometime but when things got really bad tonight with my sister i took my boy Fo-ru and just hugged him until I felt better. Since they cant exactly tell me I am stupid or whatever they give me that 'its ok' kinda thing that I dont really get.

Kinda like a young kid who has a stuffed animal they hug after a nightmare I guess XD

 

Yes, in some way. I can give an environment to the doll, which I would never live in IRL. And her outfit can be as crazy as I like without anybody being indignant at it.

 

Not at all, i'm still having a hard time finding a doll which I think matches the real me perfectly ;p

Ok well, maybe the doll may have a bust which I don't (unoa *cough* )

 

Stuff looks so much nicer on my doll that it does on me. D; She'll likely be plopped into cosplay outfits that I'm dying to make but I could never pull off properly because of my appearance. That version 4 Kos-Mos and that Ashe costume I wanted to make if I dropped 40 lbs? Hah, it's going on a doll.

Otherwise, there isn't much that my girl compensates for.

 

I'll never be able to wear Gothic Lolita. I could loose the weight but I'm too tall. And spending money on a 300$ dress I'm never going to wear is not my interest.

 

Oh, definitely. I am a person who greatly values my individuality and I try to celebrate my differences from others in every way possible. From my name to my looks to my hobbies, I try to set myself apart from the general crowd. But there will always be a part of me that wishes that instead of being a six foot amazon diva who can sing opera, I was one of those tiny delicate girls that all men seem to want (at least I haven't met one brave enough to take me on yet). Having girl dolls, as I intend to (I have none yet, but most of my plans are for girl dolls) gives me the ability to live that life vicariously. I can buy them those clothes and those shoes (especially the shoes, I wear a men's size 13 shoe, no fun girl shoes for me) that I couldn't wear because I'm just too big and tall to pull them off. But having them makes me feel more at ease with myself, if that makes sense. Knowing that they're extensions of myself, of my personality and being, makes it easier for me to accept the reality of how I look. They give me courage to be myself, by being the other versions of me I would sometimes prefer.